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Happy holidays to all the aspecs out there!!! You are valid and loved!

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I love it when my irl friends know I'm aroace because it means I can just hug them without them feeling like there are any scary obligations or implications there.

My best friend at college said it best I think:

"Sometimes I think I want a boyfriend, but then I realize. No. I really just want a hug. And then I go and find you and I get a hug and then I don't want a boyfriend anymore."

Like. Bro. Sometimes my friends just need a hug without having to worry about anything else. And I'm so glad that I'm capable of giving it to them.

Anyway, shoutout to all my online friends that I can't hug, I'm giving you a virtual one!

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Solitaire, by Alice Oseman

“Are you drunk?”

“I’m a poet.”

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My favorite trope is that of sibling, extra points if they are twins, that stick together. There is no significant other to pull them apart from one another. No children to tend to. Just them. They get each other and they are each other’s person.

I wish more books and movies touched on that. Romantic love not being the end all be all. I wish that movies and books made characters that didn’t need romance in their lives.

I am not against romance. I find it to be beautiful. However, I see more books and movies pushing that the only love you need is of that of your spouse and children, and they forget about friends, family, and furry companions.

So,until I see more of it…I’ll continue to write those stories and create those characters with bonds that are just as important are romantic love.

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If Marvel makes Yelena aroace on screen I will forgive them for so many things

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My allo friends complain about their relationships and I’m like

“That’s not my problem”

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All I'm saying is that given how most Jedi choose not to get married/have bio kids/pursue romantic relationships, across differing continuities, even when such things are permitted, I think we can assume that there is a massive overlap between being Force Sensitive and being aro/ace

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I talk about finding characters hot and sexy but as an asexual i have very little concept of what that is actually supposed to feel like.

I'll be like 'omg they're soooooo hottttttttt' but meanwhile in my head i'm just like 'hey they look neato👍 i'm just gonna look at them for a bit' and that's my only thought process. Like what do you mean some of you want to fuck these characters? you don't just want to stare at them? strange.

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I think people should be allowed to sleep in the same bed in a non sexual and non romantic way. I think cuddles can happen non sexually and non romantically. I think most acts of affection are non sexual and non romantic until you make it sexual or romantic (other than the obvious things like actual sex is sexual)

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its all "blue-eyed boy meets brown-eyed girl" and never "green-eyed aroace person stays single forever"

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I've been real busy lately because it's December and I work at the post office, so of course I am

But that doesn't mean I can't show up with an unprompted PSA

Hey! Have you ever mailed a letter to Santa Claus? Have you ever wondered what exactly happened to that letter? Well wonder no longer! If it had a stamp and a return address, then odds are that it ended up on the USPS's Operation Santa page!

Every year, the USPS collects letters to Santa Claus, and processes them to black out any identifying information. Last names, addresses, things like that. Then, the letters are posted on the Operation Santa webpage and people can adopt the letters.

Once you adopt a letter, you can buy gifts for them, wrap them up, and package them. Then you get a barcode from the website, and bring them to a post office. The clerk there will scan the barcode, which prints out a label with the address on it, and sends out the gift.

It's anonymous on both ends, and is generally just. A really nice thing to do.

I highly recommend it if you have some money to spare this year and want to give a kid a moment of magic this year

It's one of those things that the post office just happened to be positioned to do, and ended up knocking it out of the park. Unfortunately, I don't think they advertise this nearly well enough, and most letters end up going unanswered

Hopefully, a few more will be answered this year

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tfw you're aroace but the breakup music is too good

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kissing you on the forehead

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Good morning to all my fellow single sisters in Christ! I am here to announce that there is a new study for single women being released January 13 by The Daily Grace Co titled You Belong Here.

I really like any singleness study from Daily Grace, because they truly understand the gift of singleness. They know that not every woman is looking for a husband nor does God call everyone to marriage, and the church often overlooks singles. I am super excited about this new study as the focus is no matter what our relationship status is we belong in the church.

The link to be notified when the study is available can be found here.

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There were probably some medieval asexuals that were absolutely insufferable on their moral high horse about it. Like "this modesty shit easy - I haven't lusted over any man ever in my life and only fuck my husband out of duty from God and only so that we have children. I am so much better than any of you hoes."

And some other local goodwife would get sick of this and go "well obviously you don't have time for cock, Maergaret, since you're always too fucking busy choking on your own vanity and pride!" and have a smackfight that progresses into a full-on two-woman brawl in the town square. People gather around to watch this until a clergyman shows up to remind everyone that not only is this kind of brawl between good christians definitely a sin, it's also a sin for everyone who's watching to place bets on who's going to win.

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i really need aspec people to start making country music (a genre that as far as i know is mostly written by allo cishets)

but

if aspec people start making country music, i will ascend to a level of happiness unbeknownst to mankind and stop interacting with anyone because ill be too busy listening to it

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"not all asexuals are innocents who don't get sex jokes!!" i say, as i fail to recognize a sex joke and mistekenly reblog it