#which is totally fine! but i'm annoying and i love specific rules and mechanics and also i have like half the handbook memorized

[walterdecourceys]

i want to try playing thirsty sword lesbians so bad but both the groups i do d&d with would be so turned off by the title alone

[sugarsugarmoon]

Fun little squishy balls. Thats what I'm calling boba from now on. ☺

I heard you like soft doms. I consider Seokjin and Yoongi to be the softest doms considering how sweet and soft they tend to be.

But I may be wrong lol.

Namjoon is sweet and soft and everyone calls him a hard dom.

What do you think? Since you have a dom. :o

-🌸

I started responding to this, got annoyed about something on my phone, and closed my computer. Ya know, like an adult. Anyway, fun little squishy balls is the only way to go.

Now before I say anything, no one come for me. These are my headcanons. I’m allowed to have my own opinions, and you are allowed yours.

I think that soft sweet boys can be hard doms too. I think if you communicated about it and discussed it, Namjoon could, Hoseok could, and maayyyyybe Jimin could. I don’t really see any of the boys as exclusively hard doms. In my HC, and what I’ve discussed with my friends, I mostly see Jin as a sub or the softest little soft dom if you asked really nicely. Yoongi is a switchy baby, but sub Yoongi makes me weak. Hoseok and Namjoon, I personally see as a dom, but I love reading fics with them as subs when they’re written well. Taehyungie, our little demisexual boy, is a switch in my brain. Jiminie is whatever he needs to be. Jungkook likes to pretend he’s a dom on stage, but he’s just babie. @taetaesbaebaepsae said it best “service top at best.” Additionally, to quote another Noona friend, @illneverrecover “not every sexual encounter has to have dom/sub or top/bottom dynamics”

 I also think that fanfiction often portrays people as “hard doms” when really they’re just assholes. For some of my thoughts on hard and soft doms and some of my experiences, see below the cut.

The line between soft and hard dom blurs with the growth of the relationship. You are able to push boundaries or change dynamics as you get to know one another and negotiate your limits.

So my Dom considers himself a soft dom most of the time, and I do to. His is not so much a caregiver, but his is caring. He is definitely a pretty quintessential “Daddy Dom and Sir combo” to me with a smattering of Master/Owner tendencies. Our dynamic has changed big time since our relationship started because I am more comfortable.

When we first started seeing each other, he was much much softer. He slapped me across the face when I specifically asked for it. He spanked me softly, nothing too painful. Partially because we were new partners and partially because I was new to the sadomasochism with a partner scene. I did a lot of age regression at the time as escapism and a coping mechanism, and he bought me lots of fun toys, coloring books, and things that littles like to play with. We watched movies together, had vanilla sex, and played games together. He was a more caregiving dom, and I was a more babygirl sub. Granted, we still do those things because we’re in a relationship, but now we do other things too.

Now that we’ve been together for a while, we have pushed boundaries. We discussed how I felt and if I’d be willing to try things before we pushed the boundaries. The first time we pushed boundaries, we did some heavy impact play which I had never done before, and I LOVED it. I don’t love it all the time, but I loved it with him. Then we did some other things with bondage, impact, sadomasochism, and punishment that we found did or did not work for us. We’ve recently talked about a few other new things that we’d like to try, but the most important part of it is that we talked it out. Those are the things I don’t really talk about here because people have very strong opinions about the nonsexual D/s relationships that involve service and stuff. I have a few hard limits that he knows. He will never ever cross my hard limits. Soft limits can be pushed so long as there is communication before, during, and after.

I’ve gotten off track. Anyway. My Dom considers himself a soft dom, but he still spanks me, slaps me across the face, ties me up and leaves me in a room while he goes to do work, calls me a slut/whore, canes me, flogs me, paddles me, chokes me. So he does the “hard dom” stuff while still taking complete and total care of me. He holds me in his arms, tells me he loves me, takes long hot showers with me while I sit on the floor and just let the water run over me, watches anime with me, brushes my hair - all as before and after care. That is what I need from a dom. I need to be taken care of and felt that I’m loved. I think that that piece is left out of fanfiction a lot, even with “soft doms” or “hard doms.” Sure, if you want him to slap you across the face in your fiction, that’s fine, but maybe like...also have him make sure you’re into that and draw you a bath after or something. Ya know?

The dynamics of domination and submission are so much more complex than they are often portrayed in fanfiction. It takes communication and rules and growing pains. I’m afraid that people read these fics about like JK being a hard dom on the first night that he meets someone and thinking that’s okay. It’s not. There is no established relationship or dynamic. If some random dude at a club was calling me or one of my girls, gays, or theys a whore or tried to do bondage with them, I’d slap him across the face in a very non-sexual way.

