#ok if tumblr has a tag limit i'm probably about to hit it but i really could talk forever about art. muzzles myself. hold thy tongue.

[bomberqueen17]

it came from the notes

Ha I reblogged this post a bit ago and happened to see this in the notes from @uxbridgeenglishdictionary

[image descriptions: tumblr tags reading #also hi bomberqueen17 #love your work #is your Morvran demi]

HA yes. Busted. He is, because I tend to write demisexuals into everything I write. He's more of a Trauma Ace than me, and his specific manifestation of demi is not quite like mine, but yeah that's him. Sexual Attraction Isn't Real And They're Making It Up, he thinks, Or Maybe I'm Just Broken, Probably That's It, Glad Everybody Else Is Having Fun But I'm Better Off Out Of It, and then he gets hit with the Oh She's Competent stick really hard and doesn't know what to do with himself for a good while.

Wait till he realizes that like almost every demisexual I know, he's bi too. Actually I feel like there should be a different word for that entire mode of attraction, because it's not a separate thing at all. "Demi-bisexual" sounds really weird and clunky and not right but almost every person I know who manages to figure out they're demi also has, as a feature of their specifically-demisexual mode of attraction, the major component that the things that will tick their boxes until they hit the "attraction" tipping point tend not to include gender as a salient or primary point (or, I think in many cases, as a point at all). For me it's someone being funny, really smart, into me, a huge dork, good at witty turns of phrase or at least corny puns, and reasonably kind, and whether they have a penis or a vulva or neither or something else entirely, I really don't care and genuinely don't have a preference. And that experience (not the specifics but the generals) is so common, even universal among people I talk to who are demi, that I almost think demisexual probably implies some flavor of bi, too, largely by definition. I'm not really worried about the label, I really feel like it's an "if you know you know" kind of thing, but like. We know.

For Morvran, his specifics are "competent, terrifying, niceys to me", mostly I think, though we'll have to see. (I haven't actually written in a male character for him to get pantsfeelings about, as such, but I have some ideas, which I may or may not wind up exploring but just know, it's there and it's a thing.)

I was hesitant over making him demi because I was worried that sex-repulsed aces would be disappointend and like, ok, but my beta was like "dude there's nothing wrong with being demi and it's not letting down the side" and i realized that was definitely an internalized kind of self-loathing demiphobic instict right there, astutely pointed out. I should write a sex-repulsed ace character sympathetically sometime, and I will (probably I have?? idk I do tend to digress into porn a lot so it's hard to say, and I don't fuckin remember), but I've let my id lay the groundwork for Morvran's demi awakening and it would be weird to not do that.

*deep sigh* as I've said before, I'm a pony of a limited number of tricks but they're like, good tricks, mostly, and there's no harm in trying to learn new ones but it's also not like a bad thing to use my favorite ones. It's not like the world is completely drowning in nuanced, informed demisexual representation.

[nanjokei]

further guidance for newcomers coming from reddit

hi arriving redditors. here are some things i don't see most posts mention. this is for people who conquered the baby steps of joining the site. i think they're pretty important! also me clarifying on some stuff i've seen people word very vaguely consistently in their guides

under the cut because it's a chunky set of bullet points! with a few that also discuss how to keep yourself in a safe and fun browsing environment for yourself and others (mostly quality of life)

if you have any questions either send me an ask (anonymously is ok too) or reply to the post

you can enable a custom theme that shows on the web in your blog settings, if you so wish (blog settings > visibility) and then (custom theme toggle to on) this is the classic tumblr experience, but it's ok to want to hide your blog from the public. however you won't be able to link stuff on your blog to people without tumblr accounts

you can find custom tumblr themes by searching resource blogs like theme hunter or just in the tags in general (like "tumblr theme" or just "theme" and see where the other tags you may find to refine your search takes you)

tumblr is currently trying to enact changes to appeal to "new users" that make the website less friendly to its current inhabitants, such as fucking with quality of life and muscle memory and even stuff integral to the culture of the site. if you see people complaining, i highly advise against going "this sounds kind of nothingburger" and assisting in sending tickets to support the drive against such changes

there is a 250 post per day limit. you probably won't hit it though.. maybe? but people used to make post limit blogs (seperate email) for that. but that is for heavy usage users.

