#where’s that massive callout post at lol

[vintagekoolaid]

sometimes the “person you follow liked this” posts are good. and sometimes they mean i have to see gaud on my dash in 2023

[furryprovocateur]

I saw your post defending callout culture, and then dug deeper into your posts, i saw you condemning mullenweg and defending predstrogen, and also that you have smeared multiple trans women as pedophiles, like last december, including one of my mutuals. And like, sigh, dude you are literally one of the people making tumblr into "the transmisogyny website" You would have condemned predstrogen if you saw the callouts driving harassment for her, for "defending problematic kinks" or whatever. You are a massive hypocrite and basically mullenweg minus the wealth and influence, but nevertheless a transmisogynist. Like this post by decompose1 says it best:

"What will you do if the tgirl does have that weird kink you don't like, though? What if she does like diapers. or cnc. or whatever. Is she now callout-worthy? Is it now okay to ruin her life, post her extremely private content and messages, and make her a spectacle for the public to take shots at? Is the safety of transfems conditional on them having the most Correct and Moral sexual interests? Do you only protect the innocent wrongly-accused victims? What is the line between moral and immoral where the safety of another trans person no longer matters to you?" -decompose1

who are you. why are you digging through my posts. fan behavior

"you are mullenweg minus the wealth and influence" makes it very difficult to take any of your character critiques seriously, but i'm going to operate on good faith and do so anyway.

"you have smeared multiple trans women as pedophiles" okay, like who? "you like last december, including one of my mutuals" okay, what was the incident? is this about the txttletale post that i've deleted? because i was literally just complaining about a video game take i saw.

"you would have condemned predstrogen if you saw the callouts for her" lol predstrogen was my mutual and we regularly interacted. why are you speaking on her behalf like you know what she would say about me? if she is saying this, that's different. but you're a third party person telling me "actually you felt this way about someone you were on good terms with". do you understand how that is projecting?

at what point does kink even come into this conversation? am i allowed to be personally fucking uncomfortable with rape and incest as kinks? do you enjoy going into strangers' inboxes and being invasive about their opinions on things? i genuinely don't know who you are or what prompted this 20/20 level investigative journalism, but you're being vague and operating in extremely poor faith. i don't know how or why you expect me to take anything you say seriously when you've basically done the equivalent of hateread my blog and tell me i'm problematic because of it.

[chronicbitchsyndrome]

what was the Happening?

devon price did a twitter thread about how ~a study showed~ that allistic people are more, not less, likely to respond to autistic behaviors with kindness, sympathy, and social inclusion, if they're informed the person displaying them is autistic

the way he interpreted this study was that allistics find autistic behavior subconsciously threatening, but once given an explanation for it, that perceived threat vanishes because it is now "explained"

my main problem: this study was conducted via self-reporting, in an isolated context where they showed participants photos of strangers and prompted them to make judgements about those strangers. there is a social stigma against openly admitting you find autistics untrustworthy, disturbing, or creepy, even among people who are extremely ableist--the violence is typically carried out in much subtler ways, and justified via much subtler and more specific pieces of evidence, i.e. "he's just too sexual all the time, his hair is always greasy, he's too loud," etc. this evidence is often directly related to someone being autistic, but this is usually not acknowledged even if pointed out directly.

this is intertwined with the second prong of my criticism, which is that most social violence against autistics takes place in long-term relationships, and is rooted in deeply engrained disdain & prejudice for autistic patterns of behavior that are only evident in a long-term context. again: he doesn't wash his hair, he's loud and starts speaking when other people are talking all the time, he keeps talking about sex even though no-one makes eye contact with him when he does that, ergo, he must be a sexual predator. a conclusion i have seen many, many a social scene come to about the openly-disclosed autistic people within it, followed by depersoning and ostracizing the autistics & often going so far as to use violent tactics (following them to "warn" potential new social contacts about them, contacting employers to get them fired and "warning" potential employers, utilizing callout posts and pedojacketing, etc).

at best, the study could be used as evidence that "strangers who make snap judgements about autistic people can be convinced to back down from those judgements by diagnosis disclosure." however, he was using this as a piece of evidence to directly encourage people to unmask, because the worries about facing social violence for unmasking are apparently ~overblown~, which is why this particular thread stuck in my craw so much--you are massively misinterpreting a piece of data in a way that endangers people who don't understand what's going on under the surface, buddy. which a lot of autistic people don't because we are, famously, often not very good at reading between the lines of social interactions.

i know about this thread because i stumbled across it organically while browsing twitter a few weeks back and it really grated on me, i don't think it went Viral or anything, so i'm actually having trouble locating it again lol

[sysmedsaresexist]

like i do follow you and stuff and enjoy your content most of the time, this isnt meant to be an attack or smth, but i thought id point smth out. in that recent post you made abt blocking that guy, you said in the tags not to feed the trolls.

which is why im sending this ask, bc you do feed the trolls. pretty often and to this day you feed the trolls. you were reblogging stuff from thefakersystems 2 days ago, and are now saying not to feed the trolls?

this isnt really like a call out or me telling you to do anything or smth, just. something ive noticed. it actually really surprised me to see you say that, since you seem to not really care about feeding the trolls, so idk. just thought id say smth

I have a couple asks about trolls (A. Clown, ilu, yes, report), and there's one, very annoying, troll-like creature that annoys me personally, so I'm going to answer this

I like to rate trolls on two scales

Harmless to harmful

Boring to amusing

The one I recommended people block is harmful and boring

They made a blog and immediately started reblogging-- not MY posts, but my reblogs of OTHER people's positivity

That's not a danger or annoyance to myself, in this case, it's a danger to my followers and those I interact with

That means an immediate block from my blog, and a late night of checking for new blogs that might indicate round 2 (to reiterate, I was the only one they had reblogged from)

Unfortunately, I didn't catch that troll until their fifth reblog

I told those I know personally to block the blog before checking their notifications

To others, I'm sorry I didn't catch them on the first post, I'm sorry that you had to see depressing nonsense on amazing positivity posts

That's why I ALSO said in the tags, just block, there's nothing interesting to see, no amusement is going to come out of it, don't send them anons, just block and move on

Thefakersystem, on the other hand, is harmless and amusing, commenting lol on random posts and actually making me laugh at times-- they've really only reblogged my original posts, so they're not using my blog like it's a buffet of victims to pick from

They are not using my blog to attack others, they're not a direct threat to my followers or those I interact with

They're an annoying little background buzz that sometimes gets a chuckle. Everyone already knows they exist, so I don't need to tell anyone to be careful, and people either already have them blocked or know what to look for

Now, I did see that they may be involved in the anons going around, potentially the triggering ones

That's a bit different, now we have a problem, they've gone up to "mildly harmful question mark?"

