#when you font understand sex or have a healtht measure of it you're going to end up with very simple shallow ideas of what it looks like

[bogleech]

Eroticism is like when you can tell a human being is naturally feeling horny. Sexualization is when they're paid to do their best impression of ahegao.

Not that either of these things are innately harmful or immoral or anything, and from one look at the notes I can see some people immediately veered this topic into overt sex negative purity babble, but it is unfortunate that it's so much easier these days to find strained, artificial, kind of caricatured and very surface level ideas of what's supposed to be sexy. It's like from the same mindset that says a woman with barely a muffintop is a "bbw" and a 30 year old man with one wrinkle is a "dilf," and that finding either of those actual human beings preferentially attractive is considered a "fetish."

popular culture used to be very much about eroticism. rockstars used to be on stage in sequins and thongs and thigh high boots playing guitars like they were masturbating. girls used to wear velvet mini dresses and no bras and red-brick-brown lipstick and mascara on their bottom lashes. people used to have body hair on television and in the movies. people used to be sweaty. people used to touch each other over denim and under cotton. foreplay used to be staring at someone over the rim of a glass across a bar across a park across a dinner table. people used to want. i think we’ve lost something