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Your (third) daily Mario gif.

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Pokemon Region Posters made by EyesOnFireArt

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I deleted LADS… I won’t get Zayne so I’m just giving up…

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I’m discovering about Ateez. What should I know? 😳

The only name I actually know is San??

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Your (second) daily Mario gif.

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How shameful I love stars.

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I clearly am not the most innocent feminine looking woman in terms of outfit for example.

Sometimes I’m just lazy to be well dressed and just dress casual/nerdy-like.

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What is being a Woman?

-> actually applies to everybody

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͙͘͡★ according to my understanding as a cis woman

Is there one definition of a « woman »?

Absolutly not, at least when you look at how cultures and historical changes impacted what a woman is. It is however true that some traits are expected from women such as motherhood and being a motherly figure because of our birthing capacity. But as you would have noticed, depending on the culture you grew up in, the expectations put on women are different. In some women should be passive, obedient, humble yet better than the other women (Wester culture, some Asian countries, and Middle East for example) while in other cultures women are not expected to be humble and are allowed to be assertive, strong and embody « masculine traits » (Northen culture, some Caucasian countries, some africans and asian countries, Ancient Middle East).

🌷 Do not hesitate to correct me if I am wrong!

Of course, in each culture there are some nuances and aspects we find everywhere. It’s rather « normal » as each culture is inspired by the other with the colonisations, ethnic mixing, similar believes, etc., without mentionning how the women’s place in society and how they’re perceived has changed over time depending on the wars, artistic movements, philosophico approaches and so on.

Should I stick to what is expected of me as a woman?

Well « yes » and « no ». Yes because whatever you want to become as a woman you will be influences by either your own culture and people’s expectations of you, maybe another population’s culture but also your own understanding and perspective of life and your individuality. You are already shared a certain way from the beginning of your life, and that is true for others as well. What you try to copy is actually what other have been formed/shaped to behave like.

For example gay people are not forced to act feminine as some are manly but those that are feminine got influenced by what is expected from women, the same goes for trans men and women. They are who they are but the way they behave to be part of the community they relate to is already decided by society. It is true that some women are masculine and some men are feminine. But is saying that that way really true? To a cultural perspective yes it it, but it’s not because a woman is assertive and hold that it is « obviously » a manly trait. Couldn’t it just be her personality? The same goes for sensitive and passive men, it’s not feminine in a non cultural approach but simply who he is. But overall we are all influenced by something and we all want to adopt the expectations (whatever they are, for all type of community to some degree).

But as we also are our own person, we have desires, needs, dreams, lack and so we can also create/engage in a more authentic way of expressing who we are. For example, not every traditinonal women are the same, not every modern men are the same. Passive woman may be assertive when she’s doing what she likes while passive woman B may be passive when she does what she likes but assertive when confronted to obstacles.

But I want to be accepted…

Accepted as you are? Accepted as they want you to be? What do you actually mean by that?

Whatever your answer is I would advise you to ask yourself some questions :

🌷 who I currently am today?

🌷 what do I want to become currently?

🌷 what do I like in myself as for as I know?

🌷 what are my strenghts and weaknesses?

🌷 what do I like about those around me? What do I dislike about them as well?

🌷do I really want to be this way/have that lifestyle currently?

🌷 is it what I really want? Or is it instead what I think I want?

🌷 will I feel capable to continue in the long run? Should I do it at least for a short period?

‧₊˚✩彡 of course there are many other questions you can ask yourself and honestly answer without being scared of judgments (alone or with someone you actually trust). And obviously it is okay to not know the answers as of right now and it is absolutely okay to make mistakes. Nothing is set in stone but your truth.

Beware…

.𖥔 ݁ ˖ִ ࣪𖤐 Beware of not falling in those alternative traps about what being « something » you have to be. Being a boss lady is not over working yourself, it’s rather in what environnement you work better, you are more productive and efficient, how aligned your are with your goals and meaningful your efforts are. Your long term goals, short ones too. You do not need to follow those « rules » that you see on social media as it’s generic, don’t take into account your own limits and strenght (disorders, cultural background, expectations of yourself…). However you can use those traits as a tool to help you find who you are, what you need and what you want.

Be yourself 𐙚⊹₊⋆☆

There is no « wrong » way to be a woman. It doesn’t exist. You are first and foremost a human that happens to be a woman in a country that see woman a certain way at that specific time period. You have the right to be what is expected to you but you will never be able to not express singular parts of yourself. It’s part of your for a reason so instead of being ashamed, thrive with it and learn from it. You also have the right to not follow the expectations put on you and follow your own path but know that you will still behave the way you grew up from at some point in your life so you won’t ever be totally free from cultural expectations.

Whatever you decide to do as a woman (cis, trans…) as long as you align your life with yourself (your values, principles, believes, political opinion, etc.,) and surround yourself with similar people that also are unique you will be fine.

And it is okay to evolve, to change and grow from what was once your comfort zone. You learned, you knew worse and will know better (and worse eventually but that’s part of life), you are understanding yourself more and more each year, each month, each week and each day and that is what helps you know what you want to become as a person in a society.

It was a post dedicated to women as I am a cis woman myself and I wanted other women to be more understanding of themselves but also others that don’t meet society’s expectations. But in conclusion the post actually applies to everybody, every gender, every person : everyone. I may do a post for men too as I noticed that their own struggles are not discussed a lot (because of the expectations that men are strong people that cannot be vulnerable), they diminish their own struggles and others which create a huge suffering.

What should be the points discussed about on the men’s one?

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Humans’ nature is being desperate for love in all its forms

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From what I read from the readings I got in regards to my fs :

- I already know him

- my guides are tired of me asking about my fs because they already told me everything and showed me who he was

- we separated

- a dreamy idealist who’s honest.

- a puppy personality with a hardworking mindset

And many more I am lazy to share.

Conclusion :

Whether or not I end up with that man, I want him to be just like Zayne from LADS.

PS : if I really get back with the man I already know who’s desrcibed like that, I’ll write about it there.

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There’s something I’m trying to run away from but I don’t know what…

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K!ll me

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ChatGPT is going to be the best friend I ever needed haha

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I am so stupid :(