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Fundy's mods are so,so,so sweet and they all deserve the world.

As someone who used to struggle with derealism and would have major panic attacks over it this made my heart warm and I love how considerate they are.

MAJOR TW IF YOURE GOING TO WATCH FUNDYS STREAM:DEREALIZATION IS A MAJOR PLOT POINT PLEASE BE CAREFUL

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Hey, I keep seeing reassuring asks on my dashboard to support those who suffer from derealisation. I also just want to reassure you now that this is real. You are real. Let’s take a few deep breaths together, yeah? It’s okay, I promise. You’re doing amazingly. Name 5 things you can see, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can hear and 1 thing you can smell. I promise you that you’re real and that I’m also real; you’ll get through this. We’ll do this together.  

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If you’re worried you’re causing or encouraging your intrusive thoughts and harmful fantasies, you should know that people only fantasize on purpose about things that make them feel good. If your thoughts and fantasies are making you anxious, scared, worried, guilty, ashamed, stressed, and upset, they did not come from you, they’re intruding in your head against your will. They came from something that scares you and traumatizes you. You did not do that to yourself. You did not cause the intrusive thoughts.

And when you have more intrusive thoughts than usual, it can be because you’re under more stress than usual, and struggling with the pressure. That means it’s a good time to acknowledge that you’re tired, anxious, worried and upset, and that you deserve to lay down, have some tea, wrap yourself in warm blanket, stare at the sky and do only activities that help you calm down. Once I started acknowledging my intrusive thoughts and fantasies were a sign of stress, it was easier to see where they come from, and what to do to make them back off.

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Sorry for being so loud

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your intrusive thoughts are not your fault. they are not who you are. they do not define the kind of person you are. no matter how dark or violent or negative your intrusive thoughts are, they will never say more about you than your actual actions and how you actually treat people do.

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Your intrusive thoughts do not make you a bad person.

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Hello. Goodbye.

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Godzilla is here to stomp on your intrusive thoughts.

Reblog him so he can stomp on your followers’ intrusive thoughts, too.

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Coping Mechanisms Masterlist

Thoughts to break the cycle

this is temporary if I believe it is

I AM NOT my perception, or my thoughts

I am the observer of the thoughts

my mind is protecting me and is stressed from not knowing how to fix it. Thank you for protecting me but it will be okay

the negative thoughts are just a symptom of depression, dissociation/dpdr, c-ptsd, or anxiety or all of the above

thoughts are just like another one of the 5 senses. Like how you can perceive textures, smells, tastes, sounds. Your thoughts allow you to perceive an experience. But you are not your nose. You are not your mouth. You are not your ears. You are not your hand it’s just a hand that’s connected to your body. And so You are not your thoughts. You’re the one experiencing these sensations you are not the sensations.

Even if you genetically are predisposed or your genetics or brain chemistry has caused the issue. Especially in this case your thoughts do not define who you are they are just a reaction your brain is creating to protect you from something it thinks is a threat.

self hate and depression is a coping mechanism: your body wants you to be better, to be perfect to avoid something negative that hurts and self hate is the way it decided to go but it doesn’t have to be that way. Tell your mind “thank you” and “I love you but it’s okay.” “We are safe” and “I am enough.”

I try to remember my goals: how I want to be happy, the things I want to add to my life that will make me feel calmer and happier. (If you don’t have any goals or ideas think of anything you want in this world to achieve, or learn, or earn and write it down and imagine how it would feel if you had it right now. It helps push you to realize you can shape your life how you want)

that someone in this world loves you. If you can’t name anyone. Your own body loves you. It keeps you alive and gives you the ability to experience things like eating yummy food, being able to pet an animal and feel how soft their fur is, being able to look up at the sky and see stars or clouds. Simple every day things that we take for granted because we get so stressed out from life and drama. Sometimes we forget we could lose our eyesight and we wouldn’t be able to see things or people that we love. We could get injured and never be able to walk, run or jump again. We could lose our ability to breathe and be hooked up to a ventilator. I like to write down anything I can think of to be grateful for everyday in my journal and it makes me feel less depressed, less anxious,and excited to be able to just .. be alive especially when I want to not be alive anymore

I remind myself that when I was a baby I didn’t have any thoughts I didn’t know shit. The way I grew up and had to experience life made it so I perceive life the way I do. I like to imagine if I was a blank slate what are the different ways I could look at my life? What are the ways I can decide to look at situations or myself? People don’t just wake up and love themselves they were taught to feel loved. Just like how we don’t wake up with these negative self hateful thoughts. We got them from somewhere. We can choose if we want to still believe our perceptions or not. But learning to be happy and to love ourself is like a skill. Just like how learning to hate ourselves took time and repeated experiences.

