#personally I don’t like spiders and kinda phobic BUT

[chill-that-ur-inmyhead]

Are you currently wearing anything red?

my red nail polish

Have you had a deep conversation with anyone today?

nope

What would you say is the most disgusting thing you’ve ever tasted?

not a fan of christmas pudding but would I say its the most disgusting thing ever? hmmm probs not maybe I need to try more foods and get back to you

What was the last food you got a random craving for?

toast, but that is a daily occurrence

Has anyone/anything made you angry recently?

yes.... I arranged to stay with my friend for a weekend to which she announces that she has also arranged for another one of her friends to stay. So instead of telling her friend that she’s busy, this friend is gonna crash and it made me angry because I wanted to spend the weekend with her, I don’t mind meeting her friends but now they’re gonna be there 24/7. I made my peace with it now

Who did you last go to the cinema with?

probs the same friend mentioned above haha

What was the last song that got stuck in your head?

Little Big Town - Better Man

When was the last time you listened to it?

the other day

Who was the last person to say something thought-provoking?

my friend questioned our group if we think we’re fat phobic so we had an open discussion about it and it got us thinking

On your Facebook friends list, who was the last person to have their b-day?

who knows

How old were they?

probs 22 or 23

What did you/are you having for dinner tonight?

I had steak, yum

Is your best friend in a relationship?

I have a few close friends, some are dating and some aren’t, tis a mixture

How old were you 5 years ago?

17

What is something you enjoy doing, but aren’t good at?

dancing, hehe

Who was the last person you talked to, whose name started with ‘C’?

probs Cara :)

What colour are that person’s eyes?

brown

Name some healthy foods that you enjoy eating.

CUCUMBER FOREVER

What is your favourite Studio Ghibli film?

hmm haven’t seen many Studio Ghibli films but Howl’s Moving Castle was a rollercoaster, note to self: watch more Studio Ghibli creations

Do you have a favourite hair accessory? What does it look like?

yes and no, I love using sunglasses or normal glasses to push my hair back so its both a hair accessory and isn’t

What’s your favourite type of insect?

one that leaves me alone

What’s your LEAST favourite type of insect?

slugs

Who was the last person you Facebook messaged?

Laura!

What’s his/her favourite food?

I do not know haha

Did you have a good day yesterday? What did you do?

hmmm it was a stressful day, my dad and brother were driving up to join us for my grandad’s 90th over the weekend but they broke down on the M1 and took the car back to home in a lorry. mum was stressed and I was sad that we wouldn’t have use of our car to travel back in 

When was the last time you went to a fancy dress party?

have I ever? maybe when I was like 10

Who/what did you dress as?

witch?

What genre was the last film you watched? Did you like it?

FANTASY - I re watched Narnia Prince Caspian and oh wow 

Have you made a sandwich today? What did you put on it?

nope I had a salad

Do you remember the last time you overheard part of a random conversation?

nope, I do like to eavesdrop but can never remember what I hear

Did it make you feel awkward?

nah, I doubt it

What were you doing at 10 o'clock this morning?

showering

How many vowels are there in your first name?

3

What was the last song you listened to? Does it mean anything to you?

Taylor Swift - right where you left me. It reminds me of my last relationship and it’s literally just ONE moment it reminds me of because the song is about the narrator being left at the restaurant and I can just vividly see the moment when my partner and I went for korean bbq. He didn’t leave me at the restaurant and I don’t know why the song would remind me of that moment besides it being at a restaurant. Crazy how taylor works her magic

What flavour was the last cupcake you ate?

tomorrow evening I’ll be able to tell you because we have cupcakes for my Grandad’s 90th :)

When was the last time you complimented a stranger?

in a pandemic? pfffttt hardly spoken to anyone let alone a stranger

What’s your favourite milkshake flavour?

nutella and oreo

Have you had an interesting or amusing dream recently?

nope they’re all stressful and weird

Do you know how old your favourite actor is?

