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I Appreciate the Beauty of the Sunset

I don't know how to start this letter. I'm still so lost till now, and the words in my mind can't even express how sad I feel as I write this letter. I'm so distraught, so confused; it's like my life has been taken away from me. I can't even write about my loneliness in my diary, because you've been the reason I write my diary since then. I have so many reasons to be sad, depressed, and lost. I can't go on like this anymore. It's really hard to let you go, I really can't accept it. I haven't gotten it yet. I don't know where to start, how to start, how to move on with my life.

Sometimes, when I suddenly think of you, everything becomes difficult. I can be distracted by thinking about you all day. This feeling really tortures me, but it's hard to get myself out of this situation. Could it be I'm haunted? I broke so many rules for you and tried my best to pursue you. I knew you feel the same way. We talked for hours and were so interested in each other. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship and you helped me fill the hole in my heart. In my previous relationship, my love was taken for granted and abused. I knew you were so special; you even noticed that I always waited for you to say goodnight because I never wanted to be the first to end our conversation.

You are so special and you admire parts of me that I didn't know existed. You made me feel so loved, sent me the sweetest good morning texts and spent the night with me over the phone or video calls. Distance was never an issue. We were so similar; curious, thoughtful, smart, and kind, and I thought I had found the right person. I'm in a new place now, living a brand new life, working hard for my future, and you were the past that I was holding on to. Thank you for being a part of my life. Thank you for being my light during my darkest days. Thank you for the “good morning texts”, “the goodnight texts”, the “how are you’s?” and thank you for pushing me all the time to be a better person.

I just want you to be happy, you deserve to be love by someone who loves you more than I do. I will continue to be happy for you no matter what. I don't have time to cry and stop living, I have to keep moving forward. The beautiful memories we have are enough to keep me moving forward. I will never forget all the happy and sweet moments we shared. I will never forget you and everything we had when we were a couple. I am finally able to love someone deeply, to truly care for someone, I learned how to take care of someone who is still mine. I don't want to move on yet. I want to relive all the happy moments of our relationship and keep them in my heart forever. You will always be a big part of my heart and life.

Thank you for making me feel happy in a very short time. The feeling of these beautiful butterflies fluttering in my stomach. The promise. The future we once planned together. These are things I will always cherish, love. You actually made my life happier.

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Him

My pride, While the whole world is applauding you, I stand in the corner and watch you with silent tears, knowing full well the compromises, sacrifices and scars you have suffered along the way.

I thought all the words in the world couldn't describe you, but I'm pretty sure this is close.

"He's a different person. He's humble, he's kind. He's compassionate and caring. He's a guy who's strong enough to be vulnerable and confident enough to be an open book. He has flaws. He's not perfect at all. He's scarred all over, but he's still a work in progress. He silently pursues his dreams, silently pursues his goals, and tirelessly pursues God. He understands his purpose. He knows his mission. He is powerful. He is influential. His influence on those in power was huge. His influence was strong. He is a leader and a lover. He is rare. He just a good man and yes, he exists.”

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Ambivalence

As I inched towards him, I felt it in my bones. He was embracing his demons and swaying to their songs. I think my love was too selfish, for me to let him go. I was willing to fall with him as long as he was there to hold. So, I, too, danced along him, adoring him and holding him close. This wasn't the end of our journey, we were making a path of our own.

[abxglx]

Check in on Those Around You

The people who hurt the most in the inside are usually the ones that give the most on the outside. Because they don't want others to feel how they feel. More so they want to feel significant and that matter. They are overwhelmend and won't show it, instead hide it through the smile. We never know what someone's going through. There's a person who will continue to hold back their pain, masking it with a smile, until they have a major breakdown. People who go through a lot are often more kind because that's the reciprocation they want from the universe. They giving the type of care and support themselves really needed. Sometimes the people hurting the most are the ones who seem the happiest, because they won't anyone to feel the way they feel and they don't want to burden anyone. Sometimes its the ones who make people laugh who are the ones struggling the most.

Once I remember reading something in these lines: A star burns the brightest in its final moments. And it shattered my heart into billion pieces. Usually right before somebody commits suicide they get really really happy. Sadly, people who are about to unalive themselves respond the same way. You think they are getiing "better" but it's because they are at peace with ending it. They have meade the decision to do it. And they know it's all gonna be over soon period all the pain will be over soon.