I'm keeping an eye on the situation and will act appropriately, as needed

I don't know how long you've been around, but does anyone remember the shadow the hedgehog blog?

I actually spoke directly with that blog at the time and found out it was joke-- I was scared for them and my followers, so I do my due diligence where needed

But my followers can be rabid, and the shadow blog started getting death threats and suibait, and then I put a stop to it, on behalf of the TROLL, calling out those users specifically and making it very clear that this blog does not support that-- the users that sent those anons essentially ruined any fun that people were having-- and trust me, it was hilarious for most people, or I would have stopped it earlier

I have also been accused numerous times of coordinating mass reports against real users, so I need to be careful what callouts I make about who, and what I "ask" my followers to do, because there's no winning either way

And if you ARE the annoying, troll-like creature that I mentioned, you're a massive hypocrite and I hope you know everyone is laughing at you

Because if people weren't laughing, you'd be hard blocked

(If you're not that user, I hope this answers your question and helped ❤️)

[chrimsone]

Hallo! I keep forgetting to link my fics n tumblr but I didn't forget this time!

So fun stuff, I used a clip of my own Crucible match for this chapter. And that clip resulted in a mercy after four minutes! Omg it's crazy how much is happening in such a short amount of time. I promised a friend I'd like show my process for this chapter and I am using this post as an excuse to the process lol.

So first I needed a source video of course. And I couldn't really just take some match off the internet cause I did want to be specific with what I had equipped. I knew I gave Rin an Arc Logic earlier so I had to grab myself an acceptable copy of one. But the Scout of hers isn't based off any in-game one tbh. But I have a massive love for Perseus-D so I decided to just use that as an acceptable replacement. Since Rin is mostly based off how I play the game normally, I ran the usual gear I wear. Wasn't gonna be a problem if knife hands got used at all in the match. After that, I just had to hope I queued into either the Jav-4 or Convergence map. Those two are my favorites and that's where I wanted her first match to be! Happened to be Jav-4 first.

The fun part was trying to adapt this without the Strand stuff lol. Since at the point of my story not even Stasis has been discovered. Anyways after getting the video then I kinda write out what I experienced on some sheets of paper. Think of it as a rough draft. The starting of me translating what I experience into text form.

From there I take that and then put a City Children lens on it. This goes into an actual doc and since this can be more detailed as I give myself notes and ideas for actual writing. Here's a snapshot of that cause it does take a few pages worth of text.

After this I start actually writing the chapter. While that happens I do cross out the text on the second draft doc. Just helps my eyes from glazing over as I look over all the funny words. Honestly doing all this helped me actually realize some of the callout names for Jav-4! Since the radar provides a name for an area, and to keep my mental map proper I ended up figuring out a decent chunk of the names! Who knows I might actually use them when playing lol.

Pretty much any chapter that focuses on the action has this kinda process to it. The Sundial went thru it! Tho since I didn't have a good PC back in Dawn, I never saved a video of one of those runs. Esoterickk is a true god I used one of his videos on it for reference. Which was still kind of fun! Had to interpret someone else's perspective.

Uh, I guess that's it for this chapter! The process details ended up taking a lot more time to write down than expected lol. If I'm lucky the next chapter won't be 7k words and get out a little quicker. It's not combat focused this time so I don't really need to go thru this process! Though. I have has to use another Esoterickk vid on the Corridors of Time as my memory is fuzzy. Fun hint-hint on what the next chapter is about hehe

[brett-is-afraid]

what's your experience with rpf to create trauma??

So, the tldr of it is that I had people write rpf of me (and the trauma I experienced as a child) when I was a minor (less than 16) and send it directly to me. They harassed me with it and would create new accounts to do so.

I'll explain everything more under the cut.

Massive trigger warning for sexual abuse of a child, harassment, stalking, incest, rape, suicide baiting, mentions of abortions, transphobia/misgendering, and generally people just being fucking awful??

I'll section off the part that's extremely graphic (this is the part where I get into the details of what was actually said/done explicitly) so you can avoid it. It has bold red letters telling you when it starts and finishes.

But like, this is not light. Please don't read further if you're bothered by this kind of stuff. But do keep in mind that I've healed a lot from this experience now.

So, I have a lot of trauma from my childhood. Both sexually and just generally.

I've never really gone into details about it online because frankly I just don't want to.

But when I was about 14, I was having a really difficult time with school and my real life. So, I decided to make a Tumblr account to connect with other people. (Worst idea ever, tbh. don't have a tumblr when you're 14 lol /hj)

I'd shared some of what had happened to me in anti circles because I used to be an anti. I was never telling anybody to kill themselves or anything like that, but I made TONS of posts talking about how toxic a certain ship was and anyone who defended it was weird and creepy.

I was generally very accepted within the anti circles and I got a lot of support for my sexual abuse.

However. At the age of about 15, I switched sides. I'd always liked ships that were also problematic, so I found it easy to kind of realize that "hey what I'm doing is shitty."

And that's when the issues started.

I was 15 years old with unfiltered access to the internet. And like a lot of 15 year olds, I did a lot of stupid shit.

But mainly, I was just very vocally pro ship. I'd reblog antis posts and tell them off. I'd make tons of posts of my own. I was just generally very open and very vocal. I was very, very argumentative. Like most teenagers with trauma online are.

I would often clap back at antis who compared fiction to csa and go "well I'm a victim of csa and I'm using it to cope" and "don't compare fictional content to actual sexual abuse."

And this is where stuff kinda got bad.

A bunch of antis, some of them being people I used to be friends with, started making callout posts about me.

And in these posts, they pointed out I had experienced sexual abuse as a child. And some details got leaked. Nothing major, just the ages I was when that kind of stuff started happening, but it was still part of my trauma that got shared without my consent.

And this is when stuff really started to get bad.

At some point when I was 15, I pissed off an adult so badly that they began harassing and stalking my account. They'd send me tons of hate messages and anons. They'd make new accounts to send me more if I blocked them.

Some of these things would be "stories" they wrote about me being abused and would then send directly to me.

People, for lack of a better word, wrote rpf of my real life trauma when I was 15 years old and sent it to me. They'd write paragraphs of "stories" where I was experiencing sexual trauma, sometimes where I was enjoying what was happening to me. And they'd ask if they got it right or if I enjoyed what they wrote. A lot of times they'd say "well she must like what I wrote cause she likes to write that kinda shit."