27

Is there anything worrying you right now?

yes

If so, have you talked to anyone about it?

I want to but I just can’t bring myself to

Is there anything you desperately want, that you can’t have?

bread

When will you next see your best friend?

a couple weeks time but we keep in touch every day

Apart from sleeping, what do you plan to do tonight?

read

What’s the age difference between your parents?

5 years

You can only have one flavour of ice-cream for the rest of your life. Which do you choose?

chocolate always

Are there any foods you’ve been craving, or eating a lot of, just recently?

I always crave yoghurt so situation normal there

When was the last time you wanted to do something, but didn’t do it?

I wanted to drive my dad and brother back from the station

Why did you choose not to do it?

I knew it would cause a fight with my mum so I let it go

When was the last time you ate an apple?

within the last week for sure

What’s the nicest thing your best friend has ever said to you?

it’s not something they say once it’s more that they keep coming back to say more nice things :)

Have you ever experienced a hangover?

yep

What was the last food or drink that you tried for the first time?

blood orange gin

Did you like it?

yes

What do your friends think of the person you’re currently interested in?

I’m not interested in anyone rn

Name one of your favourite foods, that starts with the letter ’S’

sausage!!!!

The last time you hung out with your sibling(s), what did you do?

waited for my parents in the car whilst our parents went food shopping

Who was the last blue-eyed person you spoke to?

padre

Is there a person you’d like to speak to right now?

I hope to get a response from Rena soon but I can wait

Why that person, specifically?

She has organised a party and I need more details haha

When you woke up this morning, what was on your mind?

It is spider season :/

At this moment, what are you most looking forward to?

CAKE (for my grandad’s 90th bday) and ofc seeing the extended family

Do you have any scented candles in your home? What scent(s)?

I do, sea salt, bergamot & another one from & other stories

Are you planning any special outings with family or friends?

YES my grandad’s bday dinner is tomorrow

Who were the last 3 males you talked to?

my padra, mon frere and Yao

Do you ever wear lipstick? What colour(s) do you prefer?

either nudes or deep reds, difficult to not look like a clown in the latter, that is always the fear

If you have a pet, when did you last pet him/her?

I don’t :(

Do you have a favourite Celine Dion song?

nope

Name one of your favourite foods, that starts with the letter ‘C’

chicken!

Does the person you love/like have a car? What colour is it?

I’m sure Timothee Chalamet does not sure what colour

Have you ever received a compliment on anything you’re wearing?

yes

Have you had any caffeinated beverages today?

nope

What was the last alcoholic drink you tried for the first time?

blood orange gin 

Did you like it?

yes

Have you eaten any chocolate today? What kind?

so much

The last person you kissed - are they older or younger than you?

older

When was the last time someone wanted you to do something, and you refused?

mum wanted me to not have so much smoothie but I wanted the smoothie haha

What’s your favourite feature of the person you’re currently interested in?

nobody right now but I always notice a nice smile and kind eyes

How many people have you hugged today?

loads! twas my grandad’s 90th bday - we had the whole family come to celebrate

Do you have a favourite hair colour or eye colour on your preferred sex?

I don’t

Do you remember the first CD you ever bought?

it was probably taylor swift’s 1989 album. If it was the first CD I ever bought I dont know but I sure remember buying multiple copies of 1989 to get the polaroid collection

Is there anyone on your mind atm?

not in particular

The last song you listened to - does it remind you of anyone?

nope

Is your birth year an odd or even number?

odd

Have you eaten any of your favourite foods today?

CAKE!

What did you have for lunch yesterday?

fish finger salad!! I hope I’m never too old for fish fingers

Who was the last person you Facebook messaged?

Laura

How many different towns/cities have you lived in?

4

What are your parents’ middle names?

Steven & Anne

Are your eyes the same colour as your sibling’s?

nope

How many pets do you have? Would you like any more?

I don’t have any! we used to have bunnies and I would love some more again

Do you prefer still or sparkling drinks?

depends on the mood

Is there a song you can’t stop listening to atm?