Yeah, I know sometimes smiling is easier then explaining what's killing you from the inside. Because no one truly cares, sometimes. They only care as long as you're showing up for them. But you and I must stay now though. The fight is hard but you're worth it. Don't let go, please. Let the burdens that have passed be an example for you to endure. Let the pain and struggle teach you to not let go.

Sometimes simple questions like, "How's life going?" or "How are you?" can be very important to some people. It could be that no one has asked them a question like that, so they are confused about who to tell about what they feels. Also you gotta appreciate every moment you spend with every person in your life. The happiest and some of the best memories should have been created around you. So, when that person is gone forever, you have beautiful memories with them.

I also address this blog to all men who read this, because some men can be the ones who always keep their problems to themselves. Society always states that men must be strong, must not be weak, and cannot even cry. Did you know that men are also human beings who have hearts and feelings? Today men are very alone because the fashion is don't care what they can feel or to not respect their efforts. Men are pretty simples, say them they are good men, thanks them and you have them with you for weeks or month.

Some men want women's approval for men vulnerabilities. Maybe they want to be acknowledged by men for being emotional, but deep down men also want to be nurtured by women for their vulnerability. Women step up now. Men ain't all solid rocks. Let's break that stigma. Reminder that there's always a reason to keep fighting. If your thoughts are telling you to end it and that no one would care. They're lying to you. There's always good times, bright futures and memonts worth staying. I promise, one day it won't feel like fighting, one day we'll just be. And it will be peaceful and beautiful, and worth staying for. I'm happy that you are alive.

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Cutting People Off

Disclaimer: I swear this blog is not intended for any specific group of people.

There are a lot of people I don’t really talk to like I used to. We all have these people in our lives and it's normal.

Well, we don't talk anymore, but thank you for letting me go, because if not, I'm not gonna leaving. It was good while it lasted. I used to feel so sad when someone left my life. Because I find it hard to detach from people unless I've been let down too many times. But in recent years I have realized that we will inevitably become more than human. Good things always end for no reason, but that doesn't mean it wasn't good before.

Finally, I took the first step to cut another person out of my life, and I was surprised at how easily they walked away. It's hard for me because it's always hard to have someone initiate the decision, and sticking to it firmly is the hardest thing. I never wanted this, but it was necessary, at least for me.

"Thank you for letting me go that day, and saying you don't want me as a problem anymore. The day after you let go I understood I was never the problem it was you messed with your feelings and acting all I don't care you are the problem, I tried to fix you and you hated that ,it hurted your ego, so you let go. Thank you for making me realize I deserve a lot better. I still haven't found the one, but eventually I will but when I do, I'll show it to you, that you lost the game not me. We were just meant to be apart".

"Thank you for leaving me that day, it would be difficult for me to let go that easily and you know i wouldn't left you right away because I loved you so much i just couldn't do that. You were my world and everything. At first I thought I cannot live without you and leave all the memories we had, but damn boy I was wrong there is tunnel for me to move on and have faith on it while on the road. I gave you everything, everything and you know that. I've already forgave you even tho you didn't apologise to me. Forgiving you it was like a breaking from the prison, there isn't no hate no more. I can say now that I can literally live without you. Bye bye".

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LOML

Tofu, I know you gonna read this blog. Do you know? I am with you every day, but I think you don’t know enough that I also grateful every day that Papa sent you into my life. My life has been filled with joy since you came into my life. Your laughter brightens my day and it’s hard for me to have a bad day when we’re together. I almost give up if one day I can't find the person I want and need, I almost give up. But it turns out that Papa is really good. He earnestly answered my prayers, so He sent you into my life.

You must be a wizard, Tofu. Because every time I look in your direction, it's like everyone else disappears. What did I hear? Laugh? Hahaha. Thank you, thank you, I will be here all day long… and always by your side, forever. But seriously, I love the way you make me laugh out loud. All of those crazy moments we shared have become the craziest stories and I think about them all the time. I'm so happy to share my life with my best friend, I mean with you. Everything about our relationship was perfect: the jokes we shared, you always seemed to know what I was thinking, our endless laughs and unforgettable dates. You are more than my partner - you are my best friend, my brother, my sister, my everything. I would fight a bear and capture the moon for you.

Sometimes I hear you're having a bad day and I'm all ears. Tell me about the idiots who wronged you. Tell me about your smallest worries. I just want to do better. We digested it all with snacks, drinks, etc. and then set out on our own adventure. Life is messy and strange and interesting, so never forget that I’m here for you with compassionate and healing hugs.

