#you can't move out with no job/income and definitely can't afford to juggle pregnancy expenses on your own. now what? | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

calliopechild · 3 months ago

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Listen, I wouldn't normally cite Cosmo as support for an argument, but I can't think of anything that sums up the dangers of the stay-at-home girlfriend/tradwife nonsense like this quote:

“If you give a man the power to feed you, he also has the power to starve you.”

#ladies no matter how good your relationship is PLEASE don't ever put yourself in a situation #where your partner is your only source of income and you have no bank account of your own and no means to support yourself #if you want to play history revisionist and pretend the 50s were the era of your pastoral suburban fantasy #and not full of reasons why shitty husbands kept ending up dead when women couldn't escape them through divorce #then that's your business #but for the love of all the suffragettes who fought for the rights you want to hand back over to some guy #please at least read this article and the warnings from ladies who did the stay-at-home girlfriend thing #and had to start over from scratch when things crashed and burned #it wouldn't take much for a woman to be completely trapped--especially if things keep going the way the gop wants #you give up your job to play tiktok housewife barbie for your man. he knocks you up. the relationship goes sour #a miscarriage could get you arrested and you can't get an abortion because you live in a red state #you can't move out with no job/income and definitely can't afford to juggle pregnancy expenses on your own. now what?#and this is not meant to be a 'men are trash' or 'being a stay-at-home mom is a prison' thing #there are a lot of good men in the world and for a lot of families having one stay-at-home parent #is actually more cost-effective than having two incomes and paying for daycare #but having financial autonomy is so so important #don't give that up for any relationship #financial abuse

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