#the female lead as 'the magical girl'. . . .i really related to her like i'm sorry as someone who had to grow up fast

[littlestarprincess]

. . . I hate when people mistake "the narrative doesn't explore this female character's interiority" with "this female character is dumb and helpless".

It's better when they say "passive" because at least that is something you can concretely see or not see, but . . . when you don't see anything of a female character's thought processes and default to assuming she's "dumb and helpless" that says more about you than anything else.

[tiredbitchposts]

Do you mind if I ask your top 10 favorite characters (can be male or female) from all of the media that you loved (can be anime/manga, books, movies or tv series)? And why do you love them? Sorry if you've answered this question before.....Thanks...

Sure i'll try my best to answer this for you

10-) Gaara from Naruto

Reason: He's the first antagonist i've ever rooted for, not for his plans but for his mental health. When i first saw his backstory i just wanted to riot bc damn, people really treated this boy like a monster since day one and then got surprised when he started acting like it, i just wanted him happy and at the least i got that at the end of the anime (No, i refuse to watch Boruto on principle)

9-) Tsukiyomi Ikuto from Shugo Chara

Reason: We all have our problematic shoujo male leads that we love. In my defense i watched Shugo Chara when i was 12 years old and it wasn't until later when i realized the age difference but even then i still have a soft spot for him in my heart. He and his sister suffered so much and i just want them happy, healthy and taken care of (he's also the reason why i'm into catboys now that i think abt it)

8-)Naruto Uzumaki from Naruto

Reason: He's my baby boy (not in a carnal way), i watched this boy grow up rooting for him to achieve his dreams, he's the first male protagonist i was emotionally invested in and ngl to this day i still read fix-it fics for his childhood because in my heart of hearts he deserves it (Still refusing to watch Boruto tho)

7-) Haruka Nanase from free! Iwatobi swim club

Reason: The reason is not as deep as the others i'm afraid, i genuinely loved Free! When it first came out, i was obsessed with Haru's character and the way he was as a person, he's extremely attractive and i want to crack him open like an egg and study his insides (he's also very shipable and i like that in a fictional man)

6-) Kageyama Tobio from Haikyuu

Reason: He's my awkward lil guy. I loved the way he developed as a character, from a temperamental, lonely volleyball genius to the type of guy that still uses the signature his upperclassman came up for him in high school as a pro player. I also really liked how we only got the reason why he was acting like he did in middle school only at the end of the end of the manga and how it made everything make sense in retrospect

5-) Hinamori Amu from Shugo Chara

Reason: Shugo Chara was my first magical girls anime and i still have a really soft spot for Amu in my heart. I know she's not the most well written deep characters around but i really like how she was an escape for me when i was younger. She was a pretty, popular, preteen girl who was an awkward mess and while i could only relate to the awkward mess, the fact that she got publicaly rejected by her crush and her taste in fashion i still watched her go because it felt good to see her do so

4-) Jason Todd from the Batman franchise

Reason: He's my babygirl (not always in a carnal way), this boy suffered so much in life, was happy for a few years, got brutally murdered, then brought back to suffer more. He's one of Dc's favorite punching bags and my dream is to see him happy, healthy and in therapy. Really hate how his own father won't avenge his death or let him do it himself, just fuck that clown already since you like him so much

3-) Wei Wuxian from Mdzs

Reason: I really do have a thing for red wearing, died but got better, on his second life but sluttier than ever characters. This boy deserves the world, he did do many morally reprehensible things in his time but it's all justified because i said so, he deserved his happy ending and my only complaint is that it didn't come sooner

2-) Shen Qingqiu from Scum Villain's self-saving system

Reason: This man is a whole ass clown, a walking contradiction, he's the reason why some people describe Scum Villain as a greek tragedy with clown music playing in the background. I've never seen someone so in-tune but detached from reality, bro doesn't even know his own emotions, on the inside he's a chronically online millenial on the outside he's the milfiest shizun in the Cang Qiong mountain sect and everyone knows it

