#then again i DID say that i'm tired of allosexuals so maybe i'm tired enough of them for me to fall asleep

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What LGBTQ topics are you not confident enough to write about? Or that you have no interest to write about?

Hmmmmmmmmm I mean, nothing really comes to mind? I think my interest hinges more on the characters than anything else, and thus my interpretation of the characters influences the kind of queer topics I tap into. I tend to skew towards asexual/aromantic themes as a rule simply because I'm aroace, sex-repulsed, and very tired of everything being about romance sksksk - but that doesn't mean I don't like writing about romance! I've definitely done that, and enjoyed it. Again, it kind of comes back to the characters - for example, I have very limited interest in writing the thirteenth doctor as a lesbian, simply because my read on her as being aro/acespec and genderqueer/agender is so important and personal to me - but that doesn't mean I don't have any interest in writing about lesbian characters. Case in point - at least two of the characters in the screenplay I'm writing at the moment are lesbians (there may be a third but she's not telling me if she's bi or gay, and tbh that's valid of her). I guess, regarding confidence, I would feel less confident writing about queer topics outside my own personal experience, simply because it's outside my personal experience - but that's a fixable issue, right? See: I didn't feel confident writing about transfemme characters, but then I wrote a human au fic where the doctor was transfemme, did a lot of reading around about it, and now I feel confident enough to have one of the lead characters in the aforementioned screenplay be a trans woman! And like, obviously I can infer a lot from my own trans experiences, so maybe that's a bad example - but you get me. I see it similar to writing about, say, a profession I don't know about. I approached writing thirteen as a trans woman in a similar way to how I approached her being a virologist skksksks and I knew NOTHING about virology and immunology. Now I know a lot!

I think the only topic I can think of that I wouldn't want to dip into really is stuff to do with queer sex, but that's because I cannot write about anything sexual. There's actually a story idea I had focusing on aspec characters, with a lead character who was fraysexual, and another who was demi - and I would love to write that but the plot is like, inherently built around sexual attraction and stuff like that SKKSKS and alas!! I would have a terrible time. It's actually a problem I have with finding asexual media in general - because so often asexuality is talked about in the context of sexuality (obviously), but then it means you get shows that are focused on allosexual characters and their allosexuality, with the ace character there in contrast - a good example of this would be s2 of Sex Education, I think? I've not watched it for obvious reasons SKSKSK but like I think that show sounds amazing and wonderful and I'm so glad it exists, AND that it includes ace rep!! But I can't watch it SKSKSKSKS RIP ME. Which is why I enjoyed Koisenu Futari SO SO MUCH because it was focused completely on asexuality and aromanticism (as well as like, showing experiences and emotions I'd felt in a show that I'd literally NEVER SEEN BEFORE and it was like, a gut punch. And also it was hilarious. Truly an aromantic comedy). ANYWAY. Hope that answers your question!

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Okay, I know this has been said and has been around for years, but I'm annoyed so I'm making a post myself. But I do not understand why people are so convinced fans of male characters just want to sleep with the actor of said male character and/or the character. I've encountered this mostly in regards to Loki and Bucky, but I'm sure this is something that transcends the MCU fandom. And I'm sick and tired of it. So I'm going to dump my feelings here. Sorry if it makes no sense. Feel free to add on if you want to.

You shouldn't assume someone's gender and sexuality. If you talk to a random fan on Tumblr, you don't know who they are. So maybe people should stop assuming the fans of every attractive male character are straight girls (I say straight girls specifically because it is often said explicitly or implicitly that the fans wanting to f*ck characters/actors are fangirls). You could be talking to someone any gender or sexual/romantic/etc orientation. How do you think some of us feel when you "call us out" for being "horny b*tches" when we aren't attracted to men like that? How would you feel if I accused you of wanting to sleep with a person you don't have those desires for? Not great probably. Think of that. It should be basic politeness to not accuse people of crap like that.

People are allowed to be attracted to fictional characters. In fact, the creators probably want people to have some sort of attraction to many characters (there's a reason for gratuitous shirtless scenes). People are attracted to who they're attracted to. Not that big of a deal. So stop acting like it's a crime.

