20somethingdatingdisasters

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i’m just gonna be celibate again

when you meet someone who rocks your fucking worldbut theyre just a long distance fuck buddy.... *sigh*

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Cardinal Rule of Dating #3

No ditching friends for an “awkward first date” as I like to call it...

2nd, 3rd date? that’s fine, but good friends are hard to come by and what are the chances that this dude or chick whose pants you’re trying to get into are actually going to be there for you weeks, months, or years down the road? pretty much zero. So that’s why if I already have set/established plans with my friends and then somebody asks me out online (shocker it doesn’t happen in real life anymore...or at all for me since I took another hiatus from all those stupid bullshit apps) I will never back out or bail last minute regardless of how “hot” the dude is or how “connected” to him I feel. Besides, 95% of first dates I never want to see again. So why would I toss my real friends to the side for that 5% chance that I meet someone whose company I could actually tolerate a second time around...and remember that 5% doesn’t guarantee they’re going to feel the same way or that it is truly a match. It’s more like, 95% NO and 5% Not a no, yet!

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Cardinal Rule of Dating #2

No homewrecking

Honestly this isn’t even a truly morally grounded rule on my part - frankly, I just want to sleep with both eyes closed. Yes, I’m sure I’d also feel guilty about tearing up a relationship or family but the main reason I am absolutely against it is because I don’t need a crazy girlfriend or psycho wife coming after me for sleeping with your man. That’s it folks.

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Cardinal Rules of Dating

Anyone who’s hung out with me more than 2 times has probably heard me drone on and on about my cardinal rules of dating.

I’ve got three - and I think this is an important enough topic that each merits its own post. So, in no particular order, the cardinal rule I’m discussing here is:

No paying for online dating

This might not sit well with some of you, especially the males. But, personally, and I explain this to all my friends, the moment I drop a dime on a dating app, whether its tinder, OKC, Match, coffee meets bagel, bumble, etc. I’m essentially paying someone to (want to) be/sleep with me. Whether that’s in the form of a temporary profile boost, getting unlimited swipes, undos, or whatever the feature; to me it all boils down to paying for a relationship and I don’t think that’s a mentality I will ever get over. 

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Inaugural Post

Hello World!

Call me D - I’m just your typical 20 something single female navigating her way through the treacherous waters of both online and organic dating. I’ve been doing this for quite some time now and a lot of friends have been encouraging me to get some sort of blog started. I guess it’s cool they think my experiences to date are just so entertaining? Or maybe they really do want me to share my insights...or realistically it’s some combination of both. Either way, I’m happy to finally oblige. This blog might just be a great outlet for me personally, and if anyone is at least marginally amused or is able to relate, to any degree, to my experiences, then those are just great bonuses! Here’s to happy reading.

D