#they look like butch lesbians /pos

[lightboundhellhound]

be honest is this a serve

[awakentrashpanda]

What the smiling critter you Simp for says about you 

Disclaimer do not take any of this seriously all of this is for the sole purpose of shits and giggles 

Bubba Bubbaphant

💡As a wise YouTuber once said, there’s people who are attracted to Daddies, and then there’s you, people who are attracted to fathers 

💡You like big men and you cannot lie you other brothers can’t deny (I’m sorry)

💡You’ve also got a thing for polite and classy men, you don’t just want some bum, you want a proper gentleman

💡You probably also like nerds

Dogday

☀️Himbo kisser/pos

☀️Also, I’m a little worried that you might be depressed because Dogday is a constant serotonin dispenser 

☀️You either are a serotonin dispenser or you need a serotonin dispenser 

☀️You’ve probably played Poppy Playtime chapter 3, or at least watch a playthrough of it 

☀️Also I’m willing to bet that cupid’s arrow immediately shot straight through your heart when  Dogday called us “angel”

PickyPiggy

🍎Mommy? Sorry

🍎You probably, if not definitely, like country girls 

🍎*Insert obligatory cannibal sympathizer joke here*

🍎You either are the parent friend in your group or you want to kiss the parent friend in your group 

🍎You either love cooking or you barely know shit about cooking and you want her to cook for you (only if she wants to, of course)

🍎Also you’re probably me 

CraftyCorn

🎨You love shy girls, and you love psycho bitches and with her you get both 

🎨I’m also willing to bet that you’re a Weeb 

🎨Or an artist 

🎨Probably both 

🎨You know the “I will protect this smile” meme? That’s basically you

Catnap

🌙First things first, please for the love of God tell me that you’re referring to the fandom version of cartoon catnap and NOT Theodore 

🌙Catboy kisser/hj

🌙You have a thing for villains, and/or villain-coded characters, and you’re not even remotely shy about it

🌙You know the song “Emo Boy”? That’s basically your theme song

🌙Also, your sleep schedule is probably a disaster

🌙If you play Stardew Valley I’m willing to bet that you married Sebastian 

KickinChickin

⭐️Your taste in men is dumb sons of bitches

⭐️You like men who end up doing something that is prefaced with the phrase “Hey y’all watch this” every single day 

⭐️You also probably had crushes on your high school bullies

Hoppy Hopscotch

⚡️There is nothing you want more in this world than Butch women 

⚡️Also, you probably either are, or know somebody, who drinks at least 3 5-hour energies a day 

⚡️In at least some way shape or form, you want the lesbian version of Kurt and Ram from Heathers 

⚡️You know those muscular women who look like they could benchpress a truck? that’s what you want 

Bobby Bearhug

❤️Very very affectionate 

❤️You probably need a hug 

❤️You also want a very protective woman 

❤️Also you might be into Yanderes 

❤️ if somebody asked you “man or bear?” you would immediately say bear in a heartbeat (and you are incredibly valid for that)

[supergoodfilmanalysis]

The Watermelon Woman: Queer representational strategies as possibility

Cheryl Dunye’s The Watermelon Woman (1996) made history as the first feature film written and directed by a Black lesbian–but the film knows this and extensively explores its appellation as the “first of its kind,” a title Dunye simultaneously treats with frustration and reverence. It’s strikingly self-aware, funny, and inventive, a semi-autobiographical story about Cheryl, a video store clerk and chronically single filmmaker who decides to make a documentary on a mysterious Black actress from the 1930s pigeonholed into playing “mammy” roles who appears in the credits of a film called Plantation Memories simply as “The Watermelon Woman.” It’s a movie about movies! “I am a Black lesbian filmmaker who's just beginning,” Cheryl says, and here the thesis of the movie exhumes itself. The text demonstrates a preoccupation with the power of identity as a representational strategy through imagery and insists on its existence, the Black lesbian gaze resisting hiddenness behind the camera and crafting a visible narrative powered by the excavation of archival memory, the straddling of truth and representations of truth, of real and imagined. Dunye’s filmmaking mirrors her own life while the fictionalized version of herself seeks her own image in the black-and-white static of footage nearly lost to history. The Watermelon Woman chronicles the myriad of interconnected dynamics between art and real life–its awareness of the ways it is speaking about and to itself is demonstratively pointed, with Cheryl often speaking directly to the camera about her project and desire to tell Fae’s story.

