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daffodi1 · 4 years ago

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Honestly the biggest reason I'm anti-intracommunity discourse is bc I USED to be that shitty person who got involved in it back in my edgy high school tru/scum days. And like, believe me, I used to think I was doing the right thing and protecting the El Gee Bee Tee community from those Nasty Fakers who don't belong there. But honestly? It didn't do that, and it just alienated groups of people who actually did belong there bc they were too busy worrying about if they were queer/trans enough and plus it was fucking invasive! People shouldn't have to tell you their whole life story to justify why they belong in a community! And people deserve the chance to be able to define their experiences on their own terms! If you tell an ace lesbian that aces don't belong in the LGBT community, congrats, you've alienated a lesbian. If you tell a pan person that they don't belong in the lgbt community, you've alienated someone who experiences same gender attraction. Yes, call out homophobia, lesbophobia, transphobia, and biphobia where you see it, no matter who it's from, but you don't have to put other people's identities down to do that.

#also granted i wasnt the type of shitty truscum to not believe in nb and cultural identities #but i was the type who insisted you needed dysphoria #and tbh it was wrong bc its invasive to ask every trans person to explain how they feel about their fucking genitals #and it can still be racist #im still very sincerely sorry to anyone i may have hurt in those days and i know we cant be friends but i wish you the best #i was a lonely kid who was being abused for being trans #and it was during a time where tru/scum tumblr was the only trans tumblr that wasnt hostile to trans men #so i got groomed by a lot of adults into believing it #i fell out of it when i actually made friends in the real world and got away from my abusers for awhile #and when i met other trans ppl and heard their stories #trans ppl are a diverse community with a range of experiences and its too complicated to define entirely #and gender is fake anyway #so thats when i learned and cut ties #i still tried to hang on to one of my friendships during those days bc he actually genuinely saved my life #but i cut ties with him when i realized he wasnt going to change or come around #and its not my job to stay w someone while they spout bigoted beliefs #so thats my entire story #emil chatter #ofc i do still believe that sometimes there are gonna be ppl who fake it or ppl who are going through a phase bc ive seen it irl #but the point is to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and let them discover that on their own #if cishets look down on us bc of them well. theyre already gonna look down on us regardless. we need to stop playing respectability politics

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