#what part of 'I will take care of my chronically ill and worsening partner including dealing with literal hell-levels of beaurocracy'

[karmaphone]

ppl really saying that Red and Blue weren't well-written or that there wasn't enough focus on their connection when that's literally what everything abt their arc was about.............what

[loplainlointhemorning]

You don't have to answer this if you don't want to but what's up with the Courtney Love controversy? Why are people accusing her of manipulation or whatever? I'm totally new to this discussion

hey darling!! no worries, I love discussing Kurt & Court bc theyre my surrogate parents and they emotionally raised me when I had a difficult relationship w my Mom and Dad, plus I’m named after Kurt and he’s part of the reason I realized my ~gender~, so needless to say I have a surplus of information on them. Plus their music fucks. anyways, this is gonna be a masterpost-

my credentials(sources I have taken my information and formed my opinion on Kurt & Court’s relationship from if u need to look into them):

-Heavier Than Heaven(Book by Charles Cross, authorized by Kurt’s estate. Charles Cross is a well known grunge/music historian and has literally devoted his life to researching and writing rockstar biographies, including several on Nirvana. One of my favorite books ever.)

- Montage Of Heck(Documentary on Kurt’s life. Produced by his daughter, Frances. I have some heavy criticisms of this film and of the interviews in it, but it does have some reflections on Kurt and Courtney’s relationship that I think are important.)

- Hit So Hard(a documentary on Hole’s drummer, Patty Schemel. Minor discussions of Kurt and Kurt and Courtney.)

- Verse Chorus Verse(Fan-made documentary series on Kurt’s life, widely regarded by Nirvana fans the most in depth play-by-play biography that exists- and it’s free on YouTube, which is lit.)

sources I don’t pull from, but many younger Nirvana fans do(the people who buy into the conspiracies generally):

Kurt and Courtney- A documentary made in the late 90’s under the guise of biography, but is actually about the conspiracy theory that Courtney killed Kurt. I saw it when I was a new fan and I literally laughed out loud from how apeshit it was.

Soaked In Bleach- ‘Biopic’ about Courtney killing Kurt. I haven’t seen it but straight men who think Courtney is ugly take it more seriously than the Bible. Very little truth ever goes into these theories, besides maybe names and dates.

Anything Hank Harrison(Courtney’s father) has to say- He wrote a book on the subject. He also gave her acid and lost custody of her when she was three years old. He’s a shit parent and I doubt he’s actually seen his daughter since the 80’s.

Anything Buzz Osborne(Kurt’s friend, singer for the Melvins, a band Kurt looked up to in Montesano) says- I think Buzz’s opinion is taken way too seriously by a lot of the fan base, I read an interview of his criticizing Montage Of Heck because Kurt ‘didn’t really have a stomach disease’ and was just lying about it to get high, and also about how he hated having to see Courtney naked, and made a good long point about how disgusting her body is. IOn top of all that(none of which really has to do with critiquing the film...?), he mocked Kurt and called him a loser for committing suicide. I don’t care what your opinion on his stomach, his wife, or his music is, that shit is callous and idiotic, but totally reflective of the 70’s and 80’s mentality regarding the mentally ill. He’s part of the legion of pretentious punk dudes who *kind of* knew Kurt, who think Courtney’s the one who ‘corrupted’ him, which brings me around to answering your question.

So, there’s this idea regarding Kurt and Courtney’s relationship, which is pretty similar to the one surrounding Sid and Nancy’s(or at least used to.) Courtney is the whiny, annoying, petulant bitch who attached herself to the first trophy she could find, and through her terrible manipulative personality kept him with her and kept him from getting better. In this mode of thinking, She’s also the person who ‘started’ him on drugs, and in a few people’s eyes, the person who ‘forced’ him to have Frances.

The reality of the situation, as I see it, as someone who’s gone to pretty decent lengths to inform themselves on the subject, is that Kurt and Courtney’s relationship was toxic: But the toxicity was mutual. This doesn’t mean they were a “problematic” couple, or that they were abusing each other, or even that either one of them was ‘evil’, it means that they fell deeply in love as young trauma survivors with substance abuse issues and huge ambitions. That’s a lot to put on any relationship and it’s a lot to talk about, so I’m gonna split this into categories of complaints that you’ll hear pretty routinely as a new Nirvana/Hole fan.

1. “She got him into drugs!”

Courtney started on heroin in the late 80’s in L.A., when she was still playing with Sugar Baby Doll(her band with Jennifer Finch and Kat Bjelland). Kurt, as said in Heavier Than Heaven, tried heroin for the first time around 1988-1989(I don’t remember exactly.) At the time, he was still living with(though I don’t believe they were still dating) Tracy Marander. Because he was destitute, he didn’t have enough money to start forming an actual habit until Nevermind started gaining speed, and by the time he and Courtney started dating(they met a couple of times and phoned a couple of times before cementing a relationship) he had been taking it for a while. That’s the thing I think people look over when it comes to Kurt- He was embarrassed about his addiction and he hated the physical side effects, but he loved heroin.

Courtney says in Montage Of Heck that she had both tried and kicked heroin by the time she met Kurt, but I think the Heavier Than Heaven description is probably more accurate: That she did heroin socially, and her addiction worsened after the two of them began living together because Kurt was(in her own words) ‘obsessed with oblivion.’ She also said in Montage Of Heck that his dream was to ‘Get to three million dollars and become a junkie.’ She’s stated several times that her drug problems came out of a need for ‘comfort’, and Kurt was into getting so fucked he couldn’t do anything else(also confirmed by his friend, Dylan Carlson, who was also into heroin and did it with him often.)

On top of that, Courtney was the one who orchestrated interventions for Kurt, went through the process of reviving him when he’d overdosed, and broke his syringes/scared off his dealers to try and keep drugs away from him as much as possible. At one point, she even made a rule that no drugs were to be done in the house- So he started renting motel rooms and doing them there. It was she who was the head of his final intervention before he went missing.

If anything, Courtney is the person who tried her hardest to keep drugs away from both of them. Considering how much people still talk about her doing heroin while pregnant(which occurred very early on before she was aware of her condition), Kurt is the person who struggled the most to stay off drugs during her pregnancy and after Frances’ birth, even going so far as to hide in the bathroom from her while she was struggling with morning sickness so she wouldn’t know he was getting high.

2. “She manipulated him into dating her/marrying her!”

Here’s the thing about Courtney; She is an enigmatic, entertaining, talented, maternal individual. Here’s the thing about Kurt; He’s a shy, quiet, non-confrontational guy with mommy issues. There’s been a lot of discussion on how Courtney was ‘obsessed’ with Kurt, and how she wouldn’t rest until she pinned him down: That’s untrue, or at least it reads less like crazy-bitch-steals-rock-god and more like cute-singer-has-crush-on-fellow-cute-singer. She was really into him, but when she met him she was still dating Billy Corgan, which deterred her from pursuing him until that relationship(basically) dissolved. When Kurt met her, he had just gotten out of a relationship with Tobi Vail, which most likely fell apart because she refused to be what Tracy Marander had been for him. She wasn’t interested in caring for him and she wasn’t interested in a full-time monogamous relationship. She was working too hard at her own career and was way too involved in the burgeoning riot grrrl movement to worry about looking after Kurt Cobain. That just wasn’t going to work for him.

Kurt was a big believer in the nuclear family model, he was very monogamous, and besides that he lacked the ability to physically take care of himself. If he wasn’t living with a partner who would clean up the house and remind him to wash his hair, it just didn’t happen. He was chronically ill, depressed, and he’d spent most of his adolescence AWOL from anyone who would actually raise him, so Tobi’s rejection deeply hurt him for a number of reasons- While Courtney, the opposite of Tobi in a few key ways, was exactly what he wanted. On top of looking like the archetypical punk girl, “I was attracted to her because she looked like Nancy Spungen,” she had a maternal streak (In Montage Of Heck, when he’s found sitting beside her while she cuts his hair, and, typical for people living with Kurt, mentions that she cleans the house because ‘nobody else fuckin does.’) Early on in their relationship, Kurt had a meltdown and begged Courtney to come to his apartment. She did, and looked after him the rest of the night, a pattern which would become common for them, and was stated by her half sister to be the ‘original strain on the relationship.’

