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[alicehart]

The rules to this blog have been revamped. All followers are asked to please read :)

THE BASICS

I am selective & mutuals only.

I welcome both canon and OCs, but please have rules and a bio/about page available.

There will be no passwords or secret codes hidden in here, but please read.

FOLLOWING/UNFOLLOWING

I keep my blog to mutuals only, so please follow only if you’re genuinely interested in writing with me. All personals (except for the main blogs for side blogs) will be soft blocked.

I will not follow people who do not have a rules and about page.

Do not feel obligated to follow me back. If after a week someone hasn’t followed me back, I will unfollow them, no fuss.

I soft block. I know, it’s so anxiety-inducing to have someone poof from your followers list without any notice, but I view it like unfriending someone on Facebook. If for whatever reason I no longer feel the need or desire to follow you, I will soft block you.

If I follow you, it means I am open to writing with you. Don’t question it.

I do not mind OOC content, however, if it hogs my dash I may unfollow or mute you.

SHIPPING

I am multi-ship and multi-verse, so anyone is open to ship with Lily.

I love shipping. I am shipping trash, HOWEVER, I never go into an interaction pursuing or assuming a ship.

I ship chemistry.

Feel free to approach me if you’d like to ship— don’t be shy.

Do not force or assume a ship on me.

I do not do pre-established ships.

The ship can't be the central focus of our threads. Merely an element.

CONTENT

Mun is well over the age of 21, so nsfw friendly. It will be tagged appropriately and placed under a read-more. I will not RP nsfw content with anyone who does not mention being over 18 on their blog. I do not care if your country’s age of consent is younger than that.

No rape, suicide, detailed gore, or active drug use, please.

If you have any triggers, please let me know, I am not psychic. I myself do not have any triggers.

The closest thing to a trigger that I have is drug use and abuse, and addiction. You do not have to tag it, but just keep it away from threads with me, please.

All art featured on this blog is not mine. Banners, side images, icons, and promos are constructed by me but do not contain my own artwork.

Though rare, and only with muns whom I am comfortable with, there may be smut. It has to fit with the story. I am also cool with time skips, fading to black, and non-descript poetic summaries. Or, you know, just not writing smut in general.

KEYS TO WRITING WITH ME

I love plotting and communication. It’s my favorite part of RPing besides the writing part. I love being able to talk about our muses, threads, plotting, memeing it up, etc. I will not follow people who refuse to communicate with their mutuals.

I much prefer multi-para to novella. I am not picky and do not expect novella, I myself cannot always manage to write that much. But single liners do not motivate me. If you only write single liners or less than a paragraph, we won’t make great writing partners.

I’m a little iffy on thread hopping. If you lose your muse so fast you can’t even make it 2-3 responses into a single thread with me, I will likely lose all motivation to write with you. Nothing against you, but it can sometimes take a lot of time and energy to write, so it really bums me out when my threads with someone die immediately. I’m only comfortable with hopping around our muse’s timeline once they are familiar with each other. But constantly dropping threads kills my motivation to write and if you do this, no shaming, but we may not be the best writing partners.

I am a flexible roleplayer. If none of my muse’s verses work with yours, I am willing to create verses better suited. We just need to talk it out a bit as the verse may stay between the two of us.

Be patient with me. I have an extremely stressful and physically exhausting job. Most days I do not have the energy to write a ton. So please, do not pester me for a thread response. You may ask only once and only after a week has gone by.

I try to respond to my threads in the order in which I receive them. I try to not play favorites.

I will not inform you if and when I have dropped a thread because I don’t even know when I’ve dropped a thread.

Please do not god mod, even the slightest bit without my consent. This is the biggest mood killer for me. I won’t even say anything, I will likely just stop responding to the thread because god modding is the most common sense no-no when it comes to RPing.

My muses are dynamic characters with backgrounds and depth who will experience character growth and express different parts of their personality. Do not typecast my muse and run with it like they're a joke.

So you notice I am reblogging and responding to memes but I haven’t responded to your thread. Yes, along with 10 other threads so do not take offense if I am memeing it up while owing you a thread response. Sometimes it's easier to meme than to think up and write a thread response.

I will ignore passive aggressive nudges. I will soft block you, or block you entirely if you become hostile or aggressive.

I do not believe in reblog karma, however, I believe it’s stupid not to interact with your mutuals and memes are the best way to break the ice, so if I reblog something from you, expect something from me in return. Maybe not right away because I may be at work and sometimes it’s a pain to deal with on mobile, but I will send something in! Only exceptions being shippy memes.