Self care / Self love activities

imagining an older version of myself comforting present me. And imagining myself currently to comfort past me during traumatic moments

bubble baths

napping with soothing audios, or sleep meditations

walking outside

calling a friend

visiting a family member or friend

Write yourself a note when you’re happy to yourself and read it when you’re upset

Make a voice memo give future you a pep talk, positive affirmations, or even guided meditations and listen to it when you’re upset

lighting a candle and writing down an intention and meditating or you can pray if you believe in a god or have a religion. Or if you just believe in the universe and law of attraction

journaling

cleaning or tidying up a little

eating a yummy but healthy snack

cooking or baking

(if I’m severely not okay) holding an ice cube, running my hands in cold water and splashing the water in my face, taking a cold shower, taking a rubber band on my wrist and snapping it back

reading a book

watching my favorite tv show or movie

watching a comedy

playing music and forcing myself to dance (when I’m alone of course 😅)

yoga

exercising

watching cute animal videos on YouTube

Singing in the shower

Adult coloring books

some type of video about philosophy that reminds me that I’m not alone and we are all lost

some type of video that reminds me how beautiful life can be

some type of video that reminds me that I’m not in control of my circumstance, my genetics, or the world but I’m in control of how I react that I’m the one that gives power to my thoughts

Breaking thought patterns, bad habits and doing self care every day helps immensely. Over time it gets easier and easier to feel okay and to even feel happy. But never stop doing these things for the rest of your life. You either feed the negative thoughts or you feed the positive. You either feed the negative habits or you feed the bad. You get to choose. Seek help, and be gentle with yourself. Healing isn’t linear.

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intrusive thoughts don’t make you a bad person. they have no impact on your worth, value or anything else. you are so much more than these thoughts. you’re so strong for fighting your brain everyday. be kinder to yourself today.

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your intrusive thoughts disgust you for a reason. your intrusive thoughts scare you for a reason. your intrusive thoughts send you into a panic for a reason. your intrusive thoughts distress you for a reason. your intrusive thoughts upset you for a reason.

they're not things that you secretly think. they're not things that you secretly believe. they are the worst things your mind could conjure in order to make it difficult for you to get through the day.

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intrusive thoughts are created because they’re what you fear the most. they’re not what you’re going to do. they’re what you hate most of all. 

they’re not an indication of how evil you are. the only thing they indicate is what you’re most against. 

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☁️ Gentle mental health tips ☁️

♡ start your day early, preferably with the sunrise and the first bird chirps. The world is so beautiful at this time of the day.

♡ listen to music that makes you feel good and uplifted (or even better, gets you moving!)

♡ when feeling down, don't drown yourself in your feelings and in negativity. Don't make yourself feel even worse than you already do

♡ get off the internet, try not to spend too much time on social media

♡ give yourself a small goal to accomplish, as going for a 10mins walk or cooking a warm dinner for yourself. Accomplishing things, no matter how little, is a wonderful feeling

♡ try to imagine your best friend feeling like you do right now. What would you say to them, how would you console them? That's how you should treat yourself. Remember that you also deserve all the love and care

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My dad got angry,very angry again at my sister,i was trying to keep silent and holding back until he got worse and worse,my mom left and he started hoing worse and worse with my sister and brother,i eventually couldnt handle it and talked back to my dad and he got angry,then he got more angry and throwed a plate on the table really hard. i dont know what was onto me but my brain just inmediatly went to stop him and go near him and tell him to not throw things. I was truly in panic my scream sounded real. As weird as it sounds. Then my sister started crying of course,who wouldn't start crying after that. And my dad got angry saying that she was crying again. And then i told my dad that he shouldn't throw stuff around and i told him that my sister didn't do anything because she just answered a little and he got angry,then i asked my dad what was the truth,because he was saying to different things about something. Then he got angry at me. Lastly my sister got up and went away but my dad stopped her and sayed that she was groundes for one year,and then four years and then more,my dad was also recalling the time my sister told my dad that he was sounding like he would hit her. And finally my Dad and my sister went to my mom aparently and now. My mom and dad are arguing. I dont know.

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Hello guys, gals and non-binary pals. You are worth living. I’m sorry if that is hard to hear, i understand. I wanted to give you a little reminder the at some point recovery will be possible. There is no rush towards recovery and it isn’t done only one way. Find you own path and remember every step forward is valid and important. 

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journalling for beginners

i began keeping journals about a year ago, and believe it’s a wonderful hobby for just about anyone!

keeping track of various things in your life can bring a number of benefits, you can begin to recognise all the small things you feel grateful for, and help you process difficult situations - it can help you learn about yourself, find your voice and talk about things you might be uncomfortable to do so out-loud. 

tips for a daily journal ;

📕 it doesn’t really have to be daily, it should be something you enjoy, and if you don’t have the energy, there’s no need to beat yourself up

🖊️ if you are running low on energy, but still need to get your thoughts out, you can always just do some doodles, short sentences or scribbles, just to help you untangle your mind

📕 sharing pictures of your journal is fun, but it’s best to feel open and free in what you write - i find it beneficial to keep a journal just for me, so i feel comfortable adding anything 

🖊️ be honest with yourself, you don’t need to put on a performance for anyone else here

📕 date your entries to help you keep track of your moods and thoughts

🖊️ not feeling up for self-reflection? record simple things - draw an object nearby, write about an animal you saw, or make a list of things you did today

📕 don’t put pressure on yourself, your journal doesn’t need to be aesthetically pleasing, or beautifully written, you don’t need to have perfect grammar or a fancy notebook to enjoy journalling