Listen, I have to tell you something important: You can do it! Life is full of achievements waiting to be conquered, and I know you are the one to embrace them. Remember: We are a team and I will always be there for you when you need me. So embrace your quirks (each of which is endearing in its own way), take risks, and don't be afraid of falling down along the way. I'll pick you up soon. You have the courage, passion, and resilience to accomplish great things. Hang in there and never forget that I love you and always believe in you.

Life isn’t always easy, but I’m glad to have you by my side in this weird and crazy world. Thank you for always trying to make me laugh. I can't imagine having such a connection with anyone in the world. It’s all about saying: I feel truly, deeply happy for you and hope it lasts forever. Bottom up! I wish you a life full of joy, friendship and a happy future!

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Papa's Grace

Have you ever had one of those days where you just started thanking the Lord for everything that came to your mind? Are you not thinking about what you want at all, but are you grateful for what He has already done? Sometimes I think about Papa's grace all the time. If you don’t know Papa, I call the Lord Jesus Papa. I call him Papa because I know I am His child and I feel comfortable calling him that.

At some moment in the night, I looked at the ceiling of my room and began to thank the Lord for His blessings. It was a precious moment that seemed to come out of the blue. I used to think Papa was too holy to love a sinner like me, but Papa told me that's why He came to earth and left perfect heaven so that I could have a better life. I’m not even talking about what Papa has done for you personally. Maybe He healed you, saved your marriage, protected your children, made your career successful, etc. If we take time to reflect, our hearts will naturally remember His goodness to us and His faithfulness.

I believe that when we choose to accept His gifts and respond with genuine gratitude, this incredible gratitude becomes a doorway that frees us from the worries of a future filled with what-ifs and unknowns and pain. It is an act of accepting and acknowledging that we cannot save ourselves. It is an act of devotion, like the prodigal son who knelt down and buried his head in his father's bosom. My heart was filled with gratitude, and I couldn't help but scream with gratitude. Talk about your experience. Share with others and learn how difficult times have changed you with God's help. Keep moving forward, keep improving, keep praying.

I can trust Him to do the impossible and make everything possible. Papa, I am so humbled that You always answer “yes” to my prayers. Thank you for all the roles You have played in my life. Thank you for paying off my debt and forgiving me so that I could be a better person. Thank you for my family and my parents. Thank you for the home we have, the clothes we wear, and the food we eat. Thank you for the Bible and the opportunity to read it and try to live by its teachings. Papa, thank you for showing us a different way to live. We love so much Your kindness, humility, forgiveness and loyalty. Papa, thank you for Your patience and forgiveness when I screw up. Thank you for not giving up on me when I did. Thank you for always being there when I look up, ready to listen and respond quickly. Papa, thank you for surrounding me with friends who know You, respect You, and support me. I am forever grateful. Once again, thank you. All my heart wanted to do was repeat these words over and over again, loudly, quietly, and religiously.

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Notes to G'Pa from down here

Bapak, my life stopped feeling the same ever since you are gone. I know that I never alone in this world, but my pillar is now missing one, and I don't know how to rebuild it. That pillar is you. People tell me to take graduation photos, but it shattered my heart just by hearing it. I've been so mad at the world since you passed away. Why should I losing you at the important moment of my life? You went away too early, we had a million more memories to make together.

I lay down in bed at the end of the day. I think of you and my heart feels like somebody's squeezing it. I miss you so much and it's getting hard to keep going even for you. I just want you back because everything around me is just seems to be crumbling down. I wish I could have done something instead of just doing everything for my ownself. I wish you were here to tell me that everything will be alright. That you will always have my back whenever everything's falling apart. I end up crying every single time I think about you.

Yes, the worlds so much more complicated, quite, hard, stressful and difficult. Now that I lost a loved one and I don't know what to do anymore. The last time I saw you, I wish I would have another chance to see you again. Losing a person is one of the worst feeling ever. Even tho the feeling won't disappear entirely, I know I will get better. My motivation is just keep going, so I can tell every crazy and beautiful story when we reunite. I have been so alone since you passed away. I promise you are not gonna be my living anger, if I can't live for myself, I will live for you.

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je m'

To mark another 365 days around the sun, I thought it would be appropriate to write an open letter to myself. I just wanted to reflect on the past year and tell myself things that needed to be said, but that I rarely found the time to say. So, this is the letter to me.

