#we've been visiting with this aunt for the past couple days and I'm Suffering

[cookinguptales]

this isn't sad posting, this is irritation posting

(under a cut because uhhh I got really irritated)

my family is most likely going to be going to Japan in a few months and I'm very excited to be going back!!!

the one snag is that my mother and my aunt will be there for the first few days of the trip and my mother I love dearly but she's... not as fond of traveling these days.

but okay. I can plan around that. not a lot of moving around, not a lot of "difficult" foods, etc. I can do that.

my aunt, though.

my aunt.

we're estranged from most of our family because... honestly, they're terrible people. but my father and mother have stubbornly hung onto my father's aunt, mostly because she is outwardly sweet and they love her and she's not As Awful as most of the evangelical extended family.

but she's still very much a lutheran minister's wife and she is saying

I shit you not here

she's saying she does not wish to see anything shinto or buddhist

in

KYOTO

like she wants to take a day trip to Nara to see the deer but is refusing to go see the daibutsu IN THE SAME PARK which is FIFTEEN METERS HIGH and in one of the largest and most beautiful wooden buildings in the world and like oh my fucking god can you imagine just refusing to look at an entire hemisphere's art because it's not christian enough I am going to SCREAM and I'm really considering being a dick and telling her that the deer are religious, too, WHICH IS TRUE, but I know my parents would probably get irritated with me (...because they also want to see the deer)

*breathes*

and I mean I could probably arrange like three days in Japan that completely avoid all Japanese religion even though it seems fairly shitty to ask a person to do all the translating for you in a country that they went to school in to study Japanese religion and refuse to let them go!! to any religious sites!!!!!

and honestly I'm not sure I even want to take her to any shrines and temples because she's probably just gonna be rude there and I don't want to inflict that on people but like

I'm so frustrated, and I'm frustrated that my parents aren't just like. telling her that she's being a dick.

dad is going with me to koyasan after they leave, probably partially to make it up to me, but like.

I feel like it's only a matter of time until I blow up at this woman and tell her that I hate her. I recognize that it would deeply damage my fragile family dynamics but. holy shit.

lmao this is how I fucking snap