Fae Richards, the eponymous Watermelon Woman, symbolizes the Black queer archive that future generations of Black queer filmmakers like Cheryl strive to hold within their canon, and as Cheryl interviews subjects for her documentary on Fae and digs through archives she finds proof not only of Fae’s existence but of her queerness¹. She discovers that Martha Page, the white director of Plantation Memories, and Fae were in a relationship, all the while navigating her own dating life, getting entangled with a white video store patron named Diana, much to her best friend Tamara’s dismay. The ways Cheryl’s relationship with Diana parallels Fae and Martha’s excavates the possibilities and challenges of “race relations” within queerness and the ways white lesbianism often possesses an objectifying curiosity with Blackness. The film’s theoretical standpoint as a piece of media that presents a representational theory of Black queerness pointing out gaping holes in the so-called canon is made imminent by some of its casting choices–cultural critic and infamous haver of weird opinions Camille Paglia appears as a parody of herself and a mouthpiece for white feminist film theory offering a misguided take on the “mammy” sterotype, and love interest Diana is played by Guinevere Turner, cowriter and star of the 1994 lesbian film Go Fish. The Watermelon Woman theorizes that sexuality and race are mutually constitutive and through the production and reception of representational imagery this interrelation is complicated by the relationship between the creator and the recipient of an image–Cheryl is a lover of film as much as she is a filmmaker and a large portion of her desire to tell stories about the complexity of being a Black woman who is many things at once comes from her desire to consume these stories.

Jack Halberstam’s “Looking Butch: A Rough Guide to Butches on Film” bifurcates queer imagery into “positive” and “negative,” necessarily locating “butch” as a visual identity located in media representations in one of two pathologies². Butchness in film is often leveraged to be emblematic of non-normative female sexuality in a way that is easily visually understood, and as a result, butch lesbians in film have more often than not functioned to be objects rather than subjects of inquiry. Halberstam posits that the debate around positive and negative images often returns to early feminist film criticism calling for “positive representations,” categorically rejecting depictions that could be received in their full complexity as anything other than “good.” Halberstam complicates the idea of a positive image by postulating that this desire for queer imagery imbedded with messaging that campaigns for itself places “the onus of queering cinema squarely on the production rather than the reception of images.” The Watermelon Woman explores how cinema is queered both through the production and reception of images; Cheryl watches Plantation Memories for the first time, she reads the queerness in it and it becomes a queer text because of her viewing, then when it is revealed that The Watermelon Woman and the film’s white director were in a relationship, her read is validated. Cheryl’s onscreen presence as a butch lesbian is overtly queer and her and Tamara’s open discussion of lesbianism as well as an intimate sex scene between Cheryl and Diana underscore this film’s goal of moving beyond the implicit in representation, further informing the lesbian lens with with Cheryl uses to analyze and interpret films like Plantation Memories.

Plantation Memories is not a real film, but it might as well be as it represents the startling politics of race films of its time where the white Scarlet O’Hara-type starlet weeps in the arms of the nurturing Black woman with such vigor that it’s hard not to believe in its existence. The consequence of the effects films like it produced continue to be felt in strategies of representation and Fae Richards does not represent an easily “positive” image of queerness–instead occupying a space in the troubling tradition of the racialized dominant images of Black women in film–yet Cheryl recognizes herself in Fae’s performance partially because it is so fraught. She identifies in her relationship with Diana a similar dynamic to Fae Richards and Martha Page, who only cast her lover in highly stereotyped and racially singular roles, where her lesbianism and Blackness are at slight odds with one another when in a relationship with a white lesbian who can relate to her based on only one of those central tenets and displays a voyeuristic and ultimately isolating interest in the other one. The Watermelon Woman argues for complexity beyond “positive” and “negative” imagery and constructs a Foucauldian reverse discourse where negative imagery can be positively productive when viewed critically and rethought. The film invests in the prospect that art can be a two-way conversation and that by beholding representational images, we project our possibilities onto it. The image on the screen dims and the reflection of the audience is left peering back at itself--Dunye holds onto this moment and treats it with tenderness, imbuing this empty space with hope.

