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CHAPPELL ROAN!!!!

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guys it's

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everyone talking about how gracie isnt nominated for the Big Four and honestly valid. but also, theres a part of me, thinking about how Conan Gray hasn't been nominated for anything ever. Never ending song was A Moment. Lonely Dancers was a cry and dance anthem. Killing me, Winner and Alley rose- bangers after bangers after bangers.

Found Heaven, you're AOTY to ME.

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SABRINA CARPENTER performing at the 67th Annual Grammy Awards — February 2, 2025

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pink pony club full performance at grammys 2025

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CHAPPELL ROAN accepts the Best New Artist award onstage during the 67th Annual GRAMMY Awards (Feb 2, 2025)

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"And I'm trying my best to stand up for you in every way I can." 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

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Death of Sappho, by Miguel Carbonell Selva

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Edwin Payne + Tumblr Text Posts

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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Tweet of the year imo

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isn’t it weird how it’s already february but it’s also only february

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If your child is scared of you, you are parenting wrong

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tumblr is so easy to please

like I could post “boutta take a fat shit” and y’all would blow me UP