Partaking in witch hunts and call out culture, even if the other party is a guilty douche nugget, will result in me unfollowing you. I have zero tolerance for people who get involved with that kind of stuff.

You get bonus points if you comment on this post letting me know you’ve read this.

[brentrogers]

How to Cope with Coronavirus-Caused Mental Health Concerns

Today, it feels like everything has changed—it’s either been closed, postponed, or canceled. Some states have officially shut down. You’re working from home, while watching your kids (and trying to teach them). You haven’t seen or hugged your loved ones in weeks.

If you’re struggling with all of this, know you’re not alone. And know that there are concrete (small) steps you can take to feel better.

Below are three mental health concerns you might be currently struggling with—and how you can effectively navigate them.

Concern: You feel disconnected and lonely.

You miss seeing your parents, taking walks with your best friend, and eating lunch with your coworkers. Whatever travel plans you had—like visiting your family in the spring—are now canceled. And you’re (understandably) devastated.

The good news is that we can bust loneliness by getting creative, which gives us the opportunity to connect in different, maybe even deeper ways. For example, tap into technology by using Zoom, Skype, or FaceTime to virtually play games together, said Sheva Rajaee, MFT, founder of The Center for Anxiety and OCD in Irvine, Calif.

Or try these additional connection boosters with your loved ones, which come from Clinton Power, a clinical relationship counsellor and founder of Clinton Power + Associates in Sydney, Australia:

Watch the same movie at the same time and text about your reactions

Create a shared Spotify playlist and listen together

Read a chapter of the same book every day and talk about it

Start the same project or learn the same skill

New York City psychotherapist and coach Kate Crocco, MSW, LCSW, suggested being the first person to reach out. “Often the best medicine for fear and sadness is being there for someone else.”

If you don’t have anyone, she said, “this is a such a great time to find an online community.” Recently, Crocco joined a free Facebook group for moms of toddlers to meet others and learn about new activities.

Concern: You have catastrophic thoughts.

During such a painful, unprecedented time, it’s natural to get sucked into worst-case-scenario thinking. And it doesn’t matter how many times you reassure yourself that everything will be fine, you only end up feeling worse.

This makes sense. “We are in a catastrophic situation, so some level of catastrophic thinking feels appropriate,” said Jenn Hardy, Ph.D, a psychologist with a private practice in Maryville, Tenn. “The last thing that our anxiety needs to hear is some type of patronizing and dismissive reassurance.”

Instead, Hardy suggested acknowledging that your concerns have validity in our current climate.

It also can help to remind yourself that these catastrophic thoughts aren’t “expressions of facts,” Rajaee said. Rather, they’re “expressions of fear”—our brain’s way of trying to protect us, she said.

In addition, Hardy suggested using self-soothing strategies. Take a long bath. Practice yoga. Watch a funny film. Another option, Hardy said, is to carve out time to problem-solve your concerns. What are your biggest concerns? What can you control? What’s the first step you can take? 

Concern: You feel overwhelmed and paralyzed.

As you’re scrolling social media, it can feel like everyone’s got it together. You see photos of elaborate home-schooling plans, new productivity systems, and decluttered closets. And you’re just trying to motivate yourself to shower and put on sweatpants.

Give yourself permission to feel overwhelmed without bashing yourself. As L.A. marriage and family therapist Stacey Sherrell said, “there is no wrong way to feel during a pandemic. We are all in uncharted territory and there is no rule book or guidelines to follow regarding how you should feel.”

Arizona psychologist Rosy Saenz-Sierzega, Ph.D, suggested acknowledging how you feel and focusing on your current surroundings. She shared this example: “I am afraid, but I am safe. I am in my apartment, my husband is on his computer, my dog is asleep on the sofa, Dave Matthews is playing on my sound system, and I am safe.”

You can also try these strategic actions:

Unfollow or mute accounts that only post about devastation and struggle, said Sherrell.

Give your days some structure, such as adding a 5-minute morning meditation; taking an evening walk around your block; or engaging in familiar tasks like making dinner with your family, said Rajaee.

Carve out 20 minutes of quiet time each day to “help maintain a sense of stability,” Rajaee said. This is when you might read a book, listen to calming or energizing music, journal, or do a yoga video.

Sherrell also stressed the importance of reaching out for support if your anxiety and worry feel debilitating. For example, Coronavirus Online Therapy offers low-cost short-term online therapy, and the Crisis Text Line will connect you with a crisis counselor when you text HOME to 741741, she said.

One of the best ways to cope during any difficult, devastating time is to be patient, kind, and understanding. With others. With yourself.

