#santana says you're basically forcing me out of the closet

[angelhummel]

AND HE TELLS HER SHE MEANS SOMETHING TO HIM BC SHE WAS HIS FIRST. Absolutely NO other reason comes to mind, just that his penis was in her vagina in sophomore year.

and WHY would she want to be reminded of that?? She’s a lesbian yet knowing this Finn’s dumbass decides to go and talk about how she had sex with a guy like it would be some positive memory for her even tho she was so visibly uncomfortable afterwards judging by her expression and body language (props to Naya for the subtle acting before Santana was even written as a lesbian)

Right?? Like first of all, it's a blatant LIE bc you straight up said immediately after that you "felt nothing, bc it meant nothing" so like... Ok. And then he's literally like, "hmm, I just outed a girl to the entire state of Ohio when she hasn't even so much as told her family yet. How can I make this about me and my feelings and my penis??"

Honestly, as far as worst Finn relationships go for me, I think F*nntana is number one. Then Fla*ne (as explained before), then F*nchel, then F*rt. Oh and obviously Fu*nn is up there too. There's a lot of stiff competition

Also like. Hoo boy this may be a bit of a reach but we all know how Glee likes to handle dubious sexual situations (ie, they don't handle them) so. Knowing that Santana has slept with basically every guy in school. And knowing she uses sex like currency to gain social status. And knowing that she's a lesbian and doesn't actually want to be having sex with these guys. And even before she knew she was a lesbian, it's highly doubtful she was actually getting any kind of satisfaction out of sleeping with said guys. Aaand knowing that she literally never said no to any guy who wanted to have sex with her... It doesn't paint a pretty picture when you put it all together

And like you said, even if it wasn't written in that Santana was a lesbian yet, Naya acted it in such a way that Santana was about as detached as could be, and obviously didn't get any pleasure out of it. And even if, in the best case scenario, it was a plain old boring time for her, IT'S NOT SOMETHING YOU BRING UP AS THE ONLY REASON WHY YOU CARE ABOUT SOMEONE YOU JUST OUTED. That is literally so cuckoo bananas to me, I'm still in complete shock

I've talked about it before and other people have said it, but the fact that the outing doesn't even seem like a stupid impulse thing makes it so much worse. The fact that Finn looks like he'd been waiting to turn around and throw this in Santana's face. That he's totally chill while saying it, and he draws it out as long as possible. Not even just calling her a coward for staying in the closet, but attacking her relationship and telling her that her literal girlfriend might not feel the same way. If it was a stupid impulsive thought, that's one thing. But he dug that knife in with a purpose and made sure it cut deep. You can't blame that on stupidity or impulsivity. He knew what he was doing

"Oh you called me fat? Well you're a fucking coward for not coming out of the closet :) You're in love with Brittany and she might not feel the same way :) You're tearing everyone else down bc you're constantly tearing yourself down inside bc you can't deal with these feelings :) See you at the mash off bestie!"

later that week...

"I fully recognize that suicide is a huge problem amongst lgbt teens and I fully think that is something you are capable of doing to yourself. I know you have a lot of 'anxiety' surrounding this 'stuff' and that's a super bummer for me. You should just accept yourself bc everyone in glee club loves you for who you are. Especially me, because I fucked you in tenth grade, and that's why you're so special to me <3"

[mellometal]

Hello. This is really what Dhar Mann decided to do...again. Welp, the first video you did about LGBT people in sports was SO good, right? That you decided to make ANOTHER video about LGBT people and fuck that up too??? Real appropriate timing, Dhar Mann. Because it's the end of Pride Month and tomorrow is the start of Wrath Month.

Let's talk about it, shall we?

Before I begin, this will be talking about homophobia, being forced to come out of the closet, blackmailing, and outing of closeted LGBT people. In my response, it touches on assault, murder, execution, abuse, discrimination, fetishization of the LGBT community, harassment, and how being LGBT was once considered a mental illness. If any of that is triggering for you or makes you uncomfortable in any way, please feel free to scroll to other content that sparks joy for you.

To sum up the video, there is a gay boy (Pete) who's running for president (presumably student body) again, he's handing out flyers, and he's having a grand old time. His boyfriend (Julian) is being ever so supportive. To be honest, I've NEVER seen anyone in school handing out flyers to get elected in the student body. A student body, for anyone not familiar, is basically the group that "speaks for the students". Best way I can describe it.