I have a lot to say on the topic, clearly. And the education piece of bdsm is missing from this community. I don’t claim to be an expert because I’ve had had like 3 doms in my life, but I do know there are a few basic ground rules of entering into a BDSM relationship. If anyone has stuck around this long and cares to hear more on the subject, let me know. I am happy to talk forever about it.

[asotin]

what're your thoughts on castlevania (the netflix show, not the game, ive never played the game) what do you like, what don't you like? make it as long as you want. i don't care if i have to scroll for 5 minutes. go feral (personally trevor is extremely hot and i would like to date sypha. i'm not really into alucard's whole sickly victorian child aesthetic, yknow?)

oh god this is way too long, but you did say to make it as long as i want, and i have a lot of thoughts that i need to inflict on the world

i played two castlevania games, both from the nintendo gameboy era, so please don’t get mad at me, gamers

details below the cut, but since i’ll be talking about season three, i need to preface this with content warnings for mentions of: graphic violence, rape and sexual violence, racism, and the holocaust

before i get into it, i usually don’t go for alucard-type characters either, but knowing that he was redesigned to be bishounen sexy specifically because the boring, middle aged man look he originally had in the games wasn’t appealing makes me enjoy him. and he’s fun with trevor and sypha

do like:

the voice acting

it’s all good. i can’t think of any characters whose voices were awkward or fit poorly. they don't make sypha’s va use the standard flat affect or false high voice women tend to be assigned, trevor sounds suitably worn out but not monotone, and alucard sounds exhausted but in a sexy way

and the spanish dub is killer, arguably superior

the animation & design

it isn’t full-on artsy, but it’s definitely got a distinctive style that’s easy to look at. the color use and effects are gorgeous. it’s a story set in the medieval era, and the mixture of desaturated and oversaturated elements works so well with that

dracula’s castle and the belmont bunker aren't revolutionary in design, but they didn't need to be. they're suitably creepy and empty, and i enjoyed them

the monsters were unique enough to have obvious different types, and the scene where a monster commits blasphemy in a church by accusing a priest of committing blasphemy was good writing

lisa

she shows up to a stranger’s spooky home and scolds him for being rude. she really looked an ancient vampire in the face, told him he had no manners, then had a kid with him. what a phenomenal woman. 11/10, no notes

“start with me, and i’ll start with you.” you know what? i’d fall in love, too

dracula

this ancient, unfriendly vampire let a human woman walk into his home and tell him he’s got no manners. and that made him fall in love with her. just like that. lisa walked in and handed him his ass, and dracula thought “oh i love her”. and when she was killed (more on this in the bad section), he raised literal hell to destroy the world for doing it

speaking of lisa being killed, it fucks me up that it happened because she convinced him to leave the castle and experience the world. he left her alone to see what she loved so much, only to come back and find that the people he’d come to like- the people lisa had loved so much it drove her to help in a way that got her killed- had burned her at the stake. i love a good tragedy, and that’s good tragedy

the way he weeps when he has to fight alucard?? during a showdown in their home?? the “i must already be dead” moment in alucard’s childhood bedroom??? when he speaks to lisa about killing their boy, her greatest gift to him??? poetic cinema.

the trio’s dynamic

three bisexuals with two total brain cells and only alucard bothers using them. incredible

i went so hard for this ot3. it's right there and so good

sypha

she initially seems to be assigned the role of the adult™️ ie she's the only woman and gets stuck being responsible, but surprise! she’s just as annoying and dumb as alucard and trevor. she dropped a castle she didn’t understand on the ground and didn’t think too hard about it. then she argued about breaking it. i love her

if we don’t get an ot3, then she needs to have a dumb gf

alucard

he's got a stupidly low neckline and lower pants. they really leaned into ayami kojima’s redesign, as they should have. his little curl annoys me, though. why the fuck does he have a random section of hair that’s like three inches long when the rest is shoulder length or longer? love that he really looks like lisa

if you say he's canonically bisexual and polyamorous, no he isn't. yes he is. no he isn't :)

trevor

disgusting. a nasty man whose appearance mirrors his state of mind. he's 50 mental illnesses in a dirty jacket and his coping mechanism is… alcohol? maybe? he’s a mess, and i dig it

him trying his trick of kneeing alucard in the balls during their fight? and finding out it doesn't work? (which…… why doesn't it……?) juvenile but suitable

hector

his love of animals makes him my favorite. normally, i won’t touch anything with this much animal death, but i’m willing to set that aside because hector loves them so much. he’s so sweet and kind, and he loves his monster pets

yes he sided with dracula and has some really fucked up ideas about what constitutes humane treatment of people, and yet i love him. 11/10, but i have a lot of notes

isaac

i support him, including his murdering and his decision to support dracula. dracula throwing him out of the castle to save him was so cruel in that it was an attempt at kindness from a man who hated the whole world, but it was against isaac’s wishes

his time with the captain was great

idk enough about islam to know if he's portrayed correctly and haven’t seen any complaints, but given the show’s track record……… i wouldn’t be surprised if it’s not great

the forging

very cool. fresh and interesting! hector creating pet friends is cute and heartbreaking. love isaac for his dedication to reducing, reusing, and recycling

season 2’s big battle with all those vampires

the new version of “bloody tears” is phenomenal

this goes back to the animation, but listen……. it's so good. i loved the smoke vampire, and alucard’s fluid wolf transformations. his flying sword looked really good, and incorporating them together? super good to watch. and trevor’s whip?