1-) Kagome Higurashi from Inuyasha

Reason: This is my girl and i'll not take any criticism for it. She's a 15 years old middle schooler having to go back in time to fix a magical jewel to save japan and she's being so brave about it. She's an extremely kind person, does her best to see the good in everyone, even in people that attempted om her life before, she's a bit immature at times and has a temper but again, she's 15. She deserved better in general and because of that, and many more other reasons, that i fucking refuse to ever watch Yashahime, i just think it sucks she didn't even get to raise her daughter

[offbeat-manga-ships]

i feel deeply insane asking this but i figured you might know if any, do you know of any older sister/younger brother stuff that isn't like. danseimuke series? it feels impossible to find older sister stuff that isn't designed for men when older brothers are a lot more popular in shoujo/josei, alas

haha for real that's actually kinda hard. personally, the only manga aimed towards women i know that are both ym x of and cest(-adjacent) are not specifically brother/sister. i did a quick look on mangaupdates though, and maybe these ones are good fits?

including this first one because it was kinda funny reading the synopsis and going OH??!! oh well... oh.

1 + 1 [MAL / AL / MU]

It's about a girl who falls in love with her little brother. She thinks it's bad, but the two of them learn that they are not related by blood. Mei and Takeru are twins who have a very close, if slightly flirty, relationship, and are quite popular within the school. Their relationship is both a source of amusement and dismay to both the male and female school population, especially with Mei, whose massive brother complex keeps her oblivious to serious confessions from other males. Their relationship becomes even more complicated, however, when the two of them learn that they are not related by blood.

while i would still consider non-blood related siblings as siblings, the fact that they're twins - or raised like twins - makes the older/younger dynamic pretty much an illusion in my opinion lol but maybe it still works for you idk

kuchibiru kara magic [MAL / AL / MU]

Aikawa Rize was at a coffee shop, when a strange boy named Hiro comes up and suddenly wants to kiss her! Hiro is actually her half-younger brother though! Hiro had run away from home, but is now back to take charge of Rize's family, but now in order to protect her, once a day he will kiss her in order to see the future...

obs: tagged as 'stepsiblings' on MU even though it says on the sinopsis it's her half-brother so i dunno whats up w that

kiken junai d.n.a. [MAL / AL / MU]

Ami has always been jealous of her little brother Chihiro, who's a popular model for girls' clothing. Now he's old enough to attend her school, and all the boys are crazy about him, even knowing he's a boy! Still, he's her brother and Ami loves him, but are her feelings for him beyond those of a sister for her brother?

obs: again seems so promising, but there is a sneaky little 'stepsibling love' tag. so sorry i can't provide you the goods 😔 for me though it would all depend whether they were raised as siblings or not to count, so i'm still including these titles.

inferno [MAL / AL / MU]

About siblings who grew apart because of their parents divorce. 4 years later, their parents get back together. However, the brother develops unexepected feellings toward his sister.

this doesn't say on the sinopsis but it is tagged as 'older female younger male'. bigger problem is that i have not found any scans to confirm :/ this is so sad i'm so sorry my friend 🫠

shishunki miman okotowari [MAL / AL / MU]

Higuchi Asuka's mother dies shortly after she tells her teenage daughter who her father is. Only knowing the family name "Sudou", Asuka goes in search to find her absent father. On her journey, she finds a guy being rather rough with a younger girl. Unable to resist, Asuka steps in by battering the guy with her motorcycle. When she discovers it was a big misunderstanding (Manato was just trying to get his sister Kazusa to go home), she drives them back to their house. Once there, Asuka finds out that Manato and Kazusa are the Sudou family she's been looking for, but the father isn't there, not to mention their mother also being dead since long ago. With no other leads, Asuka decides to move in as Neesan (the big sister) until their father shows up. Things get tricky when love builds within the complex family relationship...

