#y'all have no idea the amazing spreadsheets i made

[therentyoupay]

Hey kris! I’ve followed you for a long long time now and am so happy to see you doing your thing and active on tumblr rn. I was really really active a couple months ago and am now on here when time permits. Seeing you pop up on my dash again made me realize I don’t think you’ve ever changed your profile pic since like idk 2012 when I started following you. is there any significance behind the and symbol? I hope you’re enjoying the beginnings of fall ☺️☺️

HELLO, NONNY. 😭🙏💕💕 thank you so much for your lovely lovely message!!! i'm also so sorry that you sent this three days ago when i have actually been super absent from tumblr for the past week or so due to ✨life obligations✨🤣😭🤣!! you and i are in the same boat! super active on tumblr when we can be; otherwise.... we swing by, when life allows. 🤣

thank you so much for your question! you are correct!! 🤣 i started writing fic at age 11 on FFNET through another penname (bonus points if anyone here actually remembers what it used to be, 2001–2011 👀?) and it was a really big deal when i decided to ✨rebrand✨ after ten years! the rebrand to therentyoupay started in december 2011 (long story short: a reviewer left such a nice comment on my FFNET dramione story that it kickstarted me into actually continuing it! comments matter!!) and at the time, ampersands (&) were all the rage, and i was definitely one of the basic bitches obsessed with them. 🤣 (no millennial-"&" tattoo but i did consider it lmao. maybe I'll still get one, one day, so y'all can try to identify me in The Wild lmao.) therentyoupay is from one of my favorite quotes. 🥹🥹🥹💕💕 (does anyone know? 🤣)

so, that following summer in 2012, lok came out and i was lured into making a tumblr! unsurprisingly, my avatar/icon slid over from FFNET/ao3 into tumblr, as did my penname, and i will likely keep it for the rest of my life 🤣 therentyoupay/kris(which isn't my real name👀)/TRYP have now all been associated with this account and my fics for so long that it would cause great confusion and, quite probably, losses in the community i've built over the years!! so TRYP i shall remain forever 🤣

i also personally get so confused when long-term friends on tumblr change their icons and URLs... it's like i no longer recognize them! i have a spreadsheet with everyone's URLs over the years, their names, etc., so i can keep track... but i was also off tumblr for three years during the pandemic 😅😅😅 so i have lost track of a lot of people 🥹 that's why i always really appreciate when people leave a note in their profiles/pinned posts about their previous URLs and a name to call them by! (whether it's a fake name or not lol) otherwise i don't have a name for them–they're just their URL lol, and their "face" is just their icon. 🤣

and yes, i totally am!! 🍁🍂🍃🍁🍂🍃🍁🍂🍃 i'm feeling so lucky and so grateful for all the amazing things happening in my life right now 😭🙏 if only 2012!kris had any idea what was in store for her.... 🤣💕💕💕

LOVE YOU, NONNY. TAKE CARE AND HAVE AN AMAZING REST OF YOUR WEEK. 💕💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏🥹🥹🥹🥹💕💕💕 thank you so much for this beautiful ask!

[hansbekhart]

Fandom Loves Puerto Rico - Indexed Creator List!

So if you were intimidated by hearing that we have over THREE HUNDRED CREATORS signed up for the Fandom Loves Puerto Rico auction, WORRY NO MORE. I’m actually Amy Santiago in disguise and I love spreadsheets, so I put together something awesome for you, yes you: An indexed creator list, broken down by type of offering and fandom!  

IT’S BEEN BROUGHT TO MY ATTENTION THAT THE LINKS THIS HELLSITE AREN’T WORKING, so please refer to this link: https://fandomlovespuertorico.dreamwidth.org/1698.html

The last thing we want is for anyone to get lost or distracted when looking for awesome things to help benefit Puerto Rico’s recover, so the link above has all offerings broken out as follows:

Fanfic (by fandom) Fan Art (by fandom) Donations by Professional Comics Creators - To be added shortly! Writing Services (above and beyond writing help - including professional manuscript review, sensitivity reading, script doctoring, historical accuracy, etc) Beta Services (your basic and indispensable spelling and grammar) Fanvids/Animation Playlists/Mixes/Filk Podfic Physical Goods & Crafts

And because spreadsheets are awesome, I also have a masterlist of creators in this very post HELL YEAH, CLICK THROUGH THAT CUT TAG

AO3 name first (tumblr name in parenthesis!)