@theuncannyprofessoro

Ratnarajah, Anoushka. “Indisputably Real: Cheryl Dunye’s the Watermelon Woman.” Out On Screen, August 6, 2021. https://outonscreen.com/blog/2020/news/indisputably-real-cheryl-dunyes-the-watermelon-woman/.

Halberstam, Jack. Looking Butch: A Rough Guide to Butches on Film" In Female Masculinity, 175-230. New York, USA: Duke University Press, 1998. https://doi.org/10.1515/9780822378112-008

[buried-in-stardust]

⚠️ Content warnings: homophobia, hate crime, knife attack, graphic violence, murder ⚠️

Fong Hiu-tung, 26, and Lau Kai-hei, 22, were stabbed to death by a 39 year old man in a Hong Kong shopping mall on June 2nd, 2023. The man had purchased a knife just before stabbing Fong Hiu-tung in the back. Lau Kai-hei tried to fend off the assailant and pull her partner away, but failed. After stabbing both of them multiple times, the assailant waited calmly for the police to arrive. The police believe the assailant and victims had no connection and did not know each other.

Fong Hiu-tung was a waitress in a high-end restaurant, while Lau Kai-hei was a hair stylist at a nearby salon. Lau Kai-hei also worked part-time at a bar, which is where they had met. On the day of the attack, the couple had planned to meet with Fong Hiu-tung's family to attend her grandfather's birthday party after visiting the mall.

Fong Hiu-tung and Lau Kai-hei loved each other and died for it. May they rest in peace.

Thread has links and information, but contains a graphic video and pictures. Please proceed with caution:

Some details on being a lesbian in China below the cut:

From Naomi Wu, an explanation of what lesbians face in China/Hong Kong:

When men attack Toms (butches), they think a lot of things- sometimes in Chinese we say "one lesbian steals two men's wives"- herself and her partner. And for bitter middle-aged, unmarried men like this attacker, they've been told their whole life they are owed a wife to wait on them hand and foot- and they feel robbed and wronged by a young handsome Tom taking what's "theirs". They are angry, entitled, jealous- they want to teach her a lesson. They want to punish her for having what is rightfully theirs when they don't. Then it's "Oh, if you want to act like a man, I'll treat you like one". Most need to justify it to themselves to get started. Of course, the femme/Dee/P is always next, because we will fight to save our Tom, and once we do, they can justify turning their violence on us next. In their twisted head, they decide their unprovoked attack was "fighting 1-on-1" and it's our fault for getting involved. All Toms know the deal, they cannot win, all Toms tell their girls again and again "if something happens, just run, I can take it". When the time comes, all Toms try to buy their girl time to get away- even as they go down under fists and boots…or knives😭 They want to buy us time, but no femmes can bear to leave them, so it never works. But they always go for our Toms first, then us. Every time.