Hello Gail,

Let me start by saying how proud I am of you. Surprised? I know that no matter how hard you try, I never tell you that you have done enough before. But girl look at you right now, you're awesome! Over the past few years, I’ve watched you rewrite your story page by page. Looking back now, I can say that you have come a long way from where you were before.

I'm so proud of you. I know I don't tell you often enough and I'm sorry. The truth is, I don’t have time to sit and think about everything that has happened or what is happening in my life. I've always been so relaxed and at ease lately, but sometimes my thoughts are so heavy. Then again, it might just be my anxiety.

This year was a blessing. You said yes to a lot of new opportunities, started a new journey, and met some really great people along the way. You walk through doors that you wouldn’t have dared to knock on just a few years ago. You are able able to reconnect with relatives you haven't spoken to in years and make some wonderful memories that you will both cherish for a lifetime.

No excuses whatsoever. I haven't been honest with you and it's time to tell you. Look at you, you're twenty-four years old, you've been living and breathing this crazy planet for twenty-four years. Do you know how many people don’t get the chance to say this? Yet you live here day after day.

So, I want to remind you of all the things you may not know. If you feel like you're not good enough or have made progress somewhere in your life, which I know happens a lot, if you feel like stupid person, please check this out and remember why you should be a part of this world, just like everyone else.

You may never escape your anxiety. I know this is hard to hear, and I see you worked so hard on this. But just because you can't beat it doesn't mean you have to let it control you. Every time you breathe, someone is taking their last breath. No matter what your fears are telling you, never take your feelings for granted. It's okay to cry sometimes and let it fester inside you. Let it out and you'll feel better.

Have more patience. Whether it's with friends, family, errands, or important life decisions. Be patient.

One day you will marry Abhit, one day you will have a bigger business, one day you will be more successful, one day you will be rich. I know you don’t believe it or can’t see it right now, but you are absolutely beautiful. One day, when you look back, you will realize how stupid you were for always thinking you were something you were not.

Gail, I'm so glad you're finally starting to realize your potential. Over the years, people tell you how much potential they see in you. But you never really see it (fool you). Because of your feelings, you suppressed them for so long and you feel not good enough for past year. Right now, look at all the excitement the world would have missed if you hadn't given up on that stupid idea, huh? Hahaha. I just want to say you're doing a great job and I can't wait to see what you accomplish in the next few years.

You have come so far and even though you are almost old hahaha, the journey has only just begun. I can’t wait to see what else you accomplish. You may not notice it, but any room you enter will become brighter. Don’t think you’re just blending in with the crowd.

Keep chasing the stars, Gail <3

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Time Doesn't Heal All Things and Wounds

We all know that "time heals all things." We all must have received this advice at some point, but the reality is that time doesn’t heal anything, we just adapt over time. Over time, we begin to distance ourselves from the things that hurt us. Yes, time cannot heal the good memories you have with a person, those good memories turn into bad memories in the afterlife, maybe. Or it still gonna be the best memories we ever had in our lives that we never gonna talk with anyone. We may go out and become stronger and conquer greater things, but equally, we cannot erase the good memories and we can't turned that good memories into bad memories.

Or maybe time can heal the way our bodies feel and our addiction to certain feelings and emotions? But we also need to consciously contribute to the process so that we can restore or heal our self-esteem (whatever you want to call it). This only happens when we listen to ourselves, when we talk to ourselves (even if what we say doesn’t make much sense), and more importantly, when we are heard and seen by others. In the long run, we speed up this process (both the physical and mental parts) by observing how we act as people who love ourselves. Even if we don't like it.

The only thing that cannot be healed over time is the ego. People live with their own trauma until death, even though they know death will take everything away. So what’s the point of living a life of resentment? People close their hearts and spend the rest of their lives in doubt, without love and compassion entering their souls.

A little understanding can change millions of lives—forgiveness and forgetfulness. Forgiveness allows you to let go of the past.

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Happy You Day! :*

Hello, boo. Happy you day! :> You held on for another year. Congratulations! I wish you a happy birthday more than anyone else. I'm so glad you were born. Your presence meant a lot to me and still means a lot to this day. Thank you for being the best lover, friend, and counselor. Thank you for putting a lot of effort into making sure I became a better version of myself. You taught me to grow and encouraged me every time I slacked off.

There are no words to describe how wonderful my life has become because of you. I want to thank you for everything you do because without you the sunshine in my life would not be as bright :p. Thank you for being the best boyfriend a girl could ask for. You make me feel special, respected and loved. You have been the most special person to me since we met. I feel so blessed to have you by my side as my friend and lover. Whenever I feel down and frustrated, you are always there for me with a loving smile and a big hug. To me, you are the most special person in the world and I don’t know what I would do without you. I never imagined how much happiness you would bring to my life. Thank you for your tolerance for me all this time.