How to Cope with Coronavirus-Caused Mental Health Concerns syndicated from

[erraticfairy]

How to Cope with Coronavirus-Caused Mental Health Concerns

Today, it feels like everything has changed—it’s either been closed, postponed, or canceled. Some states have officially shut down. You’re working from home, while watching your kids (and trying to teach them). You haven’t seen or hugged your loved ones in weeks.

If you’re struggling with all of this, know you’re not alone. And know that there are concrete (small) steps you can take to feel better.

Below are three mental health concerns you might be currently struggling with—and how you can effectively navigate them.

Concern: You feel disconnected and lonely.

You miss seeing your parents, taking walks with your best friend, and eating lunch with your coworkers. Whatever travel plans you had—like visiting your family in the spring—are now canceled. And you’re (understandably) devastated.

The good news is that we can bust loneliness by getting creative, which gives us the opportunity to connect in different, maybe even deeper ways. For example, tap into technology by using Zoom, Skype, or FaceTime to virtually play games together, said Sheva Rajaee, MFT, founder of The Center for Anxiety and OCD in Irvine, Calif.

Or try these additional connection boosters with your loved ones, which come from Clinton Power, a clinical relationship counsellor and founder of Clinton Power + Associates in Sydney, Australia:

Watch the same movie at the same time and text about your reactions

Create a shared Spotify playlist and listen together

Read a chapter of the same book every day and talk about it

Start the same project or learn the same skill

New York City psychotherapist and coach Kate Crocco, MSW, LCSW, suggested being the first person to reach out. “Often the best medicine for fear and sadness is being there for someone else.”

If you don’t have anyone, she said, “this is a such a great time to find an online community.” Recently, Crocco joined a free Facebook group for moms of toddlers to meet others and learn about new activities.

Concern: You have catastrophic thoughts.

During such a painful, unprecedented time, it’s natural to get sucked into worst-case-scenario thinking. And it doesn’t matter how many times you reassure yourself that everything will be fine, you only end up feeling worse.

This makes sense. “We are in a catastrophic situation, so some level of catastrophic thinking feels appropriate,” said Jenn Hardy, Ph.D, a psychologist with a private practice in Maryville, Tenn. “The last thing that our anxiety needs to hear is some type of patronizing and dismissive reassurance.”

Instead, Hardy suggested acknowledging that your concerns have validity in our current climate.

It also can help to remind yourself that these catastrophic thoughts aren’t “expressions of facts,” Rajaee said. Rather, they’re “expressions of fear”—our brain’s way of trying to protect us, she said.

In addition, Hardy suggested using self-soothing strategies. Take a long bath. Practice yoga. Watch a funny film. Another option, Hardy said, is to carve out time to problem-solve your concerns. What are your biggest concerns? What can you control? What’s the first step you can take? 

Concern: You feel overwhelmed and paralyzed.

As you’re scrolling social media, it can feel like everyone’s got it together. You see photos of elaborate home-schooling plans, new productivity systems, and decluttered closets. And you’re just trying to motivate yourself to shower and put on sweatpants.

Give yourself permission to feel overwhelmed without bashing yourself. As L.A. marriage and family therapist Stacey Sherrell said, “there is no wrong way to feel during a pandemic. We are all in uncharted territory and there is no rule book or guidelines to follow regarding how you should feel.”

Arizona psychologist Rosy Saenz-Sierzega, Ph.D, suggested acknowledging how you feel and focusing on your current surroundings. She shared this example: “I am afraid, but I am safe. I am in my apartment, my husband is on his computer, my dog is asleep on the sofa, Dave Matthews is playing on my sound system, and I am safe.”

You can also try these strategic actions:

Unfollow or mute accounts that only post about devastation and struggle, said Sherrell.

Give your days some structure, such as adding a 5-minute morning meditation; taking an evening walk around your block; or engaging in familiar tasks like making dinner with your family, said Rajaee.

Carve out 20 minutes of quiet time each day to “help maintain a sense of stability,” Rajaee said. This is when you might read a book, listen to calming or energizing music, journal, or do a yoga video.

Sherrell also stressed the importance of reaching out for support if your anxiety and worry feel debilitating. For example, Coronavirus Online Therapy offers low-cost short-term online therapy, and the Crisis Text Line will connect you with a crisis counselor when you text HOME to 741741, she said.

One of the best ways to cope during any difficult, devastating time is to be patient, kind, and understanding. With others. With yourself.

from World of Psychology https://ift.tt/2xKM87o via theshiningmind.com