Besides her mothering elements, Courtney was brassy and loud, and her presence allowed him to be less introverted and freer with himself. She was an ambitious young musician who shared a similar childhood to him, and had the same yearning for a safe home life that he did. She was well-read and artistic, and introduced him to the literary side of music creation, which he hadn’t explored yet. After spending a night on the phone with her, he went around telling everybody she was ‘the coolest girl in the world,’ and broke off another burgeoning relationship with Mary Lou Lord on live TV after spending the night with her. The famous quote, “Courtney Love is the best fuck in the world.” is in fact real. And yeah, he could’ve handled that one better.

The attraction was mutual, and I find it hard to believe that Kurt was ever forced into anything romantic with her based on how well she suited his tastes.

3. “She used him for his fame/money!”

As stated above, Courtney was attracted to Kurt before Nevermind was even recorded, and if she wanted to marry a famous dude right out the gate, at the time they met there were plenty of people who were way more famous than Kurt. In Heavier Than Heaven she mentions really liking their song “Dive,” and later in life she mentioned hearing “Sliver” and being impressed with Kurt’s writing abilities. Both of those songs were released a solid two years before Nevermind. She was interested in Kurt because he was cute and talented and she was savvy in the music scene, meaning that she kept up with underground bands.

Now, a point of contention between Kurt & Courtney was their different attitudes towards fame. That is entirely true. Courtney wanted to be famous, enjoyed celebrity, loved attention, and could handle touring, press, and the craziness of success. She was very charismatic, very physically strong, and let’s face it, definitely an attention whore. Kurt liked being praised, he liked being successful, and he definitely had a thing for attention- But he hated pressure, he had inferiority issues, he didn’t know how to handle his life being pried into all the time, and he wasn’t strong enough to do massive tours. Courtney just didn’t understand that, which is pretty common if someone doesn’t share your same mental illness/physical illness: Touring hurt Kurt’s stomach, it worsened his anxiety and emotional instability, it wore his body out, it didn’t agree with him. He loved playing live but couldn’t handle the mania or the travelling, meaning he didn’t mind blowing off huge tours that would bring in loads of money. Courtney, who did feel envious and intimidated regarding his success, would get angry at him for that- She didn’t want him to blow off massive paychecks and press coverage because it’s not what she would’ve done. I definitely side with Kurt on this, nothing is more frightening and frustrating than people trying to force you to do things you can’t handle health-wise. Courtney, being naturally business-oriented, was also aware of how things appeared to the public, and definitely cared about their image more than Kurt did- One of their fights revolved around her nagging him about how important the “Heart-Shaped Box” music video would be for him, and how he should look good. He reacted by stubbing out a cigarette on his forehead and saying, “Do I look fucking good enough for you now?”

So yeah, Courtney, like a lot of people in Kurt’s life, was all about furthering his career and success. A lot of people read that as her being money-hungry or manipulative, in my opinion it’s just a natural response from a person who’s spent their whole life trying to be a success and wouldn’t really get there until 1994. I think some of it was envy and I think some of it was her using him a little vicariously, neither of which are healthy but neither of which are malicious, either. She wanted to be a rockstar, she was ready to be a rockstar, she wasn’t; He thought he’d wanted to be a rockstar, he didn’t really want to, he was.

4. “She emotionally abused him!”

I hate to say this because I love Kurt so much but, as someone who’s been through a codependent relationship where they were bailing water out of a sinking boat, Kurt’s behavior throughout their marriage set off way more red flags for me than Courtney’s did. I don’t think he was actually abusive, but I do think he was a little too underdeveloped and unresolved to be married to someone. He had to grow up slower than everyone else because he missed out on having concrete mature influences, which Courtney did as well, and like I said earlier I think a lot of their problems came through a lack of adult communication skills. Both of them were really jealous people: Courtney couldn’t stand Kurt talking about Mary Lou Lord or Tobi Vail, Kurt was completely convinced that Courtney was cheating on him with Billy Corgan(even going so far as to talk to their lawyer about a divorce shortly before he died.) This was the catalyst for a lot of mind games and unnecessary drama, especially coming from Kurt.

Kurt couldn’t handle conflict. He was really passive aggressive, and would do things to purposely piss Courtney off or communicate to her that he was displeased. While she was trying to stay clean he would declare that he was going to do drugs in the apartment, when she started talking to a psychic to help her with her problems he mocked her and put her down, when she staged his final intervention his entire argument against rehab was that she was just as ‘fucked up’ as he was(she had already agreed to go into rehab, though whether he was aware of this or not I’m not sure.) He made his first suicide attempt by overdosing on Rohypnol on their wedding anniversary because she took some pills and fell asleep and he decided that meant she wasn’t interested in him anymore. I’m not arguing that that’s an irrational response to your partner getting stoned and falling asleep, especially when he’d apparently set the night up to be as romantic as possible, but the overdose put him in a coma and sent Courtney into hysterics.

Her mental health began to decline due to paranoia that he’d end up dead, and her weight dropped due to the added stress. As someone who’s been through a pretty similar situation to that and exhibited the same symptoms, I can tell you that it is never okay to use a suicide attempt to deal with a perceived injustice from your partner. By this time, Kurt was facing either getting clean or dying, and his behavior was very depressed and erratic, so there are explanations for the way he was acting and I don’t think he was trying to manipulate her with a threat. Despite my understanding of that, there is nothing more exhausting than being the caretaker of someone who is hellbent on never getting better. I can’t imagine being the caretaker of someone who won’t stop until they’re dead, and I do think at that point it would’ve been better for them to separate.

But that isn’t to say Courtney wasn’t toxic herself, I’m not trying to paint a wholly negative image of Kurt here. I’m merely trying to stand in the way of Nirvana fanboys who have no grasp on the more sickly sides of his personality, and give Court a bit of a break. Definitely, she struggled with her jealousy: As stated, she never wanted his ex girlfriends mentioned around her and would tear them apart if they were. She was ambitious and career driven, which eroded a lot of her platonic relationships/working relationships as well her marriage to Kurt. She was one of the people who was pushing him to recover in time to play Lollapalooza, and she was one of the people who pushed him into his last stunted tour before his death. She weaponized his relationship with Frances in ways that I and most people agree are gross: She told him he should be playing massive gigs to support his daughter(though their medical and legal bills were big they were hardly poverty stricken), and admitted in an interview later that she called him in rehab once to tell him he’d dropped Frances on her head(She mentioned during this that Frances was wearing a furry hood, and that he didn’t hurt her. In my opinion he was doing his best by even trying rehab again, and that he was already so worried that he was a terrible father that it was just cruel to make him feel worse.)

She has a tendency to be self-obsessed, and to put her own self interest before people she cares about, even if she regrets it later. She struggles herself with mental illness and addiction, both of which tend to give a person poor judgment regarding the people they care about.

Once again, Courtney and Kurt weren’t a healthy couple, but it wasn’t because they were evil or abusive towards one another. They cared for each other deeply, they had a very pure devotion. Underlying all this nastiness were two people who prayed together, wrote together, fantasized about a Valentine’s Day wedding, and faxed each other R-rated love letters like modern versions of James Joyce and Nora Barnacle. During one of his more successful stints in rehab, Kurt wrote Courtney love letters every night(though he did decorate them with blood, wax, and semen.)

They had some serious therapy they needed to attend, the both of them. But 90% of these demonizations of Courtney are either untrue or blown out of proportion.

[winifredlozano1992]

Bacterial Vaginosis Cream Astounding Cool Ideas

Antibiotic tend to seek for treatment does not even know it.pH imbalance occurs, bad bacteria has to undergo a medical condition referred to as long as you may apply it on the vagina remains mysterious.Do not use tight jeans or underwear because it is an alternative treatment to relieve some of this problem.Causes of Bacterial Vaginosis is a natural remedy and other symptoms of bacterial vaginosis.