At the time, I didn't write or engage with rpf. I was a pro shipper in regular fictional fandoms, so this wasn't even an argument.

I dealt with a loooot of transphobia back then.

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In these messages, they'd tell me to kill myself a lot. And would detail how they thought I should do it. They'd send me gore and self-harm pics. To the point where I wouldn't even look at my messages anymore.

They also told me that I deserved my sexual abuse and they'd speculate on what had actually happened. They'd speculate on who had sexually abused me and what exactly they did.

Their favorite was writing short stories (a few paragraphs in length usually) where they'd go into detail about various male figures in my life abusing me in graphic detail. And enjoying it.

They'd send me messages where they'd discuss that I "probably liked" the abuse and that's why I was pro ship.

One thing I remember stuck out in particular to me was a time when I received a message where they told me they hoped I got raped so much that I needed to keep getting abortions and it "ruined my body."

After that, I received plenty of messages where they said that I probably already had. And that they hoped it kept happening to me.

I also remember that I was told a lot, "you seem like one of those kids whose dad's used their cock as a pacifier." Like, messages like this happened A LOT. I don't know what it is that made people cling to that sentiment, but they loved it. They'd switch out 'dad' for various other male figures and would change up the statement a little. But they were in the same vein.

Like I said before, a lot of people would just speculate on the details of what happened to me too and treat it like it was some funny game.

And keep in mind, a lot of different people made posts about/towards me. This wasn't just an isolated incident.

Not all of them were as severe, but I got tagged in posts telling me to kill myself, tagged in self-harm/gore a lot.

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It came to a point when a person made a tumblr account where they....I guess impersonated me? It was like a mix between impersonation and parody.

They used my username at the time, just changing one word out to make it more graphic. (So, if my username was something like foxlikebox, they changed it to foxlikecocks. This was not it, this is just an example.)

And they did their bio to make it seem like they were me. And they'd post all kinds of horrible stuff "as me." (Reminder, I was like 15 years old at the time.)

They'd also screenshot ALL of my posts that they could and they'd crop/edit them to be something bad. They'd constantly reblog my posts and do this kind of thing too. But most the time, it was them screenshotting it to make it seem like I'd said something bad.

I don't remember exactly how it stopped, but one day, it did. I've since deleted that account and any traces of it. And I hope I never have to deal with that again.

Having been through that, it always feels a little ridiculous when people hit me with "well what if people were writing smut about you" because people WERE. People were writing absolutely vile stuff about me. When I was 15 years old. And I still support rpf to this day because I think it's fine as long as you're not sending that type of content to the person. (And obviously not genuinely wishing them harm, ofc.)

[napoleonsnepeta]

no ur right and u should definitely say it — I genuinely cannot stand whump community people who go “oh no no no, don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely drawn to violent and explicit content but I’m not GROSS like these people who are INTO IT SEXUALLY”. It always sounds like some kind of weird conservative mindset where it’s okay to be super “into” fictional portrayals of morally objectionable scenarios, but the second someone gets off on it, it suddenly becomes gross and wrong. Of course there are people who like whump for non-sexual reasons, but it’s just so unnecessary to draw an arbitrary line in the sand instead of acknowledging our shared interests and co-existing.

remembered to answer this bc a post complaining that whump was TOO sexual made its way to my dash lol

frist off, I appreciate the support! it's always nice to hear I'm not alone in my grievances.

I will say, you get this shit even among people with gross kinks, like people into guro (drawn fetishized gore, basically) will act like people with a rape kink are sooooo much worse. a guy will jack it to disemboweled anime girls with one hand and write you a callout post with the other, it's buckwild. OH AND it is actually accepted by a lot of conservatives (those who aren't stark Christians, I'd wager) to enjoy violence as long as it's against the "right" people and props up a particular type of masculinity. so yeah, everyone draws the line of acceptability right where their preferences end.

in conclusion, it's not just a whump community problem, but it does sting a bit more because it's otherwise a very chill lighthearted community. maybe a bit too much at times, but I prefer that over having to read some massive google doc of discord screenshots showing this and that person is "problematic" every week.

[polyamorouspunk]

Yeah, I hear you. The dreads thing seems like a very good example honestly. Someone calling you racist and yelling at you isn't exactly a great source, but someone taking the time to explain how to recognize white hair textures being matted into faux-dreads without even seeing the person's skin tone is actually contributing good information. And if the first person then chose to go around to other blogs and be like "Don't reblog from Punk, he's racist, look at this evidence, he reblogged a white person with dreads and then was mean when I called him racist for it," they'd be a massive jackass basically spreading lies for clout, LOL.

Listen like I’m genuinely always worried that’s going to happen to me because honestly I’ve BEEN that person whose had to be like “hey don’t support this person because they’re blatantly ____phobic”. Like I have made my share of call-out posts which is WHY I’m so afraid of me getting called out one day, but I think, different from other people, where most people feel like “callout posts shouldn’t exist in the first place” I feel like “if a callout post is made about me I think that the only people that matter will decide for themselves whether or not they want to continue supporting me”. I don’t disagree with call-out culture personally. I do think it’s useful to see screenshots and receipts of someone popular being racist/homophobic/etc to know not to support them to the point I consume that kind of content on YouTube. Is it “toxic cancel culture”? I mean irl maybe. I don’t agree with like “well this person said the n word in 2014 so we can’t support them anymore” but like if someone says something in 2020 like that then uh yeah maybe we shouldn’t. I mean specifically for the OP I’m talking about in question someone made a public Google doc with all the evidence against them that was multiple pages long and I read it all and was like okay I’m not going to support this person because they ARE someone I normally would reblog from: they run a fat positivity blog and it’s really big and their posts are super popular I just happen to see people share screenshots of them being racist in discord so I’m like yeah I’m, personally, not going to support that and I will tell anyone I do see reblog from them about it just so they know, you know, in case they are like me and DON’T want to reblog from someone like that.

I don’t think that I deserved to be yelled at for that no but I already knew about the whole white dreads is racist thing just as even the kind anon pointed out themselves, it was VERY hard to tell that person was white from the photo and I honestly still didn’t see it but I was like whatever better safe than sorry.

