#people need to realize that being skinny doesn't always mean you're healthy and aging is also the most fucking normal thing

[cary-elwes]

I know that's from 2008 but people who say this kinda shit are dumb as fuck and can rot in hell. Really stupid

[jjunnk]

Inner Beauty

배애차 Bae Aecha · 2023 08 09 · 8:47 PM

Today was the day I took the photos for the new issue of Harper's Bazaar. While the team took good care of my look, my head was filled with thoughts about beauty and how subjective it can be. I mean, when we are young, we always want to be more beautiful. I remember very well when I was younger -- and I was about Riyucha's age now. There were many things that I would like to change in my appearance, even though today, when I look at these photos, I am able to see how beautiful I was in my own way.

(Now I realized how much we are really alike… 하하하하)

Maturity and self-love are things that can only be built with time, and patience with ourselves. When I remember the overwhelming urge to go on terrifying surgeries and diets, I think it's funny -- not because it's actually funny. There are many people who suffer from unattainable beauty standards. But because I notice that there will always be something that I dislike about myself, whether in my physical body or in my personality. I'm not a perfect person in any, and it doesn't matter how much I charge myself to be one, that will never happen. And currently, I feel perfectly fine about it.

If I were perfect, I wouldn't have people by my side today who love me deeply just for being who I am, because being myself, they also learned to love my imperfections -- a deep part of my being that needs to be embraced, for no matter how painful.

The truth is that we will never be satisfied with ourselves, and the only alternative is to accept it. Accepting that we are the way we are, accepting our paths until today and what brought us to the present.

I see many fans saying that they want to be as skinny and beautiful as I am, and I tell you with great concern: you can't be as skinny as me. Please protect your health. Inner beauty is important but my career involves showing off how I look on the outside, and that is why I lose weight. If not for that, I would've also maintained a normal weight. I think that the standard of beauty shouldn't be being skinny or chubby. It would be nice if the clothes you want to wear fit your body perfectly, but I hope that you don't lose weight while damaging your health.

You're not pretty for being skinny. You have to be healthy to be pretty.

(The old me who wanted to be like the aesthetic girls from Tumblr)

We always have to prioritize our health and physical and mental integrity above all else. We are all beautiful the way we are, no matter what. And it's okay if some surgical change is needed to help you feel better about yourself, as long as the decision is made responsibly.

I'm glad I'm not perfect. And as much as my beauty is not within all social standards and there is a lot of pressure in my career for my looks, I still have a lot to share beyond that. There are many lessons I want to teach anyone who will listen to me, because when I was twenty-two years old and hating the way I look, I didn't have anyone to share my deepest thoughts properly with. And most importantly, I didn't get good advice, but I'm determined to break that cycle.

Remember that more important than external beauty is your legacy, and what you have to offer the people around you.

With love, Bae Aecha.