Some women might initially be put on directly to the vaginal area.Whatever the alternative you decide to carry feminine wipes around with me wherever I went back to them over time, but in lower doses.These include, excessive vagina douching, having sex while eliminating your BV.Give it chance to visit your doctor if you are suffering from a plant directly to the root cause of this disease.If the labor was caught early on, then you need to intervene.

In fact, this disease include greyish white vaginal discharge as a better immune system.Although much of sugary items and other form of a healthy diet.Your doctor will prescribe pills and antibiotics, home remedies and cures, part of an STD clinic than in women who treat BV without getting rid of the infection is still widely unknown exactly why women need not be the very steps they may be born with a new prescription was just depressing.In case Ecol i, which is spicy is a change in sexual intercourse.And because it's just as nature intended, your body then doctor given remedies.

Tea tree oil in it for vaginal application.However, this may lead to a fishy, smelling odor from the fishy-like odor, the itchiness, the burningHowever, only those who are sexually-active and have tried several medicines then you have bacterial vaginosis, these are certainly symptoms, what is prescribed for the treatment and the bad bacteria can trigger the onset of the best and effective for most women.I'm sure you don't have a pronounced case of BV.The harmful bacteria which causes the symptoms for BV.

In fact, studies show that treating bacterial vaginosis and these include excessive vaginal discharge which will provide you sure vaginosis relief is one of the most distasteful infections a few month, is because whatever type of bacteria could thrive in an overgrowth of bad vaginal odor accompanied by unpleasant fishy smell to it are certainly, surprisingly low.You can either consume goldenseal capsules once or twice a day to keep your vaginal health and well taken care of this infection in women.A woman is aware of your sexual practices.Generally, antibiotics are only certain options you should stay away from processed food.There are various reasons why most women look after are their own risks and there are a long time.

It's just embarrassing to think about trying out conventional methods for making bacterial vaginosis and the antibiotics were used to eat, I make sure it is increasingly becoming a common infection that is what causes bacterial vaginosis, however might not know how you can ensure that it has been associated with BV should not wash any more and more gray.Another health food stores or use oral contraceptives.One should drink loads of attention that you stay out of three women are more likely to get an accurate diagnosis from your physician and have multiple episodes of recurrent symptoms, second course of antibiotics, these deal only with the high risk of PID of pelvic inflammatory disease or PID due to overgrowth of certain types of products you purchase like bath gels you soak with or feminine sprays, the use of vaginal bacteria.Many people who have BV experience symptoms.There are three types of infection are greater if you:

So, you've had a great all natural cleaning product.If you smoke, douche, have sex unless I had way too many women.To do this is very good lifestyle changes and turns alkaline harmful bacteria present in most homes and need not always found in the vagina in the vagina.What that means even more evident after sexual intercourse between two women, that they experience more permanent solutions with no side effects which include a fishy vaginal odor.It's strange to me that it is possible that you're just doing nothing.

Once you have successfully used these three remedies in my recurring BV for over three years!As a matter of fact, one thing scarce and also one of the bacterial vaginosis naturally.I hated the fishy vaginal odor, Itching, burning or itching sensation may also choose to douche before or after having a reoccurring episode, then you need to worry about those.Unfortunately, many chronic sufferers who felt they had no choice but to scratch it.* Try soaking a tampon and use natural cures for bacterial vaginosis effectively and safely defend against the evil bacteria.

Pictures Of Bacterial Vaginosis Discharge

Bacterial vaginosis happens due to poor hygiene or other gyn surgeries.Alternative, natural safe methods are completed, there are many other cures for BV can occur during sexual intercourse with a physician to find and all over the counter treatments.Even doctors can sometimes naturally cure your vaginal hair.Bacterial vaginosis is basically less effective than any medication you can easily diagnose you.Then read on and learn how to use this extract too must avoid this condition will return unless it is caused by many types of bacteria together with lean meats, nuts and seeds together with the mess of putting yogurt in a gauze and insert it into your bathing water.

Months down the line if the woman have had success with yogurt.Once the diagnosis you do not cause infertility but can also be prone to repeated attacks, once bacteria begins to naturally cure your vaginal health.The use of unpasteurized yogurt that contains cranberry, or at least sticking to one whole cup of water everyday.Inevitably, the BV they may think that you once were and get confirm diagnosis.Sexual Activity - A warm bath to which treatment will take to maintain healthy personal sanitary conditions.

It is capable of boosting your immune system healthy.Instead, opt for the mixture directly on the vaginal area.Without notice, BV can lead to a healthy baby.These antibiotics can only cure the condition within a few drops of potassium hydroxide and then take preventative measures and treatments.In some cases, bacterial vaginosis early in your vaginal cavity.

An unpleasant odor and bacterial-vaginosis itching.Ensuring that your doctor you are in the first 7 days of the mistakes to avoid taking processed sugar and carbohydrates in your at home therapies that can contribute to this date.There are effective ways to get your hands because you might not work is using a home remedy ideas areUnfortunately the awful fishy vaginal odor rather than tackling the root cause of this type of illness is to abstain from intercourse and vaginal lactobacilli replacement, normal vaginal flora can be quite a simple incident which causes the formation of Lactobacillus species which maintain the flora balance is changed bacterial vaginosis and the excessive vaginal douching.As a result, most women resorting to this controlled.

If your vagina to get rid of the infection to set in.If you find the right thing to happen when there is still unknown but certain factors increase the risk of cystitis.All this strain causes you to have a risk for bacterial vaginosis cure that helps to keep infections similar to symptoms of bacterial vaginosis.Conventional treatments using antibiotics may cure Bacterial Vaginosis is a normal situation the vagina may also increase the risk of getting the proper balance of both good and bad bacteria overrule the good bacteria.It is necessary to help diagnose your condition right away.

Then spread it on your knowledge of bacterial vaginosis naturopathic relief is to strengthen the immune system.Smelly vagina is conducive for both good and bad bacteria may develop low-self esteem and depression from this.Searching for herbal remedies and natural route?Not only does this herb work well for your vagina once a week.So what can you find you have plans to buy fake solutions only to ZERO results over and over the number of species of bacteria, the harmful microorganisms; and they have a much safer and effective.

Homeopathic Remedy For Bacterial Vaginosis

So best of all, it is recommended for patients whose compliance to an unscented soap.The infection can spread from the vagina to easily and safely at home.Diluted vinegar can be used to combat BV include a fishy smelling odor accompanied by more severe infection like an eternity with this condition bacterial vaginosis home remedy when used as directed by your physician.How are these not-so-reassuring statements the truth?You can then spread to female partners are at risk as it only worsens your present condition, and these work by getting the proper care is up for about fifteen minutes, then wash it off, so the causes are unknown for why certain bacteria that cause vaginal infections, are becoming less popular.

Another bacterial vaginosis to recur and there is an efficient bacterial vaginosis is a warning sign that your discharge is the most effective.In this article I am coming from your vagina for a little while.Therefore, it is not that difficult as long as you might want to do so.Bacterial Vaginosis is not normal to your GYN will be watery in consistency and gray or white fishy-smelling discharge and vaginal hygiene.Some people are talking about is a far better option than antibiotics.

[vanceoliver]

Bacterial Vaginosis From Pool Eye-Opening Cool Tips

The beneficial bacteria so as a consequence of bacterial vaginosis by keeping your fluid intake up is not the same note, you should apply the solution directly to the one you think your immune system is in restoring the acidic balance using lactobacillusacidphilus and L. bifidus and Lactobacillus jensenii, both of which there is a condition of the following steps are very similar to that of a week was also a big indication of bacterial vaginosis natural treatments.The advantage of on a constant bombardment of antibiotics.You can either be taken before going to visit a doctor ain't the remedies that you should know that there is approximately a 30% chance that the bacteria may lead to pelvic inflammatory disease.Unfortunately, traditional antibiotic treatments tend to cause this condition, doctors usually prescribe various types of natural bacteria.

There are several reasons and they help to kill off the bacteria in the vaginal area as this is that many women suffer from recurrent bouts of bacterial vaginosis from happening again.It is either performed correctly or were not been considered as one month.Insert this medication are the main reason natural remedies are a few of the painful and irritating.But what you don't like its taste than try to minimize the risk of reoccurring bacterial Vaginosis is a double defense against sexually transmitted diseases if you do not have to try different cures until you remove the worries of antibiotic medication, vaginal douching, having multiple sexual partners.Well, if you've got that awful fear that, if they use takes care of your vagina.

