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"The" key to success - There is no such key

Abraham Inetianbor loves writing and expressing his belief and opinion. Inetianbor usually blogs about life, Christianity, politics, and discrimination. He often go tell the uncompromising truth without hatred. As he believes that, "Wrong is wrong, regardless of who the person is, including me, myself and I. You can condemn a wrong doing without condemning and sending the person to hell." Visit: https://www.abrahaminetianbor.com

You have the key to your own success; so do I and so does everyone else. Success doesn't mean having ten Lamborghini in the driveway of your million dollar mansion. The beauty about success is the fact that you get the freedom of creating your own definition of what you want it to be. There is a key for success, not "the" key. It all depends on the circumstances you are in and your willingness to find a key that works for you and the door(s) you're willing to open. I will give you my top 5 tips below.

There are several ways to becoming successful in life because success means different things to different people. Any of these "keys" for success can be duplicated or modified by anyone at anytime and a brand new key to success can be created by a new mind that thinks outside the box. Take a detail inventory of your life and find out what works for you, not what works for someone else. I'm not a financial adviser, I'm not you, I don't have your drive or habits, I don't feel what you feel, my definition of success may or may not be different from yours so I can't tell you how to be financially successful.

There are several ways to get to a local store but it all depends on what store you are going to and where you live in proximity. You can't have a goal without a plan on how to reach that goal. If your goal is to get to your local store, then your plan should be to know what store, distance based on your location and then take that first step if it's worth it. Learn from people but don't try to be them because you will loose yourself in the process of trying to be someone else that you are not. My tips below are exactly what it is: "My Tips." It may or may not work for someone else but works perfectly for me for years and it's who I am.

Not literal, but you know what the image above is saying figuratively. Don't waste or blow your money away for nothing because every penny counts. As of today's date - May 2, 2016, NIKE stock is trading under $60 per share. If you have $600 to spend on some Nike "Jordan's" to look fly, why not pickup like 9-10 shares of NKE and get you a nice sneaker for $60 bucks? You can still "look fly" and have a future plan. Same goes for your latest iPhone especially if you are someone who has pressing needs.

My Top 5 tips for Success:

1. Be Your Own Bank and Plan for "raining days" or emergencies

·                     Do not plan your expenses based on someone else's income. Your parents, friends and family should not be your primary source of income. Think about what you can do for others not what others can do for you. Staying discipline and spending less than you earn will make everything else that comes your way look like a big bonus. If you own a business, focus on profit not popularity. 

·                     Plan for emergencies like Solomon said in Ecclesiastes 11:1-2. I've always been a big believer in the "no income = no expenditure" policy. When your total expenses including your debt is less than half of your income, then you have a better chance of being a "successful" person in whatever you do.

2. Be Decisive and Time Conscious

·                     Be willing to make a decision and live with the consequences - good or bad. This doesn't mean a rush to judgement or recklessness. It simply means you cannot dwell on one issue forever or blame others for the results of your decisions. 

·                     If you believe that "time is money", you should also believe that waste of time is waste of money. Don't entertain the idea of what you think you want or deserve if your basic needs have not been met. When your wants becomes your needs, you will most likely loose. You don't want groceries, you need it. You don't need video games, you want it. Decide what your wants and needs are, then follow it up with a plan and a timeline.

Time is money

3. Be Courageous and Flexible

·                     Don't be scared to be different but don't try to "reinvent the wheel" if you'll be better off re-designing it. Don't be afraid to fail and see failure as an opportunity to learn for growth. What worked for others may not work for you. Work towards maximizing your strength and use it to limit the impact of your weaknesses. Do what works for you and be open to flexibility. 

·                     This is not the year 1948 so flexibility is paramount in today's society. If you are in a downward trend type of industry, don't wait for things to go completely wrong before weighing your options for a possible change. With growing technology, this is a new age where things (employment, businesses, industries) can change in no time so be flexible. Be prepared for changes because no condition is permanent in life.

4. Be Willing and Able

·                     The willingness to work means accepting opportunities that comes your way. These opportunities can be permanent or temporary but your primary approach should be to ask yourself if it's an upgrade from being unemployed. Even if it's not in your field, it could be an opportunity to learn something new. Be willing to flip burgers at a place like McDonald's instead of flipping TV channels from your couch (2 Thessalonians 3:10).

·                     You've probably heard the phrase: "the best ability is availability." One of the best ways to make yourself available and able to work is to live a healthy lifestyle. Learn as much as you possibly can because "knowledge is power" and "health is wealth." This is a good way to avoid excuses when an opportunity presents itself.

5. Be Content and Give Happily

·                     Contentment doesn't mean you should stop hustling or bursting your tail by working both hard and smart. You can work hard and smart without ignoring God in your life. Contentment means to put God first in any situation you find yourself. This is why Paul said godliness with contentment is great gain (1 Timothy 6:6-10). Money is not evil just as temptation is not a sin. The love of money is root of evil. It leads to evil just as temptation can lead to sin if we let it. Job and John the baptist were both men of God. One was the richest in his region and the other couldn't be any poorer even if he tried. What they both had in common was putting God first regardless of their individual situations. Don't work so hard simply because you want to keep up with the Jones's. Work hard and smart for you and your goals. 

