#u can tell ink's a lesbian n pran's gay bc of their lack of interest in the opp gender

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People saying pat sexuality should have been made gay just like the novel ( i haven't read it) like he is an unlabelled character it's his choice to name himself like he had relations with women so when he fell for a man it Is quite normal to get confused when you grow up in a very hetero household like in India itself, bls only potray gay characters where these characters are getting represented people have problem??? Pran proved sexual fludity but people just want them to be just gay like ???

look frankly i'd be okay w whatever way they chose to go. like i haven't read the novel either, but their parents do seem far more extreme in it (heard pran's dad had a gun idk fnsjkfs) so it makes sense that a gay boy would have go thru a severe case of comphet and believe he was str8/bi when he was actually gay. but also i like that p'aof didn't disregard the feelings he had for the girls he liked in the past and chose to represent sexuality as smth fluid.

many of the lgbt kids from our generation learned of the community and these labels thru the internet, where frankly everything was boxed in too tightly and where every thing had to have a label. take demisexuality for eg. its simply asexuality but when they fall in love they find that person attractive. which is normal when u fall in love obv. and so there's no reason to pick a separate label for it bc its literally just 'asexual in love, finds that person attractive', smth that many asexuals already know about themselves. but the internet coined that term and kids ran w it. (this isn't to say u can't/shouldn't use that term if u want, i'm just saying that finding urself attracted to someone ur in love w is a no-brainer. there r aces that don't feel attraction to ppl they're romantically interested in, and whether ur sexually attracted to them or not, ur still ace, so use the label if u identify better w it/like it, but i personally don't see the point when asexuality already covers that. u don't need a label for everything.) then there's pansexuality which is literally the same as bisexuality and u can use either label or interchange them, but some ppl insist they're diff stuff (which is both biphobic and transphobic).

irl, lgbt folk didn't do this. p'aof's from an older generation, so it makes sense that his story would include a conversation like that. pran is gay, pat is bi, but labels r just things lgbt folk took to reclaim their identities from a society that used those words to dehumanize and persecute them.

does that mean we have to stay boxed into those labels to be a part of the lgbt community? obv no. the purpose of those struggles was to make those words ours, to break off the insult and negative connotations attached to it, not to tell the next generation they need to use a label to be part of the community. does that mean u can excessively toss around a label to define urself if u want? yes, yes, yes. bc our elders suffered to make sure the coming generation could shout their identities to rooftops w/o fear of persecution (which is still not a possibility in many countries, but hopefully we'll get there soon). use the terms lesbian or trans as much as u want, bc now we can say it w/o being forced to feel shame, w/o fear, w/o hesitation. use it till u get sick of saying the words urself—this is what our ancestors fought for.

i also love how pranpat/inkpha's sexuality was never turned into a big deal, was never the focus of the story, just a conversation tossed into a casual dinner. its pretty realistic (and again a representative of the generation p'aof's from), bc yeah labels r only a big deal on the internet, no one cares irl. but also bc this is exactly how i imagine such conversations would take place in a world where homophobia didn't exist, but heteronormativity was still a thing. a world where figuring out u like someone at all is a bigger deal than the gender of a person. a world where labels r probably not even used bc what's the point. whoever u love is ur business. its a world where these terms can't define us, don't shape chunks of our identity like it does in our reality.