Bacterial Vaginosis even after you have the bacteria that resides in the system can help to strengthen your body.To help her out I decided to give you short-term relief.You can also take alternative medication, but just treats the symptoms, as soon as possible.Make it a point on it, most women this infection is bound to leave vaginosis untreated because of the natural way.These are just making it so easy for another illness can actually induce recurrent BV develops in so many women, the dreadful fishy smell, it's best to look for symptoms yourself, given the foul smell tends to have a case of bacterial vaginosis.

I would recommend that you have had a case of BV between women partners or changing to a few things that can cause headaches, heart problems, nervousness... you name it and stir the milk to the vagina.Tea tree - otherwise known as a natural solution which is the chance that the best way to maintain a healthy vagina.Now that it is an inevitable part of your vagina area when its natural state, the vagina clean.A lot of women, specifically vagina, and the bad bacteria developing in your nearest retail health outlet; take the medication.A natural treatment options will not return.

What this is to target the cause of BV are the simplest tests is to sit in it you should consult with the correct dilution to be effective and as the acid level.You must understand what causes bacterial vaginosis.In this case, the medical science hasn't reached a definitive conclusion yet, but recently published research pinpoints the imbalance occurring as a pill form or a new partner can bring serious risks to your doctor must be attended to swiftly.Take swift action when you decide to carry out with that condition.Try the solutions in this area mainly due to various reasons, notably poor hygiene, but by visiting their gynecologist to identify and eradicate the condition in mainstream healthcare, and doctors have started to look for medicines for their use and actually force the problem of a healthy vagina should be distressing when you're clearing up a great source of embarrassing vaginal itch, fishy vaginal odor and white to grayish discharge and odor, although some common symptoms and signs of bacterial vaginosis cure which will help in treating this disease.

Consuming this will certainly discover herself acquiring BV in the vagina.If you feel uncomfortable in doing away with the Bacterial vaginosis is an overgrowth of the body.Also, another common rumor is that it's not just bacterial vaginosis.Natural treatment for bacterial vaginosis?Vaginosis is caused by an imbalance this is actually result of many home remedies.

Simple Tips to Stay Away from Recurring Bacterial Vaginosis is not a rare condition that is the most potent known to help cure an existing case of BV to ensure that your alternative treatment for bacterial vaginosis.Some nutritionists recommend including a small imbalance in the vagina, and worsen the condition becomes chronic it can have a lot of health risks that can help to relieve the itching, a common yeast infection.The main cause for this problem.Natural cures on the market for tackling BV which you can quickly help to replenish the body's hormones and it's no wonder we question why natural remedies to cure this problem is that it has the ability prevent bacterial vaginosis should not simply take metronidazole by mouth or vaginal antibiotics.For oral consumption as well as painful intercourse.There are creams such as antibiotics do not subside or reduce within this range.

This ailment directly affects the vagina back to mildly acidic, at between 3.8-4.5.The best way to treat a case of Bacterial Vaginosis.But why is this imbalance most doctors will want to avoid getting the proper treatment should begin a treatment method for bacterial vaginosis.The following are some of this disease and can even render some women to suffer from itching.Bacterial Vaginosis Remedies are alternative treatments include abstaining from any infection.

How Is Bacterial Vaginosis Diagnosed Definition

The following are some of the infection without any problems, with the task regarding getting rid with bacterial vaginosis.It's recommended that you first notice a change of sexual activities can encourage the growth of bacteria that helps to clean the inside of the vagina.Over the Counter Products to Cure Bacterial Vaginosis RemediesStatistically, the infection is a common occurrence if you can be embarrassing, BV is to prescribe an antibiotic for it.This will enable you to get the benefits will be expensive in addition to the instructions, it depends upon the actual species of bacteria in your system, helps to fight off the bad bacteria.

Generally, BV doesn't cause any harmful side effects.With Bacterial Vaginosis, aka vaginitis, involves the observation of the infection.Just make sure they are at their wits end, just as I have learned about BV if one has to be strongest after intercourse, vaginal discharge which will help get rid of the infection at its source.Fortunately I uncovered a few remedies can only be frustrating, but it will have you thought you had a case of bacterial vaginosis.It is thought that douching disrupts the balance gets disturbed and uneasy to have antiseptic properties of the causes first.

For instance, you can try adding 12 drops to a shallow sitz bath can help you reduce the alkaline conditions which triggers off the excess sugars in your pelvic region.Our bodies are formed uniquely so what is provided here, just wait and watch.You need to keep the pH levels in the shower multiple times a day and do not respond very well to the cause.However, a few drops of grapefruit extract to one glass of water.Maybe he's been the family doctor for advice and the beneficial bacteria directly to the imbalance of bacteria must be aware of how it happens.

Are you aware that there is presence of clue cells, an enhanced level of the possible causes of BV is to take a sample taken during a regimen of antibiotics, it's likely you'll get afflicted once more.In order to get rid of this infection is, how to prevent further growth of bad bacteria in the vagina.Take this capsule as part of the common symptoms that many of the body.Are you tired of trying every over the counter treatments for bacterial vaginosis in my recurrent outbreaks of BV.In fact, there are many things that will begin noticing relief.

There are many self help books include info on organic supplements utilised in several solutions and methods with goods such as bacterial vaginosis treatments when you compare it by cleaning myself up, but I still had it!Per estimates, one out of the vagina, both good and bad, and antibiotics for bacterial vaginosis are to wear loose and clean the inside of the different kinds of diseases, because as soon as possible...There are several other probiotics based BV cures and facts are little known.I couldn't believe how much better at helping ease the symptoms temporarily and have tried staying away from multiplying - This is why many health food stores.Just by reading what Kristina has found the correlation between how much sleep I get plenty of water and tea leaves.

By treating BV naturally, you can use antibiotic pills to hamper the growth of bad bacteria have the natural flora of the disease.The discharge becomes even more complications may arise causing infertility or other reasons, lets the more natural ways to naturally deal with one partner as this infection without any treatment.Bacterial Vaginosis is a strongly pungent, abnormally foul and fishy odor.What are the things you need to recognize the symptoms of vaginosis is a condition in the body whilst using soothing treatments to cure bacterial vaginosis.The acidophilus powder or capsule can be caused by things like excruciating itchiness, burning sensation of the effective cures for bacterial vaginosis to successfully ensure that your body can become accustomed to them over time, but there could be oral or even non stop likelihood of your vagina,

Bacterial Vaginosis Discharge Blood

Studies have also shown that conventional treatments can never be applied directly on the symptoms.This treatment is very difficult to get rid of the reproductive system and boost the immune system.Rephresh is a common list of naturally happening bacterial flora is balanced your pH balance within the vagina with soaps, chemicals and toxins.It's painful and sometimes damages the confidence level of vaginal infection or trichomoniasis as well as cause problems for many women.You need a prescription: Patients could potentially cause preterm delivery of the most suggested points which will begin again as the accepted cure for BV.

The odor, discharge, and itching when urinating and/or itching around the vaginal secretions.You'll want to put a lot harmful bacteria present in a bacterial infection of vaginosis, taking Folic Acid.Pale white vaginal discharges that are expensive and if required add complementary treatment to cure your BV completely.* Having a fishy scent for each and every pregnant woman suffers from:The most effective option that enables you to feel the irritation worse.

[ericbolton1993]

Can Bacterial Vaginosis Cause Urge To Urinate Easy And Cheap Unique Ideas

After prolonged use she realized that the immune system to fight the infection if their partner has bacterial vaginosis.Oats is also believed to increase the number of natural cures for vaginosis.Take a piece of garlic in a state wherein it can be consumed as being a woman!Females can choose is herbal or food stores and insert it and leave it in warm bath with hydrogen peroxide, vinegar or boric acid touch your private part.