·                     Give without expectation especially to those who you know are not able to give back to you (orphans). Giving only to those we expect to receive something from is what I call fake giving. Give without keeping track of every dime you give but this doesn't mean you should go bankrupt. I personally choose not to keep detailed record of my giving because I don't want to look at it one day and feel like I've done enough. Only give within your means and always pray for wisdom on how to spend your hard earned money. If your giving doesn't make you happy, then I encourage you to review the reason behind your giving because something must be wrong. Remember you can't save the world but this doesn't mean you can't do your very best. You can give love, money, time, smile, encouragement, etc. Yes, we all have something to give because a broken crayon can still color. Keep educating yourself about life in general.

Life is a journey so go explore.

Abraham Inetianbor loves writing and expressing his belief and opinion. Inetianbor usually blogs about life, Christianity, politics, and discrimination. He often go tell the uncompromising truth without hatred. As he believes that, "Wrong is wrong, regardless of who the person is, including me, myself and I. You can condemn a wrong doing without condemning and sending the person to hell." Visit: https://www.abrahaminetianbor.com

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LOVE cannot be Defined

Happy Valentine to everyone. All I heard today was mostly "I love you" from one person to another. Then I thought to myself, do these people really know what love is or is it just lip service. Love is an active word; not to be used lightly. It's not just something you say passively, it is evident in something you both say and do. Love cannot be defined unless it is practiced. The true definition of love shown in how we do what we do. Caring for someone is showing love but giving someone a "black eye" is not love. Because love is an action doesn't mean every action is love. The act of true love is selfless just like Jesus, who did not consider it a robbery when He agreed to leave His throne to come take our place on the cross.

·        "For God so love the world that He gave..."

·        "Greater love has no man than this, for a man to lay down His life..."

·        "If you love me, keep my commandments..."

·       "You are my friend if you do as I command you..."

These are all bible verses that I paraphrased above. I can go on forever but we get the point. Love does require us to do, not just say.

  The word "Love" is often used in general terms to mean a lot of things but without going too deep into the word origin or being too theological, here are the forms of love below. They all carry a form of action or an act being shown. AGAPE LOVE - The Greek word Agape is used to describe a form of love that is truly Selfless and unconditional. This is loving someone regardless. You may not agree or support what they do or represent but this doesn't mean you should wish them bad. Our heart should be clean and free of hatred even when we make clear our disappointments and disagreements with anyone. This kind of love is what God showed towards us in that while we were yet sinners, He sent His Son to die for us. EROS LOVE—This is as clear as it sounds; erotic love. This kind of love is sexual in nature and if you are a married couple, there's a chance you've told your spouse at one point: "Let's go make love"; "Make love to me"; "Let's make love tonight" and the list goes on. If you ask a couple who just finished a sexual activity in the bedroom where they were, the answer would either be "we were making love" or "we were having sex." The sexual encounter is often replace with the word love because this kind of "love" is erotic.

 PHILIA LOVE - First thing that most Americans often think about when they hear philia love is the city of Philadelphia. This city in the state of Pennsylvania is often referred to as the city of brotherly love. Philia love is actually a love of friendship. A friendship that is so close that the friend is almost like a family member. This is why it is called brotherly, which suggests "like a brother." Peter the apostle once had a conversation with Jesus when he told Jesus that he loved Him like a brother. Jesus needed Peter to understand that spiritual relationships require Agape love that is unconditional with a selfless desire to take up the cross for Christ; not just "BFFs" or best friends kind of love. I bet there's been a time or two where you told someone that they are like family to you because the relationship between you both is so natural that you almost forget it was created by two strangers. STORGE LOVE - Most people do not talk about storge love because it is the most common and natural form of love there is on earth. It is so common that we ignore it and sometimes confuse it with philia. Storge love is the kind of love a parent have for their own kids. It is also the kind of love kids have for both their parents and siblings. It is a natural or instinctual love for family so much so that it is kind of expected. No one is going to be surprised or pat you in the back because you love your own kid. However, people tend to appreciate when you love a stranger (friend) like a brother or sister. They would learn something new when they see the selfless love between you, your spiritual family and God. And obviously eros love is in non-existence until two people agree to become one.

Storge love may be the least talked about but it shows why the other kinds of love is special and takes more effort than we are willing to sometimes admit.

Abraham Inetianbor loves writing and expressing his belief and opinion. Inetianbor usually blogs about life, Christianity, politics, and discrimination. He often go tell the uncompromising truth without hatred. As he believes that, "Wrong is wrong, regardless of who the person is, including me, myself and I. You can condemn a wrong doing without condemning and sending the person to hell."  Visit: https://www.abrahaminetianbor.com