[mbslost]

You genuinely seem like a massive cunt. I've recently joined the fandom and I'm just super disheartened to learn about Gato defending racism and you calling the people rightfully upset over it snowflakes and saying she's innocent. You CAN call out behavior or acknowledge when someone is in the wrong because, as we have seen through her approach, the accusations ARE true, and her defense of it should be called out so she can better herself as a person. You remind me of wilbur soot stans who still stand with him despite him ADMITTING to it, and I'm sure you'll say "well- racism is different than abuse!", but at the end of the day, both are bad and you are BOTH delusional in not acknowledging this behavior and pushing for better from a grown ass woman.

You're 19, act like it. Yeah, it fucking sucks, but it'll suck more if she stays in her ways of ignorance instead of learning she reacted inappropriately, because if something else happens that is WORSE, then what?

I don't have much else to say because I'm sure it's going in one ear and out the other, as it always does with people like you. Nobody else can fix you or Gato bob, only call out what is vs what is EXPECTED and where you lack. It's up to you to act your fucking age or not, and if not then yes, you're a massive cunt lol. Have what you deserve.

thank you for this nothingness, really. y'all keep saying I'm saying Gatobob is 100% in the right when I mentioned (multiple times) she was in the wrong too. did Gato handle the situation in the worst possible way? yeah. did Dandan also avoid many details about THE ENTIRE SHIT? sadly yes.

the entire callout thing was a mess because most stuff wasn't true. many allegations came after Dandan's post about Gato being racist and not having poc characters or avoiding having nationalities (and I talked about that). then the sudden allegations of her being a pro-nazi because she drew 7-8 years ago that drawing with nazi Strade (keep in mind that she apologised MULTIPLE times, made a post on gurobob and that she was influenced my EP). these were the most popular in march, later there were allegations about her saying slurs in spanish (they were apparently faked), not sending merch to latin american because she's racist (the shipping companies always managed to lose the packages or asked for taxes) or her accusing russian for promoting the games to minors.

but why would you care about the misinformation, no? yeah, it's not important once you only pick one side.

in the end, both of them are off platforms. Gato already apologised ab the server looong before she deleted her accounts, and Dandan decided to leave her accounts for her mental health.

tbh you can take whatever side you want. either the accuser that magically lost her proof, or the accused that decided to retreat after she realised she made the mistake of allowing such behaviours from all parties.

welcome to the fandom I guess.

stay safe

(and for your knowledge, racism is a form of abuse, thanks)

[delusion-of-negation]

What? You're saying that if I hate something, and don't want to see it, I should NOT interact with it, and force all my fellow haters of that thing to see it by making a big post announcing that I hate this thing?????? However shall I be righteous and act like I'm better than everyone else if I can't publicly proclaim I hate the thing? /SSSS lol, the amount of people who seriously act like that is impressive tbh. 😂Thanks for your original post, I legit had a chuckle.

an irl friend (who was thirteen then but is older now, thanks to the effects of time) once was talking to me about a youtuber I liked back then, and how I shouldn't like them any more because a friend of said youtuber had some problematic kink art, and I asked how he'd found out and other relevant follow-up questions. he'd been watching callout video after callout video about this person, and all of them had been directing his understandable discomfort with the mature topic into a self-righteous campaign - they'd weaponised and re-directed the distress they had caused him by showing him something, that they hadn't age-restricted, that was too mature for him. he didn't even seem aware that the callout videos were the ones who'd exposed him, the ones who'd been careless with him, because they'd put the information across in a way that made him angry at the person who'd just been chilling on their own private blog drawing their silly pictures, far away from him.

and so I had to figure out how to convey that, regardless of what he felt about the person, he should not be viewing content about this topic - which, if you know anything about upset teenagers, is not an easy challenge, especially when, unlike the callout videos, I actually really didn't want to talk to him about that stuff. the event came up in conversation recently, and now that he's older and calmer I was able to be more upfront, and he said that I'd handled it well at the time (idk if there's an objective way to tell if I did a good job, but I tried), but I said that honestly I wished I'd known how to get him to just go talk to his parents about what he was watching back then, because he clearly was not ready to be watching that kind of thing, and he said that if I ever tell him "go talk to your parents" now, he promises not to react negatively and to take that advice (not that it really matters any more since, y'know, the passage of time). I made the post you're talking about a little while after said more recent conversation, and immediately after seeing antis going off about (iirc) people from old memes who make incest porns now - I wanted to make something serious but funny about how utterly fucked it is that people expose teens to that shit just so they can weaponise the distress they cause by doing so.

as an aside, we were recently hanging out with a younger relative of his, and my friend made a more adult joke, and then a friend was like "language", and I was like "oh how the tables turn".

my stance is more that, if you hate something, and you want to go off about how much you hate it 1) age-restrict anything you think is too sensitive for kids so you're not being a massive hypocrite when you talk about it, 2) be aware that you will be recommended that kind of thing as a result, and it's not some evil cabal trying to spread the thing and it's not that the thing is everywhere, you did this to yourself via algorithms, and 3) be aware that when you do this you're blasting someone's private stuff to thousands of people, and that's kind of uncool when they never asked for that, so censor or otherwise take steps to protect the person where necessary. I think if antis did those things I'd take less issue with them being like "ew this ship is so gross", because as much as I disagree with them on that point, at least they wouldn't be weaponising the discomfort they knowingly caused in young teens to harass people. like, the best thing would be if they just avoided what they hate altogether and went on with their lives, but I understand the allure of bitching about things you dislike so I can't be too pissy.

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[larktb-archive]

Wait, what's going on? I saw that one anon and I'm confused.

Dingdongyouarewrong makes post vagueing about "it's okay to have weird kinks, if you're on someone's "private" blog however and you tell someone about those kinks you're a sed pest", ignoring the act of blogging makes something public and these blogs are usually easily found without much "stalking" needed. She made this post after a massive callout where people were into things like pedophilia, raceplay, beastiality and the like were called out and decided to use weasel words to obfuscate this and claims "oh of course I'm not defending those things because unlike rapeplay they're not kinks when you can bar for bar use that same rhetoric".

She decides to respond to a week old post of mine jokingly calling white women dog fuckers because white women funny lol instead of the long form actual response post because it's easier to get a bad faith reading of that then it is to the response explaining why callouts are not prisons.

Ironically it is no longer stalking to look at public posts online and so she decides to call me out, I make an obviously flippant post about her "stalking my blog" using her rhetoric as a joke, n then the whites with no reading comp have decided to put their 2 cents in.

