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gaymom · 1 year ago

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the fact u immediately throw people with low empathy under the bus is super funny also Lol. god forbid people with npd be wary of people who use narcicissm as an insult as if the word isnt intrinsically tied to the disorder now. we look up resources and are constantly fucking bombarded with articles telling us we're abusive monsters for having npd. have a little decency bro.

yeah you can't pretend that all discussions of narcissism are implicitly tied to the disorder. Narcissist isnt just an insult, although the traits associated with it are definitely negative under a non-individualistic value system. Narcissist is also a word that has been used by people far before NPD was researched and defined in the dsm. The word describes someone with low empathy and a specific affect to their ego that is self focused and disregarding of others. The FACT is that the vast majority of individuals with narcissistic traits DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE that they have narcissistic traits that negatively impact those close to them NOR DO THEY PURSUE MEDICAL SUPPORT OR DIAGNOSIS FOR IT. Which is exactly why I haven't talked about people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Often those who find nothing wrong with taking advantage of others end up finding communities/workplaces where their disregard for others is valued, and that's pretty easy in a capitalist society where many people look up to those with narcissistic traits for the power they have over other people. There are plenty of abuse survivors who have experienced narcissists like Amber Heard not take accountability and take their smear campaigns to the public stage and still successfully take advantage of the biases of large populations of people who form impressions off of lies.

So maybe take a look at your reactivity to people talking about this topic and why you felt the need to send me this, because it's disregarding the subject of my posts and is disconnected from the material reality of narcissistic traits and their effect on social systems. But I'm guessing this is a personal feeling of insecurity on your part that you identify with the narcissists I'm talking about because instead of recognizing I'm talking about abusive narcissists who don't take accountability and don't seek help and take lies and cruelty too far, YOU IDENTIFY with the narcs Im referencing and send me this pity party about how hard it is for you to hear how angry people talk after being hurt by people who let your condition go unchecked. Low empathy is not a sub-human trait, I dont think people without empathy are monsters. But I KNOW some of those people dismiss the reality of their low empathy and the damage they do BECAUSE of their narcissism. So maybe, be less wary of people talking about the damage of narcissism and be more wary of how your biases can lead you to being out of touch.

#Like this is not personal #it's just the reality of human differences #if we just pretend that our culture is fine and we need to be treating narcissists like victims of their own experiences #we ignore that socially people have leeway to be narcissistic and successfuly meet their needs at the expense of others if they #are dishonest in specific ways. like there's still plenty of people who are supposedly anti abuse who support clear abuser amber heard #SIMPLY because she's a woman and a successful liar and manipulator #please recognize your biases that lead to you dismissing people's dishonesty and targeted aggression #and this is way more important in the specific context of person who has a pattern of instigating contentious situations and escalating them #the fact that it's actually a popular 'woke' take to just not question slandering a person while providing no concrete evidence #simply because its easier for you to think that women in Hollywood can't have the same entitled abusive attitudes as the men #and maybe YOU cant relate to someone lying about something as horrendous as abuse and rape but white women have been doing it for centuries #get a grip #people can be shitty and hold destructive views regardless of identity and that's the beauty of intersectionality baby #and if your narcissisticly disordered personality is better than that--lovely #but it's also possible to be a fake therapy-pilled self-aware narcissist who subconsciously still feels a need to be better than everyone #and who still faces the deep insecurity characterizing narcisissism while intellectualizing their existence to make up for not actually #healing the core problem which is your internal sense of stability

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