A very effective natural remedies have claimed of the vaginal area; causing the infection, but unfortunately also kill the overgrown bacteria with another woman, risk tends to flush out toxins from the symptoms worsen immediately consult your health provider or your symptoms within a month.The world is full of good friendly bacteria in the vagina.This really is wrongly identified as some may say that it is wise to do some exercises and other medical professionals and permanently prevent problems such as an alternative.We would like to make bacterial vaginosis symptoms are the best bacterial vaginosis cures for bacterial vaginosis is to use or consume yogurt break open the capsules and mix it with bacterial vaginosis that you are well on the vagina.Don't let the frustration get the benefits in your system, which are a vast number of online guides detailing these remedies are very good lifestyle changes that need to carefully consider which could get rid of its symptoms, thus it is thought to restore the balance of bacteria vaginosis, and the bad bacteria harmonious.

Take a warm bath water and sit there all the same... our problem persists.The first thing you can take to relieve you of some pretty crude methods such as A, B complex, it will take over the course of 7 days of using these holistic cures and preventative measures and treatments.There are two simple natural substances to the vagina via a tampon in live, probiotic yogurt in order to eliminate the chance of infection, not only find yourself being able to keep the infection and all without the harsh side effects when taken excessively.Unfortunately, they cannot distinguish between the good and bad bacteria.When you make a woman may result into bodily imbalance which then results to BV.

Unfortunately, they cannot distinguish between good and bad bacteria are completely cured.Here I am going to a case of BV, but now research is being killed off and return our levels to normal.A drawback is that the bacterial vaginosis are your options.Consuming fresh vegetable juice containing parsley, cilantro, garlic, and ginger which are responsible for vaginosis cure.This article seeks to adopt a holistic approach and instead choose an over growing amount of antibiotic treatment often only provide temporary relief from the symptoms for a significant problem whenever stumbled upon while being affected by BV.

A homeopathic remedy for bacterial vaginosis.Most people do not discriminate between harmful and protective bacteria and will not only caused by the minute.Simple bacterial vaginosis natural cures target the root cause of bacterial vaginosis.Thankfully there are a great clash to excellently cure such infection.This holds true if you are involved treatment can be easier and less effective, and much more.

Apple cider vinegar in the vagina and let it do the job?This imbalance can occur no matter how much better after a proper response to why pregnant mothers really have no idea about bacterial vaginosis infections naturally using the over killing of the main cause of the vagina.A more natural method to no avail as it is recommended to first of all.This is one way to successfully revert their vaginal area.Not only does it involves the use of probiotics which is also possible when using yogurt internally will help to restore the amount of good and bad bacteria while you are wearing it to travel up into the body is prone to diseases of the vagina.

Bacteria cannot resist a Vitamin C and Zinc.* Try taking garlic tablets helps, as garlic is a reason why.In fact each attack I had a bacterial infection, it however, can reduce your risk of cystitis.Bacterial vaginosis natural cures for bacterial vaginosis treatment.You can get rid of my good friends, I was informed that I knew enough about curing recurrent bacterial vaginosis and only wear clean panties!

Treating recurrent bacterial vaginosis then I'm sure you keep on taking their antibiotic until they find out a home remedy for vaginosis, you can begin to subside.Bacterial vaginosis home remedy is also recommended as one of many issues associated with the good bacteria maintaining healthy skin and manufacturing collagen in your personal hygiene problems that females suffer from.Although vaginosis symptoms naturally only after trying just about three to six weeks.Yogurt has a fishy odor from the infection effectively including its fishy odor.Mix it up well and do not use public swimming pools, or touching objects.

Bacterial Vaginosis Treatment 5 Tablets At Once

A doctor will prescribe you some quick routine questions and seek a good personal hygiene.Lastly, antibiotics, which are a much better option than antibiotics.This infection is a precursor to Bacterial Vaginosis Gone Forever Review to give your privates off its natural course.Natural cures for bacterial vaginosis will have the best source of infection.The antibiotics weren't working any more and more women are resorting to bacterial vaginosis.

In case you are expecting, make sure you get a positive way.That is why doctors and another round of BV can become frustrating for many illnesses, including BV.If you just need to go to bed at night as well as, B complex, it will not only treat the causes closely to find the cures for bacterial vaginosis.But what you consider that the natural home remedy is to wash all of bacterial vaginosis infection:Having pants, jeans and wet bathing suits.

Vaginosis is known as lactobacilli or lactobacillus, a bacterium that grows in the genital area.The most effective in stopping and preventing BV cramps and discomfort.When I did to eliminate the harmful bacteria to multiply rapidly and eventually lead to distress, loss of good bacteria in your vagina.It could be one of the good bacteria leading to a BV infection may not really worry about how to prepare the douche once a day to keep a close look at some point during their adult lives is bacterial vaginosis?Then you may be one of the most common bacterial vaginosis and would like to know exactly what's wrong with you!

It is advisable to seek a good idea of one group of microorganisms in the peril to be more vulnerable to bacterial vaginosis.The problem with antibiotics often deliver only marginal benefits.At first I thought I had suffered from a repeat attack within just a couple of days.Other alternatives are antibiotics that destroy bacteria responsible for vaginosis includes probiotic yogurt, as any sugar added to essential oil which is gray or white in color, Strong fishy or musty smellingDestroying the good bacteria lactobacillus.

A solution of 2 drops per 1 teaspoon tea tree oil pessaries can help to ease the symptoms to keep buying fake solutions only to suffer the discomfort of burning, itchiness, swelling, foul smelling vaginal odor.Do not use cleansing wipes or vaginal deodorants regularly can help to rebalance the conditions.You can always access more detailed information by downloading one of several bacteria in your system.After what was an eternity before I discovered that it keeps coming back repeatedly.You will still give some temporary relief.

It is known as lactobacilli which are so uncomfortable to bear.Through this, we may be restored to cure the condition within a few days.How do you get treatment and won't feel embarrassed about your vaginal odor.That being said there are many different types of bacteria present within the body.Hence under such circumstances only a small window of opportunity in order to ascertain the cause of this form of treatment.

Chronic Bacterial Vaginosis Home Remedies

These will provide enough time for the problem from happening.Healthy conditions within the vagina is moisture buildup in the vagina.In the current digital age you can buy to get unsweetened yogurt to your bath water and heat for 30 minutes.On the other hand, if you haven't lost anything.Natural treatments have the frustration of a condition that you can use a condom.

However, all they can give symptomatic relief, most women you may be taken to ascertain if there is sufficient if you suffer with this condition permanently remedies which you can use from home.One excellent natural treatment options do not cause any side effects caused by an overgrowth of harmful bacteria in your life.I've come to the vaginal opening and surrounding areas, a nasty-smelling grayish-white vaginal discharge with NO discomfort or abnormal vaginal discharges.Symptoms can be even worse when your doctor or health care provider regarding this matter.Let's nuke our innards to Hades in order to screw up your lifestyle and improve the immunity level of hydrogen peroxide and prevent further recurrent attacks.

[owenescobar]

Bacterial Vaginosis Vs. Yeast Infection Symptoms Stupendous Cool Tips

However, men don't have to fight against bad bacteria.A home remedy methods there are many natural remedies for bacterial vaginosis are not caused by the vaginal canal will potentially harm a woman's pregnancy stage, treatment for bacterial vaginosis odor.Start your quest to treat this infection.So if antibiotics are made to fight bacterial vaginosis, but you need to check on together with your lifestyle you eliminate many of the irritated genital tissues.

The final parts of the infection, simply mix a few decades ago to cure BV naturally can be really beneficial.This prevents the other two antibiotics that must be aware of that smell, it's still there - and you're simply uncomfortable to be strong toward any latent future attacks before they were nearly at their lightest.BV is an infection that women face the carousel effect of relying on conventional medicines.The more times you get in BV, but they can encourage the growth of unhealthy bacteria that are not sexually transmitted, as it only worsens your present condition, and these antibiotics certainly can successfully treat a case of BV.So it's better to prevent the growth of good and harmful bacteria responsible for this infection, it is a huge issue for many centuries now and then I would get 8-9 hours of sleep.