Its q strange situation but you know how it is

[bees--on--toast]

_-* About Me *-_

Hi! Welcome to my MOGAI blog :) (although sometimes i do reblog funny/interesting things)

My name is Percy, I’m 20 years old, nonbinary transmasc + a lot of xenogenders, bisexual and aspec (and more labels lol). Here’s my super disorganised google drive of flags I use!: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1fOTYUHFl8WyNCBDLjIrnQCE7Cc-HNcf1

My pronouns are they/them always, and I will edit this post regularly with what neopronouns I’m currently using :)

Current neos:  

bat/bat/bats/bats/batself

bite/bite/bites/bites/biteself

bone/bone/bones/bones/boneself

cor/corpse/corpses/corpses/corpseself

dead/dead/deads/deads/deadself

ghost/ghost/ghosts/ghosts/ghostself

knife/knife/knifes/knifes/knifeself

mor/morgue/morgues/morgues/morgueself

mu/mur/murs/murs/murself

rat/rat/rats/rats/ratself

rot/rot/rots/rots/rotself

san/sang/sangui/sanguis/sanguiself

te/teeth/teeths/teeths/teethself

vam/vamp/vamps/vamps/vampself

I am autistic, persodivergent and am physically disabled with fibromyalgia. I also have depression and anxiety.

I am white, british, plural (unintegrated whole) and a non-religious pagan.

DNI, boundaries, request rules and taglist below the cut!

DNI:

Basic DNI criteria

Anti MOGAI/xenogender/neopronouns etc

Discourse blog (or unrelated blog that posts a lot of discourse)

Anti self-dx

Sysmed/anti-endo

Stigmatises mental health issues (i.e uses the term ‘narcissistic abuse’, thinks all psychotic people are violent, etc)

Have the same name as me (Percy) in your URL (i just dont like to see people with my name in my notifs. please still feel free to like, reblog, use my terms etc!)

My Boundaries:

Please do not remake my flags or terms!

Please dont make tons of british jokes at me. Ive heard them all a million times and I am just sick of it at this point. It won’t get a rise, I’ll just block you/delete asks :)

Please do not flirt at all.

Please use tone tags!

Please do not ask super personal questions unless we know each other moderately well :)

Please do not try to talk to me about discourse/syscourse or tell me about callout posts etc. It makes me so anxious and I just want one website where I can completely avoid stressful situations.

Please don’t tag me in posts that have nothing to do with me.

Please do not send me tons of text/messages in my DMs. Just don’t. If I’ve reblogged a post from a bad OP or gotten something wrong you can just say that. It makes me so incredibly anxious.

Request rules:

Please be respectful!

I will not make terms related to communities I am not part of (eg. poc specific terms, religion specific terms, disabilities or mental disorders that I do not have, etc)

I can and probably will deny requests I do not feel I can complete! I have massive executive dysfunction :)

I will not make sexual/kink terms!

Creepy/gory/horror related terms are fine!

I will make flags for genders, orientations, pronouns, etc.

I will not help find labels, names etc. I am just not good at it :)

I will try to help with finding pronouns!

Taglist:

#percy speaks - just talking!

#percy's coins - My coins!

#percy's flags - My flags!

#not mogai - Anything that isn't mogai related.

#requests - My requests, both for asks and posted terms/flags.

#anon - Replying to anons specifically

#replies - replying to asks

#(someone's username) - anything related to a specific person! Like non-anon requests.

#coining event - terms related to a coining event I'm participating in!

I hope you enjoy your time here!

[izzyliker]

Hey, asking you this as nicely as I can but can you give the immediate victim blaming a break. The absolute lack of respect you have for the people tmc abused is genuinely disheartening. Yes, he’s a shitty person, you’re entitled to hate him but immediately going “well you should’ve seen it coming earlier lol we’ve been saying this” is just ASTONISHINGLY shortsighted and cruel. Have your opinions about him and the situation all you want I would just ask that you please keep it to yourself due to the many many people he’s hurt that are still on here and can see you disparaging them.

ok, that is not what i have been saying. "well you should've known" is not an accurate summary of my feelings on this matter but apologies if thats how it came across. i have been in an abusive relationship where the person did a lot of the same things and i, too, defended that person without considering how it impacted other people. i almost lost my best friend because of how i acted as a result of keeping him in my life while people around me kept telling me to get tf out. i know.

what i am is im frustrated and annoyed by how long people were willing to publicly and passionately defend this guy while apparently fully aware what kind of shit he was doing to other people, many of which is detailed in the callout itself, and how this is now being framed as news. before the document itself was published all me (or anyone) had to go off of was vague posts that amounted to a "callout trailer" and almost all of the information on it was shit that was 100% completely public knowledge. 20+ people being aware of all that goddamn stuff and not one of them publicly stopping associating with him is frustrating. it comes across as spineless and yes, like one anon told GD, gaslighty (although i have my own issues with this being used on a large scale instead of in interpersonal relationships but i understand where they were coming from). his lesbophobia, transphobia (strange that none of the transphobia towards trans men was mentioned?), and panphobia/aphobia/biphobia were widely documented and seeing that on a callout post as if it were news was extremely tiring.

ive since read the callout. the interpersonal actions seem to have been horrible but sadly im not surprised (by which i dont mean "and neither should you" but rather. my spidey senses for this sort of behavior are pretty accurate most of the time and i did see this coming. this isnt me saying im Better than these people or that they shouldve as well but rather that i have learned to identify people of this genre.) by any of them.

also im 75% sure this is tumblr user GD. hello. if not then apologies, its just that the typing here is very similar. if it is, i think you trying to both take accountability for this and process whatever it is youre processing at the same time on tumblr is a bad idea and going to just lead to people feeling hurt and betrayed because while i truly do see where the reaction is coming from (like, truly, i understand, believe me), if you say "i take responsibility for how i acted while being manipulated" but then when people voice their negative feelings you tell them theyre victim blaming you it is going to reflect poorly on you. i dont think you understand how many people were absolutely hurt by the enabling you and your large, massively popular group of friends did for him, including the MASSIVE defense rant you typed up in defense of him when someone sent an ask to the bi jon event about him being panphobic and aphobic. whether its fair for people to expect you to immediately go into depth about it is questionable but dont invite people to do this when you obviously cannot handle it (i dont mean this in a bad way like "oh you should handle it". i mean genuinely this is how you get burnt out and possibly worsen possible future trauma. by trying to immediately placate people without having the mental resources to do so.)

