#they gave a lot of Kate's sympathy storyline to Tully and it pisses me off

[animezinglife]

I have no idea what they’re doing with the show, but even from the gifs I’ve seen it’s strayed so far from the book that I’ve been trying to piece together whether Kate’s even the same character. She certainly looks like Kate. I can tell she has Kate’s insecurities and awkwardness. I can't tell if she's as endearing.

I’m also deeply confused by the lesbian line, but aside from that you’re exactly right. Her entire life, Kate has been the “unseen” one. The “boring” one everyone forgets. By nature, she’s a caretaker--I believe Johnny even notes this in the show and he certainly becomes aware of it in the book.

Kate’s issues stem from the combination of her insecurities and that frustration of how everyone gravitates towards or even prefers Tully. She’s jealous of Tully in a lot of ways, but always tries to be there for her. Tully just takes. She uses and takes from others for her own personal satisfaction (no matter how brief) or gain.

Running the risk of spoilers, Kate never does catch a break. She’s dealt the short end of the stick in every way and everything about her story--with the exception of her marriage to Johnny in the book--is unfair to the point it’s sickening. Her marriage at least became a point of pride for her and something she eventually found herself and confidence in outside of Tully. 

I only know the Tully from the book, and if I'm being honest, I'm not a fan. I don't know if the show just tries to paint her a victim in every capacity or what, but I sincerely hope that if people read the book, they'd feel very differently or at least be a bit more nuanced in their takes.

And I do not get why people hate Kate in general. Everybody on the show had issues. Tully was a very needy friend and she needed someone stable in her life which was Kate. She never had a stable home and in some ways Kate took the caregiver role in their relationship. But Kate had issues too. Yes, it might look she had issues because she wasn't a lesbian in the 70s and neither did she had absent parents but that doesn't mean she didnt have her own set of issues. Her whole life everybody of importance had preffered Tully over her. Sean wanted Tully to give speech at his wedding. He was always more close with Tully. Her parents too had a liking towards Tully. Johnny too was into Tully before her. Her kid prefers to talk with Tully too. So, no she didn't have it easy either.

Stop hating on her so much. Everybody in the show have issues which make them flawed.