(it doesn't say anywhere that it's not.. but i dont really trust this one to be fully incest >_> way too well received in the reviews lol. btw there are 2 sequels)

tsumi ni nureta futari [MAL / AL / MU]

This tale of forbidden fruit is ripe with angst and taboo. Nineteen-year-old college girl Kasumi is traveling in Italy after a painful breakup. In Rome, she meets a handsome Japanese man and, knowing nothing about him, not even his name, she has a one-night stand with him. There should have been no chance of them meeting again, but when Kasumi gets back to Japan, she learns that fate has played a cruel trick! The man she slept with was Yoshiki...her younger brother!! And that's only the start of it...

seems to be the real deal 😱

just to clarify, i have not read any of these manga, but i did look both within the josei and shoujo tags only. (it's actually been worrying me how little incest manga i have read because it hasn't really been that major of an interest. so this ask came at a good time because im spending time rn with some of them... currently suffering a thousand deaths bc im making my way through boku wa imouto ni koi wo suru)

one last observation i want to make is that there is a high chance to find something exactly to your tastes in a oneshot. but i didn't really search through those, because it also involves going through anthologies and etc. but there is a good chance anyway. could be a good idea to hop on mangaupdates and have a look. i understand that oneshots are not very satisfying because they are too short, but sometimes they are very satisfying for giving you something you can't find in a longer series that needs to appeal to the status-quo a bit more)

[twst-discourse-bot]

Good afternoon,

I seem to have possibly fallen victim to Ray/Morgan/Yuuna with these latest requests I’ve received while I was out of town. By how it looks, it may be her but I’m not entirely sure, it could be a copycat who wishes to tether themselves to her problematic ways and continue her message while she scurried off with her tail tucked between her legs.

Firstly, I’m not racist, never in my life have I ever been nor will I ever stoop so unbelievably low. I do have POC family who I hold very dear to me so seeing this thrown at me hurts deeply, troll or not. I only payment lock OC based stories because they are listed as “commissions”. With providing me payment, the requester will be temporarily handing me the rights to their OC and their OCs likeness, as I do not own their OC, nor would I ever attempt to do so, this is method is best.

If this is from Ray, I do not know, but after reading your evidence file here on Tumblr I would not entirely chuck that idea out the metaphorical window.

I also unfortunately received this message here…

As many of my readers are very well aware, I primarily focus on Y/N reader inserts in the gender neutral form, I do receive requests for male and female y/n inserts but not as frequently as gn. Last I checked, Yuu, or rather, us, is who we make of them, they are us as we are them, so naturally we think what we want. That’s the magic of the game, it’s our story regardless of gender and pronoun identity, should such really matter? We can always write ourselves in however we so please so this particular complaint holds no ground.

I truly hope this pest of a person ceases this madness and moves on, she is likely young and in need of guidance but that does not excuse her actions as she has harmed many. I hope she learns her lesson.

Please keep safe, well, and in good health! I thank you for bringing this case to our attention, it means a lot to see people looking out for the fandoms we love.

- Windblume

Windblume, I am absolutely fucking livid for you right now. I'm so sorry this is happening to you again.

Whoever this person is, Ray or not, they're a total moron. I understand not wanting to answer their bullshit, but my anger issues could never. Listen to me carefully: you are not in the wrong here.

I don't even know where to start with everything in these screenshots it's just so bizarre I'm shaking. First of all, imagine thinking you're being oppressed because another person's fanfiction isn't catered to you or other women. As if women and AFABs don't have enough real problems right now, THIS is what they think sexism is?

Did they crawl out of a worm hole leading to another dimension or something? The TWST MC has always been gender neutral and intended as a self-insert for the player, no matter the gender or race. This isn't an argument, they're a blank slate. Just because you think the MC is a girl doesn't make it true or a valid point to force on other people. Gross.

Also, do they think that people are REQUIRED to gift them writings about their OCs? Do they think that the only OCs in the fandom are black or characters of color? I'm so stunned, there's zero logic there. And another thing, minors in fandom are not "underprivileged" because grown adults and older fans don't want to coddle them and give them everything they demand.

You are absolutely within your rights to only take OC requests as commissions. An author doesn't owe you jack shit just because you want it. Write your own damn story if you want it so bad. Do the hard work like everyone else, you repugnant little troll.

Wind, if you do plan on answering them, don't be nice. Don't even be respectful. The lost the right to your basic respect when they disrespected you. Tell them to fuck off and leave you alone. Call them every nasty name under the sun. They don't deserve your patience or understanding.

On a related note, I believe this is the perfect time to use all of those other screenshots you sent to me a while back, I think they need to be seen:

Absolutely disgusting. Thank you for coming to me with all of these.

Stay strong, Windblume. I'm sorry these ugly souls keep coming after you like this.