i think the "we dont condone these views and never did!" without ever specifying what they were or doing any other work there is a lazy fucking cop-out. your circle was/is massively popular and a lot of people took all of you as authorities on stuff like headcanons and respectful portrayals of certain characters or identities to the point of accepting your meta as canon (something you havent really dissuaded ever), and associating publicly with someone who would constantly do this kind of shit and then defending him publicly while also positing yourself as an authority isnt something you can just "oops! we never agreed with him!" yourself out of. GD & TF specifically, you are massive blogs. you are babys first TMA blog. people in your askbox hurt and betrayed by this shit are not necessarily there to victim blame you. they are there because they trusted your word when they said "hey seraf reblogged anti pan and anti ace and weird transphobic posts" and you said "seraf is one of my dearest friends and would never do any of those things and im personally offended youd even imply that." i think you dont understand the real life consequences of the massively popular posts and sentiments he made & published and that you helped spread (despite apparently knowing that he was being a massive hypocrite and bigoted towards those groups or identities in his personal life). obviously interpersonal abuse/conflict is going to be "worse" but dear god i hope you collectively understand that "oh btw we never endorsed his views" is a massive copout and a shit apology for the hurt this association and endorsement caused. tmc has been terrorizing this fucking fandom for months with his bullshit and bigotry and you have not been passive bystandars but active enablers.

anyways, hope everyone involved gets to uh, heal i suppose, but i think expecting the people who seraf suicide baited, the groups of trans men he misgendered, the people who he targeted and harassed, the genuine fucking long lasting dysphoria he caused real people to have over his shitty takes re: transness and dysphoria, and the general shit behavior he was allowed to keep up with zero pushback from anyone in his circle of the fandom to drop all the anger or frustration they have for the people who enabled him and defended him aggressively is... unrealistic. and makes you look bad. especially when the doc doesnt even clarify which opinions you still support.

[dracosollicitus]

Fic Writer Interview

Name: dracosollicitus

Fandoms: Love fandom. I write mainly for Star Wars, MCU, ATLA, The Old Guard; but, I've also written some Good Omens, some GOT (Gendrya exclusively) some SPN, etc. I'm a huge Star Trek nerd (Spirk forever/Data my Beloved, etc), and I also geek out over Battlestar, Stargate (SG-1), West Wing, Lord of the Rings, FMA/FMAB, and anything Miyazaki.

Two-shot: I've written a few two-shots in my day. One of my favorite fics I've ever written was a two-shot (I think each chapter was 20K shhhh): I Will Show You Fear in a Handful of Dust (Modern!Bucky, doesn't meet Cap until after the Snap)

Most popular multi-chapter: let not time deceive you (you cannot conquer time)

Actual worst part of writing: On the one hand, it's the ADHD and the issues I have starting a task! That's usually my biggest roadblock to writing: If I can start typing, I can usually slam out 4-5k words in a few hours. On the other hand, it's the overwhelming anxiety I have whenever I post anything thanks to a series of really crappy experiences I had in a fandom I wrote a lot for; I'm sitting on a lot of unpublished fic rn to be honest!

How you choose your titles: No.1 Rule: If it's horny, it's Hozier!

(I also do a Lot of Modern Poetry - not contemporary poetry, Modern 20th Century Poetry, because I am basic)

Do you outline: Uhhhh if it's a long fic, I have a bullet point of things I'd like to do/scenes I'd like to see. If it's a one shot, I usually insert scene transition suggestions, but generally it's Maladaptive Daydreaming and then pedal to the metal, baybee.

Ideas I probably won’t get around to but wouldn’t it be nice: (Insert list of WIPs I sort of abandoned here). I was a little sad because I had this massive, fun Stucky fic planned where it was revealed Steve was in Time Jail and Loki was Old!Steve all along, but then it became a pretty common fandom theory and I didn't think it would be fun to explore anymore because better writers than myself had already written cool headcanons for it (also, see: crappy fandom experiences above).

I had a SUPER fun set of Marvel fics planned, like a Loki/Darcy fic that involved time-hopping, and a Kastle fic set in Westview.

Callouts @ me: Write your damn Steve/Scott fic you promised @aimmyarrowshigh two months ago, Draco, Jesus Christ, just finish it.

Best writing traits: I used to be able to say that I could write a lot, and write often, but ... no one's really seen a Fic from me in a hot minute. So.

I guess I'm decent at action scenes. People usually tell me that, at least!

Spicy tangential opinion: I'm three tangents stacked on top of each other in a room full of regular conversation (@bebeocho). I couldn't say anything too Spicy because it would 100% be subtweeting (subtumblring?), lol.

No pressure tagging: @ashabellanars and anyone else who wants to do it!

[rpbetter]

I have a problem. Kind of? I’m not making it a problem for anyone else and it isn’t ruining my rps or friendship with the mun. I just HATE one of their mutuals. It’s so stupid and immature! They’re an adult an it’s not my business if they want to have a friendship I think is toxic ya know? It’s not that they bring the problems to me all the time or anything. I can’t forget them though. I see the mutuals name and I see red. I have to grit my teeth when my friend talks to me or posts about their main verse and ship with them. I wish it was just jealousy! I don’t know if this is a vent or asking for advice xD but it feels kind of better just getting it out somewhere I don’t think I’ll get shit on for it. Thanks for what you do!

Okay, firstly, Anon, I really thank you for saying this "I'm not making it a problem for anyone else and it isn't ruining my rps or friendship with the mun." Because, and I'm sorry for going off topic here (sort of), I think this is something crucial that RPC no longer understands. Yes, what you are experiencing is a problem, it is causing you a problem. However, this mindset that experiencing anything other than pure joy and light and love constantly or allowing it to eat you alive with annoyance, then guilt over that annoyance and fear of speaking to anyone about what you're feeling, is not healthy. That, too, is a massive problem.

There is a difference between experiencing negative emotions, yes, even absolutely despising someone, even if it is totally irrational, and acting upon these things hatefully. If you were childishly throwing out a DNI with the...you know what? We're going to use the term "mutual-in-law." With the mutual-in-law's URL in it, sending them hate anons, spreading nastiness about them, stalking them for "receipts" for a callout, or trying to force your friend to make a choice, that would make this a very different situation. It would, indeed, make it everyone else's problem. It would be juvenile and hateful of you. Just experiencing what you are isn't.

Anyway, honestly, it's not that stupid or immature, Anon. It is absolutely valid to be unforgiving of bad actions against people we care about, you neither have to be forgiving nor is it your forgiveness that is pertinent. You didn't do anything, and you can be as peacefully disdainful of this mutual-in-law as you so please.

