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ifbrd · 4 years ago
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Not Sugar-Coated, ToBecky Critique from a ToBecky Shipper
Let’s talk about Tobecky and it’s toxicity! And for once, let’s not hold back! I think what I’m gonna do for this post is focus on the dynamic they have in the show, mostly criticizing my own misogyny but calling out the fandom in general as well, as I’ve seen other’s do these same things. Later I will reblog it on the Word Up blog and continue my thoughts on the ship and how it affected Word Up.
The first thing I will say is that I am a Tobecky shipper, ever since Tobey’s first shorts when it was revealed he had a crush on WordGirl. I started watching this show as a kid, I would have been 9 or 10 when it started airing on PBS. If I were to get into this show today, however, I don’t think I would be shipping tobecky, because as an adult I can recognize its toxicity which I didn’t have the proper knowledge or understanding to do back in the day. And I think the real reason I still ship today is purely nostalgic. Though I won’t deny that their dynamic is interesting and that likely affects my shipping brain too.
As a kid, I think I shipped it because, well it seemed inevitable. It seemed like the only endgame option. How many romcoms start with a girl liking one boy, only to realize later she should be with a different guy, usually an underdog the audience is supposed to root for. How many romance stories start with the two not liking each other, ranging anywhere from minor annoyances for each other to full-blown enemies, only to later understand it was all a guise to hide their true feelings. It seemed obvious that Becky/WordGirl would end up with not Scoops, whom she had a crush on, but instead Tobey, the underdog she always was fighting or arguing with. Factor in Tobey’s crush, my very underdeveloped ability to think critically, and the fact that the writers in early seasons seemed to really take the time to focus on the potential chemistry between these two (their interactions in “Department Store Tobey” and both of them having a good time together in “Have You Seen the Remote?” etc) and it seemed there was only one boy for Becky to logically end up with.
The first time I can recall really questioning this ship, I mean really questioning it, was sometime in probably my sophomore or freshman year? Maybe my junior year? I recall my health teacher teaching us about healthy vs unhealthy relationships. In this unit, I realized several of my favorite ships across various fandoms were unhealthy but that’s a whole other topic. At one point I remember him giving his two cents about the phrase “opposites attract” when being applied to romance. He said this can be true, but only if the two are “opposites” in personality, and not “opposites” in values. If a couple’s values, their morals, don’t align, they probably aren’t going to make it. And in all honesty, I think Tobey and Becky have the worst possible combination for this.
They have very similar personalities, and while this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it can make it easier for them to encourage their negative traits instead of helping them overcome them. The traits they both share like pridefulness, attention-seeking, and being a bit obsessive, have the potential to be the traits they bring out in each other. The best counter-argument for this is the fact that Becky is willing to and would call Tobey out for everything wrong or ridiculous he does, and try to help him. But that doesn’t matter if Tobey is not willing to listen to her when she calls him out, or accept her help when she offers it and he needs it. And it’s especially worthless if he’s not willing to help her back.
Meanwhile, the biggest weakness for this ship is their opposite values. Their morals couldn’t be more apart from each other. Get these two together for long periods of time and a morality war would easily ensue. And then combined with if their similar personalities do end up bringing the worst in each other, then any relationship they could have would be disastrous.
The worst issues with their pairing all go back to Tobey. I love Tobey as a character, don’t get me wrong, but we need to be honest, and please excuse the language--Tobey is a piece of shit! He is disrespectful to everyone around him, except his mother, and that’s only because he’s scared of her He thinks he’s better than everyone else and has no issues expressing that opinion, even going as far as to try to define words for WordGirl. He goes as far as to belittle her in “Tobey or Consequences” criticizing her word choice. He has been shown on multiple occasions to lose his mind when he doesn’t get exactly what he wants and will do anything to get it, without regard for others’ property, feelings or safety. He’s manipulative as seen in “Tobey Goes Good” and “Have You Seen the Remote.” He’s unwilling to take responsibility for his actions, as demonstrated when he attacks the candy factory for making candy because he got a cavity, instead of realizing that he should have taken better care of his teeth.
And worst of all, despite what he and the audience often believe, he clearly doesn’t give a single shit about WordGirl. If he cared about her he would have acknowledged her disinterest, if he cared about her, he wouldn’t have tried to force Becky into admitting she’s WordGirl in “By Jove, You’ve Wrecked My Robot.” If he cared about her, he wouldn’t have pretended to be good or trick her into spending time with him or forced her to read poems about him. In the Halloween special he thought Violet was WordGirl just because she was wearing a WordGirl costume, failing to acknowledge that Violet is blonde and white and WordGirl is clearly not.
