#sorry im back up on these i haven't spent much time on tumblr recently

[gnfmoon]

Hello! Happy June! It's Pride and I have another question (5/30)

In the very first ask, I talked about the original Rainbow Pride Flag (designed by Gilbert Baker), but today let's talk about some other ones (sexuality/romantic orientation today, gender tomorrow):

Aromantic: The Aromantic Pride flag consists of 5 horizontal stripes. [Top->Bottom: Green, Light Green (aromanticism/aro-spec), White (non-romantic forms of love), Grey, and Black (the sexuality spectrum)] The flag was designed in 2014 by Cameron Whimsy (cameronwhimsy on tumblr).

Asexuality: The Asexual Pride flag consists of 4 horizontal stripes. [Black (Asexuality), Grey (Grey-Ace + Demisexual), White (Allies<- this has been debated/ talked about being changed), and Purple (Community)] The flag was created by an Asexual Visibility and Education Network user standup in 2010, as part of a community drive to created on.

Bisexuality: The Bisexual Pride flag consists of 1 broad stripe, 1 thin stripe and another broad stripe. [Pink (Sexual attraction to the same sex), Purple (the overlap colour representing sexual attraction to both sexes), and Blue (Sexual attraction to the opposite sex)] The flag was designed by Michael Page and introduced on December 5 1998. There is also a symbol of a blue and pink overlapping triangle that can be used to represent bisexual pride.

Lesbian: There is no one accepted Lesbian Pide flag, however the currently most used one is a 5 striped variation of the 7 striped Orange-Pink lesbian flag. (The 7 striped flag was created by tumblrina Emily Gwen in 2018. [Dark Orange (Gender non-conformity), Orange (independence), Light Orange (Community), White (Unique relationships to womanhood), Pink (Serenity and Peace), Dusty Pink (Love and Sex), and Dark Rose (Femininity)]

Pansexuality: The Pansexual pride flag consists of 3 horizontal stripes. [Pink (Attraction to women), Yellow (Attraction to non-binary genders/other genders), and Blue (Attraction to men)]. This flag was introduced in October 2010, again by another tumblr blig ("Pansexual Pride Flag").

Polyamory: Originally this flag was desing by Jim Evans in 1995, and it consisted of 3 horizontal stripes of Blue, Red, and Black with a gold Pi sign in the middle. However, this ended up being more confusing than anything else, and so a committee came together to vote on a new flag. The new flag was designed by Red Howell in 2022, and it consists of 3 horizonal stripes of Blue, Pink and Purple, with an off-centre White chevron on the left and a Gold Heart in the chevron.

Progress Pride Flag: The Progress Pride Flage evolved from the Philadelphia Pride Flag, and was created by Daniel Quasar (xe/xyr) in 2018. It consists of the traditional pride flag as the background, with a triangluar stripes of white/pink/blue (for thr trans community) and brown (people of colour and their contribution to the movement) and black (previous and a nod to the thousands of individuals were lost to the AIDs crisis. [There is also a variation of this flag which includes a triangle with the Intersex Pride flag addition and this was created by Valentino Vecchietti in 2021] [There was/is a little controversy with the Progress flag as Daniel Quasar did decide to copyright it]

Queer: The Queer Pride flag consists of 9 horizontal stripes. [Black, Light Blue, Blue, Green, White, Yellow, Pink, Dusty Pink, Black](The pink and blue shades represent same-gender attraction, orang and green stand for non-binary and gender non-conforming individuals and the balck and white stripes symbolise the asexual/aroamntic/agender community. It was created in 2015.

And so my question today (and yes it is late, I moved and vastly underestimated how many clothes I own, whoops), if you could design a flag to describe everything that makes you feel proud, what colours do you think would work best? (you can give as much or as little detail as you want, give an actual design or just list colours, or whatever, this is completely open ended and up to you)( i know it would probably take thought for people, so like don't feel pressure to answer instantly or whatever, take however long you need to be satisfied)

Happy Pride 🌈 🎉

happy pride! i think mine would include a lot of pastel colors like pink and purple and blue

[miupow]

thanks ! i am unfortunately an insane honor roll student so im like constantly on the grind tm - but i enjoy it! also. warning for the rest of the ask bc it is just a huge "here is my opinion, whats yours?" so if its like uninteresting lmk 😔 I am unfortunately studying craftsmanship and business/finance ethics in college so its like my thing tm

anyhow - i get what you mean about the whole seeing your peers' work not perform as well and being disheartened. i and many other nsfw oriented writers have been there before and im sure people will be there after : its not a bad thing to want recognition and it was one of the main reasons why i took a step away from writing.