I want to thank you today. Your sincerity warms my heart. My feelings didn't stop growing. I never thought that one day I would love someone so much. I'm glad you turned out to be the right person. What a blessing this is! I'm so happy! :>. Don't count the candles just enjoy your day! I can't wait to celebrate your birthday in the years to come! I love you in every universe, just like Papa loves us :p

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Happy Bornday, Kiko

Happy birthday to my person who become the pillar of my life now, Kiko. First of all, I would like to thank you very much for adopting me and taking care of me since I was a child. In the past, it was very difficult to understand you and your love or affection . But now I know almost everything about you, and you know almost everything about my life. I didn't expect it to grow this fast, but time can't be turned back, isn't it?

Ko, do you realize that all people are very proud of you right now? Maybe you don't realize it, because people weren't like this to you before. Forgive me in the past for underestimating you, now I understand why you need to go through it all. Right now I just want to respond to you with full affection, follow your rules, understand you and find out more about you.

You deserve peace, love, happiness and everything your heart desires. Don’t let anyone control your life and take these things away from you. Your love, guidance and support mean everything to me and I am so lucky to have you as my uncle and my non-biological parents. You have always been there for me in good times and bad, and I am grateful for your unwavering support.

As you celebrate another year of your life, I hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated. May your day always be filled with joy, laughter and everything that brings you happiness. I look forward to celebrating many more birthdays with you in the years to come. On this special day, I would like to wish you a happy happy happy birthday! It’s hard to believe how fast time flies and how much I have grown from childhood to now. But no matter how much time passes, you will always be my brother, father, uncle, enemy, my closest friend also my everything. Iloveyou more than i love my self >.<

[abxglx]

ta présence

Here's a quick letter about this moment in our lives that we are currently sharing. Everything happens very quickly. Time never stands still and I know how fleeting each second is. The thing is: I don’t want to be with anyone while the world keeps spinning. When I wake up in the morning, I think about you - sometimes you say something funny or sweet, sometimes it's just your beautiful face appear in my mind. You make it easy for me to start each day because I know I can talk to you and laugh with you. As I go through the day, I want to tell you about the best and worst moments. Sharing everything with you makes everything better. When I encounter difficulties, you comfort me, and when everything is good, you add joy to me.

At night, when I fall asleep, your love keeps me warm. I feel safe just thinking about you, the darkness is not scary but embraces me like your arms. Every day that passes, I love you more. As time goes by, I know I am using them well to be with you. One day, when my life comes to an end, I will know that it was worth it because I got to spend it with you. Whether this love lasts a lifetime or not, every moment I share with you is something I will cherish for the rest of my life.

If you want to know how much I love you, wonder no more. You are the sun in my sky, the river that flows through my soul, and the air that I breathe. Before meeting you, I didn’t believe it was possible to love someone so deeply and completely, but you make me believe true love does exist because I share it with you. I know I keep telling you how much I love you, but I’m not sure you understand how grateful I am for your love.

Most importantly, thank you for loving me. No one sees me as truly as you do and I feel so accepted and valued. I am grateful for the countless little ways you have made my life so much better than it was before we met. Thank you for all the practical things you do like touching my shoulder after a long day or giving me a big hug when we see each other. Thank you for your interaction, patience, kindness and humor. Thank you for being you, I love you so much in every universe :p

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The most.

Hi most, it's me more. I just wanted to let you know that August is probably my second favorite month after Papa's was born. If there was a better phrase than "thank you," I'd say it to you. Thank you for coming back into my life. Thank you for not lowering my standards any further. Thank you for bringing me joy every day, when we speak, when we are silent, when I look into your eyes, when you look into mine. You have no idea know how much much much I love you. I don't care what people think or say about us. I'm only interested in you and me.

When we first met after eight years, I thought we were just friends because I didn't think about us this time. Then, boom, I think my heart did miss a beat, and it hasn't gotten back on track since. Not only do you hold my hand, you hold my heart and make me feel like the most incredible person in the world. Don't break it anymore, please? Hahaha.

Every morning when I wake up, you are already on my mind. The funny thing is I just can't stop thinking about you. Eight years ago we hadn't met, and now you are the most important person in my life. So, I just want to say I love you so much and I can't wait to see you at the Altar, hopefully.

