#y'all fucking run rampant w this shit and think it's a personal attack when someone says no to you

[drakrite]

hey y’all. let’s talk about shipping, shall we?

the general consensus when it comes to shipping is that we thrive off the scenarios of our favorite characters finding that special someone in their life to love, cherish, and make good memories together. who doesn’t like that? shipping is fun because characters can grow whether for better or for worse but at the end of the day. shipping requires chemistry with both muns and muses - i’m sure you can see where this conversation is heading, forceshipping and following people purely for the sake of ships.

no one likes it when a complete stranger comes up to them and automatically assumes that they’ll get what they want. especially when the mun doesn’t know who you are, you can’t just assume something of someone, it’s unfair to them, and you, in the process, upset yourself when you’re turned down. you have to respect them and their muse, even when they say they love shipping, there is and always will be the underlying tone of ‘ but i must know you to ship with you ‘. respect that, and this isn’t me saying that writing solely for ships is a bad thing. but some people see it as a turn off purely because it makes the writer seem as if that’s all their muse is to you.

a lot of the time when people say this, they ship with everyone and all types of muses, which, again, isn’t bad! but there are those who had dealt with these things so much in the past that it’s caused issues for them. myself included, this has happened many times and sometimes, people feel as if they’re just some other ... i hate saying this, collectible for someone’s shelf. you have to be respectful in these cases especially because it’s something that many people nowadays heavily dislike. 

i write a muse that is very popular, and many love especially in the shipping sense. i write a muse many people reduce to nothing but shipping material. i’ve had people cut ties with me because i turned them down for a ship when i honestly said, ‘ i don’t see a ship happening because we haven’t done anything yet. ’, or when i ship with someone and those with a similar muse unfollow me right after when they find out. i’ve had people remove me from discord and block me because i wouldn’t change who my raihan is for the sake of their wants. it’s disgusting, and it’s rude to me as a person when i don’t cave to another person’s desires. i’ve had people meet me for 2 minutes and then try to force their ocs on me, i’ve had people ramble on and on about shipping w me romantically when i didn’t even know what their names were, i’ve had people do this to me in .5 seconds. don’t do that to people, you make them uncomfortable.

an instance that many will probably point out is the quickest a certain ship on my blog happened and to be frank, hours, and hours, and HOURS, of chatting happened. a lot of what ifs, and a lot of chatting to learn more about me and a friend of mine happened. we knew each other WAY before they returned to tumblr, i in fact, knew them before they returned to tumblr in a way that we were at least on a name basis. we already knew our interests, we already knew what we enjoyed talking about and the beat we spoke was comfortable for us to keep a good conversation going and now they’re one of my closest friends in this community and we’re pretty much hip buddies.

get to know the mun, i promise you it won’t kill you to put your shipping endeavors on the backburner. make a friend before you try to dive in headfirst with these types of things. you’ll learn more about who you’re writing with, the take of their muse and the way they operate. be mindful of the boundaries and i promise you, more people would be inclined should you extend that olive branch. but you can’t take it personally when someone says no to a ship for whatever reason. that’s unfair to the writer and puts you in a bad light.