#sorry for getting mad abt a harmless post

[xuanelle]

every day someone reduces majima to the mad dog act and a crazy guy that he is only ever like in the first game an angel loses its wings

[oceanwithouthermoon]

i think its weird that i have to make this disclaimer but the internet is crazy so wtvr,, anyway,,

if i say i dont like something, that doesnt mean "that thing is bad and nobody should post it.."

i swear literally every time i even mention that i dislike something, people will go "wow does that mean u fucking hate me cuz i post that thing? ur a fucking stupid bitch and all ur opinions r wrong" LIKE ?? er.. no. just because i say i dont like certain characterizations of certain characters (the saiki k fandom is CRAZY about this cuz i can state an opinion on literally any character and a group of people will still go 'well only we're allowed to post our opinions about them because we're always right!1!1!'), or certain ship tropes (mentioned my hatred of toxic yaoi maybe once or twice on here months ago and people STILL get mad at me as if i said toxic yaoi lovers r evil or something), or certain ships, or WHATEVER, does not mean that i HATE the people who are posting them or that i think they shouldnt post them at all, NO, im just posting about my personal tastes on my personal blog and it would be extremely weird and hypocritical if i decided that i was the ONLY person that was allowed to do that,,

i think the only reason people assume that is because there are a lot of other people on here who ARE like that, and a lot of people toe the line between posting that they dont like something and posting that they think everyone who likes that thing is stupid, annoying, and wrong,, so i guess all i can say is, sorry for whatever made you make these assumptions but they arent true about me so plz leave me alone ʘ‿ʘ ur doing the same thing to me that ur accusing me of but i didnt do it in the first place so ur just actively being a dick for no reason

[the-pea-and-the-sun]

this is another "post that was in the tags of another post but the tags got too long so now its its own post" post

so i saw another post abt saying "thank you" instead of "sorry" and i remembered how i first saw someone giving that advice a long time ago and it made me realize how much ive incorporated it into my speech since and how helpful its been. like ive heard this advice get dunked on a bit since then but it rly is so much better for both parties. like ive heard it helps some people unlearn shame about their own harmless actions but even besides that its made so many conversations so much easier for me. saying 'i appreicate u being patient btw ik i tend to ramble/get excited' or something is sm better than 'sorry i talk sm' cuz the latter might make the person feel obligated to reassure u at best but the former makes the other person feel like they r a good friend for listening to u. and ofc other ppl have said this before but i just kind of wanted to share the ways its been useful for me.

whenever i suddenly realize that ive lost a bit of self awareness and control when rambling thanking the other person for listening/being patient while i get to my point is gen sm more helpful. like even besides the fact that theres no point in apologizing for something ultimately harmless that ive always done and am never gonna be able to stop from happening sometimes it lets u jus kinda keep talking seemlessly too. like if u say sorry an they're nice theyll prob stop and reassure u, which sucks bcz if you were just enthusiastically rambling abt something u probably dont want the conversation to suddenly turn into a conversation about the way you tend to ramble. assuming the other person is willing/would like you to continue and you're not done you probably just wanna stop and be considerate of the other person for listening real quick before continuing, and thats why an thank you allows the conversation to continue much more smoothly than an apology.

an ofc it applies to other situations too if u feel the instinct to offset shame to combat ur social anxiety this gives u an alternative to apologizing, which other people have talked abt but theres a lot of unspoken communication that happens in an apology vs a thank you that most people arent even aware is happening. like i started saying 'thanks for hanging out w me i had fun!' after outings an ppl always seem to respond well and it kind of helps to offset my anxiety abt if a social outing went well. like thinking "what if i committed a major faux pas and everyone knows abt it but me" sucks because there isnt a way to address those feelings directly without basically accusing the other person of secretly being mad at you, but what you can do is acknowledge as far as you're concerned, the social interaction went well (not to mention if the other person is having the same anxieties you are this can be helpful to them to). like well at least they know i had a good time an enjoy/appreciate their company thats all i can do. i did my best to be kind and respectful and if i did something wrong and they aren't telling me i simply cannot account for their feelings. however they felt/feel abt it is out of my hands.