Again, there is a significant part to the above issue of the RPC simply not getting that muns can not like each other, vehemently even, without either causing a problem or having jealousy be a part of it. You're right, I can absolutely see the hateful commentary in response to this were it posted elsewhere or stated in a server or something. It would totally be that you were being jealous and butthurt, taking shit too seriously, and being a problem. So, I'm glad you did find somewhere that would at least allow you to vent without that bullshit on top of this issue that I feel is far more common than anyone wants to let on.

I value honesty and openness quite highly, so, I'll just say it: I absolutely understand where you're coming from, and also have/have had mutuals-in-law that I could not stand for the same reasons. It definitely wasn't jealousy in any of those cases lol absolutely no greater time, effort, creativity, or acts of friendship OOC were being had with them than myself. In fact, it's been the opposite case not a few times. I had more interaction with the friend than they did.

It really is that it's incredibly difficult to have a friend who is in a friendship with someone who is anything from just a shitty friend to outright abusive. It's hard to watch, and it's hard to listen to.

You can, and should be, honest when your friend does need to talk about those issues with you, but it's part of the difficulty here that you have to be carefully so. If you're too blatantly aggressive about this other person, you're no longer fostering a safe environment for your friend, but you don't want to do anything to encourage this friendship to continue either. You don't want to be shitty about their threads, muses, ships, etc. because, right or wrong is immaterial, these things are important to your friend, but again, you don't want to encourage them to only see the good or exciting things beneath the mountain range of absolute bullshit going on.

I hope you have both been carefully honest with your friend and have taken steps to insulate yourself from more exposure to the mutual-in-law than necessary. Judging by the way you've phrased some things, I feel like you almost certainly have done the latter. However, if you haven't, block the mutual-in-law and blacklist their URL. Yeah, as we all know, neither thing is foolproof here on tumblr. However, it can stop you from looking anyway if you have to go an extra step and click to view the blog or post anyway. Blacklist the tags your friend uses for the muses involved, ships, aesthetics, and so on as well. This does not fix the problem, but you can at least see red a little less often, and that's always good, right? Yep.

All of that might be even trickier, however, if you have numerous mutuals in common. I think that is the worst situation to deal with! Everyone else might very well feel like you do, they might love the problem mutual-in-law, but either way, you have to make choices. It's not anyone else's responsibility to keep something or someone you dislike away from you, after all. So, you can't very well go asking numerous people to make a choice between you or this other person. (I'm not saying you would, Anon, this just seems to be the base of a lot of problem DNIs and callouts when we get right down to it.)

What you can do is, again, employ the blacklist, include the muses' names on the post filtering option as well. Do whatever you can do fully from your end to prevent being around this person even passively. That might mean making choices about being in servers with your friend(s) as well, and I'm sorry. It isn't fair, but eventually blowing up on other people over this isn't either, and neither is making yourself more uncomfortable by knowing this ass is lurking in there with you. It also means you're probably going to have to say something eventually to your friend and/or other friends.

If and unfortunately, when, you need to do that, you don't have to be hateful about it or come off as though you're forcing them to make choices. That's the good news! You can just say that since you do not get along with x, you don't want to be invited to servers or group RPs with them involved in the future. You can even say, if it is necessary, that x makes you uncomfortable/some things you've witnessed from x make you uncomfortable, so, you'd prefer it if x wasn't a topic in conversations with you.

Most people are actually pretty dedicated to keeping the peace in their friend groups (all instances of moral outrage addiction aside). The worst I've ever gotten upon having to make those requests is either a confession that this person also makes them uncomfortable or some curiosity about why. I'm sorry, we're all at least a tiny bit inclined to be nosy, the more invested we are in someone, the more that's true.

People want to know what's going on with their friends, that's alright and isn't, inherently, some kind of evil desire to slanderously gossip about others. Just know that you can say you'd rather not talk about it (that is, literally, what you just told them before they asked), and that anything you do choose to say should be assumed to be public information from that point onward. I'm not saying your friends are going to run around telling each other, but people easily forget after a while who said/knows what and can unintentionally drop information to people you didn't necessarily wish to have it. So, if you want to take the opportunity to go the absolute fuck off about this mutual-in-law, that's alright and your business, but you shouldn't do it without the awareness that it might get back to the friend at ground zero.

If this gets serious enough, you might have to make some extremely unfortunate choices, like confronting the friend. If you've been honest anyway, that makes it a bit better, but exactly no one enjoys being told that you think their friend and writing partner is abusive trash they should throw out. However, if this is, or becomes, a situation in which you are legitimately concerned about your friend's wellbeing, or one in which you cannot tolerate just minimizing your exposure any longer, you might have to.

Because, Anon, again...it isn't fair (especially as you're likely to be seen as the aggressor and ultimately, not the person they choose to stick with - the more genuinely toxic this other friendship, the more likely that is, abusive people are exceedingly good at making themselves seem the only safe harbor from their own storms). That doesn't change that you can only do so much and only tolerate so much. You should not be expected to indefinitely be chill and quiet about a situation that upsets and stresses you like this. No one wants to end friendships, especially not on a low note, but sometimes, our friends don't give us an option. The only other option is putting ourselves into a toxic situation right along with them.

If that happens, keep remembering that your friend is an adult and that this friendship is online (I hope, sincerely, if it's like the ones that have made me feel this way, that it is only online). When they're at a point where they're ready to cut this person off, they at least can do so in a safe way. But they are going to have to organically reach that point, nothing you can say or do will get them there. Usually, respecting each other as adults who are responsible for themselves is a great thing, but in this case...it's the only unfortunate case, and I'm sorry.

I would advise that you try to be there for the friend and prove to them that they don't need this person in their life, that they'll have great threads with you in RP and conversations with you OOC. However, I've never had that actually work out. Not online, not offline. I'm not saying you shouldn't try, boosting someone's self-confidence by showing them that they don't need someone treating them badly when they're valued as-is can help them to stand up for themselves and start moving in the right direction. I'm saying that you shouldn't be angry or upset or feel like it was an act of intentional wounding when it feels like they're choosing the mutual-in-law over you regardless of your efforts.

It's hard to break a familiar cycle and nix familiar associations, and in every case of this I've experienced, that mutual-in-law was someone my friend established writing with when they first began to RP or began to RP on a particular platform. Like any well-done toxic ass situation, that person didn't really show their ass until after positive history had been established. They have good memories, they love this person's muses, they're attached to the threads and the development of their own muse through them. In a way, it can feel like stepping into uncertainty or like the rug has been pulled from beneath you to lose a foundational part of your experience somewhere. Things will continue to be tolerated and outright excused because of this. So and so is just xyz, and I know so and so is xyz but they're working on it, and even their muse is such a big part of mine that I can't just drop them.