but the main thing that brought me back was that writing itself so very fun, and in order to participate in "fun" i had to reevaluate what it means to "succeed" in a craft - esp on tumblr dot com hell site supreme - and re-reconcile that with my own wants and needs as someone who participates in the craft of writing. how much do i care vs how much should i care about numbers in comparison to others, and does it mean more when friends or strangers like my work, and so on and so forth. im not saying you should do this too or that i have a particular answer to that balance, more so just some misc. thoughts from one writer to another.

anyways sorry for the wild tangent - hope it doesnt sound like a lecture 😳 i know its "just" fanfiction but fanfiction is also tied closely to community, and to participate in community is a skill in and of itself ! all of this is just to say that, like fairy anon said, i think you should have fun. put your enjoyment and emotional enrichment in your craft first and foremost and be proud of the things you did and also be proud of the things that succeeded at the same time, and all that. its ok to get silly with it and still be scared, and its valid to let those fears keep you from getting too silly all the time - but i would still rather you get silly than not at all, if that makes sense

- 🐶 to the moon

omg honor roll student... i haven't been that academic since i was a freshman in high school TT

i get what you mean! part of my issue is that i have a genuine passion for writing, to the point where i want to be like. an actual author someday. so i spend days and weeks writing and editing and putting everything i've got into a work just to watch something i spent maybe ten minutes on get more notes and i'm like 👹👹👹

i might sound whiny and annoying about it and i really do enjoy writing just for fun and not for notes!! but. yknow. sometimes i don't feel like i get much back at all and i'm just like a monkey sitting at a typewriter

maybe i take this shit too seriously idk.. i've been having a lot of doubts about my writing and a lot of performance anxiety recently. like i have a lot of anxiety about people judging me for the things i write...? it might just be all in my head but i've always been like that i have really bad social anxiety lol one reason i don't have ANY socmed outside of tumblr

i'll try to be less serious and have more fun, but i get caught up in my own head sometimes.

[cynical-bee]

I DARE YOU TO DO THE 200 things you can put in my ask TEXT. YOU HAVE TO. I TRIPLE DOG DARE YOU.

You suck, so much, Nen 

200: My crush’s name is:

me myself and I

199: I was born in:

the island of Oahu.

198: I am really:

GAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

197: My cellphone company is:

verizon

196: My eye color is:

green bitch

195: My shoe size is:

7 ½

194: My ring size is:

uhhh i dont wear rings my high school one is the only one i own and i wear it on a chain cause its too big

193: My height is:

5′3 and ½ but mentally I’m 6′2

192: I am allergic to:

raspberries, wool, and bad attitudes 

191: My 1st car was:

a 1999 blue Taurus 

190: My 1st job was:

A farm hand

189: Last book you read:

Jane Austins Pride and Prejudice

188: My bed is:

Nice? comfy? the place that i love?

187: My pet:

IS THE MOST ADORABLE DOGGOS EVER TO DOGGO

186: My best friend:

is really a bombass person i couldn’t have survived without her

185: My favorite shampoo is:

Redkin

184: Xbox or ps3:

PS3 i dont do xbox 

183: Piggy banks are:

my best friend, i have a cool coconut cat one that i named 

182: In my pockets:

i don’t have pockets but if i did

and it wasn’t fucking 4:16 in the morning

i would probably have my phone and pocket knives in them and my wallet

181: On my calendar:

I need to buy one of those

180: Marriage is:

a huge commitment 

179: Spongebob can:

wash my dishes

178: My mom:

is the strongest woman in this world.

177: The last three songs I bought were?

Omnia- prayer, one way living, and freedom song

176: Last YouTube video watched:

it was about making a giant slingshot rifle

175: How many cousins do you have?

dude i honestly cant even count that high

174: Do you have any siblings?

4 full blood, one adopted, 2 half blood and a lot of illegitimates that my dad has from affairs.

173: Are your parents divorced?

thankfully yeah 

172: Are you taller than your mom?

no, i wish she’s really fucking tall she’s 5′8

171: Do you play an instrument?

i play the guitar, flute, piano, and my throat

170: What did you do yesterday?