I love your sense of humor, that's the first thing I noticed about you. You manage to calm people down with a simple joke and you always keep everyone on board instead of belittling others with your humor. I love your optimistic nature. You always try to see the good in everyone and every situation, even if I can't see it myself. The world is a better place when I see it through your eyes. I like the way you look. You look good but you don't seem to realize how good you are. I see the way other people look at you and I know they envy me being with you. I'd love you even if you weren't that handsome, but I'm glad you are. I love your tender hands. You are such a strong person, yet you have such tender feelings. I feel safe and cared for when you hold my hand. I can't tell you how wonderful this is. I love the way you kiss me, and your lips match mine perfectly. I love those quick kisses you give me throughout the day, and I love your deep, long-lasting kisses even more. They curled my toes and I was shaking with joy. Most of all I love that you complete me. You are the soulmate I thought I would never find. You lift me up when I'm down and help me find my balance when my world spirals out of control. You make me want to do the same for you.

When I think about all the reasons why I love you, I wonder why someone as special as you loves me. I know I keep telling you how much I love you, but I'm not sure you understand how grateful I am for your love. Thanks for all the handy things you do (like taking me to a date, calling me to join you on a live stream, or pat pat my hair :p). Thank you for your dealings with people, patience, kindness and humor.

[abxglx]

A thousand failed

You keep forgiving someone until you unlove them. That's the time when you are finally empty and you silently walk away.

Yes, it’s very possible to unlove someone, by the time you learn to let go of them, you are broken, hurt and all lone, they might physically be with you but not emotionally, even after giving someone a million chances they hurt you again and again. And one day you just learn to let go, stop expecting, stop giving, stop feeling, you become numb to every feeling, it hurts, but eventually you let go. That’s how you unlove someone.

In cases where one experiences that moment after so many instances of being let down by a person that has shown they are not to be counted on, and they finally believe them. Clarity, because it’s understood that the idealized version of that person never really existed. That was just a projection of a wish, dream or hope and love for that can certainly evaporate or be undone.

It's easy to say that we will always forgive the people we love, no matter what they do. But it's important to remember that forgiveness is a two-way street. The other person also needs to be willing to make amends and change their behavior. If they are not willing to do that, then we need to protect ourselves and not let them hurt us again.

We only forgive our close people again & again but at some point you also get tired and started to unlove them to protect themselves nd it's not a bad thing. Sometimes it's easy just walk away. At that time you realized that every thing was just waste of time.

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Tranquility

The feelings that we rarely understand are why the angels try to knead our hearts. Our ribcage ovens never burn their hands, and yet so fast and quick their hands depart. Our cooling chests will settle up and down as if awaiting swords to end the beat. But angels want to let the monarchs out; the butterflies come when the muscle’s squeezed. Rapunzel, spring from off the castle deck! Let’s let the angels stagger after us, escaping hand in hand and out of breath but catch our breath to kiss for when we’re caught. Though monarch orange never left a wound, our soul is just so in our red cocoons.

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A break

When two people start in a relationship together, it's fun a stress free. The first couple months of the relationship will always be easy. eventually, the jealousy will kick in, the clingyness will show itself, the arguments will come out of nowhere, and trust issues will develop. Things will start getting real, but this is when you get to see whether or not they are willing to stick around and make it work. Most people will give up, but if you have someone who stays around despite the circumtances, they're definitely a keeper.

Sometimes our relationship can face problems that can only be addressed by taking a break. By that, of course, I dont mean "act like your single and fool around", I mean stay committed and take a step back to grow and focus on yourself. I guess that might not be the meaning of a break to a lot of people, but that's why communication between you and your partner exists. Figure out what both of you need if the going gets rough and remember, it's you guys against the problem, not each other.

Lets give “a break“ usually means I have feelings for someone else or I don’t have feelings for you anymore but I'm not sure If I can let you be as free or single as I wanna be now and I want to be able to call you back into my life If I changed my mind. Usually breaks turn into complete break ups since one of the two moves on quicker than the other either to run from the pain or whatever.

I think in that case, we need to figure out how to approach the issues differently. Or maybe a big break needs to happen (for like 1-6months) where we agree not to date anyone but rather work on themselves individually with a therapist and then agree when they're ready within that time frame to work on the relationship together now that they straighten themselves out. I don't know maybe I'm living in a fairy tale world but I would think that's possible. Or I guess hope it to be in worse case scenario.