And Naomi Wu on how the assailant would know they were lesbians:

Good questions "how would he know they were lesbian?". See pictures below- Chinese lesbians with a Tom are pretty obviously lesbians, at least to our eyes. Chinese lesbians basically come in three varieties- T, P, and H. Historically that's 99% of us, these days, probably 95% with a bit more variety coming in. Very, very, very loosely mapped- T- Tom/Butch P-Dee/Femme/Pretty Girl/Po H- Half/Futch (Amber [Lau Kai-hei] kind of gives H vibes but not my place to say.) If you see a butch girl like Daniel [Fong Hiu-tung], or my Kaidi [Naomi's girlfriend], or the other Toms you have seen me with, they're lesbian. I'm sure there are some non-lesbian Chinese women out there with that clear Tom aesthetic- but I've never met one. I suppose there are also some straight guys that look like Tom of Finland Leather Daddies walking around with similar-looking straight male friends- it's just not common. That gender expression is as clear a signal to you, as ours is to us. Some girls that look H are straight, some boyish girls are straight- but almost never Tom presenting women like Daniel or Kaidi. Now two Chinese women with more conventional gender expression simply holding hands would leave plenty of room for doubt, and there is the polite obliviousness of Chinese who will pretend they don't know a LGBT couple is a couple, but if I'm out with Kaidi- or with any Tom, basically zero people don't actually know we're a couple at a glance. That's just how LGBT works here, we have a look. Amber and Daniel were, likewise, for lack of a better word- and in a bit of celebration- flamingly, gloriously lesbian and easily picked out of a crowd as such- as Kaidi and I would be. More here: https://popula.com/2019/03/27/the-t-on-chinese-transmasculinity/

[aloharyda]

Pls tell us more about Joey pls pls pls I wanna know everything

🤼🦆 okay!!

So I'll start with basics!! her full name is Jolene (Joey Jr) Lottie Seon-Vega, 23 years old, 6'2"- a tall boy(uses she/her and he/him pronouns, never use they). She's Honduran and Korean :^)

Can't get into the nitty gritty of things without spoiling parts of his and Tati's story. She's basically this funny guy that Tati had a huge crush on without ever knowing what Joey looked like. They shared a dorm room for a whole year before Tati finally met her face to face, because Joey became fast friends with Tati's twin brother Po.

Tati's whole view on Joey kinda shattered for a moment because she thought Joey was this small sweet girl based on the notes she left for her. (Tati isn't interested in jock types, but she quickly finds out that Joey could care less about sports lol)

Joey is a culinary major so he would cook and bake things, and leave it in their shared fridge for Tati to try. He'd also leave her little notes asking her to write down any allergies or just little "do your best today roomie!" It's the little things that got Tati to fall in love with her.

Sometimes (all the time really) things go over her head so it's really hard for her to realize when someone is flirting with her. Doesn't matter to Tati though because Joey is the first and only person she's ever felt something close to love and she wants him, so she won't rest until Joey understands her feelings. She's my himbo butch lesbian 🫣

[pheonixdrop]

I find it funny how your pride month thing is still pinned. Like it is 2 months past pride but everyone is still lesbian /pos

Real and true. Every character in mcd is a lesbian. If they look like a man? That’s just a very handsome butch. Pheonix Drop is a lesbian commune.

[chamberofpeaches]

stereotypes about pansexual people

cw/tw: extremely controversial rant, homophobia

I don't label myself as pansexual but this is honestly upsetting me.

I have no idea why I keep noticing this but why are most pansexual characters (from shows I watch) either

Extremely flirtatious and charismatic, flustering everyone they interact with

Very bubbly and outgoing, energetic

Loud and bold in some sort of way

now, I probably need to be exposed to more media with pansexual characters, that's true. But I have seen so many "bubbly" pansexual characters, and it irks me. Most people think pansexual people are attracted to everyone or attractive to everyone. Where are the socially awkward pansexual characters? The cynical, dark-humor pansexuals? The no-remorse, villainous pansexuals?? WHERE ARE THEY???

and don't get me STARTED on the "heh, you're pansexual?? what, do you like pans or something???" "joke" that has been overused and is simply insulting at this point. All of my pansexual friends hate that joke. It's not funny at all.