I hung out with my family and took my dogs for walks and shizzzzzz

[ I Believe In ]

169: Love at first sight

: no you cant love someone without knowing them

168: Luck:

Luck of the irish biiitch

167: Fate:

heck yeah man you don’t fuck with fate

166: Yourself:

ha sometimes 

165: Aliens:

there is no way our dumbasses are the only creatures living out in this space junkyard

164: Heaven:

i believe in the afterlife just not organized religion heaven

163: Hell:

i do, i believe in hell very much so

162: God:

i believe in spiritual beings I’m not sure about one god or whatever but i believe in a feeling i guess i believe theres probably something out there 

161: Horoscopes:

i think they are nice to know of but they don’t define anything 

160: Soul mates:

i believe theres many soulmates for people that everyone has someone somewhere that would be a great match for them

159: Ghosts

: i do i strongly believe in ghosts 

158: Gay Marriage:

marriage is a right not a privilege. love is love 

157: War:

i come from an army family and no one likes war but i believe war is necessary sometimes 

156: Orbs:

i don't even know what this means man the fuck are you asking me

155: Magic:

to an extent i do

[ This or That ]

154: Hugs or Kisses:

Hugs 

153: Drunk or High:

high 

152: Phone or Online:

online i never call places to order because i get nervous and stutter 

151: Red heads or Black haired:

black hair. i don’t like redheads ( sorry kyle, rachael, and declan) 

150: Blondes or Brunettes:

i like both equally

149: Hot or cold:

Hot weather is preferred over cold cause when its cold i don’t know where to put my hands 

148: Summer or winter:

winter because its acceptable to wear pants 24/7

147: Autumn or Spring:

autumn because when leaves change color its beautiful also its my birthday season 

146: Chocolate or vanilla:

both a chocolate vanilla twist is my favorite thing on earth

145: Night or Day:

night, it may be dark but its quiet and i feel like everything runs slowly and it just makes me feel more comfortable

144: Oranges or Apples:

apples but only the green ones.

143: Curly or Straight hair:

both but i like curly a little more,

i might be biased 

142: McDonalds or Burger King:

ew no fast food is disgusting. 

141: White Chocolate or Milk Chocolate:

milk chocolate 

140: Mac or PC:

i have a MAC but i like things about PCs a lil bit more I’m waiting for the love child between the two

139: Flip flops or high heals:

 uhh i don’t like flip-flops much but i don’t like heels much either can i get a pair of doc martens and call it square?

138: Ugly and rich OR sweet and poor:

sweet and poor. i would never want to be rich just to be rich (this pertains to personality right???)

137: Coke or Pepsi:

i don't taste a difference

136: Hillary or Trump :

Hillary. i wish she was my president.

135: Burried or cremated:

Im not sure but i mean I’m dead so i guess it won’t matter 

134: Singing or Dancing:

singing i cant dance for my life and the only time i do is in my room 

133: Coach or Chanel:

uhhhhh what even

132: Kat McPhee or Taylor Hicks:

i don't know who these people are but i don’t like the name Taylor anymore so lets go with the Nanny Mcphee chick.

131: Small town or Big city:

i like both but recently I’ve been craving city life probably cause i spent everything before now in small towns and army bases 

130: Wal-Mart or Target:

Target fo sho 

129: Ben Stiller or Adam Sandler:

Adam Sandler 

128: Manicure or Pedicure:

neither i don’t like when people touch me like that 

127: East Coast or West Coast:

East coast i grew up on the west 

126: Your Birthday or Christmas:

neither, holidays make me sad in all honesty.

125: Chocolate or Flowers:

flowers, if someone gives me flowers i get really happy they’re much more special than chocolates 

124: Disney or Six Flags:

i haven't been to an amusement park since i was 8 so idk man. but i guess Disney

123: Yankees or Red Sox:

YANKEES!!!!!  FUCK THE SOX

[ Here’s What I Think About ]

122: War:

War is a necessary evil from time to time.

121: George Bush:

He is a great Texan man.

120: Gay Marriage:

IS A RIGHT!

119: The presidential election:

 people need to actually start going out to vote 

118: Abortion: …

117: MySpace: ha this is so fucking old 116: Reality TV: trash

115: Parents:

also trash sometimes 

114: Back stabbers:

need to not 

113: Ebay:

is a lie and a very untrustworthy site

 112: Facebook:

is where people go to be fake ass bitches 

111: Work:

monaaayyyyyyyyyy

110: My Neighbors:

are really fake 

109: Gas Prices:

too high man 

108: Designer Clothes:

are dumb and honestly just a ploy

107: College:

is necessary for a good job yet so fucking expensive and really stressful I’m dying please help me 

106: Sports:

are my life 

105: My family:

is a mess 

104: The future:

is unknown 

[ Last time I ]

103: Hugged someone:

 uhh like 3 days ago

102: Last time you ate:

i don’t remember 

101: Saw someone I haven’t seen in awhile: 

uhhlast week sometime

100: Cried in front of someone:

last wednesday is the last time i fully broke down in front of people.