acenatromanov akamine_chan alby_mangroves amako (dimancheetoile) Amalthea (askrinandharu) annapods AosoraHayato (black-tea-blue-pens) aredblush Arsenic (arsenicjade) ArtOfCombat ashes0909 ashtraythief biblionerd07 Binary_Sunset blackestglass blackrose_17 (sweet-sammy-kisses) blanketed_in_stars bluebeholder (wanderingnork) BoopBoop (boopifer) Brenda (brendaonao3) brighteyedjill brofisting (aimeefleck) BunniesAndBooks (lillemlam) bustybarnes captain ronnie (richardrider) cathybites (poorlyformed) Cerabee Stitches Chancy_Lurking (lurkerviolin) Chestnut_filly (chestnut-podfic) chicago_ruth cinaea clear_sight clutchhedonist Cobaltmoony cosmogyral (catchaspark) Crowgirl damalur damnslippyplanet dance_across dellessa Dira Sudis (dsudis) dizzy (alittledizzy) djinnj dragonbandit (bandit-writes) Dresupi DrowningByDegrees DwarvenBeardSpores Ebonyheartnet EchoDoctor Ediblecrayon Eepz ElectraRhodes elenajames (iaintafraidofnoghostbear) elizajane EmeraldDS (viodora) emmatheslayer envisionarts epilogues (spookiestdad) essenceofmeanin esteefee everyperfectsummer EvilMuffins FacesofMer (merindab) facetiousfutz faunsongs feanor_in_leather_pants fearlessly fingersnapstothat (borkyandstove) firesign10 frecklebombfic geckoholic (lostemotion) geek_ramblings genus_species (parrishsrubberplant) goldfishsunglasses (eroticgropefest) Green (yogi-bogey-box) growlery (growlereish) grue GrumpiestCat (nursedianaklim) gwyneth (teatotally) Hans Bekhart HerbertBest (devilgate-drive) Herm_Own_Ninny (SquishySterek) hobbit_hedgehog (humandisasterbuckybarnes) HobbitSpaceCase (trashmouse) honeyedlion hsavinien i-will-not-be-caged iHarp (a-harp-puff) Independence1776 iniquiticity Ink (inkstrangle) inthearmsoftheocean (transmichaelscofield) ironmanspanties (Mypissedoffsandwich) Iwantthatcoat (Iwantthatbelstaffanditsoccupant) Jack-of-All-Spades janie_tangerine (janiedean) Jaune_Chat jedusaur Jenrose justgot1 K_R_Closson kalakirya (podficcerbynight) kasutera Katharoses (samthebirdbae) Kedreeva khorazir kla1991 KMYASH Knowmefirst Kookookarli ladydarkphoenix-blog LanaiA3O (lanaiscorner) Laryna6 legoprime Lena7142 (portraitoftheoddity) lifeinredshades Lil_Jei (lil-jei-the-2nd) liliaeth lilithduvare (queenofthewips) lily_winterwood (omgkatsudonplease) lilyvandersteen litra (litrapod) littleblackfox lohac (grandrelic) lovelytitania lucifuge5 mambo MapleleafCameo Masu_Trout meggannn MelodyJaikes Merfilly (bow-weaver) millinya (mihrsuri) Missy (everyonelikedbubbahotep) mokuyoubi monicawoe moriavis MrsCalculation Nimravidae (tooeasilyconsidered) not_worms Nursedarry obsessivereader omgbubblesomg Opalsong Originalceenote (Downwarddnaspiral) osprey_archer pageetc (all-delighted-people) paynesgrey (quirkyspaynesgrey) pearwaldorf pennydrdful PepperF pinkish (yabagofmilk) Poe (new-salem) PokeChan (kurogabae) prosodiical Punkpoemprose purewanderlust rachaelizame (finnskywxlkxr) rain_sleet_snow Rainbow_femme RarePairFairy Raskel (agenderraskel) raving_liberal red_crate (the-redcrate) rightsidethru ro_mm_ck rogravou rohkeutta rosiedoesfic (rosiedoestumblr) sadieb798 saiditallbefore Salvia_G sanidine (bingitoff) scribblyorro Selah shadowed_sunsets (pippnfrodo) ShannonXL SheyrenaWyrsabane shinealightonme (toast-the-unknowing) shirasade showerdownbonanza sidewinder (hawkland) siennavie silentwalrus snowynight SomebodyOwens sperrywink spookykingdomstarlight springsoldier (ladydaredevil) StainedGlassDreams staranise stele3 stephrc79/misspaperjoker stjarna (the-nerdy-stjarna) Sumi (sumilong) sylviarachel tasalmalin taylerdoodles teeelsie thatsmysecret thebeespatella theclaravoyant thecount (camillo1978) TheLittleRedWhoCouldWrite themirrordarkly (starmaki) theragingstorm (clearbluewaters) ThetaSigma (thedoctorishereguys) thewalrus_said thisstableground threeturn (valencing) tinykendra (keithhawke) Tipsy_Kitty (tipsyxkitty) trascendenza trishargh (frau-argh) triskle_93 (itsaskull-withbatwings) Tyellas (thebyrchentwiggles) udunie unclesteeb unforth vands88 Vangirl (helpyoufly) velvetjinx voxangelus (foxy-voxy) willowbilly within_a_dream wuzzy90 (hopelessgeek) lalalalalee (hlahlahlahlahly) often_adamanta (oftenadamanta) firefly124 aliciameade Bigbuffpugpuff Poetry (featherquill) There_Once_Was_A_Girl (fromwhenceeyecame) naughtypastrychef (nerdygeekypastrychef) desastrista Violsva Alley_Skywalker siria (siriaeve) madameofmusic (whiskeytangofrogman) the-bi-writer wallofwindows (windowmadeofglass) samalander (intosnarkness) wesawbears Alessnox (rozzychan) jinlinli yopumpkinhead (fallintosanity) Sarsaparilla (sarsaparillawords) Melime (melimegreenleaf) perclexed whispered_story gorgeousnerd drvology (drvsilla) methylviolet10b palanteens (abominableobriens) dreamlittleyo wendymarlowe (wendyqualls) IxayaOri (spn-samifer) Otakuelf (Otaku3lf) cassiopeia7 LadyBrooke sanctuary_for_all (sanctuaryforalluniverses) heart_nouveau (roseroadkingsroad) rainstormdragon lmeden (naatsue/ghoill) greenbergsays Attackfish Largishcat Night_inscriber Nonymos beautifullychaotic121 Scared_Beings_in_the_Dark (1989dreamer) Greychu (impossibleinsanity) owlpockets kiyaar (besafesteve) bastlynn WhoopsOK (ohwhoopsok) celtic7irish the_deep_magic DirectorShellhead (dienaziscum) theletterelle catalenamara sacredraisincakes (coneoflight) cablesscutie (latticeontop/imaginezimbits) seliphra Property_is_not_a_priority (Prygelknabe/Queeromo) threadlingzz unpossible bigblueboxat221b Prim_the_Amazing (primtheamazing) princeofprinces (theprinceofprinces) Indybaggins MapleAppleBittle MakroncosHoolgy (hideous-ideas-of-a-young-girl) helahler MemeKon/MemeKonYA togina (toli-a) psychicmoth Jeslieness balefully (psycholinguistic) Ironlawyer snorklepie metalholics vaulkner (xan-drei)