The episode “WordBot” makes it very clear what kind of relationship Tobey wants from WordGirl--and it’s not a relationship. It’s a dynamic where she simply showers him with never-ending adoration and does whatever he wants. Tobey cares about one person and one person only and it’s not WordGirl, it’s himself.
And I’m not even counting “Go Gadget Go” in any of this! That episode put him in such a bad light that most fans pretend it doesn’t exist because his behavior is so inexcusable. And yet even without that episode, we have plenty of toxicity coming from Tobey’s end.
I once saw someone say they hate the tobecky ship because the argument for it often is that Becky will be willing to put up with Tobey when they’re older. First of all, if that’s your argument in tobecky’s favor you need to go take a good hard look at yourself. Becky putting up with Tobey’s messed up behavior is essentially hoping she ends up in a horrible, toxic, unhealthy, relationship that would be borderline abusive if she didn’t stand against him. Secondly, while I don’t deny the existence of this argument, (I once read a fanfic where the two were married but still a hero and villain who battled regularly) I disagree with the idea that this argument is most often used to justify the ship. Instead, the most common argument to justify it is the idea that Tobey has it in him to change. This is certainly a better argument, as Tobey changing is really the only hope for this ship.
But I think it’s really easy for us, myself included, to struggle with the line between finding evidence that Tobey could change vs excusing his actions; the line between finding an explanation for his behavior vs finding an excuse for him. It’s a very easy line to accidentally cross without realizing it. And it really says something when, as discussed in another post, we are not giving other villains like Victoria--who have more of an “excuse” --the same treatment. It’s incredibly misogynistic.
I’m not going to try to argue that Tobey doesn’t have the capability to be good, of course, he does. We can see this in the cute note he leaves in Becky’s backpack in “Trustworthy Tobey” and in the very last moments in the Thanksgiving special, and of course in our favorite example, “It’s Your Party and I’ll Cry if I Want to.” I’m also not saying that Tobey’s actions and psychology aren’t the product of the environment and circumstances he faces daily. Of course having no father figure present, a single mother who is always working, and no friends is going to affect a child. What I want to question is when is Tobey responsible for his own life, choices, and actions? Maybe not now at age 10-11, but what about when he’s 13? 16? 18? 21? 40? Where do we draw that line? I also don’t want to discourage looking for the good in people and characters and thinking critically about how their past and psychology is affecting their actions. I want to encourage that in all characters, not just the boy who happens to have a crush.
And while it’s nice to speculate that Tobey will follow a better path in the future, not so much for tobecky as much as for the betterment of Tobey himself, we need to realize that it’s just speculation. We have no canon proof of where his story goes post-WordGirl. He has his moments of hope but overall this kid has a terrible track record. When it comes to others, Tobey makes terrible choices. And that’s exactly what “going good” will be--a choice--his choice.
I also want to take a moment to talk about something @fromtheplanethexagon said in this amazing post you should totally read because it’s great. They commented on how very few people when writing tobecky fanfics takes the time to explore her perspective of their feelings for each other. Where her feelings originate and why she would like him. This is something I am absolutely guilty of and will be paying attention to in the future. After reading that passage from their post I thought for a while why Becky would like Tobey, and I honestly struggled with it a bit, which shouldn’t be happening if I’m trying to write a healthy tobecky story. That’s all I’ll say on this for now because beyond this I would use Word Up as an example, so I’ll save that for later.
The older I get the more I realized how toxic this ship is. Heck, who knows what I’ll realize about it in the future when I’m even more mature. In the past I’ve tried to convince myself it’s okay I ship it because I never shipped Tobey with WordGirl, I shipped him with Becky. I know they are the same person, but Tobey doesn’t know that, and the dynamics between him and each of her egos are very different. The dynamic between Tobey and WordGirl reminds me of Gideon and Mabel from Gravity Falls. Meanwhile the one between Tobey and Becky reminds me more of the one between Jimmy and Cindy from The Adventures of Jimmy Neutron. That’s better right? Even if just a little bit? Well no, not really, because we all know darn well if Tobey fell for Becky instead of WordGirl he would treat Becky exactly the same as he treats WordGirl. He would ultimately have the same “WordBot esc” expectations. If anything he might try to treat her worse. With WordGirl there is a clear power balance, and while it’s still technically there with Becky, Tobey doesn’t know it’s still there and might try to use that to his advantage.