99: Went to a movie theater:

uhmmmmmm…last monday????  to GOTG2?

98: Took a vacation: 

I’m on one rn 

97: Swam in a pool:

dude last summer

96: Changed a diaper:

yesterday

95: Got my nails done

: i cant remember 

94: Went to a wedding:

last week 

93: Broke a bone:

3 years ago

92: Got a peircing:

dude so fucking long ago 

91: Broke the law:

ALL DAY ER DAY BITCH

90: Texted:

i don't know i think like maybe 2 hours ago

[ MISC ]

89: Who makes you laugh the most:

 Kyle probably 

88: Something I will really miss when I leave home is:

my bed and my moms voice

87: The last movie I saw:

in theaters- GOTG2 , at home- Pride and Prejudice (1940)

86: The thing that I’m looking forward to the most:

seeing my friends 

85: The thing im not looking forward to:

having to interact with a lot of people

84: People call me:

Lou, Louie 

83: The most difficult thing to do is:

Be heard

82: I have gotten a speeding ticket:

never 

81: My zodiac sign is:

Virgo

80: The first person i talked to today was:

 Kyle i think

79: First time you had a crush:

uhhhh i had a crush on Connor Tustin and we pretended to be married in kindergarten 

78: The one person who i can’t hide things from:

honestly probably Nen they see right through me 

77: Last time someone said something you were thinking:

like an hour and a half ago

76: Right now I am talking to:

Margaret

75: What are you going to do when you grow up:

Be famous duh, nah imma be a scientist bitch

74: I have/will get a job:

i have one and i need another

73: Tomorrow:

is saturday and i have a busy schedule 

72: Today:

is friday and i have so much shit to do man

71: Next Summer:

i need to work harder

70: Next Weekend:

i cant plan that far ahead

69: I have these pets:

Roxy and Dino

 68: The worst sound in the world:

 when their voice cracks when they’re crying 

67: The person that makes me cry the most is:

uhhhhh?

66: People that make you happy:

my friends 

65: Last time I cried:

3 days ago…did i not just answer this????

64: My friends are:

bunch of fucking nerds

63: My computer is:

a mac and is dumb but also nice 

62: My School:

is religious and hates me 

61: My Car:

is dead and totaled 

60: I lose all respect for people who:

cheat, lie, and anyone who is disrespectful to strangers.

59: The movie I cried at was: 

guardians of the galaxy 2

58: Your hair color is:

Dirty blonde 

57: TV shows you watch:

Orphan black, game of thrones, OUAT, etc.

56: Favorite web site:

tumblr ( i have no life)

55: Your dream vacation:

backpacking across america a new country each summer 

54: The worst pain I was ever in was:

when i broke my ankle.

53: How do you like your steak cooked:

carrots 

52: My room is:

miiiiineee get out 

51: My favorite celebrity is:

Evelyne Brochu

50: Where would you like to be:

Idk man i guess Paris would be pretty chill

49: Do you want children:

i am not pushing an alien out of my stomach

48: Ever been in love:

yeah.

47: Who’s your best friend:

Im not sure i learned some stuff about best friends earlier from Declan and Nen and i don’t really know if i can have one

46: More guy friends or girl friends:

I’m friends with more guys 

45: One thing that makes you feel great is:

brushing my teeth man its so fucking fresh 

44: One person that you wish you could see right now:

 i don’t like people 

43: Do you have a 5 year plan:

academically yeah 

42: Have you made a list of things to do before you die:

I have

41: Have you pre-named your children:

no who the fuck does that 

40: Last person I got mad at:

Myself 

39: I would like to move to:

NYC, Hawaii, or Florida, or maybe out of country

38: I wish I was a professional:

Idk man something that makes money

[ My Favorites ]

37: Candy:

Twizzlers 

36: Vehicle:

Jeep Wrangler 

35: President:

Teddy Rosevelt 

34: State visited:

NY

33: Cellphone provider:

Verizon? how do i favorite a provider????

32: Athlete:

i don't have one 

31: Actor:

Evelyne brochu

30: Actress: 

Evelyne Brochu again

29: Singer:

STEVIE NICKS 

28: Band:

Omnia 

27: Clothing store:

Platos closet 

26: Grocery store: 

Publix 

25: TV show:

Orphan Black

24: Movie:

Pride and prejudice 

23: Website:

Vat19.com

22: Animal:

Lions 

21: Theme park:

Hershey park?

20: Holiday:

Halloween

19: Sport to watch:

baseball

18: Sport to play:

Rugby

17: Magazine:

uhhhhh do people actually read those?