[doctorofmagic]

I loved what if! ep 4 and everything about it, but my cleastrange heart wishes that there should've been Clea rather than Christine. Even though the story makes more sense with a helpless innocent human and wouldn't have worked this well with a powerful magic user like Clea herself. I just wish there would've been a Clea×stephen episode. Because the way mcu is pushing Christine more and more into this role of strange's "True love" (even though she isn't in main timeline or in comics), the more people would refuse the idea of Clea×stephen if she gets introduced in the MCU movies. Just like what happened with poor Sharon Carter, the girl deserves to be the main female lead in CA movies but since Peggy was introduced first and pushed a lot more than needed, people became more comfortable with Peggy and hated Sharon.

Greetings, anon, and thank you for sharing your thoughts!

I'd love an episode like this starring Clea, but sadly she was not introduced yet - and I fear that they'll indeed push the Clea = Christine agenda, which I personally hate.

We still have to wait and see what they'll create with this but for the episode, I really don't mind to see more on Strangepalmer. I find her a very interesting character and to be honest with you, I don't really believe that everything that is settled in the MCU will be reflected on the same storylines in alternate universes. For instance, if we think about NWH, just take a look at Garfield's Spidey and how he was in love with Gwen, while Holland's Spidey fell directly into MJ's arms (I know Garfield's Spidey never had the chance to meet MJ but let's make an effort haha).

This is why I don't believe that every alternate Stephen is in love with Christine. That would be soooo boring. And What If? is here to expand the possibilities.

This is merely my opinion, of course. I could be wrong and Christine will be forever Stephen's only love interest (boooooring).

As for the main public, I hate the toxic part of the MCU fandom (which is pretty much the whole MCU twt and TikTok, you know I'm right) and I don't really care what they'll think about Clea. Excuse my language but I really, really, really don't give a damn about their stupid opinions. I had this sudden realization that, since they started crying on Stephen's personality, they're just unreasonable. Not to mention that Clea is already target of hatred (it happened once in this blog) but my love for her knows no shame. She's the queen of my dimension and I won't listen to crybabies.

As for Sharon and Peggy... once they started with the Peggy agenda, they should never have pushed the Sharon agenda after that. I'm sorry for the comic book stans but it was utterly disgusting to think that Steve would do something like that - also I'm sorry for the way the MCU treated Sharon. I still don't like the plot twist but I digress.

Clea and Christine on the other hand... as long as they're completely different characters (NOT RELATED, THIS IS IMPORTANT), then all is fine to me. MCU has this habit of pushing the same couple to the bitter end and honestly, it's so boring. To be fair, I don't have any hopes. I'm just... numb. Never been a hardcore fan (and I never get tired of stating that), so it will be easier for me to let go of whatever bs they bring on Stephen's lore. Hopefully, it doesn't come to that.

I'm just gatekeeping Cleaphen forever ~ehehehe

Also my apologies for my tone as I replied to this post. I'm really bitter when I have to discuss such matters. Been doing this for years and I can't take any more of Christine/Clea discourse.

[vivithefolle]

Can you rec some Ronarry fics? (Preferably long ones?) Sorry if I'm annoying you.

You’re not annoying me at all, Anon! :D Thought I’m super frustrated because I’ve read one very long fic that has Ron searching for Harry, who has amnesia and ran away to America (and is gay but nobody knew that) and Ron realizes he’s in love with Harry and the fic has about 30 chapters and it’s on FFN but I can’t find it!! x_x

Sooo… I didn’t find that many long fics but I can give you a long list of them if you want?

Beautiful FriendIt took six years for Harry to learn something in History of Magic.This one. Oh my lord this one… it’s short, but it’s amazing. It’s full of lovely lively details and Harry’s description of Ron is… aaaww.

Life DrawingDean watches, and sees something unexpected.Again, the descriptions! My lord the descriptions, and also you will relate very much to Dean if you’ve ever worked with pencils.

Something They Can Barely SeeHarry has no idea how to tell his best friend he wants more that friendship. He’s pretty sure this would be hell of a lot easier if he knew for sure how Ron felt about him.This one is plenty cute. Ron is adorable and Harry… Harry’s trying his best. :’D

Our Inner BeastsLater, Madam Pomfrey would tell them that both Bill and Ron were going to survive. But she had no idea what the effects of a werewolf bite, when the werewolf was still in human form, could do to their behavior.Okay, who’s up for writing more Creature!Ron fics? Seriously. Someone do some more of those. Here we have Ron as a werewolf, aggressive, feral, self-loathing… doesn’t matter, Harry loves him.