Then some guy (Frank) comes up to him in the hallway to intimidate him...OVER A STUPID SCHOOL ELECTION. The terribly written, sorry excuse for a bully then takes Pete's flyers out of his hands, sees there's a rainbow on them, and calls them gay before throwing them on the ground. That's after Pete told Frank to give them back. Frank then asks if Pete and Julian are dating. Pete, being closeted, says no, and that Julian is his friend. Frank then leaves after intimidating Pete some more. Julian is offended that Pete referred to him as a friend, despite Pete explaining why he did that...y'know, because he's NOT READY TO COME OUT AS GAY and he was trying to protect himself and his boyfriend. (What the fuck did you want him to do, Julian? Come out when he obviously wasn't ready to just to make YOU happy? Pete was trying to protect you and himself, Julian! I understand that you want to be shown off by your boyfriend, but I really think that your safety is more important than being shown off.)

When Pete and Julian are at a restaurant together, Frank JUST SO HAPPENS to be at that same restaurant. Pete and Julian don't know that until later. Frank takes a picture of them just holding hands...which, why would you do that? I've actually seen posts of REAL PEOPLE taking pictures of their classmates (without their knowledge or consent), posting them online, and shipping them together. It's not a good look. It's fucking gross.

Frank tells Pete that he saw them (he and Julian) at the restaurant, shows Pete that he made flyers of the picture HE TOOK OF THEM, and uses it as blackmail. He threatens to out Pete when he already publicly outed him in the fucking hallway, which brings me back to the dumpster fire that is Glee...because Gary Stu (Finn) outed Santana as lesbian in the hallway WITHIN EARSHOT OF EVERYONE. That where you got your inspiration from, Dhar Mann? If so, it's fitting because Glee is a shitty show, and you're a shitty person. A match made in heaven.

Julian notices Pete is distressed. He says he has to drop out of the race because of Frank threatening to out him to the school if he doesn't.

How does the video end? Well, Frank gives his speech that is just D*n*ld Tr*mp type beat bullshit, Pete pretty much says he has to drop out of the race, the students go wild on Frank because he's a homophobe and called another gay student a fruit, Pete forces himself to come out as gay, the students are going wild, and he's elected as the student body president! WHOOP-DEE-FUCKIN-DOO.

This video is an absolute piece of infuriating shit. Enough said. I'll tear this video to shreds and put my response down.

I get the message they're trying to go for here, but there's a big issue with this! THERE ARE STILL MANY PLACES AROUND THE WORLD WHERE YOU CAN BE ARRESTED AND EVEN EXECUTED FOR BEING LGBT! DHAR MANN, YOU OBVIOUSLY KNOW ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT BEING LGBT AND YOU NEVER WILL BECAUSE YOU'RE A CISHET MAN! DO SOME BETTER RESEARCH IF YOU'RE GONNA DO VIDEOS LIKE THIS, OH MY FUCKING GOD! Not everywhere is like the United States, Canada, United Kingdom, France, Germany, and other countries where it's safe to be openly LGBT! You don't believe me? Look it up! (Obviously at your own risk. There's A LOT of triggering, upsetting things that happen to LGBT people in other countries.) Getting discriminated against, harassed, assaulted, and murdered for being LGBT? Yes, that all still happens around the world. Even in places where being LGBT is legal and not considered a crime. Like the United States!

Oh, wow! Taking pictures of people without their knowledge just so you can have some "dirt" on them for a stupid student body election. That'll help. /s Blackmailing an innocent person for who they are? FAN-FUCKING-TASTIC. Good job! How's that working out for you?

Maybe instead of jacking your raging homophobe self off, you worry about the fact you look like and act like D*n*ld Tr*mp's long-lost son and you fix yourself, Frank. Take the log out of your own eye before you try to pull the twig out of someone else's eye. Just a thought!

Also, I could make a better flyer than a picture with a big red x. So creative. I expected more out of D*n*ld Tr*mp's long-lost son. Fucking top tier. You couldn't top this off if you tried! /s

Onto my response! It's a long one, just fair warning.

If you're in the closet because it's not safe for you to be out as LGBT where you live, you're so valid and I love you. /p Come out on your own terms. Don't fall for peer pressure. For anyone who's been outed before, I'm so sorry, I feel you, and I know what that's like. I've been there before. It sucks. It's scary. I hope you're doing better, if that's ever happened to you.

Dhar Mann, you will NEVER know what it's like to be LGBT. You will never begin to understand what the LGBT community has gone through and is STILL going through. Don't act like you do just because you probably watched one YouTube video about the LGBT community. You're a cishet man who's also a cringe ass nae-nae baby. Why don't you LISTEN to the real people you're hurting with these videos?

Here are a few suggestions you can do instead!:

Talk to actual people in the LGBT community!

Attend pride events to show support.

Read up on their history.

Support LGBT creators.

Donate to the community.

Happy Wrath Month, everyone!