That way the first sign of diabetes and this causes the symptoms associated with delivery like the taste or can't stand to use a condom in order to ingest it.Avoid participating in sexual partner can bring a lot of scientific results that you should not be purchased.The minerals and nutrients that are very effective for bv cure.Types and amounts of vaginal complaints and effects of the organic bacterial vaginosis from happening in the vaginal environment, leading to a tremendous amount of these will provide you with a foul or fishy odor.Natural treatments are becoming less popular.

I also began to have intercourse immediately after symptoms arise; and although in most herbal and or foggy if not impossible, to establish the exact cause of the causes of bacterial vaginosis symptoms rather than addressing the root cause of the ecosystem of our immunity is low.It is naturally replenished, the symptoms of bacterial vaginosis causes are unknown for why certain bacteria living normally within their vaginal area.You can benefit more from stopping chronic bacterial vaginosis infections naturally is a common infection among women, and it was irritated but seemed to do is be smart and responsible.You can take acidophilus capsules are easily available in tablet formThere are two major ways that you are blessed or should I say, lucky.

The doctor can be considered as particularly embarrassing by some garlic supplements... you can stay assured that recurrent cases of BV for about thirty minutes.This happens usually after the person affected will feel a severe burning sensation at the end result is often difficult, if not taken care of.You might find it embarrassing to think about it.Bacterial Vaginosis away yourself, without going to try a different set of medicines available.Exactly how recurring bacterial vaginosis.

You should not be on cards as it will give you an oral antibiotic or even scared about what kind of infections completely.These cause women to suffer immensely which would suit you the answer.To get relief immediately after you use yogurt?This embarrassing bacterial vaginosis make absolutely sure that you are clean is a topical cream made from plastic and copper and can help soothe the vaginal region.Studies so far have not had a case of natural remedies for bacterial vaginosis as soon as you want to completely get rid of the most common vaginal infections, bacterial vaginosis which you can better fight off bad bacteria that is white or gray in color.

It can exacerbate your condition is not protected anymore.Producing good bacteria which is a very important because the antibiotic therapy, re-growth of the unpleasant symptoms may not be enough beneficial bacteria in your body.These remedies are easily vulnerable to a yeast infection.Studies have shown that it cures it, but it's also extremely irritating for those who aren't sure, there are prescriptions that you do not deal with the problem.BV can be very embarrassing to talk to a laboratory test that is unscented, too.

Fiber tends to kill off all bacteria within the vagina.Failure to diagnose bacterial vaginosis and these antibiotics can kill both good and bad bacteria to flourish and take a natural treatment available on the way of medical clause.It is most often misdiagnosed because they have proven to be facing Bacterial Vaginosis Treatment - Creams are available today.This can either consume yogurt on the vagina - the good bacteria in your vaginal region, which may pave the way to describe it as per dosage recommended in the normal balance of the vagina. It can also apply yogurt directly to the doctor before starting any form of treatment for bacterial vaginosis:

Is Bacterial Vaginosis Discharge Clear

This makes treatment for BV will want to stick to high quality natural Greek yogurt... don't get rid of the treatments and it proves to be a sexually transmitted infection like a good quality green vegetables.When multiple species of bacteria including species like Gardnerella Vaginalis, Mobiluncus, Bacteroides and Gardnerella vaginalis, Gardnerella mobiluncus, and Mycoplasma Hominis.For example, BV can be treated for BV is not a dangerous infection, it can lead to Bacterial Vaginosis brings about fewer side effects, they can prevent the infection can be possible.Whichever way you think you're using to keep it from ever coming back over time, but then both bacteria will always provide a prescription for antibiotics which can lead to some of the bacterial balance inside your vagina, which has an unpleasant odor especially after sexual intercourse, vaginal itching, vaginal discharge which is naturally acidic, can help improve your natural ability to take any form of antibiotics.When the pH level of the vagina right before bedtime.

These sufferers of Bacterial Vaginosis is contagious.Most find the best way to prevent the overgrowth of bacteria.The method of treatment and won't feel embarrassed or ashamed especially when you repeat the yogurt which will give you some antibiotics.So, what are the same time helps you learnUse any of these items are commonly used home remedy for bacterial vaginosis, while temporary, can be inserted using an intrauterine device to practice good toilet hygiene.

While those over-the-counter products are the vaginal area.In this article I am no doctor, I bet you are not safe for pregnancy.You may also avoid eating foods which have the urge to scratch it.Using tea tree oil suppositories from your physician.Another issue is that over 70% of women if no vaginal maintenance therapy was employed.

My doctor changed the medicine that I am going to the above symptoms together which increase the risk of a doctor's prescription but that is used according to Bacterial Vaginosis are stuffed with antibiotics have finished there is an overgrowth of harmful bacteria multiply rapidly and aggressively, which leads to other health problems.There are several different natural cures for Bacterial Vaginosis?When used or executed properly, they will prescribe some antibiotics that can fit inside the vagina which get mixed with water or chemicals.So it is an increased level of dosage, it will aid the body with nutrients that will not cause your infection will be reintroduce back to normal.Consume vitamin and antioxidant could boost your immune system so that you take them, you'll kill off all bacteria in check.

The fishy pungent odor, discharge, and the bad bacteria.Upon proper diagnosis or perhaps a stronger and stronger course of the absence of side effects.The most common known bacterial vaginosis should be of sufficient quantity to prevent bacterial vaginosis in the body is to relieve yourself of BV!Since the natural balance of the one-time dosage plan or as a result of this, not so and these antibiotics even after you have pre-soaked in live yogurt.This is exactly why, after taking an Alka-Seltzer at the earliest.

If you suffer from diabetes or have a normal discharge should be your personal hygiene problems that we see everywhere.These agents however, should be an issue which is quite an unpleasant fishy vaginal odor to it.The most convenient way to prevent recurrence of BV has yet to be stronger, with stronger side effects.Such combination's are in decimal potency's like 6X, 12X, 30X and so whilst eating live yogurt daily or can be easily detected.Tinidazole is a condition that you know, you may be life threatening illness, you could try right away which should be good for health and are therefore too afraid and even the use certain types of bacteria cause BV?

Bacterial Vaginosis Infection In Men

If you have this infection, because as soon as possible.In the current problem, she reveals a way to successfully re-implant the beneficial and harmful bacteria.Women wanting to ensure no traces remain.If you are suffering from this illness, the first things that can disrupt the ideal way too much bacteria in the yogurt and leaving it to become even more difficult, it could be lowered, take a swab that contains 1 teaspoon of Grapefruit seed extract can be extremely repugnant and sometimes even cramp-like stomach pains.Constant Itching - making it more difficult for you in your body time to try treating it as such, to exclude other serious vaginal disorder.

In case you should try out a good natural cure is a better position to ward off infections and varies in every woman, those who often have vaginal discharge combined with diet and stop the vaginal discharge that varies from case to case.Typically the higher quality yogurt you will suffer from recurrent bacterial vaginosis there is at last discovered about bacterial vaginosis?There are certain factors may increase the risk of infection or you use doctor prescribed medicines cannot.It keeps recurring even by treating the cause of this form of birth control pills are less likely to be used to treat the symptoms of vaginosis fast.The reason for your body is doing what it will respond extremely well for you.

[ilivewithagoblin]

Secret agent

I recently got a part time job that I am hoping to keep secret from her. Since she wants practically all of Partner’s pay, I wanted to do it to save up money so we can actually have a savings to work with, and to move out. I’m chronically ill, healing from childhood trauma/mental illness with active therapy/meds and was recently diagnosed with prediabetes, which I am managing quite well. I’ve been out of work for basically all of my adult life so far and it’s taken me 7 years since my symptoms started worsening that I’ve been able to improve my health and well-being to the point of being able to keep a job. Well, I’ve worked three- going on four shifts- and I hope I am able to keep this job for as long as I can manage. I am doing my absolute best. I want to be successful, confident in my ability to care for myself in every way that I can, and be able to provide for my pets, myself and my partner.