I think another stereotype I have seen floating around is the hypersexual pansexual. It's.. so oof. Just because someone is attracted to every gender does not mean that they are attracted to everyone. Pansexuals don't always fall in love in five seconds, and they're not always looking for sex either. ARGH

Sorry for ranting, I hate when people stereotype certain sexualities and fit them under one or few labels. (Starting to list stereotypes, not stating these as facts) The gay man is the "feminine, gentle boy" that is constantly infantilized, the ace or aro person is apathetic and disinterested in everyone and everything, the bisexual is a confident mess, the lesbians are always butch tomboys, I could go on and on. It's upsetting. It's been shown a million times. Queer people are people, give them different personalities, give them passions, loves, dreams, fears, flaws. Stop tokenizing queer people and giving them "uwu quirky" stereotypical personalities.

Once again, feel free to correct me or shout at me in the replies. I've gotten a little too emotional in this post so I might be very biased, and it's always great to be reminded that I'm wrong sometimes (/pos).

[hertwood]

this kiwi shotputter looks like a butch lesbian (pos)

[queerryan]

Being honest here.

I feel like misandry is a real thing and a problem, but not in the way podcast mfs say it is. They think misandry is when women make any valid criticism about toxic masculinity or patriarchy and (for me) misandry it's those POS who say stuff like "men can't be victims of rape and SA" or don't care about showing some kind of prejudice because they're attacking a man.

I've seen so many gay men talking about being assaulted or harassed by certain groups of women, and then the comment section is "you're making this up" "this didn't happened" (when the guy is harassed by a Fujoshit it's worse, we're called "misogynist" for expose our trauma lol, and I said that as a victim of SA).

Or even like bi/pan/m-spec women who are attacked and mocked for dating men, even tho this is because that's their sexuality.

"oh but this isn't misandry this is homophobia and biphobia" it's both, one thing can be multiple types of prejudice.

And of course just like misogyny also affects in some way men, misandry also affects women, I've met butch lesbians who were attacked by other lesbians for "wanting to look like a men" (for record this what the people who attacked them said, they aren't Butch because they want to look like men).

I rarely talked about when I was harassed for being gay or black because when I did I received this comments like "oh you're a woman hating men" "this never happened to you, you're a men" "you're being misogynist" "you have no idea how hard it is to be a woman" (as if only your pain is valid and no one else have valid struggles).

I'm just tired.

[likeadog]

Got my hair cut... finally if im going to be misgendered i DEMAND i get aligned with lesbians

[lairofsentinel]

Pathfinder: Kingmaker opinions: [Spoilers ahead] At least, spoilers until the point before reaching Pitax. A place you can’t never go in because bugs. Yay.

Meh, the Lore and the main concept of the game is not my cup of tea. “Becoming king/queen and destined to rule lands”, meh, too overused in games... it’s something soooo colonialist to my taste now. I prefer to be part of rebel groups and punks (which are also overused, but what’s not at this moment in the videogame industry?). But well, the narrative was nice, and I was not so bored with the game after the first chapter (the first chapter was horribly slow and you need to endure boredom at deadly doses). 

The resource management got my nerves. So I got some mods to cheat it, because it’s super annoying to lose a loooot of quests and missions just because you are spending time with one of your advisors.  And everything takes so many days to be solved, that you forget completely. And you spend more time in front of a fucking table than playing the RPG. 

That Amiri, omg. She is like Cassandra Pentaghast but completely savage without fucking Andraste and churches and Makers. She’s wildly perfect.... except, she is non-romanceable for my Baroness. Of COURSE!. Never let me get my perfect lesbian couple in any fucking game!. Why games keep doing this to me?, first Aveline, then Cassandra, now Amiri. Let me romance a fucking butch!. Anyway, I took another try with my Baron. I was looking at Tristian, and of course, the cutest softest cuchicuchi priest in the game is straight. He is not even human! for fuck’s sake, why he needs to be hetero? He is willingly to fuck a lesser creature than himself, what would he care about the gender?. It’s the same nonsense that in Mass Effect. Tired, I check the only 2 possible gay options.... and BOTH are bisexuals in a relationship with each other. Which is horrible. Like... seriously? I need to destroy their relationship to have my gay content? Or I have to end up in a polyamory relationship which is not my cup of tea?. [though, I have to praise, this is the first game I play where polyamory is actually a decent option (probably a better option than any gay option) but only with these 2 characters]. In fact, it’s not my cup of tea, but... the hell, probably I will head into it. 