16: Book:

Pride and Prejudice 

15: Day of the week:

i like wednesdays cause they’re the middle 

14: Beach:

ANY OF THEM

13: Concert attended:

Stevie Nicks 

12: Thing to cook:

Mac and Cheese 

11: Food:

Spaghetti 

10: Restaurant:

Mexican Food Factory 

9: Radio station:

92.5 

8: Yankee candle scent:

I don’t have a favorite but probably something like cinnamon or piney or something 

7: Perfume:

Daisy by Marc Jacobs 

6: Flower:

Skullcap

5: Color: 

Turquoise

4: Talk show host:

Colbert 

3: Comedian:

Amy Schumer 

2: Dog breed:

Beagle/ Basset Mix, or English Setters 

1: Did you answer all these truthfully?

i did indeed

[ripplestitchskein]

so ive only seen some of your posts recently but every time I do I think 'damn im really glad someone else in the fandom feels the way I do' bc im 100% on the same page as you. I mean i love CS but haven't been excited by the show or them really as much since probably 5a maybe? I'm sorry if people have been shitting on you just because your feelings about a show change (bc the show has gone so downhill) but please know there are people like me who appreciate you and agree with you x

THIS is exactly why I will keep posting them my dear. These kind of messages make me so happy because I know I’m not just bringing down my followers posting my feelings, there are a few who feel the same way and having that validated by seeing it shared is so important.

I’ve seen a lot of stuff flying past my dash the past few days and the thing that seems to be missing from some of the counter-negativity arguments is this idea that the only thing the Negative Nancy’s are contributing, all they ever contribute is negativity and it’s somehow bringing the entire fandom down.

That’s flawed for several reasons.

One - everything I post is properly tagged so those who follow me and don’t wish to see it can filter it out.

Two - I never post negativity in the main tags unless Im not paying attention and tag it Captain Swan on reflex and then I delete the tag when I notice. So for someone to see it they have to be following me, not blocking negativity tags, or specifically following negativity tags. In which case the burden of being brought down by negative feelings comes down to your dash management, not the person posting it. They don’t need you to criticize their opinions when they didn’t post them on the main public forum. They posted them for their followers, they posted them in their tags (which are the Tumblr version of a safe space whether you like that term or not).

Yes, Tumblr is a public social media platform, and by posting things on here you open yourself up to criticism, but it also has a system in place to make ensure it is safe for you to post and for those who don’t want to see it to avoid it.

What is does NOT have is a good group messaging or group sub space to vent these feelings to only certain people. And it kind of defeats the purpose of the platform to do so. It’s a BLOGGING platform not a Facebook wall or a Google Chat group. Maybe it’s a misunderstanding of what Tumblr is on their part.

Three - I have posted far more non negative or flaily posts on here than I ever post negative. That’s just numbers (which I will provide later when I have time to use the API to get them). This idea that negative posters are just sitting here hate watching and post constant bombardments of criticism is patently false. It’s usually a cycle: information comes out I dislike, I share my feelings usually in one post or a few consecutive ones as new thoughts happen, and then I respond to a few (not nearly all) messages that came in from those posts.

Then I get over it, because I had a place to vent, and I start posting as usual.

Four - only fans should be subjected to this “you posted publicly you open yourself up to criticism” not the creators or writers. The show is on broadcast television. It doesn’t get more public than that really.

And in the times I have reached out to the writers it’s always on a post where they asked for fans to do so, or in response to something they posted. I have veered from polite critique to angry critique in a few of them, that’s probably not the best behavior, but it is what it is and I let my emotions get the best of me. I own it, I’m fine with it, if nothing else it shows a commitment to the show and the material.

I also feel like I have praised them enough that when they suddenly abandon the things that made me love the show I should also tell them what I hate.

In my view, which people are fine to disagree with, it’s not entitlement. It’s expressing concern over a change in a consumer product. If the manufacturer of my foundation changes the formula after years and years of it being awesome to something terrible I’m going to write a review to tell them. I’m going to see what I can do to get them to go back to what they WERE doing because that worked for me, the consumer of said product. Whether the new formulation works for other people is irrelevant to ME and my money and my time. And it is my money with this show, I have spent a lot on merchandise and spent even more of my time. I’ve given them free advertisement and supported articles written about them and that’s not nothing, thats how television viewership works. Viewers promote what they love and put down what they hate and stop watching if it gets unbearable.

The show isn’t unbearable yet. Emma and Killian are still alive and they keep making statements it’ll get better. That’s how advertising works.

I don’t write to ask them to change it to my version of the show, I write to ask them to go back to the show I fell in love with.

So yeah. That's my view. I love that it helps you and others and I will keep being me.