Running with the Wolf, Loving the Mansnapshots of Harry Potter’s life with a werewolf boyfriendFollow-up of Our Inner Beasts. Someone heard our prayers and gave us more Werewolf!Ron, and it’s as wonderful as it sounds.

What HappenedThat’s just the thing, though. He doesn’t know what happened. He can’t pinpoint a single event where everything suddenly made sense. There was no epiphany or choir of angels or aligning of stars, or any of the other rubbish Parvarti goes on about in the Great Hall. There’s no one moment when he realized, “Oh.”Ron and Harry’s friendship, only it’s not just friendship. The last line will make you want to put on some epic music.

Follow The Butterflies“Why did it have to be spiders?” Ron moaned. “Why couldn’t we follow the butterflies?” Harry privately agreed with his best friend, but if there was anything Hogwarts had taught him, then that if he didn’t do something, no one would. “I promise the next time we have to follow anything, it will be butterflies.”Harry and Ron’s friendship again, with more butterflies thrown in the mix. It’s just as perfect as it sounds. If you don’t ship Harry/Ron, this fanfic might just change your mind.

Sonnets of Magical InterferenceHarry receives some strange notes about his love life, or lack thereof.By the end of that fic, you might just cheer for a very controversial character.

HeavenHarry’s heaven includes Ron.Features Ron being emotional over a movie, Chinese takeout, and Harry being a sap. What more could you ask for?

Harry Potter And The World That Went Bloody Insane“I know something you don’t know” is, apparently, the essence of Harry Potter’s love life. Harry’s certain that the world has been reading one too many romance novels, but then, Harry’s always been a bit oblivious.Featuring Protective!Attentive!Caring!Ron and Oblivious!Harry in their stinky flat and everyone shipping Harry/Ron. It’s awesome.

Check MateHarry questions his dreams, Ron has a scary one of his own, Hermione and Cho plot, and Seamus and Dean obsess.Harry’s subconscious has lots of funny ideas. Ron is ridiculously cute. Might be a bit difficult to read because of FFN’s shitty formating for line breaks.

On The OutsideHarry doesn’t think there’s much point to his being gay. He can’t have regular sex, he can’t have children, and he can’t tell his best friend he’s in love with him.Ron is utterly adorable, do I really have to say it? Why, yes, yes I do.

Newton’s LawFor every action, there is an equal and opposite reactionCheck out this author’s other Harry/Ron fics. I especially like Brass Ring; in the meantime, have a rather in-character reaction of Hermione and Ginny finding out about their ex-boyfriends dating. Hey, not my fault if JKR doesn’t know how to write strong female characters without making them abusive.

Sleeping BeautyThe most gen ever retelling of Sleeping Beauty.Who cares if it’s gen, it’s amazing. Harry sleeps, Ron is wonderful, and ants get colorful.

The Complexities Of Muggle MachineryHarry bought a refrigerator. Then it was a microwave. Then a blender. Thursday was the coffee brewer. Ron really liked that last one.Ron is absolutely, heart-stoppingly, adorably cute and pretty much just like I imagine him to be around Muggle things. Harry’s lucky.

After the cupcakesThey never really talked about it but they are each other’s world. And perhaps a lazy Sunday morning is as good a time as any to finally say something.Utterly sappy and fluffy and you know me, I was mostly there for Harry’s description of Ron. It didn’t disappoint.

Sing Your LoveThroughout the years they’ve lived together, Harry has always enjoyed Ron’s singing but lately he’s been picking up hidden messages in his flatmate’s song choices.Do you like Ron singing? Do you like Ron dancing? Do you like Ron crying his heart out over an emotionally oblivious Harry? Well in that case you’ve found the perfect fic!

