#to be fair even my tinder profile says ‘problem-creator’

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//I am not big on 'anti's'. Not that I have a problem with people that say they are anti-proshipping, anti-racism, anti-literally list any gross thing no one in their right mind is here for (myself included). That isn't what my gripe is about.

It isn't even because I have a problem with others having a hill they are willing to die on or fandoms they refuse to touch with a ten foot pole, more power to you!

I also really don't have an issue of people being outspoken about something you are against! Fight for what you believe in! But when someone says 'I am an anti-whatever' I see it as you telling me if you are 'anti' something and that I am not allowed to ask you how you feel and why you feel the way you do because I am proving I am the problem with society and that person is an angel doing whatever god they do or do not believe in's work. And I am not here for it.

Do I think everyone that states they are anti is like this? FUCK NO. But if I personally believe when you are willing to put your beliefs on blast then you should be willing to prove that you are respectful and open to explaining things that most people could reasonably believe isn't the kind of thing that say my 60+ year old southern drawl but educated country folk family would not immediately understand the issue with.

Like just as an off hand example someone is anti-MHA, fair. Now why shouldn't that person be expected when asked politely EXPLAIN WHY and use their adult words, not their angry words, if someone can't without getting pissed off with then I believe that that kind of person is part of the problem because it justifies the thing they are against. I mean it is human nature to be drawn to the thing we are told is evil, is it a good thing, not really, but we are human beings.

But for better or for worse I immediately assume that those that label themselves 'antis' can't do that even if they totally can until they step up and prove it. I know it is unfair. But since this is the internet it is damn near impossible to figure out who someone is until you get cussed out by some self righteous person that sees themselves as a knight in shining armor or get it calmly explained by a reasonable human being. And I already have a hard enough talking to people, I am not here to get cussed out or ignored because I asked a legitimate question.

I can't know who can and cannot act like an adult until we actually talk (even though I exclusively follow adults) so I try to take cues on someone's beliefs based off their rules. And for me 'anti' is the same level of red flag as a person that says 'I want someone to meet me in a dark alley in two states away from their home for a first date' on a tinder profile.

Now this isn't a jab at people that have a list of fandoms they won't touch, blogs they won't interact with, or just things they are against but I live under a rock and everyone has a right to curate their space and I will curate mine how I please and I hold no ill will against those that do the same. Until they ignore me or start screaming at me for being stupid. I am open to learning and learning from my mistakes. But what I am not open to his being yelled at for not knowing creator 'x' said a bad word 15 years ago when I had no reason to find out or way of even starting to know they said it in the first place. I am literally Patrick Star under a rock. If I am ignorant enlighten me.