you can make as many sideblogs as you want. you are free to divulge whether or not it's you. of course use common sense to gauge whether or not it matters. but side blogs can be anything: maybe you want to categorize things, maybe you wanna make one into a huge fan page/blog for a specific hobby/celeb/show/game/etc, maybe a quieter space, maybe posts you feel don't belong on your blog, maybe even a blog where you reblog resources to exclusively. the possibilities are endless! (maybe not for porn, it's a little harder to skirt by these days even with muh community labels)

a lot of posts are incredibly vague about whether or not you can leave comments on reblogs. i think it truly depends. for example, if it's praise for artwork, i feel like it is truly best left in the tags. the artist can see it still! it shows up in their notifs when you reblog. in comparison, when it comes to funny text posts and pictures, you can comment as you like, but consider TPO (time place occasion). it helps to check the notes (comments only filter) to see if the quip or comment you wanna make has already been made or if OP made further comments later. again, it's a call to use your judgement and everyone has a different tolerance for this kind of thing

i see many people or perhaps most came from LGBTQ+ centric subreddits so i am surprised i'm not seeing this mentioned often: there are unfortunately a lot of terfs here. please stay safe. install shinigami eyes and engage in blocking sprees whenever possible.

in account settings, not blog settings, there is a section called "content you see". it has filtered tags and filtered post content. the difference is filtered tags is specifically for tags, for example, if you want to hide a certain show you don't like, you can have the site apply a peek-a-boo filter on it (this content contains #TAG, as in click to view). you ask, what if the person on my dash doesn't tag it as that? that's fine! it also takes into account the original poster's tags. the OP didn't tag it? then filtered post content might help. MIGHT. it's pretty helpful and unlike twitter's mute list, as far as my experience, it is not broken. for example, if you write [SHOW NAME THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO SEE] in plain letters (with aliases as seperate entries just to be safe) it will filter any post that has the words in the body of the post. pretty useful! use this to curate your dash further or even filter out triggers.

speaking of tags. a lot of people are also vague about this. i'll say it clearly. you can add whatever tags you want to a reblog. there's no limit (aside from character lim per tag)! there's no social faux pas, unless you're being backhanded at someone's creative work, like reblogging just to dunk on it or going "i like the art but not the character" etc. when it comes to your own posts, try to avoid tagging irrelevant tags (for example, if you're making a lot of posts that are tangentially about cardcaptor sakura, think about if it belongs in the tag or not. think of it as whether or not it deserves an OC flair on reddit). again, people's tolerance differs, but especially on older media and slow tags people do not appreciate random tangential text posts (for example "i wanna watch ccs!" and nothing else)

in terms of culture, tumblr has a weird balance between "you can ask for context" and "lurk for 10,000 moar years". i would not know myself. i've been here for 12+ years *shrug* you'll have to gauge it for yourself. most things you can google "[tumblr user] callout" and figure out from there LOL (yes that's usually what happens). i DO encourage trying to garner it from context, especially for terms.

due to the looser moderation(?) on here, LGBTQ+ and other minorities use their own discretion reclaim slurs freely. join in, or put the slurs in your filters. it's fine not to join in as that's your personal comfort, but this is a heads up that the culture is like this since i'm not sure how the moderation is in places like r/196 are. (sorry i used reddit for entirely different things ><)

DO NOT TAG D0NATION POSTS WITH #D0NATION OR ANY OTHER VARIATION. this is SO important. it's best not to tag donation posts AT ALL. tumblr internally flags them and suppresses the post. just reblog silently (d0nate if you can) and move on (censoring just in case lol)

search is useless for finding specific posts. give up before you even try. your best bets are google, asking for help on the dashboard, or just hoping it shows up on your dashboard one day (it probs will, maybe not immediately when you need it though)

i called old tags "slow" but not dead earlier: tags Do Not Die (though some just kind of randomly get wiped or lose posts, idk, it is some post-2018 indexing weirdness) so you can find fanart and posts from 2012 and it's ok to reblog! the essence of tumblr is the continued circulation of people's creations

please do not repost screenshots of tumblr posts unless they are no longer accessible (reblogs locked for example) 😭 i am seeing this happen already. this is the one thing from reddit you're gonna have to let go of. twitter and other place screenshots are OK (probably, some people don't like them). but don't let your page look like one of those r/(etc) post aggregate bots on twitter is what i'm saying. once you explore a tag enough times you'll know what is usually appropriate to post (usually derivative meme templates are OK, but don't overdo it (tho this just falls under "dont spam") (also this is MY personal preference, so if the climate of the tag houses a lot of memes, go ahead!)

