#which makes my mom sound intense but like she wasn't super authoritarian in her parenting and she allowed for kvetching whining and trying | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

council-of-beetroot · 19 days ago

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There's something about say doing a whole bunch of laundry or hand washing all your dishes after cooking a large meal when you're twenty that brings me this strange childlike joy and sense of accomplishment when I do it

It's like sure, I did this stuff prior to adulthood, but that was out of obedience to my mother. Now I am an adult living on my own and now I am doing these things because I have to for me and only me and have to willingly choose to do them

And it's like wow I did it I'm so grown up!

#its like yay i did it! then i can here my mother saying good now go do the four other things you need to do #because she is the type of person who is can't stop won't stop so like she doesn't often understand that for me doing even like one big #thing in the day its like it's the only thing on my mind because i have to like prepare myself to do it #i also am baffled when i see people in college who its their first time doing chores and shit #like it was expected for me to do this stuff as a kid and if my mom said to do something you do it right away #which makes my mom sound intense but like she wasn't super authoritarian in her parenting and she allowed for kvetching whining and trying #to negotiate given that you still did as told #also my mother's jewish and her job is contract negotiation so she is impossible to win an argument against #also from what i hear about gen alpha like damn they do not respect their parents like what the fuck #like its insane #also people getting money for doing household chores. my mom doesn't believe in rewarding someone for doing what is expected of them #but she periodically of course would give me money for stuff or buy me stuff so it works out #and like i know people complain about gen z's work ethic but my sisters and i have always been praised for ours #since doing your 110% and what you're expected to do and more was something taught to us early on. it's your duty to do so so you do it #nothing is for incentive #my mom has very high standards #idk why i felt like putting all of this in the tags #i guess since i was raised to give my 110% it makes tasks feel daunting and when theres no one to ensure i do them it takes a lot #of self motivation and since it feels so hard i guess its why it feels like when you're a kid and you're doing something for the first time #and you're not sure you can do it but you did and it's like yay!

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