#stop making us feel BAD for BEING HOMOSEXUALS Y'ALL ARE HOMOPHOBES !!!

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Both of these sets of tags needed to be included, imo:

I'm so sick and tired of being admonished for being fed up with christian bullshit and making generalizing statements about them (a religion I was trapped in for over a decade, so it's not like I don't have firsthand experience, for the record)

And to be quite honest? I don't care. I don't care that the self proclaimed "progressive" christians aren't protesting my existence in the street or calling me slurs in the local Walmart produce section - unless you're actively fighting against ALL of the homophobia and transphobia that is baked into christian theology, you're just slapping a sticker on yourself to avoid the negative feelings that come with being a shitty bigot.

And I do mean ALL.

Being against homosexual "acts" but not feelings is still homophobic.

Not allowing lgbtq+ to work in the church - at all, with children, in public facing roles, etc - is homophobic.

Teaching that being lgbtq+ is a "sin" is homophobic and transphobic.

Any variation of "pray the gay away" is homophobic.

Not loudly and clearly opposing these ideals EVERY time your church spouts them IS HOMOPHOBIC.

Telling gay people you'll pray for them - ESPECIALLY without asking - isn't directly homophobic, but it's a shitty thing to do and guarantees that a lot of us immediately never want to see you again. Proselytizing needs to die.

Being weird about gay people is also homophobic. You don't need to introduce that one gay person/couple to everyone in your church as "the gay one". In fact, you really shouldn't bring it up at all. It's not your information to share, and it doesn't need to be made a big deal because it's not. You don't introduce Jim and Tina and say "they're straight", so don't introduce Jenny and Sarah with "they're gay".

And no, nobody is obligated to give you the benefit of the doubt. I need so-called "progressive christians" to understand right now that Ally is a title that is earned, and by nature of being part of a notoriously hateful, bigoted religion, you will need to work 10x as hard to ear that title. That's not "discrimination", it's the consequences of centuries of bigotry that your religion brought on itself, and continues to spew today. I can count the number of legitimately good christians I've met in almost 30yrs on one hand. None of us owe you anything.

And this goes beyond bigotry, too.

Y'all need to understand CRYSTAL CLEARLY that your religion has caused a LOT of harm, and continues to do so. If you can't understand how, go listen to and talk to religious trauma survivors (do NOT try and convince them not all churches are bad or that your god ≠ the people that hurt them - we don't care, and we didn't ask. Just listen and seek to understand).

Stop teaching purity culture and letting it be taught/promoted. It's misogynistic, toxic, abusive, and traumatizing. It's also, quite frankly, bullshit.

If you want "progressive christian" to actually mean something more than "I don't like being lumped in with the violently hateful fucks because it makes me feel bad", then you have a LOT of work to do. Otherwise, you're just complicit in the violent hatred.

Being so fr if progressive christians want us to not lump them in with the “bad ones” im gonna need them to actually step up and give me a reason not to, because my whole life they’ve been the people standing by watching their conservative peers do awful things and not doing anything to stop it

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Hello folks!

This is Daisy, your local weirdo.

Just kidding. Kind of. I suppose I need to address something.

Tumblr is such a wonderful place for the LGBTQ+ community, you know, and me, being a bisexual girl from an incredibly homophobic country, it's a kind of comfort. But sometimes we forget that reality is, in fact, disappointing. I guess Thanos was right.

This is Dewan Siswa, a magazine for secondary school students in Malaysia. It's a great magazine! Don't get me wrong! Revision notes for PT3 and SPM, really good articles, poems and sample essays. It's great.

But!!! (Suppose you saw that coming) We got our March's issue today, and the theme was about identity. The first article's great. It takes about mental health, and stuff, which was great, and made me feel real noticed. Not that it's that great a thing but still. Second article's called

KEMBALILAH KE PANGKAL JALAN

Which means "Get Back onto the Right Track". Hey, guess what's it about? Drugs? Smoking? Sex? Ha. No.

It starts with this:

"Not too long ago, our country was stunned by the courage of a man who dressed in a woman's clothes during Umrah. Before that, this famous entrepreneur had claimed that he was a woman even though he had no official documents to prove it. ..."

The hell? But okay. Read on.

"The LGBT community in Malaysia is no longer a secret and is a hot topic in conversation. They are like an outbreak of cancer. This community can destroy family institutions which will cause many social, religious, cultural, psychological, ethical, and moral problems. In a society, one who does not follow the rules of the society will be gotten rid of."

WHAT THE ACTUAL FLYING FUCK?

Cancer??? Are you even hearing yourself???

"As of late, this unhealthy issue is gradually spreading amongst teenagers."

I - holy shit I can't even.

And then there's a two page rant on "scientific reasons why people are gay".

What the fuck.

"Parents, educators, people with power, and the community must practice and be concerned about solving this issue, ... They [the LGBT community] must receive support both psychologically and spiritually. The society's habit of labelling, testing, condemning, scorning, and insulting this unorthodox community causes them to not find ways to find medication and cure themselves."

Of my God. I don't even know where to start.

Firstly, "issue"? There is no issue. We're not trying to make you one of us, stop interfering with our lives. Secondly, "golongan songsang"? I know I translated it into "unorthodox community", but "songsang" means something more like "inverse", or just, bad. Seriously? Thirdly, there's nothing to "cure". I'm not ill! Why do I need to be medicated, "cured"?

"According to a former transgender person who has now gotten back on the right track, Mohd Khairiri Mohamad Ramli, better known and Cikgu Erin (Teacher Erin), society plays a big role in helping the LGBT community to return to the more normal society. ... Don't look down on them [the LGBT community] and remain silent with the excuse that the problem is not their business. It is our duty to put a stop to this issue that is spreading quickly."

WHAT THE FUCK.

It is none of your business, and you shouldn't try to "cure" us. I don't see the point of this paragraph considering that this whole dang article was looking down on the LGBTQ+ community. Also, "FORMER TRANSGENDER PERSON"??? WHAT???

The first insert: a pill bottle with a rainbow flowing out, tiny people sitting on pills.

Captions: "Those involved in the LGBT community must be medicated so that they can change and return to their original nature."

Second insert: a person covering their face

Captions: "People in this community who is aware must be guided so that they will no longer be involved in unorthodox activities."

I -

WHAT. WHY.

There's nothing wrong with us! Do people realise that the 21st century, did not, in fact, invent homosexuality? The Greeks, who lived before Christ, were gay as fuck. In ancient China, gay men were actually allowed to get married. Quietly. There was an emperor who was bi and chopped off his sleeve so that he wouldn't wake his lover. That's a story for another day. John, Lord Hervey, Queen Caroline's favourite, was bi. He probably even had an affair with Frederick, the Prince of Wales, but that is also a story for another day. Emily Dickinson was lesbian. Oscar Wilde was either gay or bi. We're any of these people ill, or crazy, or in need of "curing"? (Except that Emily Dickinson probably had depression and that doesn't count)

Please stop this. Just because some people's preferences are different from yours didn't mean they're less valid, or God forbid, wrong. There's nothing wrong with homosexuality, and there's nothing to "cure"!

For people living in countries where same sex marriages are legal and generally accepted, please don't look down on or condemn someone who's afraid to come out. This could be happening where they're from.

Thank you for reading!

Love y'all!