There are different types of attraction and not everyone who is attracted to a character is attracted in every way. Let's take Bucky and Loki as examples. I am not sexually attracted to either, but I am attracted to them in other ways, such as aesthetic attraction and romantic attraction. If I were to, for example, write a post criticizing how Loki looks in Loki, that doesn't mean I'm upset because I don't find him and/or Tom Hiddleston sexy in the series. It means that (for me, personally) I am upset that he doesn't look as good because Loki/Tom are aesthetically pleasing as heck but the costuming, make up, lighting, etc was somehow able to make him look bad. I am personally upset because of my attraction, but also for reasoning outside attraction (why would you make your protagonist look like sh*t?).

Regardless of whether someone has attraction towards a character/actor, they can still have nuanced opinions on that character. Listen, I'm not going to say I'm unbiased. I know for a fact I'm not. I adore my favorite characters and am attracted to a few of them. I know that will affect my views on them at least a bit. But that doesn't mean every opinion I have on them is driven from my attraction. I'm demiromantic, so it's obvious for me. I had to like them before I liked them romantically. But alloromantic allosexuals can have valid opinions on characters regardless of whether they're attracted or not. Listen, compare this to real life. If you've been attracted to someone, you can still have opinions on them unrelated to you're attraction. If you are so blinded by attraction you can't, you need to get that figured out. Regardless of attraction, you can probably come up with some constructive criticism for them and some compliments anyone else would give them. Same thing applies to fictional characters! So does it really matter all that much if someone is attracted to a character they analyze? No, not really. They'll be accurate enough and it's analysis on a fictional character. It's not the end of the world if done wrong. Sure, someone could be so biased they admit no flaw of a character. But I bet you the majority of people attracted to characters can regulate their bias somewhat. Even if it's a, "He's cute, but did kill the dog." And, again, we're talking about fiction. Maybe you shouldn't be so offended by people having attractions/hobbies that don't affect you.

You immediately lose credibility if you're argument against an argument is saying crap about horny fangirls. How is that an argument against a well constructed analysis? Would you do it for a real life person? If I defended my friend, would you "call me out" for wanting to have sex with him? What if he was my husband? Would you "call me out" for thinking he's sexy (in a hypothetical world where I would find anyone sexy)? I certainly hope not. It's not a good argument, and once you use it you just become irritating.

Take a second and think about it. Have you seen people accusing men of wanting to have sex with female characters/actresses? I mean, it definitely happens. And maybe I just don't see that side of fandom enough, but in my experience it happens way more when the actor/character is a man. So are you saying women primarily are in fandom for the sake of hot men? You might not be thinking that, or realize you are, but recognize the implications. If you think every woman's favorite character is her favorite because of daydreams of sex, that's an issue. Because not everything is about sex for women. Women aren't shallow viewers. Women love their favorite characters. They might have daydreams of sex, it's entirely possible. But as mentioned before, that doesn't lower the amount they can critically consume media or analyze characters.

Dude, if you don't like a character, actor, or the content they come from, whatever. No one cares. You don't have to try to argue that fans are horny to not like it. Write your own posts about how you feel. Don't harass anyone who does like it. This is basic knowledge on online interaction.

Every time I've seen the "argument" that "you just want to be in bed with X," it's after a post about sensitive plot points. If I say I don't like parts of The Falcon and the Winter Solider because they portrayed Bucky's very poorly, essentially saying he was never a victim to Hydra and had to atone for "his" sins, that is the type of post that would get stuff about me wanting to sleep with Bucky. If I mention queerphobia, racism, or say the content has harmful things, then clearly I just want to f*ck the character and/or actor and am defending him. You see why I'm suspicious of these people? What's you're problem with me being concerned about the portrayal of mental health treatment?

Even if someone only ever makes content about how much they think X is sexy, it doesn't mean they're lesser fans. They just really like X sexually. They probably have lots of opinions they just don't share. People are allowed to choose which opinions to share.

...I got nothing else but would've been annoyed to end on #9 (unfortunately I'm like that). So let me tell you to just STOP with "calling people out" for finding X sexy. It makes you look stupid, it's rude, and it has no relevance.