anyway i might edit this post later cuz i gotta go to work i just had to get this out real quick hopefully this is helpful to some ppl :)

[florenceisfalling]

ur making sense but can u still elaborate

hi sorry i went to get food

but Basically if you go into the comment section of any post where there's discourse about polarizing topics, a display of something "weird" or "cringe" but ultimately harmless (or even something that is NOT that weird!!!!!), or even just a joke that is going over peoples' heads, you tend to see comments where people will act confused, shocked, or suspicious in a way that is just. playing stupid.

it's comments that are just "bro..." or "huh" or "🤨" or "😨" for no fucking reason. you see "umm..." commented under tiktoks of fat or disabled people showing off their outfits. you see "huh" commented under things where someone's talking about politics in more complicated terms. you see a bunch of "😨😨" commented under tumblr posts where someone makes a joke and then even EXPLAINS the joke in the notes or tags, but people dont look at it bc they just wanna act scandalized instead.

those are the ones that piss me off the most because they're so stupid!!! so useless!!! they're so vague because the person either doesnt know enough with substance to actually argue about anything, or is too much of a coward to make a direct insult, but they still gotta take up space Somehow. the most infuriating shit is when people comment that stuff on a video of an autistic person being ~weird~ and, when asked what they mean by it, just respond with more "😶" or whatever. its such a weird form of cyberbullying! how did the internet find a way to emulate getting stared at in the middle school hallway via comment sections!!

the judgment also comes in the form of suspicion made from Nothing. like back when i used tiktok (why did i do that to myself) i had people who were mad about me calling myself a lesbian go back to year-old posts where i made shipping jokes to comment "🤨" and shit like that. not even abt "problematic" ships or anything, just whatever they could possibly imply a problem into.

its like!! what do you want??? every time i see ppl say that shit i wanna just go "use your words :)" and often "use your Eyes :)))))" because they will freak out over stuff that they literally did not bother to look into for an explanation. they just wanna be spoonfed! its so stupid! instead of just scrolling or at least Arguing a Point they just decide "yknow how should i approach this thing i dont like or dont understand? imply like the subject is deranged/suspicious/creepy/weird in the most childish way possible!" and i cannot stress how banal some of the stuff is that gets FLOODED with comments like that. fat person in a swimsuit! adult woman in pastels! drawing with blood in it! art sculpture that doesn't look cutesy or minimalist! people dating with a 4 year age gap! politics that use big words!

and when they are using a comment that (miraculously) goes over 8 characters, its the kind of thing like "the way i almost had a heart attack 😰😰" like what do they want me to say!! ohhh are you a baby? are you a little baby?? did it scare you that bad??? do you need me to call an ambulance because you had to see a cringe person???? god forbid a cringe and maybe kinda horny or gay person???? maybe even one with unpopular opinions?????

[cynthinesia]

Hey girl! I saw abt your situation with the anons and just wanted to say I am just so sorry about what happened. As somebody who recive a lot of nasty comments as well, I get you... and I am sure you do not deserve to go trought that.

I know for sure that a lot of people do in fact like your ship! Don't give up to have your own harmless fun just because of some random people in the internet who don't even have courage to show up their own faces. 💜

Honestly, I needed to try to calm down and process the asks for a few days. It isn’t really the first time I received such hate towards my canon x mc ship, but I do hope this is the last. It still hurts me to see them insulting me like I did something really bad. But at the same time, I was (and still am) mad that they sent these asks to me on anon as if they were afraid to show their users like the cowards they are.