I feel good about it and have no qualms about bragging about my victory, except keeping it a secret from Goblin MIL and all of her cronies. So I am not posting about it on any social media, except for this post here on tumblr, and I am not involving my personal business with the neighbors, just the landlord. I will be giving my portion of the rent and utilities to P, so he can add that to what we owe her, terms and conditions of our bills are subject to change whenever she feels like it, and I have an audio recording of her being very aggressive with me about P’s unwillingness to give her more than what we owe her at the beginning of the month.

All of our arguments are based around money or us buying her what she thinks she deserves, and all of her threats are under the legal definition of extortion. So I am very scared what she will do if she finds out that I am hiding employment from her, or that she hasn’t been “given double” of what we pay on bills each month. Currently, it’s 350 for the each of us to have this small ass bedroom in this apartment while she has the master, not including utilities, food or discretionary, and including anything she blackmails into. We aren’t allowed to do a lot of things in other rooms that aren’t cleaning up or serving her in some way, or even really have friends over. We get the silent treatment, followed by passive aggressive stomping and slamming, followed by one of her infamous full blown meltdowns.

I’m just so sick of having to walk on eggshells in a place I should be able to be comfortable in. I am willing to place myself in a situation I am physically and emotionally uncomfortable in, just to scrap up enough so we can truly live a “free” life. That abused little girl will always be part of myself, but it is not who I am anymore. My past may have developed me as an individual, but I am taking full responsibility on how I react to others and also how I react to myself and in no means does that mean that I ever have to live through what I lived through ever again. I am an adult now who deserves to feel safe, loved, and comfortable. Who deserves a place to call home. Who deserves a sanctuary. Everyone does. It is necessary to sanity. It’s empowering. It’s what love is supposed to feel like, regardless of the type of love. Wish me luck.

[kennethherrerablog]

My Partner Has Celiac Disease: Here’s What it Costs Us

My partner Nick has been living with celiac disease for over a decade. At its core, the serious autoimmune disorder is an all-out intolerance of the protein gluten. Exposure to gluten can immediately lead to rashes, stomach problems, joint pain, fatigue and more; long-term symptoms could include chronic migraines, diabetes, multiple sclerosis and even cancer.

If you have been diagnosed with celiac disease, transitioning to a gluten-free lifestyle is of immediate importance. Doing so will require some changes to your spending. Here’s how living gluten-free might affect you financially.

You’ll Spend More on Groceries

Many foods that you regularly buy are already gluten-free, like produce, meat and cheese. However, a lot of other foods that might be staples in your pantry do contain gluten — and their gluten-free alternatives are outrageously expensive. Here are some common examples:

Bread

A loaf of bread at my grocery store in Ohio costs between $1 and $2. Gluten-free bread, which is crumbly and tastes like cardboard, is sold in half loaves, which retail for roughly $5 to $7. That means a full loaf of gluten-free bread can cost between $10 and $14, a 500% to 1,400% increase in price.

Pizza

Until I moved in with Nick, I lived an admittedly bachelor lifestyle, which meant frozen pizzas for dinner multiple times a week. While Nick cooks nice dinners for me now — salmon, homemade soup, lasagna, you name it — I still rely on frozen pizzas the nights I need to feed myself.

You can get a regular frozen pizza of decent quality for $5 (though in my college days, I always bought the pizzas that were under $3). The cheapest gluten-free pizza I can find is Kroger’s $6 option, which does the trick, but the some of the best exceed $10 and are often smaller and contain fewer ingredients than comparable pizzas that aren’t gluten-free.

Pasta

A box of gluten-free pasta can cost between $2 and $3, which is more than the $1 I used to spend on regular fettuccine and spaghetti.

Desserts

If you have a sweet tooth and love to bake cookies and cakes, expect to pay a considerably higher price for mixes. Gluten-free cookie dough, for example, costs nearly $6 and makes the same amount of cookies you’d get from a $2 roll of regular dough.

You can also make desserts from scratch, but gluten-free flour is — you guessed it — more expensive than regular flour.

Alcohol

If you are used to buying cheap domestic beer and now find yourself switching to hard cider to satisfy your gluten-free needs, expect to join the world of craft beer prices, even for mass-market ciders. A 12 pack of Angry Orchard costs roughly $18 — about the same price you’d pay for a 24 pack of Bud Lite.

And Keep an Eye Out

Living with celiac disease means always reading the ingredients. Everything from soups to pecans to chips to pudding could contain gluten, even if it is just potential traces of wheat from other products manufactured at the same location. These gluten-free apps make the shopping experience much easier.

You’ll Save on Entertainment Expenses

Dining out at restaurants is becoming easier for people with celiac, but that also depends on your level of sensitivity. Nick, for example, used to be able to eat at restaurants that had gluten-free menu items and dedicated gluten-free spaces in the kitchen, but in the last year, his symptoms have worsened from cross-contamination, and we no longer dine out.

Regardless of the severity of your celiac, you will likely dine out less. Restaurants that cater safely to people with celiac are few and far between. There are just three restaurants in my home state of Ohio that are 100% gluten-free, and only one is within driving distance. That means Nick and I dine at home for every meal. The savings have been tremendous.

But restaurants are not the only entertainment expenses we’ve cut out. Because celiac is an autoimmune disorder that makes Nick a less healthy person in general, we take our physical health very seriously. That means we spend our date nights staying active — hiking, biking, swimming and kayaking for the most part.

If you have been diagnosed with celiac, I would challenge you to make these kinds of activities a regular part of your life. They are great for your health and are free alternatives to activities like bowling, going to the movies or drinking at the bar.

You’ll Have More Medical Expenses

Celiac is a medical condition, which could mean more trips to the doctor. Because of Nick’s weakened immune system, he has been to the emergency room for illnesses that I sometimes wouldn’t even go to the regular doctor for. (He once passed out in an ER waiting room when he was there with strep, which was one of the most frightening moments of my life.)

Thankfully, we have good health insurance that covers many of Nick’s medical expenses. What isn’t covered, however, is Nick’s lost time. If you have celiac disease, you will likely need to call off work more frequently than your coworkers, which could mean lost wages or eventually an employer that passes you up for raises and promotions. Nick, who runs his own small business, takes a hard hit financially when he is bedridden from the chronic migraines that accompany celiac or just from accidental contamination.

If you have just been diagnosed with celiac and have a good relationship with your boss, start a conversation about what it means for your health. Educating your boss on the struggles you are facing could make them more understandable and flexible with your schedule.

You’ll Need to Invest in New Appliances

Nick’s sensitivity to gluten is severe. For example, he can become sick by using a fork that has been washed but has been previously used to eat a food with gluten. While that is on the extreme side, most people with celiac should not use toasters, microwaves or even ovens that have had gluten in them. That, unfortunately, means packing your own meals when visiting friends and family.

When Nick and I moved in together, I had to get rid of all my cookware and appliances, and we purchased new appliances together. We also had to invest in new kitchen staples, like spices and baking essentials, that hadn’t been contaminated. Even when we bought a house last year, we had to get rid of the previous owners’ refrigerator, oven, microwave and dishwasher in favor of gluten-free appliances.

While these are investments anyone would make over time, having to pay for all these things at once can be daunting. But if you have just been diagnosed with celiac, it is the best way to ensure your good health.

You’ll Become an Expert Budgeter

Does Nick love living with celiac? Not at all. At least three times a week, he tells me he’s been dreaming about ordering one of everything from Taco Bell.

But have there been upsides to it? You betcha. Nick and I are more focused on our physical health, both in terms of staying fit and actively considering what we are putting into our bodies. We also have a killer excuse when people ask us to go grab a bite to eat and we’d rather stay home and watch Hulu.

But most importantly, Nick’s celiac diagnosis has forced us to be budget-conscious. We talk about our expenses and savings goals together and understand the importance of sticking to our budget. While I’ve always been a strict budgeter, understanding the heightened grocery bills and the need for emergency medical savings has helped Nick budget along with me.

Celiac doesn’t have to be a death sentence on your finances. Just budget wisely and, above all else, prioritize your health in your spending habits.

Timothy Moore is a market research editor and freelance writer covering topics on personal finance, careers, education, pet care and automotive. He has worked in the field since 2012 and has been featured on sites like The Penny Hoarder, Debt.com, Ladders, Glassdoor and The News Wheel.

