#wow Tumblr will ridicule as their first response to anything won't they

[askshivanulegacy]

The thing that gets me about almost everything on this post: both the original paranoia and unreasonably obsessive position about "you have to be a COMMUNITY" (which is somehow the answer to everything on Tumblr) is that it's all extremely unhelpful.

When you live alone, you have to consider the possibility of things like a home break in and how you would realistically respond. What works, what doesn't. What would YOU do. What CAN you do, for yourself. What are you WILLING to do. If you haven't done that, then you are simply unprepared.

It's a scary thing, and the fear is real. You don't let yourself obsess over it, ofc, but you also don't act like an entitled know-it-all and dismiss someone's concerns like that. You offer real solutions. You plan a practical response, just like you would for any other contingency. Do you have a fire escape plan? Do you have an emergency kit? Do you have a tornado shelter? You can have an invasion defense plan too.

Most of these commenters rage about what's bad, but not what's realistically helpful. They also manufacture imaginary arguments to rage about, which are not the topic of the post.

Community doesn't do squat in a home invasion scenario (but interestingly, the whistle everyone hates is exactly reaching for community). Neither does not being afraid to walk down a street. This woman isn't isolating herself. She's creating barriers to intrusion and deterrents.

Alarms and loud noises are good (she set up an alarm). Cameras are good. Closing/locking windows are basic, of course you do that. The only real thing that would work against her here are those extra door locks. That's literally it. Why is Tumblr crying about everything else?

The one thing that isn't addressed, which is the real fallback to everything else, is what do you personally do if something happens. Do you have an escape plan? If you can't escape, what do you do? Ultimately, that's this woman's fear and you notice that everything else is an attempt to ultimately avoid ever getting there. But you cannot be at peace if you do not figure that part out. And it requires really knowing yourself and committing, in advance, to the actions available to you so that you do not delay when it's too late for choices.

Will you scream? Will you call someone? CAN you? Will you hide? Will you fight? Will you kill?

Tumblr will laugh like a juvenile, but again: if you're responsible enough to plan for emergencies, this is just another planning exercise.

[nangbaby]

lol this is in response to you saying blocking someone is gaslighting. Again: Step away from tumblr and go outside. Get a fucking hobby. Calling you dense isn't abusive, calling a hp fan bigoted isn't abusive, and blocking isn't gaslighting. Telling someone to kill themselves would classify as harrasment, which can also be called abuse. That's the only one you got right. The other ones though? Ate not abuse.

Also you literally look so fucking white. It's very bold of you to claim that you're black.

Wow...so much manipulation here it would be a shame to not point out how precisely how abusive and manipulative you're being.

First of all, this is your previous message, the one where you told me to kill myself. That's the conversation you started with me. You try to backpedal to some other conversation, but none of that was in your first response. So already you are lying about the context in the first sentence.

Second, calling someone a nasty name is abusive. Not only is it an argument against a person, but it is cruel treatment of a person. If you simply search for emotional abuse in any search engine that is the number one sign. Coupled with you operating in a place of power, mistreatment and power is the definition of abuse.

Third, directing abuse to a person in communication makes the entire interaction abusive, much like an instance of abuse in a relationship makes the entire relationship abusive. Even if you only abused me in one part, you still sent an abusive message. And since you have come back to send a second message, you have clearly harassed me with repeated, unwanted contact.

Fourth, the scary thing is in the thread you refer to...you agreed with this sentiment. Your pals accused someone of blocking other people in an attempt to make themselves look better. So, you actually agree blocking people is used to make people doubt their own sanity, but magically, now you're claiming that such an argument - the one you endorsed - is now ridiculous. If it were just you, your flip in stance would just be inconsistent, but throwing the weight of all those who agree with you in a show of numbers pushes your behavior into abuse territory.

And then fifth, since you couldn't get your way by personally attacking me, being mean, or cruel, you decide to repeat lies other people spread about me to win. Of course, you and others won't believe me, no matter how many times I say it's not true and how I outline that other people made up lies about me and spread them, but it doesn't change that people like you lied.

But all that abuse is just window dressing for the obvious.

You blocked me so I couldn't communicate with you. People are supposed to block people so they can be left alone. You also sent me a message to communicate with me in spite of blocking me.

If you're saying you don't want to be bothered with someone, but then call their name and ask them a question...that's a form of manipulation, one where because you present the victim with two contradictory behaviors, the victim does not know what to believe... ...that's gaslighting.

The only reason why I am posting this "ask" and not deleting the message is because you have just demonstrated how blocking is often gaslighting through your actions far more clearly than any of my posts ever could. Whenever someone asks for proof of a person sending repeated, denigrating messages in my inbox while ostensibly claiming to not want to have anything to do with me via blocking, you're going to be my prime example. You have shown how "boundaries" are weaponized.