On the other hand, my friends on Discord like them very much. They go very crazy whenever I post something about them... I like to share things about these two too! They make me feel all fuzzy inside!! ^^

Thanks for the support, Lusty 🥺💕

[tomdutch]

I’m glad I can come to you with honest opinions about Spider-Man characters. I feel like posting any of them on my own just opens me to attacks from toxic fans who then accuse me of stuff out of this world. The internet is supposed to be a place where we can share our thoughts and opinions about media but it’s impossible to do that now because there are so many toxic fans and toxic shippers and toxic stans that attack you personally if you don’t just love everything

oh :(( i’m happy you feel comfortable enough sharing your opinions on the mcu or whatever with me :’) and i’m sorry we’ve all had nasty experiences with uh Intense fans. i’ve seen some of my own mutuals in the past few days get ridiculous anon hate for saying smth as outrageous and controversial as “this character could be written better” or “this acting is bad” like……. it makes me mad ngl it rlly pisses me off that ppl feel they’re entitled to send hate and be disrespectful, anonymously no less, over shit as harmless and meaningless as this.

like i will never understand how someone can send anon hate and feel like they’re occupying the moral high ground no matter what the hate is abt, but especially when it’s abt shit like films and entertainment and dumb celebrity bullshit. how someone can send anon hate abt that and feel like they’re smart and great and right is beyond me. y’all need real help

[kelleyoracist]

#5 👀

This takes place in 5t au (if you’ve seen the posts abt that) but basic background is ko & am are “together” but not dating bc ko doesn’t do commitment

5. “Well. Yell, scream, say something. Anything.”

Kelley walks into the bedroom of the short-term apartment she and Alex have been sharing for the past two weeks to see a topless Alex on the bed making out with a very handsome guy.

The sound of the door is enough to make Alex turn and see Kelley, who’s looking on with barely a hint of expression, as if it’s just some documentary Alex left playing on the tv.

“I, uhm,” Alex gathers the sheets in front of her chest and hits the guy’s shoulder. “You have to leave.”

“I have to–”

“Now.”

He sighs and gives Kelley a lazy glance before getting off the bed. He slips into his jeans and grabs his tshirt from the floor, not bothering to pull it over his head before he leaves.

“Who was that?” Kelley asks slowly.

“A mistake,” Alex says quickly, pulling a baggy tshirt that probably belongs to Kelley over her head. “A dumb, stupid mistake.”

Kelley nods calmly and sits at the foot of the bed as Alex stands a few feet in front of her.

“Kelley, I’m sorry.”

Kelley doesn’t know what to say or how to feel or anything. She doesn’t know if she has the right to be mad. She doesn’t even know if she is mad.

“Let me explain what happened.” Alex reaches out for Kelley’s hand, asking for forgiveness when Kelley isn’t even sure there’s anything to forgive. “Please, everything, from the beginning.”

“Sure,” Kelley finally says, because it feels like the right thing to say.

-

Kelley left the apartment, claiming she totally needed to go beat Tobin in a card game, like, right now and so Alex was left to her own devices. She watched some netflix show that her sister has been telling her about, she read her book, she called her mom, but after two hours she got a text from Kelley.

We’re getting something for dinner, don’t wait up.

Which was fine, because Kelley is allowed to have friends and do things without her. And if Alex had really wanted Kelley all to herself, then she should have known better than to agree that she and Kelley should stay in LA near Tobin and Christen for these first few weeks of the offseason.

But Alex misses Kelley, because that seems to be all she can ever do when Kelley isn’t around.

And there are a few things that she knows could be the reason for that. Maybe if Kelley was a little less emotionally distant, maybe if Kelley was a little more possessive, maybe if Kelley loved her.

Because god dammit, she loves Kelley.

So she went to the bar, and she had one drink. She didn’t even feel tipsy, she’d only been sipping on it for a few minutes, but then a guy walked up.

“Hey, can I get you a refill of that?”

Alex glanced to her still-full cup for a moment and he laughed.

“Or, like, some nachos if you’d rather?”

“I love nachos.”

