#wonder if he'd still hold that opinion if he had actually ended up with terminal damage instead of a podium but 🤐

[leqclerc]

One thing that is consistent no matter what, is sainz and his fans playing the victim. Why are they acting like the stewards have tried to murder him? He did a stupid move, he needs to get a penalty. And all the idiots saying "Ferrari won't fight for him. Why haven't they appealed. Carlos is the only one that cares about points in this team". Losers, the reason they haven't appealed is because they have eyes and can see when their driver takes out another car. I cant with this man and his fans. How can he say it was an unfair decision. He has never once in his life taken responsibility for his fuck ups.

Literally I am 😒 They can't say the team isn't doing anything for him when Laurent was seen heading to the stewards pretty much ASAP and Fred was also asked about possibly appealing. Every team has the right to appeal (it's literally right there on the FIA documents) and they often do. Haas also tried to take it up with the FIA after this race and they didn't get what they wanted out of it. Unless you can put together a compelling case or find a loophole then it's unlikely to get overturned. I think most people can agree that it was a pretty slam dunk penalty and on par with the penalties they usually give out in similar situations. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I get that he was talking about it in the heat of the moment but oh my god, he got a bit carried away, talking about getting the penalty overturned like that was a surefire thing... 🤨 Hope he sits down and reviews the situation because having this I did absolutely nothing wrong here approach is not it in this case.

[frogsandfries]

Yesterday one of my friend's new friends ended up getting wrangled into semi-professionally mediating my friend and my relationship.

I wish I'd had the information I just acquired last night when all of this started.

But this guy, let's call him the sleeper, because he has insomnia. It turns out the other day, when the sleeper and my friend were hanging out, they bonded over having insomnia.

I needed this discussion.

Basically, insomnia can cause a fugue state if it gets bad enough. I obviously had no way of ever knowing this.

The sleeper says there are literally three options: A) Terminate our relationship, B) Terminate their relationship, C) Attempt to meditate. But to acknowledge that it may be too late, especially if he's honest about my birthday. I was happy to hear he did remember my birthday; I made a point of asking if he thought he would, because I was sort of starting to have an understanding, and I didn't want him to be the other personality if we were going to engage.

I didn't want to undermine the foundation of their relationship, but it may have already been such a fickle thing that any sort of disturbance like myself might've been the last straw. Perhaps full-party communication would have circumvented this, but I'm not the one in the relationship blocking me out. I wonder if they are both so codependent, they can't imagine anyone else understanding or wanting to help. Or like my last relationship, everyone kept telling me he was a bad match for me and I just wanted it to work out, partly because my one-time best friend was hardly ever in contact and I had no idea what was up with that. Sometimes you work really hard on a relationship and you wouldn't just throw that energy away. But sometimes you forget, if you have to work really hard at it, maybe it's not a good fit.

I did get a sound talking-to about involving, or allowing to be involved, third-parties in communication. However, the sleeper seems to understand or at least respect my need to communicate. The only reason the third party got involved was because of a lack of communication, because I couldn't communicate directly like I needed. The sleeper also suggested that simply where she is in life versus where we are in life means the relationship isn't going to last.

Which reminds me, so she's started talking to our acquired friend. It started yesterday when my friend's phone had been out of battery for a few hours and he mentioned who he was going to be out with. So she contacted the guy we had been hanging out with (he'd gone home to go to bed) and he called the sleeper, because we were still hanging out. And now she's trying to make friends with this guy. And my friend chalks it up to her liking to meet people and make friends, but our new friend suggests that her attempts to be friendly feel a little plastic. Also, he admits he may be biased based on what I've told him. I've told him that they've been together since she was seventeen, and she wants a TPE relationship that allows her to be fully cared for; I neglected to mention the chronic illness, which (maybe it's not my place but) I've recently started to question. To me, it does seem like she plays up her issues, but obviously I don't know. I do know, she's been in this relationship since before she was an actual legal, proper adult; she has no experience being a completely independent adult, and in my opinion this bleeds over into a discussion we had the other day at work: Most people get married straight out of high school without taking any kind of time to explore the world independently and get to know who they are. She falls into this category, although lover boy over here would trip over himself to justify continuing this relationship.

At the time though, the sleeper was forced to circle back to involving third parties, but also pointing out that he'd only been offline for a couple hours. It was really excessive to contact a friend to get a hold of him.

So now I have plenty of information to help me move on--it was actually not surprising when, as he was falling asleep, he kept apologizing that everything is messed up.

Obviously, even if everyone is telling him she isn't a good match for him, it's not up to us to have the final say over that. They've been together for three years, so it seems like if he hasn't noticed anything, either she's holding back or he's oblivious. Knowing him, he's going to overlook small things, even as they add up.