And to conclude I’d like to add to @fromtheplanethexagon above-mentioned post (here’s the link again, seriously, read it!). Regarding their final thoughts that it’s fine to explore the ship, and it’s fine to explore the unhealthy parts of the ship. But we need to be careful to not glorify the toxicity of the potential pairing.
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fountainpenguin · 6 years ago
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Aspects of Becky’s / WordGirl’s character I really love
When the Narrator gave her the choice of how they should transition to the next scene and she apologized to Exposition Guy for choosing “conveniently turning on the TV at the right moment” over him
That time the Narrator couldn’t believe she actually dressed up as WordGirl for Halloween and she defended herself by pointing out that she already had the costume
When the Narrator feeds her hints and she scolds him for reading ahead in the script
Basically any time she talks to the Narrator ever
That time Dr. Two-Brains went good and invited her over and she was so on edge that she whirled around and slammed him into the wall
That time Chuck begged her to stop the zookeeper from listing off fun panther facts and she told him she couldn’t do anything unless he breaks a law
That time she honestly struggled to decide between riding a pony or saving the world
“It’s not that hard to get a key to the city. I have like 40 of them.”
Her terrible cover-ups when she gives herself away. “Way to go, Dad!” “Did you just call me Dad?” “No.”
Her relationship with her dad in general, like when he kept urging her to dance with him and they ended up compromising by talking things out and not forcing her to dance onstage if it made her uncomfortable
“Yeeeeah, here’s the thing, Miss Power. We don’t really talk about Chuck’s... I mean, he’s a sensitive guy...”
When she laughs at her own jokes and awkwardly trails off when no one else laughs
The running gag that she has no artistic ability whatsoever, and also this extends to her inability to create poems and her inability to sing
That time she tried to shimmy her way through a force-field while Dr. Two-Brains looked on in confusion and disappointment
When she gave the newbie villains a head start on their getaway
Whenever she procrastinates fighting crime to watch TV or play with her unicorn figurines
Any time she stops in confusion to question a villain about their evil plans, and sits down to listen with honest curiosity while they explain
Every time she gets jealous when someone else wins a key to the city
When she and The Butcher compliment each other on their witty banter
When she refers to Kid Potato as “Sir”
Her progression of taking Kid Math by the shoulders and gently leading him off-screen to flat-out sliding him across the floor in unbridled rage
Her exasperation with Kid Math in general is just very good
When she stops to giggle over how cute / ridiculous the villains are
That time she was scanning the crowd and stopped in the middle to gush over how pretty this one random lady was
That time she helped push Mr. Big’s car out of the snow
When she let Lady Redundant Woman monologue for ten minutes because she thought interrupting her would be rude
Whenever she stops mid-duty to say Hi to random citizens
Her “Oh, it’s just you again,” attitude whenever she encounters Amazing Rope Guy
Any time she gets confused when civilians stop her from arresting a villain because they think the villains are cool
That time she snuck away to read the stolen princess book instead of returning it to the bookstore
When she picks Tobey up with one hand or carries him around on her shoulders
When she accused Tobey of stealing a library book with no proof and after she found out she was wrong her pride made it so incredibly difficult to apologize but then she DID
When she tries so hard to remember the Energy Monster is female even though breaking her series-long habit of referring to her as male is really hard for her
When she accidentally revealed herself to be WordGirl while defining “realize” in front of Tobey and two seconds later realized “Oh wait shoot I shouldn’t have used my secret identity as an example of something that someone might realize.”
When she pounced on the opportunity to turn Whammer into a good law-abiding citizen and absolutely wouldn’t take ‘No’ for an answer
When she gave a heartfelt speech about doing what you love and accidentally convinced The Butcher to return to a life of crime
When she was touched that Chuck was worried about her when she went out of town without telling him
How happy and goofy she is with Violet when they’re playing and singing and just being friends together
When she and Tobey bonded over not the fact that neither of them were invited to Katie’s birthday party
When she and Tobey went for ice cream and he asked her if she was buying and she said “I’m buying my own” without missing a beat
That time she and The Learnerer bonded over the fact that neither of them understand art
When she broke down in tears watching Rhyme and Reason make up
Basically any time she does innocent ten-year-old things and makes choices a ten-year-old would she’s so cute I love her
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