in general reposting content that isn't your's is kinda eh. especially reposting people's art without explicit permission. there are art reposters who in the modern day usually ask for permission, of course there are internet spelunkers who repost content from old web and dead sites. there's a lot of nuance, but i highly discourage reposting things you didn't make yourself unless it's stuff like official art and whatnot. photography and other stuff from other people, use your judgement. and as an aside i know "stolen memes" are r/196 and other meme subreddit cultures but it's not exactly appreciated here and i feel like if the reposting gets out of hand tumblr users might get real tired of it. the humor isn't really the same here in that sense, i suggest posting them in a sideblog that archives such things so they aren't lost and/or keeping them in your community tags. ofc no one can stop you!! but the whole highly derivative fried meme thing is very reddit. the culture could not be more different even if we are similar in many ways. i mean this in the nicest way possible >_< if you're not sure, DON'T REPOST.

this is just advice from me, but when liveblogging a show, it's nice to tag it with a unique tag, such as #[your name/nick] plays [game]. i find it's ok to tag series name to some posts that are more substantial, people are happy to see others enjoy what they love, but using a unique tag also helps people track YOUR liveblog since they may save the tag to look at :)

put your age or whether or not you're an adult somewhere where people can see, (and your pronouns too or lackthereof). whether or not if it's on your bio, or an about page, or a carrd. please. it's a matter of curation and safety. some people don't wanna follow minors by accident and vice versa, just as a means to curate their space

people write alt text and image descriptions in the post bodies pretty often. yes it's built into tumblr, but either some people forget or the feature... refuses to work that time. yes it's BROKEN. if you feel like you can contribute alt text for an image in an adequate fashion, go ahead!

try not to reblog people's personal posts. asking people never hurts!

you can restrict non-followers from replying to your posts, or turn off replies all together. as far as i know it's not possible for seperate posts unfortunately, just a blog-wide toggle. when replying to someone specifically, be sure to @ them so they can see it!

for a long time, only the first 5 tags you used in an original post mattered. a lot of people still repeat this, but in my experience this seems to have... changed?? i can't say for sure, but my posts appear in tags beyond the first five. just to be sure, tag the most relevant things first! (or not, if you have your own strategy LOL)

you're free to not tag trigger warnings (it's nice to do it for others tho especially if they ask) but please tag flashing images as such. #epilepsy warning, #flashing, #flashing image, #flashing, etc.

REPORT BOT BLOGS. it blocks them for you anyway. just blocking doesn't do anything for anyone

you can add other people to a sideblog to make it a group blog. this is how blogs with mods work, or even collectives, it has a lot of uses in general so have fun with it! be wary it requires getting someone's email so be safe about that and try to do it with people you trust.

this is advice from me since i noticed after publishing this post that a lot of reddit users don't tag things. you don't have to btw!! but my advice that brightens up the website: if you reblog cool art, writing, music or photography (taken by OP) and you like it a lot, i highly recommend leaving compliments in the tags. we live in an age where creative creation is increasingly unappreciated and people are quiet silent— creators get no feedback therefore no encouragememt to keep creating. this is more like a personal plea, but like to reblog ratios have become DIRE. people are apathetic and scared to interact with people's creations even though on here they are actively ecouraged to. if you like art or fic etc i even more highly recommend you reblog it. likes don't do anything! reblogs = more eyes on it. let's support each other's creative endeavors 🩷

don't fall for the trap of trying to make tumblr into reddit, or trying to recreate the feeling of a subreddit. it's not gonna work. try to adapt. it's easier said than done but lol. rome wasn't built in a day. operate your blog like your own space rather than trying to recreate a hub. the tolerance for trying to change tumblr culture is super low and a lot of people who are much meaner than me will probably try to bully the idea into the ground. and people DO get mean. (like playground namecalling, but people have no reservations about it, so it's stuff that would probably get you banned on reddit)

if your post gets traction and the note notifications annoy you, deleting the original post will make the notifs stop coming. a lot of people reblog the post to keep it on their blog then delete the original to effectively "mute" the notifications permanently.

[llovely]

put the follow 10 911 characters in order of most (10) to least (1) likely to have a really popular fan blog on tumblr dot com

(i'm gonna list the characters but they're not in any order)

buck

eddie

hen

bobby

chimney

athena

maddie

taylor

albert

may

making me THINK ok hm (also im gonna sub ravi for albert sorrryyyy)

bobby - does not know tumblr exists

eddie - i wish but be for real that man hates technology the most he would do is like tweets about his telenovas on twitter

athena - too cool for tumblr

maddie - she would have a very put together aesthetic blog

hen - i feel she would lurk for ages then come out of nowhere with some amazing meta

buck - he'd post something extremely personal and melodramatic and then deactivate. then he'd come back and hit post limit flooding the dash with his new hyperfixation. this would happen every 6 months.

taylor - hear me out. i think she'd be popular for all the wrong reasons cause she'd just post the most controversial shit as bait. she'd wind up getting bullied off the website but she sure as hell would make her mark

chimney - hilarious. kind. always starting tags and spreading positivity in people's inboxes. probably would write some fire fanfic too

may - she'd have so many followers because she got tumblr when she was 12 and has had the same blog the whole time. deadpan. mysterious. i can see her being a rly good gifmaker. an icon in the fandom.

ravi - no explanation needed like come on shitposter supreme

ask me anything

[danganronpasurvivoraskblog]

So how are you gonna start the next arc like this?