When you check the studio’s explanation of this situation (why they did not offered gay options), they say that they did it in this way because “they didn't have time”. And sure, we can’t have more content because **time**... but it’s always gay/bi content which is cut off. I never fucking heard once “no, look, we could not make more hetero chars because we lacked of resources”.  No. Gayness is just a DLC, always.

It’s funny because, man, they didn't have time to finish the last chapter either, lol!. I’m fucking stuck in Pitax. There were a terrible amount of bugs that prevent you to follow the main quest. So I’m there, unable to play because I always get my kingdom destroyed thanks to the bugs.

Also, the whole design, the style of narrative, the interactions... everything tastes to me to Pillars of Eternity. There are a lot of spell icons that are from PoE. I was surprised. They had no time to even redesign the icons?. Wow. why this game was released then? After chapter 4 it’s a pain in the ass with the amount of bugs. You can’t continue the main quest, nor the companion quests. It breaks the narrative so horribly. 

Regongar is so traumatized. I was not expecting to like him. Even though he is Evil neutral, and I don’t like any kind of “evil” alignment usually, this char gets you. His mind is so fucked up due to the tortures, and still yet, more or less, he tries to be kind of... a decent person. Considering circumstances, of course. 

Octavia was meh. Maybe too coquettish to my style, but I can’t see her background because Pitax is bugged as fuck and I can’t follow her quest, so, I don’t know what’s her true background.  However, the way she and Regongar interact is so cute. And thinking about it, how they could not be that way?, they kept their sanity through years of slavery and torture thanks to their mutual support. Encouraging them to break is really evil. Making Regongar a bit less fucked up with his “my Octavia” thingie would be better.  But I don’t know where that goes. Thanks horrible bugs.

Now, the char that completely got me without even realising about it was Jubilost. Like... the asshole was an annoyance, and make you infuriate most of the time with his attitude of being high in a horse, and now I totally like him to the point to wish a romance with this asshole. Because he is an asshole, that has a lot of material to show off and being a “proper” educated asshole, but at the same time, he is an asshole to himself. He doesn’t go easy when it comes to criticize himself. He sticks so much to the truth that applies it even against him. I totally love those ruthless chars that give a shit about their own emotions in pos of the truth. Jubilost got my complete attention now. Besides, he is a brilliant economist. The kingdom is so fuckign efficient with him. I want to romance this asshole gnome.

[jeneelestrange]

LGBT & Allies, Please Read and Advise

A young man came into our work today, asking about a job. This isn’t unusual. We only take applications online. I haven’t ever heard of them saying it is possible for them to do so in the store--we have no paper application, but we do have several computers(it’s also possible to so so on a smartphone, just takes forever). 

He said he couldn’t do so unless he asked his sister and mother, and the relationship with them was...strained, and he was wary of making it any worse when that was most of what he had right now. I suggested he walk to the library, and he said the only library was downtown and he could only go on foot(I live a town away but commute, but don’t know the local area). THEN, I notced the way he looked. His hair was braided(he was black) in a way that was androgynous. His fingernails were painted pink. He wore a women’s baseball top with “Girly” written on it. He seemed scared, hopeful, yet determined.

Then I realized. He’s probably trans. His parents probably kicked him out because of it. He’s probably staying with a friend, probably an LGBT friend, but who is likely as poor as he is. He may not be able to stay there long. I waited until my manager was out of earshot and whispered to him that the hiring manager was normally here 9-4:30 on the weekdays. It isn’t explicitly against rules to do this, but it certainly isn’t encouraged--and I’m known to follow that rule to a tee. Then I did what I thought was a good test--I said, “Good luck, Sir. Please come back again,” and he was openly happy but he visibly flinched at “Sir.” 

