#they said it wasnt even a christmas gift it was for celebrating my graduation and getting into the master's program

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[violet-in-the-void]

My DUDES my abusive step mom just finally disowned me so she could get out of making an excuse to miss my wedding 😂 I was absolutely pissing myself laughing bc this is so ridiculous and I���m so fucking happy and relieved.

this woman has been an absolute nightmare for TWO THIRDS OF MY LIFE without a scrap of empathy or decency to her. One of our first interactions, before I’d even ever actually meet her, was her threatening to call the phone company AND the cops on 8 year old me when I was trying to get a hold of my dad one night and my mom insisted I call repeatedly until he answered - y'know, the shy, people-pleasing child crying in the backseat not understanding why everyone was yelling or what I did wrong.

Any time we were upset with something she did, or more ludicrous b yet any time our mother lost her shit and went off, she’d plant us at the kitchen table for a “sit-down” and p much just let into us for having feelings at all or go on for up to an hour about how our mother wasnt well and every reason why what she did was unacceptable or illegal and how they could take her to court. At eight and eleven years old, up through seventeen and fourteen. My brother might have still dealt with it, I’m not sure. I stopped going over the second I was eighteen and didn’t legally have to anymore.

She called me fat, or “buff”, or asked if I was still working on weight loss or what I was doing to trim down nearly every time she saw me. Even though she insisted on trying on 14 year old me’s jeans because we weighed the same - barely 100 pounds. She also insisted on activating the schools SharePoint site to monitor my grades against my dad’s wishes because I got a c on a quiz, as I REMAINED an honor roll student, then proceeded to bitch at me about being lazy because I hadn’t turned in assignments… THAT HADN’T BEEN GIVEN YET.

At 15 she called me disgusting in front of my father because I refused to sit and listen to her berate my mother and sneer at me about whatever legal bullshit they were in then and when she told me that was childish, I told her NO, childish is thinking it’s at all appropriate to smear your step child’s other parents in front of them and yell at them like they’ve ANY control over what any of you do.

At 16 she threatened to slap me and throw all my shit out on the lawn because I dyed my hair black - after they said I could because I got straight A’s, as I ALWAYS did. I tested it - I would tell her I had my hair dyed professionally and she would say it looked great - though I dyed it myself. And when I flipped it the other way, she told me it looked terrible and I missed spots, except it was done professionally and no the fuck they didn’t. I also started researching and practicing Wicca that year, and she went off on some shit about how I was going to get my ass kicked one day for representing things I don’t understand (because I was wearing a pentacle necklace that SHE thought was satanic) and wouldn’t let me in the house wearing it. Even though she has a tarot deck handed down from her grandmother and does cartomancy (divination by reading playing cards). She also tried to bribe me away from it saying she was glad she didn’t have to worry about Christmas or birthday presents anymore since I didn’t believe in that sort of thing… Except y'know, Yule exists and who the fuck ever said pagans don’t celebrate birthdays?

When she found out from my father I wasnt a virgin anymore she screamed at me about being irresponsible and wanting to get pregnant - even though I’d been trying to get birth control for almost a year because my periods were so debilitatingly painful.

That same year I had two friends over for Thanksgiving and after we ate she kicked us out for laughing too loudly, and sent back the cake my friend had brought for them.

They also had a little red Civic they said was mine as soon as I learned to drive, which they sold like nine months later without a word and when I asked about it she started rattling off all the things wrong with it I’d have no way to know about and demanding to know why I was so entitled and why I’d ever think they would ever let me drive it.

She demanded to be invited to every major event like graduations or our upcoming wedding, but without fail never showed up to a single one.

At my first college the financial aid office fucked up their paperwork and caused me to owe the VA a semester of back stipends and she demanded to know what I really did with the money because there was no way the school botched it (they submitted the wrong dates on the form, showing I had attended for both the summer and fall terms when I was only there for fall) and kept pushing it and calling me a liar until my dad stepped in and said YES they did fuck it up, here’s their email saying so. At my new college, she decided to pay off the remainder of my final tuition not covered by my dad’s GI bill (which she constantly told me I was selfish for using bc they couldn’t put my brother through college too, even though he had no interest in going), which was just over a thousand dollars, spent twenty minutes repeating how this is her graduation gift to me, then on graduation day not only bailed, but went to my Facebook and dug through TWO YEARS of photos to find something to be offended by: a whisper I DIDN’T WRITE I had shared that said “I had a stepmom growing up. I guess you could say I was living a fairy tale” that I commented “aw that’s fucked up” on that she SOMEHOW took to be about her, and sent in a group message to me and my father saying she wished she seen the before posting off my tuition and she thought I’d evolved since high school. I told her it wasn’t about her or even my content but it was her prerogative if she wanted to be offended by something someone else said. She said “done” and never responded again.

She decided to put me on her health insurance in January, without my knowledge, which DID really help. Her original deal was to pay for it for one year, then I had to start paying her for it. Which is reasonable. Then she decided to drop me six months in because I couldn’t call her one day. I was busy working with loud machines and I was also certain she was going to try to talk me out of going to dinner with my pawpaw, who ASKED for me to come and I didn’t even know was in town until my brother told me. Even though they live five streets from me.

When I officially announced our engagement, even though they had known unofficially we were planning to get married for over a year and she offered to book an engagement photographer for us, according to my brother my dad was minorly miffed my love didn’t “ask for my hand (why the fuck he thought we’d do that anyway idfk) and SHE said well if THAT tradition is out the window, I guess so is the bride’s family paying. When we never asked them for that EXACT reason and planned from the start to part it all ourselves.

And now apparently asking a question and expecting an answer is giving her attitude lmfao not to mention according to my mother that’s been a nurse my entire life and worked closely with insurance companies, she didn’t need my information at all to drop me. Y'all… I can’t even fuckin deal anymore, literally what the fuck are you doing with your life you need to be that goddamn extra with someone half your age you’re supposed to be kind to and take care of 😂😂 I was never a problem child. I never snuck out, or “borrowed” the car, or asked for money all the time. I can count on one hand the number of house parties I’ve been to, then AND now. I’ve had family friends tell me they expected me to be a pregnant drop out or a drug addict or drunk by 16 with all the shit in my childhood, and all I did was REALLY love the library and develop three mood disorders. All because homebitch couldn’t be an adult and be kind to a child bc of her own obsessive and eating disorders and because my dad would never be just hers. So I mean, thanks for making it easy to not feel bad for giving no fucks and I hope you get right with that god you were so worried about me shunning bc man I think he’ll have some shit to say to you 😂 fuckin BYE✌️