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random2908 · 2 years ago

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I’ve been in California for a month now.

I miss my friends a lot, and in particular having a community I could lean on when I needed it; I miss my nice big apartment with the mortgage fully paid off and everything in its place rather than still in boxes; and it sucks that because of a bad boss I had to completely uproot my life like that and I’m still dealing with the fallout.

But I do not at all regret moving back to California. My life in Michigan was comfortably stagnant in a way that would have been fine. Ok. Not harmful to live out for the rest of my life. But I did sometimes lament that I wanted a shake-up, maybe a new set of friends to supplement the very-introverted ones I already had. Nothing this big, but, hey, I got my shake-up. It’s going to take a while, especially to build community--the friends I already around here have are good for weekend hangouts, but mostly don’t live close enough to lean on. But despite all that, despite the work I’m going to have to put in to put my life back together, I can already tell that things are just going to be a lot better here. I’m really looking forward to that.

#and you know my social life already isn't that bad considering #the friend who lives 10 minutes away wants to do regular hangouts with board games and walks and stuff #right now we're doing every other week but might move to every week #the friend who lives two hours away and her mother want to see me monthly--we're going to alternate who drives #and my siblings and I were always supposed to be the aunts and uncle for her children--but it never panned out because we lived so far apart #(she's an only child but we went to preschool together and she got to hold my little sister before my middle sister and I did #the morning after my sister was born. and we slept over at each other's houses every weekend in elementary school. so almost-siblings)#but now it can--now I at least can build that sort of relationship with them #the months where my friend and her mother visit the kids won't come--too long a drive--but I'll still see them every other month #plus I'm pretty sure my brother and his wife are trying to have kids now and I'm only an hour and a half from them by plane #so living here gives me a lot of opportunities to be an aunt #which is its own kind of community-building

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