Little Big Town’s Better Man is on repeat rn

Did you have a strange or interesting dream last night?

nope

Which friend do you confide in most?

I kinda tell the world my problems hehe

Who was the first male you talked to today? What colour are his eyes?

either my dad or brother, dad has blue eyes, brother has brown

Are you wearing any accessories in your hair? Describe them.

nope

When was the last time you felt ill? What was wrong?

I caught this WEIRD bug that would just make me feel awful all of a sudden and then drained my energy. It was unlike anything I’ve ever felt it made me miss the normal cold

If given the chance, would you change anything that’s happened today?

the food came later than expected so I would change how much breakfast I had

Who was your first best friend? Do you still speak to that person?

nope

Do you like your middle name, or does it embarrass you?

It fits my name

Are you wearing anything that was given to you as a gift?

nope

Have you received any compliments about your appearance today?

yes! my auntie said I looked like a doll and how much I’ve grown since we last saw each other!

Have you ever written a song or poem for someone special?

nope

Have you ever had an argument with the last person you text messaged?

probably

What colour is your shampoo bottle?

pink

Are you attracted to the last person you Facebook messaged?

she is wonderful but I am not attracted to her in that way haha

Do you have any ice-cream in your freezer? What flavour is it?

chocolate & raspberry 

Have you spoken to any of your neighbours today?

nope

[izzyliker]

i think like.... some of this ‘fanfic isnt above criticism’ discourse fundamentally is built on some weird ideas and understandings of criticism, creative freedom, and variance in ppl reading the exact same thing. 

like: just because you dont like a specific thing about someones writing doesnt mean its objectively, concretely wrong, bad, or inappropriate. nobodys going to kill you or jail you or whatever for leaving a mean or unnecessarily blunt comment on someones fic, but it is kind of sad/funny to see people talk shit about writers for ‘not taking criticism’ as if their opinion is objective truth and not just.....their opinion.

like: i have had people tell me my writing is too abstract, or it doesnt make any sense, or that i use too many metaphors or whatever. thats their opinion! i have also had people say that me writing the way i do is dreamy/mesmerizing/whatever nice, sweet things they had to say about it. as a hobbyist writer and someone who ENJOYS writing that way i am not going to change it because someone didnt like it, and people being mad about that is... kind of funny to me? just dont read my fic then! i write six line long sentences and use five em dashes in a single paragraph because i like doing it. if you dont like reading that you dont have to read it!

there’s... of course room for gently calling people out for writing in -phobic and -ist stuff while obviously having no idea that it was -ist or -phobic (eg. having characters misgender a trans character and not warning in the tags, or referring to a trans character as their deadname and using the wrong pronouns until they transition [’x was a girl blah blah she liked blah blah then she suddenly realized shes a boy wow anyway now im getting to the actual story after misgendering my character for no reason. them being trans never comes up again’], or writing deeply bigoted stuff or otherwise inserting unfortunate tropes in writing) and im not going to say that it’s ~bullying~ someone to let someone know that it seems like their writing reflects their own, genuine bigoted beliefs or misconceptions, and a lot of time people will be mortified and thankful to hear that (and when they aren’t theyre usually either openly bigoted, or theyve had other people tell them otherwise and chosen to believe those people instead, which you can feel however you want about).

like: ive left a strongly worded comment on a fic before because it turned out to be completely untagged for the rape depicted in it (as in: no archive warnings apply - not even chose not to warn), and featured a twoc ‘’’’’’having sex with’’’’’’’ a trans guy, where the author was a white cis person who did not see anything wrong with the lack of tagging OR the damaging tropes used with zero self awareness. i dont think you can NEVER say ‘im trans/gay/bi/ace/a person of color/a person of this ethnicity and you don’t seem to be - did anyone beta read this, because you have depicted the character with my marginalized trait in a very stereotypical way, and idk if thats on purpose or not’ or anything similar. sometimes people who are racist or homophobic or biphobic or transphobic also write fic. sometimes a fic makes your spider senses tingle because of the way something bad is depicted in it. 