If you're someone who has dealt with your own bad situations, this can be especially frustrating and even triggering. It's very upsetting to see someone treated in a way that is nothing but a field of red flags, even more so if that person acknowledges as much while continuing to play in that field. It's outright triggering if you've been in abusive relationships of any sort, too. Which, I obviously do not know if that's the case with you, Anon, but since many of us have...I have to mention it. I know it was an unacknowledged reason why I was so pissed in some of those situations! Acknowledging why I was as uncomfortable with it as I was, was actually kind of helpful. You can then better remind yourself that it isn't you who is experiencing this and has to deal with it, it's them. And you can better decide where to draw the line with what you're willing to be exposed to on the sidelines.

Lastly, it's okay to recognize that some of your anger is also for yourself. It's okay for things that happen in online friendships and those revolving RP to be hurtful. I've no idea where the idea came from that either thing was awful and aberrant, but it seems likely that it's as shallow at not wanting to be responsible for hurting someone else online. No one wants their actions to have consequences, and they don't if we're all forcing our interactions with other real, live human beings to be devalued and emotionally void simply because we're not face to face with them.

These situations are, inevitably, fucking hurtful. And it is alright to feel and acknowledge that. It doesn't make you rabidly jealous to be hurt when you are giving someone a healthier, supportive friendship, when they are legitimately important to you only for themselves, but they're still choosing the other person. Neither does it when you're giving them your full attention, attentiveness, excitement, and creativity in writing simply because you genuinely love writing with them, their muse, the threads you've build together, but they're still choosing the other person. The person who treats them like total hot garbage unabashedly, even blames them, as toxic people do, for their own bad treatment. The person who can only be bothered to write with them if it is necessary to keep stringing them along or when they are hyperfixated on a muse or topic again.

That hurts, it does.

I think the important thing to remember when feeling that hurt and anger is that it legitimately isn't personal or intentional on your friend's part. It may well be that the toxic mutual-in-law is actively pissy about your existence in the friend's life and hobby, is inexplicably around more to dig at being their main verse/ship, their oldest friend here, etc. and exacerbating things. But, your friend isn't. They're caught up in a toxic situation and merely reacting to it, not intentionally hurting you or choosing someone else over you. Try to remember that the other part of your anger is exactly that, they're caught up in a shitty situation.

That doesn't mean this is infinitely tolerable, or should be, but it can help to keep you from being reactive yourself. Particularly, as trying to explain, as we've both noted but I am going to note again, is incredibly likely to get you shit. It'll be off-putting to the friend, it might be off-putting to your other friends. It'll get you all manner of accusations and "advice" (I'm sorry, kids, but touching grass and ascribing everyone's emotions but your own/those you approve of to "tumblr brainrot" isn't actually advice, and you should probably take a large bowlful of shutthefuckup to the Quiet Corner for fifteen minutes next to you feel thus inclined to offer such).

I'm sorry that there isn't better advice, that my advice is, essentially, "this situation is really familiar to me, it sucks massive ass, and your only real options are to keep being patient while minimizing your upset or to terminate your friendship." It doesn't make me very happy any time I have to give that kind of response! Unfortunately, most of life simply is a situation in which we only have any degree actionable agency over ourselves, and that agency tends to be most noticeable when it is likely to hurt upon use.

I will also say that, online and offline, over the course of my entire life, this is not a situation that tends to resolve very well initially. It's rare that I've had a friend hit that realization point before I hit my limit, though, it has happened. You really have to hope for the best, be encouraging, insulate yourself from that other person, and stay positive with all the ways this isn't ruining your friendship and writing time. Hopefully, your friend will hit that point of having enough while feeling confident enough about their other friendships and writing partnerships well before you have to tell them you simply cannot witness it anymore, that enough is enough for you.

If it comes to that, Anon? Do it kindly no matter how angry and hurt you might be feeling. Let them know, without being so condescending as to literally say it, that your door is always open to them regardless and that this is a decision you are making for yourself, not because of anything they've done. It might help them to realize, once they've calmed down, how serious this is that a friend couldn't keep watching it or dealing with the fallout. Might help them later on when they're truly ready to act on that realization, knowing that they have someone who still cares about them and would be happy to have them back.

I hope everything works out for the best for you and your friend! And again, I'm very happy that you could at least get this out!

[koorinohebi]

14 & 26 !

Honestly... || Accepting

14. Do you think rp has had a positive or negative affect on your life or you as a person?

To be honest, I do feel that RP has affected me both positively and negatively.

For the Positives:

- Rping definitely gives me a sense of freedom. You can be anyone or anything that you want to be. You're not confined to just one set of morals, you can be as simple or as complex as you want to be, you can explore different sides of the human psyche. There's a lot of stones to turn, and so many gems to be found beneath it.

- I feel like RPing has helped me with my English. I've been RPing for a long-ass time, and back then on Yahoo, you'll meet some of the nicest people that'll help you learn what you need to, language included. And then there are the elitsits who will want you to be better if they see you have areas to improve. It's been a really good learning experience for me.

- Makes me develop some much needed creativity and imagination. And lets me think out of the box. Granted, there are some boxes that's a little harder to jump over than most.

- I have found really great people through RPing. Some people often say that you can't trust people over the internet. But through RPing I realized, there are a lot more kind hearted people online than offline who actually care about you.

For the Negatives:

- Sometimes it's all I want to do. I get really lazy doing other things and I just want to RP all day. This was specially true when I was younger and I'd skip classes because my RP partner is online. (Timezones are awful)

- After RPing, there are times when my muses' personality seeps out. It's not always a bad thing, but of course...when I'm particularly pissed, it does make me snap faster.

- In line with that, my muses' emotions can affect me easily. And while most of the time it doesnt affect anyone around me, it does stress me out if my characters are going through something particularly difficult. Like that one time when -- lol -- a side quest turned semi-massive, had a part where Kiomi's sensei temporarily died. She was so distraught, broken, and angry that I was so exhausted from typing the reply (which took me around 8 hours to complete because of all the crying). After that I had to literally step away or else I wouldnt have been able to recover.

Those are mostly the things at the top of my head.

26. How do you feel about vague posting?

Nnnn...I mean, if you wanna say something, just say it as directly and specifically as possible. I feel like vague posting can cause unnecessary drama, and none of us like that on our doorsteps. Speecially if it's a callout post in the guise of vague posting.