Snakes & LaddersAfter the final battle with Voldemort, Harry intends to get on with his life. There’s just one problem; he was supposed to have died when he confronted Voldemort in the Forbidden Forest and now the Other Side is trying to collect him. But in the space between his ‘death’ and the victory celebrations, Harry’s fallen in love… and he’s not going to give up his second chance without a fight.A complicated premise, a complicated tale, a very worried Ron, a very determined Harry, an entirely unwelcome Severus Snape coming from beyond the Veil, all leading up to an epic confrontation in the Other Side. Who knew the afterlife had a court?

Now, it’s time for… TEH SMUT! D:Every story below this text will have MATURE CONTENT. Shoo, children, shoo!

Partners (last chapter gets NSFW)What if the girls hadn’t come in just then?  What course of action would Harry, in his desperate frame of mind, have latched onto instead?This fanfic made one of my most desperate wishes come true. For those who don’t know me, I’ll just tell you that Cinderella isn’t a matter of gender.

Scars (warning: mentions of self-harm)Ron is embarrassed of his scars, and Harry might be able to help.Ron is his terribly self-loathing self, but at least Harry is there to remind him of what we Ron-lovers know: that he’s loved and beautiful.

The Matchmaker (contains sexual mention)Sir Nicholas has never had a couple like these two…Nearly-Headless Nick ships Harry and Ron. So does the entire Gryffindor House. All in all, just what we need.

Exploring The Spectrum (NSFW at the end)Ron wakes up to find he can only see in a single colour.Very interesting mystery and clever use of a forgotten plot point. The resolution is basically “sex solves everything” but otherwise it’s a great story.

Hug! Hug! Kiss! (second-to-last drabble is NSFW)Ron loses Harry in a foreign land. In other words, Harry accidentally joins a Japanese boy band.This story is ridiculous, confusing, crazy, and absolutely hilarious. No existing celebrities were harmed.

Just Another Teenage Epoch - Ron Weasley, 1999 (NSFW at the end)Ron wants to be an Auror, and he wants to not grow up, and he really wants other people to stop kissing Harry.The classic mistletoe tale! Ron is not amused at all. It’s okay, we’re rooting for him (and Harry is, too).

Trapped in Winter (NSFW at the end)Harry and Ron have an argument. When Ron goes to storm out of the room, he’s frozen in time, and when Harry touches him to see what’s the matter, they’re both transported to a snowy winter wonderland.A surprising premise that leads to a confused, hurt Ron and a tight-lipped Harry, and of course, to Harry/Ron. Pretty nice!

That We Might Be Exactly Like We Were (warning: graphic self-harm, realistic depression, themes of suicide)'Everything just takes me back, to when you were there…’This author pretty much nails what depression is like. She also has several other Harry/Ron fanfics that are written just as expertly as this one, but be forewarned, they tend to deal with very upsetting topics as well. Sadly, I could see her version of Ron existing in the canon we know.

Slow Slide (get out) to a Better Place (warning: abuse and r*pe)Harry told himself that everything was fine in his relationship with Ginny, at least until he couldn’t lie to himself anymore. And by then, he thought it might be too late.  Fortunately, he has two very good friends who will always be there for him, one of whom might eventually be something more.Downside: Ginny fans should NOT read this story. Upside: contains Vivi’s most beloved ship, Romione + Ronarry.

Prelude and Fugue (NSFW in the middle)It took over an hour, from the time Harry arrived at work, for him to realise just how different today actually was.The “Groundhog Day” loop is wonderfully done, you can actually feel the weariness building as Harry wakes up and notices it’s still Monday, bloody Monday.And Ron is absolutely adorable - yes, I’ll say it every time!

Princes of Maine (NSFW at the end)Harry wakes one morning to find an abandoned baby on his doorstep. Little does he know that this is only the beginning of his most challenging adventure yet: parenthood.You want Harry as a single parent and not knowing anything about babies? You have it. You want Ron as a competent Healer who’s sick of Harry’s shit and determined to get answers as to why his best mate is a wreck? You have it. You want Harry/Ron? What are you waiting for, dive in!

Still looking for more? Take a look at this post!