My cashier supervisor was there and was incredulous, but after(what I will now refer to as she)left, I explained to her my suspicions. She immediately seemed to understand my reasoning. She’s dealing with her own internal drama right now, I’m incredibly well-liked, so she’s unlikely to tell anyone I did that. *If* she is “taking us for a ride” like she first said(which happens a LOT in a local hardware chain omg), then that’s a DUMB CON. It’s a tiny po-dunk town in the Deep South. HOWEVER, there are several LGBT people working here who are relatively open(Derrian is young but universally respected for hard work, and they are either a butch lesbian or trans, and they likely went to the same HS a few years older than said trans applicant) and Sally & Kayla(who are both wlw and together, and are related to other people in the store AND are reliable and have been there for years)--and a new driver whose name I don’t know yet who kind of doesn’t care that much and doesn’t seem to be working out all that well.  I think she knew this was her best shot within walking distance. She said she had come to ask a few times before. 

NOW, whether they’ll let her use the computer in the store, I don’t know(I THINK it would be possible). Whether we technically have an opening, I don’t know(we have a Garden Center Loader who SUCKS and looks like a drug addict and is on a monthly probation which I’ve never seen them do before--HOWEVER, he is VERY slowly improving, he is related to a long-standing but also kinda lazy other employee, and I have told my manager that according to my professional former teacher opinion he needs to be re-evaluated for a learning disability and get an occupational therapist, otherwise he’s likely doomed here). Our store is VERY lenient with workers who screw up. So I have NO IDEA what they will do.

I am going to tell the cashier supervisor who saw me talk to him that, if she sees her, that the supervisor needs to tell them to go see me in garden center. I don’t normally have cash on me, but I may hide the majority of my birthday money in my sock to give to him--possibly each day for a couple of days until I see him. I might also put my phone on me that day so he can sit and fill out the application online--and though it’s against the rules, I am the ONLY cashier who NEVER has her phone on me. I also am going to advice him to buy a track phone, and give him my number and name, while telling him that I can’t take calls all the time but I can get back to any left messages or texts. I also just looked up the local LGBT chapter for my town on Facebook and will be joining their newsletter, then asking them for help and advice. I may have to tell a few lies of omission to my husband because, though he’s as understanding as I am, he’s also a bit more mistrustful than me in general and just plain would be protective of me with any stranger. Within reasonable ability--not substantially diminishing my money, relationships with my immediate family, or the same, I am looking for as many more options as I can to help her. I DON’T EVEN KNOW HER NAME, just that she’s within walking distance of my store(there’s a nearby apartment complex.  Edit: If anyone happens to have local resources, I live in South Louisiana, about two hours from New Orleans and an hour from Baton Rouge. I am willing to meet in any relatively safe public place to manage. I am also reasonably active in the local Indivisible group. ANY advice is welcome. SERIOUSLY.

[kmclaude]

imyourdesign replied to your post “Please don't call lesbians "dykes”

FUCKING THIS i was constantly called a dyke and many other disgusting names before, and after i came out. I'm 2 years into my transition and it still happens. These people are fucking ridiculous. Still love you kmclaude.

I’m sorry that happens and that it continues to happen. It’s a sad reality. It’s something I think people who maybe don’t experience the dissonance between how you appear and who you are don’t realize, which is that you can say you’re Y up, down, left, and right and you can take all the right steps to make yourself reflect Y as much as you are able but as long as people see X, you’re gonna be treated and perceived, positively and negatively, as X. 

nihilistic-void replied to your post “The only way you can repeat dyke without using it as a slur is if...”

*calls myself a faggot and a dyke* Tumblr: *has a fucking stroke*

WELCOME TO THE TUNGLE IT GETS WORSE HERE EVERY DAY

@kirtlandswarbler​ replied to your post “Wow, didn't know "people who aren't lesbians shouldn't say dyke" was...”