//I knew I was going to get upset about it when the change was implemented, and as you can see by my toxic af messages previously, I was right.

//I've taken some time to think about it since then, and I need to just make a couple of statements.

//The ask box will remain open, but this will probably be the last you hear of me for a while until the day I announced I would start posting the next chapter of the story.

//As for what's going on, in the face of this new editor with it's 30 image limit completely fucking over my typical style and sequence of posts (for asks it's not a big deal, but for story posts and especially long answers, it's a problem to my entire setup, and as you can imagine, I am not ok with that) I have taken some time to come up with a plan going forward.

//First and foremost, I'm not going to stop writing just because the designers of this website lost 90 braincells as well as the nerves in their eyes and ears. As stupid as these changes are, I'm fully aware that there's nothing I can do about them, and I'm not going to stop this blog's progression, or stop answering asks just because of these difficulties.

//In the past, when these changes happened, I overreacted and complained like a child. I apologize for those instances, and I've worked towards bettering myself. That doesn't mean I can't still take issues with these changes, because they are stupid, but don't let my misdirections as a human being affect your enjoyment of my writing. I will keep this blog going.

//Right now, I have come to a few solutions. Initially, I said I would move the story posts at least, to a different website. However, I retract that statement, because doing so would require my readers to sign up and create new accounts on totally different websites that they might not use for anything else.

//The CURRENT plan is that there are a variety of mods available on the internet that allows you to use the old Tumblr editor. If I can find one that bypasses the limit, I'll be golden.

//Failing that, as much as it sucks to think about, my only remaining option is to suck it up and use the new editor. As for the image limit, it may result in me having to split the story up into multiple different posts a day to get the full chapter done.

//The reason why I wished to avoid it is because with Tumblr's horrible navigation system, made WORSE by the current changes, is that it'll be hard to order all the posts together. I could repost my own posts to continue, but that also clutters the blog with meaningless posts, so I'm hoping to avoid it. Plus, it's only a matter of time before reblogs get hit with the "SHIT CHANGE" laser, so it's not a long-lasting solution.

//To make it a bit easier, if I do resort to this, I will be posting the link to the next part of each chapter in links at the bottom of each post. I will also be adding a #story tag on these posts to make them easier to find. I should have incorporated this a long time ago, but my slow dumb ass didn't think it was necessary.

//With all that said, if anyone has links to any useful mods, or any alternative solutions I could use, I am more than open to suggestions. So if you could leave those in either DM's or in the ask box, I would appreciate it. Assuming they work, you would LITERALLY be saving my life.

//And potentially the lives of other blogs like this one who are suffering because of this bullshit. I'll definitely be sure to share your advice to whoever may need it, like Aliza or Bubbles.

//Ultimately, there's no great solution to this, but this is the unfortunate position that Tumblr has put us in. And as much as I hate it, all I can do is take my licks and keep going.

//I want to take this moment to thank you guys for being such a supportive and kind audience. People like you are a dime a dozen, and I hope to continue to get your support for the foreseeable future.

//This story isn't finished yet.

-Mod

[shelbyladiesclub]

Hi! I was just curious about your opinion about smth. I'm 18 and most of the books I read are YA which features minors/underage characters and I read fic for those characters that's often smut. Is there anything wrong about this? It just hit me that these characters are underage and I'm not and now if I ever wanna read these fics (and in the future when I'm even older and it makes even more of a difference) then it'll just be even more uncomfortable (it already kind of is now)

Anon, unfortunately (and I may get some flak for this) this is not a black and white issue. Some people view reading underage smut as similar to consuming porn that involves underage people. Now, we can all acknowledge that when it comes to fictional characters and fan-fiction, things get a little blurry -- they’re not real people, and therefore are not in any real danger. Especially with TV, where actors who are well above the age of consent are portraying characters that are under 18, things get a little bit complex, and I’ve seen discussions of that happening in the Riverdale fandom lately (I’ve personally never watched the show so I have no opinion). I could go into how the trend of people in their twenties being cast as teenagers contributes to all sorts of nasty things in society, but that’s for a different post.