[lgbtqpjo]

Not pjo related, but I'm kinda confused atm. I have a girlfriend and I love her very much, and that'll never change, but she wants to be trans. Now, I'm totally okay with that, I want to be too (I'm a girl biologically) She's always gonna be my partner and and I'll always love her, but I like girls, and idk if this means I'll be pan.. and it's very confusing bc I'm ace and I won't have sex either way, but I'm debating whether this still means I'm gay or not. Help? (I have other Qs but outta lett

for starters: you are very young. sorting out your likes and dislikes and identity usually take quite a long time, and may be a lifelong process. i guarantee you that you are going to change, and your needs/wants/desires are allowed (and almost certainly will) change with you. give yourself some breathing room, yeah? i’m not saying you should break up with them or trying to talk you out of anything, but it’s okay if things with your current partner don’t work out and you shouldn’t feel like so much pressure that you have to stay with them no matter what even if they aren’t a gender you’re attracted to.

when people come out as trans, it often makes sexuality quite a bit..complicated. gender and sexuality have always been very intertwined and questioning one often leads to questioning the other. which isn’t to say that you…can’t go through that process with a partner, but it is a very personal process, and since you’re both going through it, i think you should probably give each other a little bit of space?

i know you can’t obviously magically turn your feelings off, but it’s important to realize that it will just get messier in the long run if you commit to something so strongly before you really know who you are.

you said your girlfriend “wants to be trans”, which is certainly a starting point for plenty of trans people. wanting to be a different gender or wanting to transition is usually just the first step for a lot of people. if they decide that they really are trans and want to begin transitioning, it’s going to be a very lengthy and complicated process. they still sound unsure and possibly a little hesitant, which is why i said you might just have to give them some space to really figure it out. it’s a very personal process and help and advice and support are always valued, but let them ask for that in their own time and in their own way.

how their gender affects your sexuality is…a lot more complicated. mostly because they don’t seem to be quite sure what their gender really is, yet. which is why i said: let them figure it out, and you focus on you in the meantime.

see, the lines between gender and sexuality can get kind of blurry, and that’s why they have, historically, been very closely tied together. how you experience your sexuality often affects how you present in your gender (butch lesbian culture, drag culture, etc). i, for example, am a nonbinary lesbian; i was assigned female at birth and although i don’t identify with that gender i feel it has significantly impacted how i view the world and how the world views me and that this is relevant and important to my gender identity. i am attracted to women and other nonbinary people, but because lesbian culture places an emphasis on subverting gender roles and questioning the gender binary, i feel i am well within the cultural definition/meaning of a lesbian, even though i am not, strictly speaking, a woman who is attracted to women.

it took me a very long time to get to that point. i was about twelve when i sat down to figure it out. took me at least five years to sort it out, probably about six before i felt comfortable to say “nonbinary lesbian.” i’m nineteen now.

THIS IS SO LONG and i’m sorry i know it’s kind of all over the place but the moral of the story is this: if you don’t give each other space to figure out who you really are before you make commitments to stay with each other forever, it’s going to hurt and be very messy down the road, and the best way to make sure that doesn’t happen is by giving yourselves some space and time to figure it out.

[myheartisbro-ken]

Hello! I'm sorry I didn't send you a message earlier. I had a research lab I had to attend as part of my course grade. 😅 Anyway, what you witnessed must have been tough, even if abuse is not directly your trigger. It seemed to further reinforce your dislike for Karamel, but also upset u (which totally makes sense), so I'm sorry. Supergirl shouldn't normalize (or romanticize) abuse and make it seem like an epic romance. 2.17 sucked. If I can make poached eggs, I'm a changed person? (Pt1) 💙

(pt 2/3) I guess I should have been used Kara’s sudden 180 degree changes in opinion when it comes to Mon, but was still floored when she gave J'onn a lecture about how she needs him. 😑 (Also, wtf Mon is now family, J'onn? Why?). Ugh. There was a lot wrong with that episode. Also, yes! You worded exactly how I feel about that ship. I wish we could have seen Katie as a vampire though…*sighs*. Oh, I don’t agree with what Dracula did (like not at all). I just wanted to see more Vamp! Lucy. 🙂🌷 (¾ uh, I changed it. Now there will be 4 parts) I also attended private school. It wasn’t very preppy, but there were fissures among us because the teachers catered to some. I digress. We could double team Merlin and he’d probably lose 🎉. Also, we somehow ended him before that one unfortunate event (😿) occured , so Morgana is fine/happy and we are her champions. Haha. 😅🗡⚔I seriously think she would have been a better ruler overall. You got my riddle! 💙 Congratulations. Usually, you’d– (4/4) be granted passage somewhere or given a reward. Here’s a 🌷. I’ll come up with something when I’ve the time, but I won’t forget. Let’s see: Did you feel thay the introduction of Jason and Co. and Camp Jupiter cheapened the Percy Jackson series? Would you have preferred they continued with the Greek mythology aspect and those kids? 🙂 Also, what would be your weapon as a demigod? What would the metal be composed of? No judgement, I’m not a Percy Jackson purist so anything is fair game. 💙