I mean tbh I have to agree with the idea that people who can't reclaim a slur shouldn't use that slur so the anon kind of has a point there but at the same time imo in your comic it was used as an expression of frustration and seemed like a slur that had actually been used against you instead of just you using a slur for the hell of it

I would agree except that anon is arguing a point A to prove unrelated point C when what happened was B. I’m not reclaiming anything. I’m not going around going “I’M FATHER CLAUDE, THE DYKIEST DYKE OF ALL DYKES!!! PCRD: PATER CLAUDIUS REX DYKIORUM!!!!” I’m, similar to what you said, expressing a frustration of the reality of where I am in my presentation: I am seen as a butch lesbian, a dyke -- rarely (RARELY!!!!!) am I pegged for a teenage boy -- and sadly the only fashion catered to androgyny is expensive af and catered to lesbian (oft cis) women in the butch subculture so the result of buying the only fashion that understands my body is that I would go from being seen as “the dyke” to “the fancy dyke who is now po’ as shit”

sgt-spank replied to your post “me: points out that you used a slur you have no right to repeat while...”

When the term is used as fuel against you in order to harm you and when you are oppressed by the term, then you are allowed to use the term. I have also been called these things before. In fact it has been used as a weapon against me and many trans men. It's what we are seen as, so...

it’s what we’re seen as as afab masc presenting people and we deserve to be able to talk about that reality! 

@vikingcarrot replied to your post “Ya know, when a bunch of lesbians come and tell you something you did...”

Baffled by the notion that just because someone feels offended by something, it automatically means that thing, or the thing that contains it, must be shut down immediately, no questions asked, no critical thinking or context required. As though Being Offended gives anyone the right to control other peoples' expression of experience or their actions.

Sorry I was busy having warflashbacks to right wing christians being offended at my existence and the existence of other queers and also non-Jesus media and Harry Potter.

Being Offended and Being Correct are not the same thing.

pashastrelnikov replied to your post “Serious question. Do you think that it might be possible, that since...”

Okay. I read the comic and last I checked you're literally just going "Well I'm going to get called this/have been called this" which is neither calling anyone the thing NOR reclaiming it? You're literally saying people are going to/have called me X? You're basically transcribing what other people are saying so idek what's the issue

Yeah, thanks for pointing that out -- as I said elsewhere I’m not reclaiming it I don’t understand where this dichotomy of reclamation or slur comes from? Because the reality is: I ain’t a lesbian. I don’t like chicks. I don’t like dudes. I’m pretty squarely ace. And I ain’t a fucking chick. But the reality is I look like a chick. I look butch. I get called dyke. I get whispers that I’m a lesbian. And it’s very painful misgendering because no, I’m not, I’m a man, why can’t anyone see that, why do I even bother since I’m only gonna get “ma’am” to my face and “fucking dyke!” behind my back, never sir. And that’s my issue. And that’s what the comic is about: it’s that clothes will always always make me look like a kid playing dress up and the clothes that help me are expensive as fuck and read as and are marketed to the butch subculture which means I get to fuck off a chunk of my paycheck to go from “hey dyke!” to “hey fancy dyke!” which...sucks. At least hey faggot would acknowledge I’m a fucking man.

enbylebeau replied to your post “Your diary comic didn't even come off that way to me?? You didn't even...”

personal opinion, in the context you used the slur in I was ok with it? Internalized thought and vocabulary is sometimes not the best chosen, and I think part of a diary comic is showing the moment itself. But I feel almost like the original anon really didn't care about the use of "dyke" as more than an angry afterthought.

oh def, it’s outrage to be outraged. people see a word they don’t like and see a person they deem unable to say the forbidden word and throw a fit. like curse words. except the reality is I am perceived as a butch lesbian woman and get called dyke, I’m already seen as a “dyke” and you can’t...pretend that’s not true. You can’t pretend that I’m not seen as not just a lesbian woman not just a butch lesbian woman but all the vitriol and hatred and disgust that gets imbued in dyke because that’s what people perceive even if the reality is I’m a tranny.