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I've noticed a tendency for people to mention that nonsexual kink exists without really explaining what that means, probably in part because it can look like a lot of different things for different people, but hearing the words "nonsexual kink" without context can easily be. Confusing. To people who aren't familiar with it, because it sounds contradictory

A lot of the time it comes down to sensory input and/or nonsexual intimacy. I think is the simplest way to put it. Which unsurprisingly results in quite a lot of overlap with neurodivergent and aspec communities (which already have a lot of overlap with each other). For example, someone might like the feeling of pressure (i.e. bondage), certain textures, temperatures, etc, and/or the trust & closeness involved in doing these things with a partner, without it *necessarily* being A Sex Thing. Sometimes it's just relaxing

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we do not need midnight sun. we need a twilight book from robert pattinson's pov

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"i didn't like it" and "I think it wasn't well written" are different. i can personally dislike things that are not bad and i am being so brave about it

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I will never get over how weird it feels to have tragic and emotional chapters of your life where you just also still go to work, and the grocery store, and see funny videos online all while feeling such paralyzing fear and heartache

life just goes on no matter what

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am i wrong

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In aid of Asexual Awareness Week, I’ve decided to make a post about autochorissexuality and just what it is.

The term ‘autochoris’ was coined by Anthony Bogaert, and essentially translates to ‘identity-less sexuality’. It is a sub-section of asexuality, which he describes as:

A disconnection between oneself and the object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the activities therein.

Essentially, we like the idea of sex, and/or enjoy reading/writing/watching sexual content, but don’t actually experience attraction or want to have sex with anybody.

You might be autochorissexual if:

You get aroused by sexual content but don’t actually want to engage in any sexual activities yourself.

You masturbate, but are neutral or repulsed by the idea of having sex with another person.

When you fantasize about sex, you envision people other than yourself, and/or you view it in third person, as though you’re watching it on TV, rather than imagining it in first person, through your own eyes.

You predominantly or entirely fantasize about fictional characters or celebrities, rather than people you actually know.

You identify as asexual and feel no sexual attraction to people, but enjoy masturbating, are aroused by sexually explicit content, and/or have sexual fantasies.

This isn’t an exhaustive checklist, and ultimately nobody can give you a label but yourself. But hopefully this post has brought you a little closer to understanding autochorissexuality, whether you are asexual, grey/demi, questioning, confused, or just wanting to raise awareness.

Here are some further resources if you want to learn more:

An essay on autochorissexualism vs lithsexuality, the flag (as depicted above, but without the text caption), Anthony Bogaert’s short paper on Autochorissexualism, and my inbox is always open if you have any questions.

If you’ve found this post informative, please signal boost to help raise awareness and understanding about all the different aspects and subsections of asexuality!

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sometimes i say things on twitter and then make a little graph about it

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“How many fics are in your ao3 history” this and “what’s your most read fic” that. Listen. Listen to me. I don’t go into my ao3 history. Whatever is there is between the archive and god and it is quite frankly none of my business what past me decided to open.

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Let your garden sleep in. For the pollinators.

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the thing about spn is every single season has absolute bangers and every single season has absolute war crimes and there is no escaping either. they must be watched