#you're allowed to mess up and it's gonna be okay. you know other people who've messed up too and you showed up for them and they were okay

[naivety]

really cannot overstate how powerful it is to be there for yourself the way you wish people would be there for you. that's not to say you don't deserve support from others too, but until you find those people in your life, sometimes what can get you through is giving that space and care for yourself in the meantime. taking moments just to tell yourself hey i know you're doing your best and that's enough for the world right now elsewise it wouldn't be, or hey maybe we did fuck up for real this time but i'm here for you and with you and we're gonna get through this, or i know we're alone right now but i like you and think you're pretty damn cool if i do say so myself, or i know things are hard and we don't have to force ourselves to pretend it's not but it's going to be okay, and even if it's not, that's okay too because i'm not gonna give up on you. we're in this together til death do us part baby