but like and especially re darkfic - 

when people say ‘you need to take criticism when people say your fic glorifies bad relationships’ i think... what people fail to take into account is that although sometimes people do in fact write narratives where they do not even realize theyre writing a shitty relationship (this is often made obvious by a complete lack of tagging or a flippant attitude about the actions of the characters rather than anything that happens in the work itself) sometimes when you read a fic and think ‘this obviously says that this relationship is good! and that you should read this and think the relationship is good!’ it’s not actually an objective, true criticism that the author needs to... idk...rectify? reflection is always good for yknow becoming a better writer and looking at possible issues re: how you see relationships or certain people or whatever (this isnt just writers or artists btw, this is also you as the reader or the consumer or the person, existing in the world), but sometimes it’s just a fic that either was triggering for you, or that didn’t fill the specific narrative need you had.

again: i have written unhealthy relationships. i like writing codependence, and relationships with bad boundaries, and relationships where people are in denial about how their relationship makes them feel. i have, ON THE SAME FICS, had people say they thought it was validating; or cathartic; or respectful; or realistic and kind and compassionate portrayal of those relationship AND other people say they were uncomfortable; that they thought the narrative not using the word abuse meant it wasnt meant to be abuse (despite the ‘unhealthy relationships’ tag); that they thought it was disrespectful to write two characters they liked in an unhealthy relationship. and theyre all allowed to have those opinions! sometimes someone’s writing just doesn’t spark joy. but just because you didn’t like a fic doesn’t mean the writer has failed. when a fic writer has multiple people say ‘i liked this; this felt real; it felt compassionate and respectful and i will come back and read it again’ and one person say ‘i think this is bad’ i don’t think its... evil of the writer to say ‘yknow, im sorry you didn’t like this fic, you might want to read x fic where the story has a happier ending instead,’ and not change or delete or otherwise do anything to that fic.

i dont know guys like... again, just because you didn't like something doesnt mean theres something intrinsically wrong with it. and a loooooot of posts here conflate ‘this person wrote a fic that uncritically used a bunch of tropes the author did not tag for and thus was not even aware of having used and i have left a comment saying that the implications of that are kinda fucked’ with ‘this person wrote a fic about an abusive relationship/sexual assault/whatever and it wasn’t written the way i want those topics to be written about, and i have left them a comment saying that they need to kill themselves for it.’ 

[cbouvier23]

I was tagged by @dreamingoftheza2

Thank You Lovie😘

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How old: 26

what are your nicknames: Charlee

where were you born and raised: Canada🇨🇦

How is life?: grateful for this life !

what is your star sign: Pisces😉

what is your sexual orientation: I’m straight

what was the last thing you bought: booze🍻

what colour are your eyes: Hazel, mostly green on good days.

what’s your best features: I’ve been told my smile & eyes.

do you have braces: nope.

do you have any piercings: I did but took the out. Missing my tongue ring tho 😝

do you have any tattoos: Course, craving more tho 😌

do you have any pets:? Yup, my big boy Arlo.

are you left handed or right handed: Right

Height?: um, i’m 5’6 or 5’7 not exactly sure.

If you had to learn a new language, what would it be?: Danish, Old Norse or Icelandic, and oh so much more. 🙈

Favourite actor?: I have to many favourites if I’m being honest. .. alex høgh anderson, alexander ludwig, jensen ackles, melissa mcCarthy, charlie hunnam, kim coates, theo rossi, alexander skarsgard, gustaf skarsgard, clayne crawford and much more but I’ll leave that.

Most overrated celebrity?: i don’t know. ..

