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ursula-legun · 3 days ago

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so exhausted/annoyed by queer people being like "oh yeah fuck the family we hate the family" and then being like "oh yeah i was talking to my mom - my CHOSEN mom - about blah blah blah" like just say your friend. your mentor. whatever. if you hate the (nuclear) family so much why are you dragging its (GENDERED) social roles forward with you like this. you cannot deconstruct a hierarchy/role by just elevating other people/things to the same position in said hierarchy/role, oh my godddd

#at best my read is that it's the neopronoun of the social relationship #meant to be kind of disruptive in a way that makes you question the roles that exist or smth #but. i just. i feel strongly that attempting to escape the rigidity of set roles by adding More Roles For Nuanced Situations #does not. in fact. permit the nuance to live.#trans ppl using sibling referents get a pass but you're on thin ice imo #don't EVEN get me into the self-infantalization that comes with all this shit also jesus CHRIST #“my chosen mom” IE the first person they've made friend with who's more than five years older then them + they've known them 3 months #idk. if you're going to do this please just call them your dad or some shit #and don't give me a fucking 90 second explanation each time about how they're Not Your Bio Dad You Don't Believe In That Stuff #girl. clearly you DO or you would not be compensating like this holy SHIT

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