Oh, but it’s not just poached eggs, it’s bacon and coffee and laundry. Truly a changed man who never raised his voice or tried to murder a man for liking his crush. Husband material. The scene where she cries to J’onn that they have to save him because it’s unfair and her fault and it’ll destroy his life and he was only in that situation because of her, this girl I watched yesterday had an almost verbatim reaction to her bf being sent away, down to ‘he was only trying to protect me’ and that was the moment I related to sg, and I was like ‘holy shit, this is horrifying’. Everything in that episode was wrong. Even the Romeo and Juliet exaggerated references (ugh), like, Kara might even be Juliet, but he is not Romeo, he is Paris.

What kind of lab, by the way? And it’s fine, I was singing Camp Rock and High School Musical songs to my dog… she got scared.  😁

We’ve been robbed of a Dracula season two. We deserved to see Lucy being a vampire. I would have sold my soul to see that. Can you imagine? Her going around, seducing people, being hot, biting people mid-makeout… it’s everything I’ve ever wanted. Like, I’ve never understood why straight girls were so into vampires until I considered girls being vampires, and it shifted my entire worldview *gay sigh*. 😊

My private school wasn’t like those things you see in movies and stuff (you could say it wasn’t preppy at all), it was just like a regular school, only very very rich kids and entitled fuckboys. The stuff of nightmares, there was even a few boys who harassed the young female teachers. Though I had no problems with teachers in middle school, it was a Montessori school, so it was the best fit for someone with ADHD, and there were a lot of disabled kids being treated the same as every other student, and that was great, I know a lot of schools in the same area that weren’t like that, including the school I went to high school, where the entitled fuckboy palooza happened.

Here’s the plan: we team up and end Merlin before he even goes to Camelot, everything is solved, go in on his place and save everything, she doesn’t need physical protection, she can handle herself, but she does need love and support, that’s where we come in. 😎😇 She would have been a better ruler than Uther, but after she was wronged by so many and somewhat manipulated by Morgause, she went on a downward spiral. If it was before ‘the unfortunate event’, yeah, she’d be a great queen.

I feel like I’m cheating because I already knew the riddle… but it is kind of the most famous riddle, so maybe it’s okay? and like, usually if I got the riddle wrong I’d be strangled and devoured, so I think the 🌷 and not dying are good enough prizes. Not that I’ll deny anything, I’ll accept rewards in form of pizza and/or cookies

I like Jason and Co, and I liked Camp Jupiter. I don’t think it cheapened the story, I really liked the plot, granted a bunch of teenagers running around and fighting giant deadly monsters and shit might not be the best situation, but overall, as far as I read, I liked it. I think we got enough of the Greeks, and the Romans deserved their chance as well, but I would have liked better if we got a purely Roman story at first, like Jason’s story like we got Percy’s, a book or two about his life at camp Jupiter, preferably parallel to Percy’s, and then the crossover. But that would be a lot to write and I agree with the decision to introduce them when they were introduced. I would like more short stories about the lives of people on both camps, that would be nice.

I have a thing for swords, I really like swords. But I also love archery (not that I’m any good at it) so I think I’d have both, I’d definitely want training in these two. A magical quiver with endless arrows would be awesome, also like maybe a bracelet that turned into a bow and idk I can’t think of anything original to be turned into a sword, but something I could keep in my pocket.The metal(s) would be, for both the sword and the arrows, half Celestial Bronze and half Silver (maybe a side dagger laced with lead or a few lead-laced arrows so I can fix some mistakes around the DEO). 😉 

What would your weapon be? You could use it to help me fight Merlin 😜