Favourite TV shows?: Vikings!! This is Us, Supernatural, Prison Break, Greys Anatomy, Lethal Weapon, SWAT, Sons of Anarchy and a few more. .. haha

Favourite movies?: Oh dear, I’ll keep it to genres HORROR defintly number one, action, drama, comdey, documentaries, and romance

Fictional characters you can relate to?: I can relate with Ivar the Boneless, how everyone underestimates him all the time, his temper and how they assume he will do something when he completely does the opposite.

ios or android: ios

dogs or cats: dogs, although i do like kittens.

what is your favourite sport: baseball and hockey !!

when was your first real holiday:? Uh few years back when my sister and i went to Vegas, was pretty epic 💃🏻🍻

what was the last concert you went to: Chris Young, Lee Brice and Brad Pasley in Edmonton, Alberta.

what’s your favourite colour: Green!!

what’s your favourite restaurants: Uh, don’t really have one. .. 😅

what’s your favourite magazine: Tumblr🤣

Do you love your country?: Course.

what’s your favourite season: Fall & Spring.

who was the last person you messaged: my mother.

Like anyone? Does fictional characters count? or the actors that portray them, lmao do they count? 😅

How many kids do you want in the future? If so when?: i have two already, think i’m good. if there’s more in my future let there only be one more 🤣 but not for a long long while haha.

do you want to get married one day: one day, but not anytime soon. ..

where do you want to live: Central Alberta, Canada.

do you believe in God: Yep.

do you believe in miracles: i sure do. ..

do you believe in love at first sight: yes. ..

do you believe in ghosts: course i do. ..

do you believe in aliens: no ..

do you believe in soul mates: i’d like to think so. ..

do you believe in heaven or hell: yes heaven is real. .. hell, i believe that’s someone worst nightmare and it can exist. ..

do you believe in kissing on the first date: yeah, surely nothing wrong with kissing someone that you are attracted too. ..

do you believe in yourself: some days I don’t if I’m being honest but other days I do .. so yes ! lol

do you sing in the shower: haha yes.

where was the last place you traveled: town which is only 20 mins away lol.

would you go skydiving: no 😅

if you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would it be: Ireland, Norway 🙌🏼

can you whistle: kinda. ..

can you speak another language: nope just good and bad english 😅

what’s most important in your life: family, love and loyalty.

have you ever had surgery: yep.

3 fears that you have: insects ( spiders mostly ), im cloister phobic, and heights.

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Tagging; @heathen-whore @poisonedjoinery

@honestsycretsx @the-mermaid-diary @directionlessbuthappy @ivars-heathen @no-one-cares-bitch @squirrelacorngliterfarts @writing-in-the-waves @imaginesparadise

💙💚💛🧡❤️💜🖤 I would have tagged more but I sucknat remember names🙈

[doctorgayass]

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holy fuck why are you like this i’m not that interesting of a person

1. I had my first crush when i was 5 but didn’t realize cause gayyyy

2. I speak english, a little bit of french, and understand a bit of chinese

3. I have weird nicknames

4. One of those nicknames is karl (don’t ask)

5. I have short blackish brown hair

6. My parents are still together

7. My family is homophobic

8. I have a brother 

9. My brother is 4 years older than me

10. I am currently struggling to think of facts

11. I am very smol

12. I have A’s in everything except for P.E right now

13. I’m a bit of a kiss ass

14. I am on the school basketball team

15. I want to learn rugby

16. I want to learn how to play the trumpet

17. Also wanna play the drums

18. And guitar

19. And baritone

20. If you haven’t noticed i am a musican

21. I just to be lgbt-phobic

22. And used to have bigoted opinons

23. I’m still trying to unlearn those things

24. I just recently got into hamilton

25. My favourite singer is Halsey

26. My favourite band is Panic at the Disco

27. I am strong

28. I literally have 20 pounds worth of muscle

29. I’m not afraid to get into a fight

30. I actually use the homerow when typing

31. I spell favourite with a u

32. I’m Chinese-Canadian

33. I was born in Canada

34. I’ve only been to China twice

35. I don’t like Christmas

36. I take sleeping pills

37. My first fandom was Harry Potter

38. I realized i was gay cause of Emma Watson

39. The cast of greys also helped a lot

40. I started questioning my gender cause of my sexuality

41. That last one made no sense it literally just went like “oh okay i’m gay, what if i was also trans hahahha oops i actually am”

