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I keep forgetting when these days are, but if you're ace, you're cool

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hi anon who made this i LOVE IT

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Ace/Aro Elrics Weeks 2021 Planning

Hello all!

It's been a bit of a chaotic year (for all of us), my partner in crime from last year is on hiatus, and as a result, I haven't actually planned anything for the Ace and Aro Elrics Weeks this year, except that we will use the tags "acearoedweek2021" and "acearoalweek2021".

I'd love some feedback on when we should hold the events and what kinds of themes or daily prompts everyone would like to see. Should we hold the events during the last two weeks of June, or is that too short-notice? Are there any daily prompts you would've liked to see last year that we can include this time around? Please reblog this post, reply to this post, or send an ask to let us know!

As always, you do not have to be asexual or aromantic to participate and make your voice heard! If you'd like to join our community on Discord, please direct message me and you can find last year's works in our AO3 collection.

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Happy International Asexuality Day for all of my fellow aces!!!

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Hey guys, I’m organizing an event for Aro Week!

[Photo ID: A thread of tweets from @nessalovebot on twitter that says, “Open Thread please! Hey guys! So, Aro Week is coming up before you know it (Feb 21)! So I’m inviting all aromantic creators to participate in #AroCreatives on February 21st. If you consider yourself to be under the aromantic umbrella, this hashtag is for you to participate! And this event is for ALL creatives, including writers, cosplayers, etc! The only rules to participate are:

-be aro or under the aro umbrella

-tag your posts appropriately

-boost other creators, and since it’s also black history month, support black aros! (Hi)

See you on the 21st!”

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HOLD UP HOW WAS I NOT AWARE OF THIS

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I think we need to normalize the idea of marrying friends. I don’t mean in a “the best romantic relationships come from the best friendships” type way, though I do believe that’s true. I mean in a “I have zero romantic feelings for you, but I would totally spend the rest of my life committed to a future where you are my primary partner and maybe even raise a family together” type way.

Like, I don’t think it should be an aromantic-exclusive option, or a plan B when you and your best friend are still single at 40 and want to take yourselves out of the dating market.

I’ve heard it mostly as that backup plan, that “if I don’t find anyone, I’ll just marry Trish haha”, and I don’t think that’s even what I’m talking about normalizing. That’s a secondary outcome, seen as “giving up” on finding “real love”, and even if a pair of friends go for it, it’s plagued with this general feeling of “sub par”.

What I mean is that marrying a best friend (or having a committed intimate or emotional platonic relationship) should be seen as just as worth doing as marrying someone you’re in love with. It should be normal for teenagers to try as many committed friendships as they do romantic relationships. It should be normal for someone to say “this is my best friend and if everything works out, maybe we’ll move in together later” or “Trish and I have been roommates for two years now. We’re considering adopting soon, or Trish might carry a child!”

And as an aromantic person, it shouldn’t be strange for me to say “I prefer friendship to romance”. People should hear that and nod their heads like “that’s understandable. John feels the same.”

Hell, I see so many people expressing that they prefer their friends’ company to their romantic partner’s. “My friends understand me better and I think treat me better” and they’re expected to go home to this person, to marry and have kids with this person. It’s bizarre to me. Your platonic feelings for your friend aren’t inferior to your romantic feelings for your boyfriend, and if one of them treats you better than the other, I think you should probably rethink which one is your primary partner.

I also find it strange that it’s not more common in poly spaces for a friend to be considered a legitimate “partner”. In a world where friendships were just as likely to bloom into life partnerships as romantic relationships, I think polyamory would be much more commonplace. “I committed to Josephine about a year ago and now we own a home, but I fell in love with Joe about six months ago and we’re all trying to make it work.” Josephine shouldn’t have to worry about her partner leaving her for Joe just because their bond is romantic and therefore the “sensible” relationship to choose over the other.

I’m just ranting at this point, but I reiterate: committed friendships should not be seen as strange and “sad”, but as a legitimate option for a lifetime commitment. Not just for aromantics like myself, but for everyone. It should just be normal.

And not to be presumptuous, but I don’t think I’m alone in this thinking

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I cant believe asexuals officially own Halloween

Ace week 2020 is october 25-31st

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Simple definition posters for some of the aromantic spectrum

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Reblog if you think asexuality is a legitimate sexuality.

I'm trying to prove something.

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for ease of finding us, We Are Here. And here is our collection of works!

can I interest you in some ace and/or aro elrics content? I'm one of the founding members of Ace/Aro Elrics Week (our tumblr is ace-aro-elrics-week and we also have a collection on AO3 for ace elrics stories)

oh Dope very cool! I’ll gently shove any of my followers interested in that over that way - always nice to see more ace/aro content hohoho

al;ksdfjk Thank u for the approval glad you enjoy hahaha

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the nice thing about being ace is that you read all characters as vaguely ace because sexual attraction is a myth

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Aromantic and Asexual survey

I’ve set up a survey for anyone who arospec and/or acespec to do! It’s just a quick one and it’s to see what the range of identities is like in our community

Aromantic and asexual survey here

(Please reblog so i can get as many responses as possible!)

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pls give me 1(one) reason aces have ever been oppressed, and 1(one) example of aces being a part of lgbt history(before 2004 at least) and then maybe i’ll consider the idea that aces belong in the lgbt community lol

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A brief overview of the asexual flag and an unpacking of the controversies surrounding it. See under the cut for a text transcription of the images as well as additional commentary and links to sources. 

You can engage with this post or discuss this in the notes, but I have some ground rules you must follow. Anyone not following these will be blocked, because I have zero interest in debating this stuff. To engage, you must:

Not challenge the word “queer” as a reclaimed identity label

Accept asexuality as belonging within the queer/LGBT+ community regardless of romantic orientation

Accept aromanticism as belonging within the queer/LGBT+ community regardless of sexual orientation

Accept the existence of demisexuality and its inclusion under the asexual umbrella

I feel like those four will likely wield out a lot of the bad actors and exclusionists. If you see someone violating the rules of engagement, do not argue with them. Just @ me so I can block them. 

Keep reading under the cut for the transcript, commentary, and links.

Keep reading

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no one writes love stories better than aromantics send