#probably never be in a romantic relationship and i'm definitely (unless something changes drastically) not getting married
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igarbagecannoteven · 3 years ago
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#okay slight vent incoming#related to my previous post about talking with hs friends about attraction#so one of my friends who used to id as aroace came out as gay & ace (which yay! happy for them!!!) and one of my other friends mentioned it#while first friend wasn't there#and was like 'you know#[insert something along the lines of 'i was always supportive of them being aro ~but~']#'i was always sad that they weren't going to have anyone and now they will' and i know that she meant well and she really was coming from a#place of love but. you know. i'm not quite sure where exactly i am in the world of aspec and i'm really going on the assumption that i'll#probably never be in a romantic relationship and i'm definitely (unless something changes drastically) not getting married#and i'm like. is this something i'm going to have to like ~break~ to this friend like it's some kind of bad news? when it's (obviously) not?#i just. she's one of my best friends and the idea that she's just like silently mourning the fact that i'm never going to get married or#~whatever~ simultaneously breaks my heart and pisses me off a little#bc it shouldn't be something that people should be raised to mourn! not being in a serious romantic relationship should only be sad when a#person *wants* to be in one and is being blocked in whatever way and even then like it shouldn't be viewed with pity or whatever i just#idk it's late i probs shouldn't be thinking about this until daytime#i just wish the way certain things are framed in our current society was different#if i ever discover that aro is a useful label for me it's going to be hella complicated to explain to like. almost everyone i'd want to come#out to which i wish it wasn't. i wish it would be simple#and i know it's possibly a non-issue for me bc like. idk i'm probably(?) not aro but the fact that it *is* something other people have to#deal with is just incredibly stupid and frustrating#why can't people live whatever way they want and other people just be happy for them?!?!?!#anyways#i think i should maybe go to bed now#who knows we'll see#feel free to ignore this lol i'm just#u know#the trash talks
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