#the cousin i just mentioned? doesn't rlly take my romance repulsion into consideration when recommending me media even though

[roomba-mangga]

i've experienced romance repulsion during the height of an intense multishipping hopeless romantic phase as a teenager. i plan and structure interactions with other people with consideration for my romance repulsion and how likely it's going to get triggered. romance repulsion is like a whole other set of spoons to take into account when building relationships, engaging in activities, engaging with media.

it's really something that has to be managed and worked around consistently, and what helps is when those you interact with accept it and don't make you feel lesser or broken for it. even better if they validate why someone might feel that way and engage with it without taking it personally! even just receiving a casual heads-up from someone who knows you might be uncomfortable would help.

do people get that romance repulsion is a real thing. like i know that it is not a term that many people have heard but the kind of responses i see from people when i talk ab my feelings on romance sometimes… do people understand that it’s like. sometimes a real feeling of nausea that you can’t control. it seems to click for everyone that someone might be innately repulsed by the idea of sex or that someone might have a negative response to seeing romantic stuff because they want it really bad and it upsets them to see other people have it but the second an aromantic person has a negative response to romance that is not emotionally invested suddenly they are a supervillain only interested in kicking people’s puppies and personally attacking anyone who’s ever been in love