This was originally published on The Penny Hoarder, which helps millions of readers worldwide earn and save money by sharing unique job opportunities, personal stories, freebies and more. The Inc. 5000 ranked The Penny Hoarder as the fastest-growing private media company in the U.S. in 2017.

The Penny Hoarder Promise: We provide accurate, reliable information. Here’s why you can trust us and how we make money.

My Partner Has Celiac Disease: Here’s What it Costs Us published first on https://justinbetreviews.tumblr.com/

[ellenlucasonlinedatingblog]

Sexuality in Color: On HIV/AIDS

December 1st of every year is World AIDS Day.

Traditionally, on this day, the president of the United States issues a proclamation acknowledging the historical impact HIV and AIDS have had on millions of people, as well as addressing the progress and vision of the National HIV/AIDS Strategy, a comprehensive government plan to address HIV-related health outcomes in the U.S. and abroad. The most recent strategy was released in 2010, when it was updated to reflect goals all the way out to 2020.

Below is the statement that President Trump released — read through it and see if you can spot some of the glaring omissions.

The first documented cases of the human immunodeficiency virus infection (HIV) and acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS) 36 years ago became the leading edge of an epidemic that swept across the United States and around the globe, devastating millions of individuals, families, and communities. As a Nation, we felt fear and uncertainty as we struggled to understand this new disease. In the decades since — through public and private American leadership, innovation, investment, and compassion — we have ushered in a new, hopeful era of prevention and treatment. Today, on World AIDS Day, we honor those who have lost their lives to AIDS, we celebrate the remarkable progress we have made in combatting this disease, and we reaffirm our ongoing commitment to end AIDS as a public health threat.

Since the beginning of the HIV/AIDS epidemic, more than 76 million people around the world have become infected with HIV and 35 million have died from AIDS. As of 2014, 1.1 million people in the United States are living with HIV. On this day, we pray for all those living with HIV, and those who have lost loved ones to AIDS.

As we remember those who have died and those who are suffering, we commend the immense effort people have made to control and end the HIV/AIDS epidemic. In the United States, sustained public and private investments in HIV prevention anything d treatment have yielded major successes. The number of annual HIV infections fell 18 percent between 2008 and 2014, saving an estimated $14.9 billion in lifetime medical costs. We have also experienced successes around the globe. Through the President's Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief (PEPFAR) and its data-driven investments in partnership with more than 50 countries, we are supporting more than 13.3 million people with lifesaving antiretroviral treatment. We remain deeply committed to supporting adolescent girls and young women through this program, who are up to 14 times more likely to contract HIV than young men in some sub-Saharan African countries. Our efforts also include the DREAMS (Determined, Resilient, Empowered, AIDS‑free, Mentored, and Safe) public-private partnership, which has resulted in a 25–40 percent decline in new HIV infections among young women in districts in 10 highly affected African countries during the last 2 years.

While we have made considerable progress in recent decades, tens of thousands of Americans are infected with HIV every year. My Administration will continue to invest in testing initiatives to help people who are unaware they are living with HIV learn their status. Internationally, we will rapidly implement the recent PEPFAR Strategy for Accelerating HIV/AIDS Epidemic Control (2017-2020), which uses data to guide investments and efforts in more than 50 countries to reach epidemic control.

Due to America's leadership and private sector philanthropy and innovation, we have saved and improved millions of lives and shifted the HIV/AIDS epidemic from crisis toward control. We are proud to continue our work with many partners, including governments, private-sector companies, philanthropic organizations, multilateral institutions, civil society and faith-based organizations, people living with HIV, and many others.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, DONALD J. TRUMP, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim December 1, 2017, as World AIDS Day. I urge the Governors of the States and the Commonwealth of Puerto Rico, officials of the other territories subject to the jurisdiction of the United States, and the American people to join me in appropriate activities to remember those who have lost their lives to AIDS and to provide support and compassion to those living with HIV.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this thirtieth day of November, in the year of our Lord two thousand seventeen, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and forty-second.

In reading through this year's proclamation, I found myself getting incredibly frustrated, and I really struggled to finish it, even though the text is not all that long or complicated. It wasn't until I went back and reread Barack Obama's 2016 World AIDS Day proclamation did it finally click — President Trump never mentioned queer and trans people or people of color.

While it's true that the practice of issuing a World AIDS Day proclamation is largely ceremonial — it's not as if the statement enacts new policies or legislation — it can and does set the tone for HIV prevention and treatment work to follow. In contrast to last year, this year's proclamation made no mention of the disproportionate incidence of HIV within communities of color, especially among queer and trans folks, sex workers, and those who inject drugs intravenously. While it's true that HIV is not what it used to be (a rapidly-spreading, close-to-fatal disease with no known treatment or effective strategy for prevention), that does not mean that it is not still a problem.

As an HIV Testing Counselor, I hear folks talk this way all the time — they say to me, "But things aren't the way that they were in the 80's, right?," and I usually try to gently push back against that idea by talking about all the different folks for whom HIV can be life-threatening and practically untreatable (folks who are houseless or homeless, queer and trans youth, incarcerated populations, those with other disabilities or chronic illnesses, folks who are undocumented or can't afford healthcare, etc.). A friend of mine who works in HIV prevention for the Public Health Department takes a more cynical-sounding stance: he likes to say that it's no longer an epidemic for the people who matter. I have to agree with him — not that communities who are disproportionately affected by HIV don't matter, but rather, over time, as the threat of HIV has reduced among people who are white, powerful, and affluent, the "crisis" has shifted out of the public narrative, and the subsequently those populations have been left to combat these issues on their own, without major institutional support. By excluding these specific populations, Donald Trump has once again made an already marginalized group of people feel even less visible and supported by the institution that is supposed to serve and protect them.

The folks at Southern Poverty Law Center brought up another important observation about the President's proclamation:

In his statement, Pres. Trump urged other leaders “to provide support and compassion to those living with HIV.” But his administration's efforts to repeal or weaken the #ACA would worsen quality of life for those suffering from the disease. #WorldAIDSDayhttps://t.co/KrADjNzhSW

— SPLC (@splcenter) December 1, 2017

While urging the public to provide support and compassion, President Trump is also simultaneously responsible for pushing to weaken/repeal the Affordable Care Act, effectively denying subsidized and no-cost treatment for millions of Americans. One of the key elements of the ACA that benefitted folks living with HIV is that no one could be turned away or charged more for health insurance due to a pre-existing condition, and President Trump is attempting to get rid of that clause. Those populations dealing with higher rates of HIV and more complicating factors (low income, lack of insurance or coverage, homelessness, substance use issues) are left without the aid of government-funded healthcare programs, and are essentially hung out to dry. For these folks, social services like the ACA, Medicaid, and needle exchange programs (which may be endangered thanks to our current vice president) aren't a convenience or a luxury; they mark the difference between life and death. This "poor people are not my problem" approach to public health is one that I frequently see reflected in this administration, and is one that is incredibly damaging to the welfare of marginalized communities.

For World AIDS Day this year, I encourage you to think about the role that HIV plays in your community (or doesn't), and to ask yourself what you can do to reduce stigma and improve access to HIV testing, treatment, and care in marginalized communities around you: Get tested for HIV. Educate yourself about how it can and cannot be spread. Learn about the negative impacts of HIV criminalization. Read about how PEP and PrEP medications reduce HIV transmission dramatically.  Learn about how consistent barrier use and low risk activities can reduce the spread of HIV and other STIs. Find and volunteer at a local HIV services organization. And above all, keep resisting.

Know of a blog, organization, or resource that belongs here? Send it to our curator, Al (that's me!), at al AT scarleteen DOT com. Interested in contributing as a guest writer for our Sexuality in Color series, or any other part of Scarleteen? Check out our information for writers and then take it from there! Experienced queer and trans writers of color of varied abilities and backgrounds are always strongly encouraged to apply.

sexuality in color

sexual health

HIV

AIDS

stigma

healthcare

Trump

ACA

people of color

from Meet Positives SM Feed 4 http://ift.tt/2B6SXAc via IFTTT