the type and level of violence are suitable for what it is. it would be weird for a gritty show like this to be bloodless, but i don't think it would work if it were bloody to the extent of a slasher. it's also more clean violence, if that makes sense. you don’t linger just to look at gore; you see it because stabbing someone spills blood. the games weren't about extended, gritty scenes of realistic murder, so the show sticking with quick, slice and dice type fights fit with what i remembered of them

please watch this fight if you don’t remember it or haven’t seen it (part 1, part 2)

trevor’s whips

trevor’s weapons don’t follow the physics of normal whips, and they shouldn't. they’re heavily stylized and clearly a fantasy weapon, but they still have rules that they (mostly) have to obey. his morning star-whip hybrid in particular is so good 

it’s easy to follow, too. a lot of times, speedy weapons disappear, which is an understandable effect but one i find boring because there’s nothing for me to do. i’m just sitting on my ass with nothing to do

trevor’s whips don’t disappear. they’re fast, but you can always see them. and they have weight! you can see them slow down and gain speed. i don’t need physics to be real; i want movement to be pleasing, and that’s exactly what i get with the whips

don’t like:

fridging lisa

she could have been kidnapped (possibly make dracula think she was dead bc people want to lure out her scary demon husband, idk), then s2 could have ended with her and dracula reuniting as he died. she and alucard go on a trip together to attempt to make amends for the pain dracula wrought in lisa’s name. orrrr she dies a tragic death with him and we’re left to hope that they find each other in the afterlife. do vampires get to go to the afterlife? can alucard reintegrate? can he be happy with his new friends? or will he go back to his crypt and sleep again? will he ever be rediscovered? if so, what will he do? deep questions. i would prefer to cogitate on these instead of experiencing the shitshow that is s3

season 3

they should have ended it with dracula’s death. the quality of storytelling goes down immediately. just plummets. i’m sure there were problems in the first two seasons, but this one is so bad, i genuinely can’t remember

but i may as well get specific, so here we go:

abandoning alucard

trevor and sypha leave their friend alone in his childhood home where he just killed his father. where they helped him kill his father who, as i’ve said too many times, raised literal hell to get revenge for people burning alucard’s mother to death

yt they don’t talk about alucard. they don’t make any plans to touch base ever again. trevor’s entire family got killed. sypha’s culture, from which she’s now estranged, is family-centric. if ever two people should give a shit about alucard and know why alucard shouldn’t be left on his own, it's them

so what the hell is going on?

trevor and sypha’s relationship

look. it could be good. it would be better with alucard but they could be together and it could work fine

but this……….

trevor hates what they're doing. he hates traveling around and fighting. he's clearly tired and deeply depressed

sypha not only doesn't care enough to address it (did they forget the first two seasons?? sypha is annoying partly because she doesn't stop poking people) she might not even notice? yes, she's having fun, but trevor is basically dead on his feet in front of her

racism

hector, sumi, and taka all got done dirty 

sumi and taka

i hate the way they died. i hate that i’m certain that the plot won’t bring japan back into the narrative (or if it does, i don’t trust it not to be shitty). i hate the fact that by killing them off, i’m not going to get any more of them. they were interesting!!

speaking of the japanese vampire: the biphobia, arguably, given what happens with alucard

the addition of sexual violence

i don’t need or want lenore. if all she’d done was manipulate hector, i could have lived with that. she’s a villain, so she does bad things. that’s the point. but what she did was a massive escalation. we hadn’t had any sexual violence, and then the last few episodes gave us 

tumblr feminists who love her for how she treated hector need to be quarantined until their brain worms have been cured

everything that happens to hector

what was this shit? why did i open my netflix app and tap castlevania and find them making this man walk around naked in the cold to torture him? and starving him? he got manipulated, degraded, chained up, collared like an animal, and raped. and why? to show us how bad lenore is? that the other vampires are bad because they let her do it? i didn’t sign up for this

the holocaust reference

the imagery at the end of s3 when it’s revealed that the judge has been killing people he’s decided are undeserving to live and collecting their shoes in that barn was chillingly close to images of shoes taken from victims of the holocaust. there's no reason to invoke the holocaust here. it’s unnecessary and in bad taste