This list is current as of midnight last night (US East Coast time); I’ll update the DW post up until the sign up period closes!  

HELL YEAH PLEASE REBLOG THE SHIT OUT OF THIS POST!!

[glass-expanse]

I'm assuming y'all are talking about wedding guest lists. Here's the secret. The guests you invite are only up to you and your future spouse. The fewer people you invite, the less money you have to spend. So come to a conclusion on the maximum number of people you can invite based on budget and what the two of you are comfortable with.

Make a spreadsheet. In the spreadsheet, on the first page, make a big long list of everyone you and your future spouse even consider about inviting. Group by parties. Sort alphabetically.

Then sift through and label what circles each party is from-- church friends, husband's family, wife's family friends, people from a specific workplace, etc.

As you do this, think long and hard about each person in each party and about what they mean to you. Rate them by Yes (they should totally come) Maybe (if we have space we'd love to invite them) and No (We don't NEED to invite them). If most parties in a certain circle are no's, consider that the one or two parties that are yes or maybe are either in the wrong circle or they should be off the list. Although as a rule of thumb inviting ALL the people in a circle is dumb because people are individuals. The reason I use this as a tool is because it helps me delineate how much each person means to me. Don't feel like you have to go all or nothing on circles though.

Also, one thing you can do is consider alternatives to the standard wedding setup. Maybe you have a cake only reception, or maybe it's an open house instead. Maybe your ceremony itself is very private, or maybe you want everyone there, it's up to you. Point is, not EVERYONE needs to be at the ceremony, and your reception does NOT need to be a plated dinner afair unless that is what you want.

And remember, always reach out to the ladies in your church for help, whether that's for planning or ideas or advice or for actually manning the event. The people you know well and have that commitment to encourage you like your church family does are such an amazing resource and it's so important you put that to good use. 100000000% better than going on wedding forums.

Oh, and one more thing! Pressure feels all important in the moment, but it's useless later. Don't listen to it! People have opinions and that's fine! You can still treat those people with love and not use their opinions. The pressure is NEVER worth it. It made the entire 6 months I dealt with it a living HELL. Please ignore it even if it feels impossible. It lends nothing to the experience except stress. Literally. It comes down to you and the person you're marrying. Not your aunt, your grandpa, your cousin, your best childhood friend, no one. Treat people with dignity, but Do Not Give In To The Pressure. Ignore It.

Anyway, if my assumption is wrong and this isn't about weddings, well, that's awkward, but some of my advice probably still stands. And my advice can still be shared if there's folks you know that ARE getting married and could benefit.

Best of luck with the dreaded guest list!

Guest lists are awful 🥰