#shoutouts to my grandma tho. I'm sure she has lots of judgmental thoughts too but she kept them to herself and just gave advice

[taffywabbit]

so my dad apparently talked to his parents yesterday about me coming out as trans, and today I woke up to 1. an honestly fairly sweet little message from my grandma offering some advice for presenting myself as a woman and 2. my grandpa's weekly rambling preachy Sunday letter that he sends to the entire extended family, which I usually ignore but decided to check this week... and sure enough, half of it was vagueposting about me. and it was all casually referring to my personal life choices as a "challenge" or a "trial" that I'm inflicting on everyone else and that God has allowed this terrible challenging difficult thing to happen to all of THEM in order to test and strengthen their faith or whatever. awesome. cool. thank you for saying all of that in an email you know I can see and that is being sent to like 50 other people who may or may not know exactly which evil challenging grandchild you're referring to here

god I'm so fucking tired of Mormonism. it really does just rot your brain and shift all your goalposts for what it means to be a "good person" so that you can be an insufferably judgmental and prideful piece of shit to everyone around you, but still convince yourself that you're the humblest sweetest person on earth as long as you're checking off some arbitrary religious boxes nobody else cares about or is benefited by. I'm so sick of this. if these people think I'm such an idiot and making bad choices, I wish they'd just say it to my face instead of behind veiled flowery words or in their little prayer circles or whatever, so I can tell them to fuck off and just stop talking to them