#white women seem to have this prevailing ideal that a) they're just sooooooo different from white men

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Genuine question: what should be done in situations like that "future is female" film screenshot? As in, how do we create spaces for women and non-men that don't exclude non-men?

Don't use "non-men" - it rips off non-Black which is a term coined for the very specific type of racism that Black people experience and it is inappropriate to use it elsewhere.

Anyway, I don't think I am the end be all of people to make a decision here lol, but I would have just gone with "women" in general and made it explicit that it includes trans women. If you want to include trans narratives then make a separate workshop and event for trans people. My main issue is that tacking on such a broad category of "women and nonbinney uwu" is that it is very obvious it is meant for "women and people we think are women but we'll say they/them if we have to".

Like, I'm nonbinary, and while how I would label or describe my gender changes and isn't really fixed, I can safely say that I don't fit within "woman" as a binary category. But I wouldn't really describe it as "male" as a binary category either. Would I be included, then, though? Would I, rocking up dressed "like a man", with facial and body hair, be included? And more importantly - because here's who is truly impacted by this - would a trans woman or tma nonbinary person be included?

It's easy to see this "women and nonbinary" thing as being some sort of radical act to reject spaces dominated by men (and let's be honest, these people are thinking of cis men), but when you use such a broad and diverse category as "nonbinary" when trying to do this it's like... I know my trans tma siblings won't be welcome in the same way a tme nonbinary person will be.