42. I have too many celeb crushes

43. I wanna move to Switzerland

44. My favourite song atm is Castle by Halsey

45. I have 217 songs on my playlist

46. Mostly made up of Halsey, p!atd, mcr, and hamilton

47. There’s also a lot of Hayley Kiyoko 

48. And Fall Out Boy

49. I can’t spell anything

50. I swear too much

51. I thought about changing my name to Jo before Skyler

52. My birthday is August 9

53. This is kinda painful to do

54. I am stuck

55. I used to swim

56. And ski

57. I really like volleyball

58. And fencing

59. And i do rockclimbing

60. I’m planning on doing kickboxing

61. My timezone is PST

62. This is taking a very long time

63. I seriously doubt anyone will read to here

64. Let alone the other hundred facts

65. I like P.E

66. I am doing social dancing in P.E right now

67. I am very stubborn

68. And will not back down from a dare

69. I don’t like dancing

70. Plus i’m too gay to dance with boys

71. My parents suck

72. My brother sucks

73. I accidentally numbered that last one 42

74. I do not have a good relationship with my brother

75. Or my dad

76. Or mom

77. I haven’t had a good relationship with my brother since i was 8

78. His name is Winston

79. My crush has Tumblr

80. I don’t know her tumblr

81. I wish i knew her tumblr

82. I honestly don’t know exactly how many hearts there are cause i can’t count

83. But I know it’s a big number

84. The first time i counted i got 183

85. For Christmas I got a video game and $20

86. My cousins are currently in san diego 

87. I will probably get more when they come back

88. But i’m still not expecting much

89. Tiger is an orange tabby

90. Bobby is a grey tabby-ish cat

91. I don’t actually know their breeds

92. I got Tiger in February?

93. I got Bobby in April/May

94. I am in jazz band

95. I play tenor sax

96. I sit beside my crush in jazz

97. jazz starts at 7 15 

98. Which means i have to get up before the sun rises on those days

99. Basketball practice also usually ends when the sun is setting

100. When school starts again on tuesdays i will leave for school before the sun rises and leave when the sun is setting

101. I go to the smallest high school in my city

102. I have been doing this for 20 minutes

103. I am honestly kinda proud of myself for being able to concentrate on this for so long

104. Also kinda mad cause why am i able to concentrate on this but not my homework

105. I still have another ask after this

106. i showed this to my friends so now i owe one of my friends a few facts

107. I am very secretive

108. I just switched from Halsey to Hamilton

109. I love music

110. This is easier than i thought it’d be

111. I have a friend coming over tomorrow

112. Yes these facts are random as fuck but that’s because i have struggling

113. I also realize i said this is easier than i thought but it’s still hard

114. I refuse to get too personal with these.

115. The first fact i thought of was the fact i’m gay

116. I have switched between labels many times

117. I prefer he/him over she/her

118. But they/them is  always the best

119. I hate loud sounds

120. I currently have 4 tabs open

121. I like to mash swears together to make weird swears

122. The one i use the most often is dickshit

123. My laptop is very slow

124. I have Instagram

125. I also have Snapchat

126. And twitter

127. But i never really use it

128. I also have Quotev

129. And probably a lot of other accounts i can’t remember

130. I don’t use spotify

131. I use deezer

132. My favourite lyric is “I can’t get rid of this awful energy” 

133. The lyric is from Control by Halsey

134. My favourite lyric from hamilton is “Immigrants, we get the job done”

135. I really like b99

136. I can relate a lot to Christina Yang

137. I’m stuck again

138. I’m so close yet so far

139. I honestly can’t believe that I HAVE this many facts

140. I have tiny hands

141. And feet

142. I wear 7.5 sneakers 

143. My feet are actually size 5

144. I say pop not soda

145. I have moved twice in my life

146. My dream school is Cornell

147. My mom wants me to go into business

148. I want to be a doctor

149. My elementary only had 300 people

