#unless i find an actual love triangle that ends in poly or it's equal attraction from all three people i'm gonna stay a hater

[imjustavenuxwithaboomerang]

this or that trope edition, taken from @adh-james-version

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[sightofsea]

Jumpscare anon! Its a random person asking for advice on a situation without a lot of context and also the situation is tense (hello its me u dont have to answer this I just like how u see people and community and would like some perspective)

Basically fucked love triangle with fucked dynamics because youre all friends like really good friends. Lets say person A is the common denominator that me and person B are into. You (I) love both these people though, and since you (I) dont distinguish between types of love you just kind of love them equally. But you and person A have an amount of chemistry (sexual chemistry btw) that is borderline destructive. Intoxicating. You spent 3 years in a relationship with someone else ignoring it which obviously only made it worse and now you're fresh out of a relationship and everytime you and person A accidently brush arms or whatever its like they are setting you on fire (this is mutual). Problem is person B really likes person A for romance reasons and theyre kinda together kinda not.

The answer is really simple. You know the chemistry is not going away (its been 5 years) and u know eventually youre going to break and even if u dont, its morally sketchy to spend time with someone just so u can sit in the same couch to smell each other or something, so you have to get some distance. But you live together for at least 6 more months. And also. Youve never felt this way with someone and need to know what kissing them would be like. But also. You cant be a dick to your friend B. But also You really really wanna do it.

Should I explode? Would that solve it?

Ok well. I wanna preface this by saying I've never been in a relationship for very long sooooo idk if I'm the person to talk to about this.

the way I see it, there's a few things I wanna discuss/go over here:

Let's talk about A's feelings for a second. The way you write they feel less like a person and more like an idea. You say you've got insane sexual chemistry--what is it that you want out of this? You wanna sleep with them, and that's it? Are they the type of person who sleeps with somebody and doesn't catch feelings? Do you want feelings? I'm all for sleeping with your friends, it's a lot of fun, but you gotta set some ground rules with the other person and consider what their whole deal is. And if it isn't compatible to your wants, then that's another thing to reckon with. Which brings me to my next point:

You say A and B are kinda together, kinda not. That sounds like they are together. And unless they're open/poly, that's going to be an issue here. If they are open/poly, then yeah I think maybe posing the question/sleeping with them is a good idea! Again, sleeping with friends is fun, relieving tension is good. But if they are in a monogamous relationship, or tend towards monogamy, and you feel like you're too turned on by this person to respect that boundary, then it might be good to just talk it out without the expectation of anything happening/grinning bearing and jacking your way through 6 months until you get some distance/find someone else you have chemistry with. They exist in a lot of places! Trust me, I've been in a similar situation to where you are now, and distance does wonders on helping you get over people.

the thing is that even though I've said everything up here, you do seem pretty set on telling them/fucking them. it's pretty obvious where you're leaning, but you feel about it. the thing is, I can't give you absolution over it. the other thing is, I don't actually know you or your friend group all that much. if you think confessing your attraction/fucking it out with this person is going to end up in a net positive, then yeah! go for it! if you're other friend hasn't made their move, then maybe it would be good to instigate something and it'll all work out! that would be amazing. to me, that doesn't sound to be the case, but again: I don't know you.

this is all to say: it looks like you need to talk out/clarify some things with your friends and what their relationship is before you make a move. boring answer, I know, maybe not the one you're looking for. don't explode, just talk it out.