So he bought her some nachos. And they talked. And it was harmless. He told her she has pretty eyes and she laughed and said thank you. He didn’t push her, didn’t touch her, didn’t say anything inappropriate. He just made her laugh, complimented her, and said all the right things.

“Call me crazy,” he tilted his head to the side before continuing. “But I swear I can see a future with you.”

Those words- they shouldn’t mean as much to Alex as they did. They shouldn’t make her heart soar. They shouldn’t make her feel like she’s falling in love.

They shouldn’t be coming out of the mouth of a stranger, they should be from Kelley.

But Kelley has never said anything even slightly implying the idea of a future together. The most commitment Kelley has ever made is this month-long lease for their short term apartment.

And so she took him back to that apartment.

-

“Well?” Alex crosses her arms and waits for Kelley’s response but it takes less than a minute for her to find the silence unbearable. “Yell! Scream!” She throws her hands up in the air and gestures violently in Kelley’s direction. “Say something, say anything!”

“What do you want me to say, Al?”

“Say you’re mad. Say that I cheated and it was wrong and you never want to see me again.”

Kelley shrugs and shakes her head. “You were right. I’ve never offered you any commitment. I’ve never staked a claim over you.”

“You should.”

Kelley sighs. “I know I’m not a good guy, Al. I never claimed that.”

“I’m not asking you to be a good guy, Kelley. I’m asking you to be angry. To yell and scream and act like you care that I was going to fuck that guy in our apartment!” Alex’s voice gets louder and harder with each word and she’s pacing violently, screaming by the last word.

“I don’t want to be angry.”

“Be hurt! Be mad! Be upset!”

“Why?”

“I just–” Alex falters and her posture falls as she looks at Kelley. “I just want you to care.”

“I care.”

“Well?”

“I don’t want you to have sex with other people. I just didn’t think I got much of a say in that.”

Alex shakes her head and sighs again. “I know we don’t have boundaries or rules or anything but–” she shrugs. “I want you to be upset that I almost had sex with someone else.”

“Why do you want to upset me?”

“How else would I know you care, Kelley?”

Kelley finally stands up from the bed, and it’s like a switch has flipped because all of a sudden she is angry. “I care, Alex. Of course I fucking care. I don’t want you fucking other people– god, I don’t even want other people to look at you!” She reaches out and grabs Alex’s bicep. “I care.”

“You’re hurting me.”

Kelley doesn’t let go, pulling closer so their faces are inches from each other. “I want you to be mine, Alex, is that what you want to hear? That I want you all to myself?”

“Kelley–” Alex says softly but Kelley just laughs without humor and turns them around.

“But I’m not gonna be him.” She lets go of Alex who falls back onto the bed. “I’ll never be him. I won’t tell you I see a future together. I won’t bring home flowers or get a dog with you or propose on the beach.” The harshness starts to fall from her tone and she begins to sound more sad than anything else. “I’ll never be the perfect girlfriend that says all the right things and does all the right things. I’ll never fall in love with you.” She sits in the desk chair so she’s opposite of Alex and looks up at her. Her voice weak and cracking, with the most emotion on her face that Alex has ever seen, Kelley says one last thing. “So if you want that, then, you should go and find him. You should leave me. So I guess the question is, what do want?”

[phsfg]

i know yall got the attitude thing goin for ya and i love you but maybe you could be nicer? i get that its the internet but seeing constant negative shit on my dash is really not. enjoyable. i love your art and your personality and how funny you are, but you can be kinda mean

man, i understand, and thats why i do tag my asks and my text posts for easy blacklisting. 

im gonna be real with you though, i dont really understand why yall are getting hung up abt me using the word dipshit, to an anon who clearly didnt read the post and just wanted to put me down by saying “well the actors did this so we have every right to tell you the show youre watching for fun is horrible” like i should care when the post wasnt even abt whether or not you could like the show, it was about minding your own business when you see people having harmless fun with something. 