150. My school currently has 1200 people

151. My city has over 500, 000 people

152. I like working out

153. I did gymnastics for 4 years

154. I can do the full splits

155. I really like hoodies

156. I’m in charge of the laundry in my house

157. I would be very impressed if someone actually read everything

158. I want coke right now

159. The drink not the drug

160. I’m going to grab a pop now

161. I just got a pop

162. I like it

163. I will get you back for this

164. I really should not be doing this

165. i get injured a lot

166. I am extremely stubborn

167. I am extremely clumsy

168. I have a friend named charley

169. And monica

170. But i always spell it monika to annoy her

171. I’m afraid of spiders

172. I also have a friend named rachel

173. I’m not afraid of heights

174. i actually really like high places

175. I am gay

So i did it. You better be proud of me. Props to anyone that actually read everything

[mxrheyrhey]

You know...

Sometimes I wonder if we as an LGBT+ community are using the correct term for those who are against us...

Looking up the suffix -phobia, it means to have an irrational fear or aversion to something. Those we call [insert non-heteronormative identity here]-phobic do not actually fear us. We don’t hold hands in front of them and send them screaming and jumping on tables to get away. Instead, what we really mean is that they have a hatred of us. And that is a completely different word. 

In Latin (at least according to Google) the word for hate is “odio”- or “odium” which is more like hatred.

What if we were to use these instead? It’s technically more accurate and from my viewpoint, it takes away the cushion that “phobia” gives. Saying someone has a phobia of water or spiders is congruent to someone who has a phobia to “the gays” kinda feels devaluing not only to the person actively hating on us but also to us in that we are something to be feared when in reality I’m a human being trying my hardest to live.

...I don’t know....Just a thought...

[dinatlou]

tagged by: @sshyksarry so thank youuu :) tagging: literally anyone, I don't know who to tag tbh and I also cba. Just do it and say it was me, I don't mind :) a - age: 17 b - biggest fear: ermm, idk. I'm totally phobic of spiders and I'm kinda scared of doctors/hospitals. I was phobic of needles/injections but I've had to have a few, now I'll only have a panic if it's somewhere I've not had one before c - current time: it's like 9:30pm now as I'm writing this d - drink you last had: tea e - every day starts with: turning my alarm off, wishing I could go back to sleep, occasionally falling back asleep... f - favourite song: ahhh idk, it changes allll the time. I'll go with a safe bet of Coldplay - Fix You (it's my go-to answer) g - ghosts, are they real: I never believed in ghosts until things started going on in my house. I can't really deny it now! h - hometown: secret! i - in love with: my bed <3 j - jealous of: people still off school on Christmas break :( k - killed someone: nah not yet, don't test me l - last time you cried: probably a few days ago, i can't actually remember for once m - middle name: also a secret n - number of siblings: one o - one wish: FOR 2017 TO BE GOOD PLS p - person you last called/texted: my sister lol q - questions you’re always asked: "Why are you so quiet?" (I'm shy and have anxiety I try) r - reasons to smile: s - song last sang: sang?? Idk. I'm currently listening to The Way by Zack Hemsey. Normally I sing along to the music I'm listening to but you can't really sing to this t - time you woke up: 6:40 :( u - underwear colour: pink and purple if you must know v - vacation destination: ANYWHERE! I really want to go to Florida and Amsterdam again and also visit France, Canada and LA. I'd like to go to Hawaii but it's too far, I couldn't manage the plane for that length of time w - worst habit: probs biting my nails lol or getting ridiculously stressed about nothing x - x-rays you’ve had: I had my first one last year, surprise surprise it showed nothing ahaha y - your favorite food: pizza and pasta, love Indian and Chinese takeout, do love a good Mexican, also chocolate and cake :) z - zodiac sign: scorpio