and then getting anons about me “going off” when i barely write a coherent sentence saying anon shut up, so im sorry if im being a little mean right now, but im not even going off at anyone, im giving half assed answers to stupid questions, so i guess im a little mad so that makes me a little mean when answering 

so sure, im fine with being nice but i do have these asks tagged so if you want, feel free to blacklist my #tm ask whenever you feel the need to 

[ghostdata]

I'm sorry but

WHO the FUCK thinks it's appropriate to give their two fucking cents about psychosis to a person WITH psychosis on a post that has NOTHING TO DO WITH PSYCHOSIS

Like make your own fucking post. I'm not even gonna get into the argument whether it's valid or not because like. TIME AND PLACE. It just screams entitlement to me? Like EVERYBODY'S gotta know how I feel about mentally ill people who don't take their meds on this funny harmless post that is irrelevant to 100% of what I'm gonna say.

Stupid. Anyway, I got a little mad for you.

But I love your blog and I like seeing all the little updates you post about your well being. And the last thing I'd do is give unsolicited advice to someone who has a mental illness that I DON'T have 🙄🙄🙄

that whole thing was batshit i don’t normally interact outside a funny lil meme but man i got so mad and then somebody??? the person they are talking abt??? came on and i did not want to go down that rabbit hole

i should’ve left it alone but talk abt psychotics get me man i struggled so hard when i was having my break

you are so sweet for sending this ask thank you 🖤

[melpomenos]

you do realize that people can enjoy tsoa as a stand alone book without ever wanting to be factually correct about greek mythology right? like it’s literally harmless, you’re so weird

idk how to word this eloquently tbh so sorry in advance but like. sure. again, i don't want to ruin it for everyone in the world but idk. imagine like. percy jackson is your favorite thing in the entire world. and then the movies come out, but instead of the entire fandom collectively ignoring them, the fandom takes in the movies as canon and floods all the tags with the inaccurate characterizations the movie put out, leaving you to only be able to find book-accurate pjo content once every 1000 posts. that would be irritating, right?

idk. sorry for being unnecessarily aggressive w my initial post but pls try to understand that when someone changes everything about pre existing characters in ways that can be read as homophobic/biphobic/misogynistic and then for the next 10 years the only times ppl will talk abt those characters is when theyre talking about the changed versions, its tiring. i got fed up and went on a rant. i wasnt rlly expecting it to get attention, and it didnt really, but you saw it so hiiii <3 i do love tsoa like its special to me but i think im allowed to be irritated w someone turning thetis (a pre existing DEITY) into a homophobic villain for conflict. like thats weird. she should not have done that.

anyway sorry if it felt like i was attacking you, im primarily just mad at madeline miller bc she is the instigator of all of it, but. you know. the fandom doesnt help. i do acknowledge that ppl can enjoy it as its own thing the issue is just that. its including characters that are not simply fictional characters? like mythological figures are more than just funky little dudes some guy in the 21st century made up, ppl still WORSHIP them, so. hmmm. but w/e, its obviously your life and im not going to go around harassing anyone, i just wanted to rant a lil. hope you have a great day <3

[eagleagle]

this is old news but it's still pissing me off

if you make a public shitpost on a public site, and then do not tag it as personal or do not reblog or whatever, and it gets popular

don't get mad when someone adds a fictional character to it? who cares. "it was abt my experience with xyz" literally how was anyone supposed to know that. you didn't even tag the post with anything like that. it was very clearly a shitpost.

i have a hyperfixation on a piece of media. your public shitpost reminded me of it. i added a completely harmless image.

you reblog it from me with something unnecessarily harsh, vague me on your blog about like this was somehow bullying??? bc i didn't know this fucking shitpost was some personal rant or something BC YOU DIDNT TAG IT LIKE IT WAS AND IT WAS A POPULAR POST

people add stupid shit to my popular posts all the time but this is a public website. who the fuck cares.

sorry y'all rant over this just really pissed me off