I’d like to pause here and make it clear that if an actor/performer is under 18, they are immediately off limits for being written about, portrayed in art, or even spoken of in any sexual context by any overage person, and I will report anything of that nature to Tumblr for being inappropriate content. In the Finn Shelby situation, Harry Kirton is currently 19, so he’s just over the line -- I’m still not comfortable with it, but technically, it doesn’t fall into that category.

However in the case of completely fictional characters and characters where the actor is older than the character they’re portraying, it’s the principle of the thing where things get weird. Why are you interested in consuming smut that involves underage characters? It’s a question that’s fair to ask, and it’s easy to see why that could make people uncomfortable. For me, it’s a line I’m not willing to cross or even toe. I know I have underage followers here, and I want them to feel safe in the fandom and not have to worry about predators. 

For me and my comfort level, I don’t feel comfortable reading anything that’s gratuitously smutty about underage people. It’s a fact that many underage people are sexually active, and I’m not saying we can’t talk about it or admit it or even portray it in various forms of media, but it’s not for me to consume or to get off on, kind of the same way that lesbian sex doesn’t exist for the pleasure of men, if that makes sense.

For you specifically, you’re 18. You were not so recently underage yourself. This is again a place where the lines get blurry. When I met my husband I was 17 and he was 18. Does that make him a pedophile? No. It’s relative. I’m now 25, so I feel especially uncomfortable encountering smut about characters who are under 18. Hell, I just said the other day I feel slightly creepy for finding Finn Cole (who’s 21) attractive. That’s just my personal line.

At the end of the day, I’m not the arbiter of what is OK and what is not. There are so many factors including age of the consumer, age of the actor, level of sexual explicitness, age of the author, intention of the author, etc., etc., and it’s something that has to be handled safely and carefully. I prefer to err on the side of avoidance. For you, reading about book characters that don’t actually exist and are not portrayed by underage actors and are likely not more than one or two years younger than you canonically is probably not hurting anyone or something to worry about. However, as you said, the further you get away from 18 the more careful you should be and the less of this content you should be consuming. And, the younger the characters you’re reading about are, the more you should be questioning yourself and your interest.

The most important thing is remembering that there are a lot of users on this site who are under 18, and our biggest priority as adults should be making them feel safe and not vulnerable or preyed upon. I don’t ever want anyone to question whether I would do something to make one of my followers feel uncomfortable or threatened. For me, that means avoiding sexual content regarding underage characters. 

If you’re under 18 and you’re writing that content: good for you. This is a time when you’re learning about your sexuality and expressing creativity and all that is good and OK, but it is not for me to consume. If you want to help make that easy for me, tag it appropriately or put it under a cut. If you don’t want to do either of those things, that’s fine, as it’s ultimately the responsibility of the consumer to control what they look at, but you’re running the risk of being blocked by me and therefore hiding all your other nonsexual content from me.

I’m sorry this was long and not very absolute, but unfortunately, this is a difficult subject. If anyone has anything they’d like to add that I missed, or disagrees with something I said here, please feel free to message me or add on. Like I said, my priority is making people feel safe, and I’m still learning the best ways to do that. 

TL;DR:  For an 18-year-old, reading about book characters that don’t actually exist, are not portrayed by underage actors, and are likely not more than one or two years younger than you canonically is probably not hurting anyone or something to worry about. However this is a sensitive topic that requires a lot of care. 

[nihilistwife]

Ok I'm rly scared now. What is Trump going to do as President. Also I never understood why at his age he would want to run in the first place.

bruh all three of the top candidates for this election are all old as fuck. i mean naturally w my political stance i’d love if they all sat their old asses at home and was someone’s grandparent but here they are. tryna tell me how to run my shit.

his first focus is on the affordable care act, as seen by his first executive orders, which will mean different things to different people. if he’s true to his word about trying to make things easier on business, it could mean more competition for expensive medicines after a period of what i’m almost entirely certain will be filled with disproportionate parts of people who only just got healthcare insurance under the aca feeling understandable and justified panic as their insurance is taken away, relief from people whose premiums had gone up and from people who paid fines because they weren’t interested in getting healthcare, and probably a continued group who are utterly confused or indifferent because they don’t know how this effected them/it might not even have effected them.

you have to understand that what the aca essentially did is just deny insurance companies the choice to adjust premiums based on your pre-existing conditions. anything but the smallest mom n pop business also has to provide insurance for their employees. there’s more to it than that, but what you have to keep in mind is that much.

so... in a best case scenario, if he keeps true to his word about business, then after an... extremely difficult period, more generics and competitive options for health care options might crop up. most of the medical industry is pretty... exclusive. patents aside, even things such as reproductive care has so many fucking laws around it. the presence of doctors under certain circumstances limits access to clinics especially designed for vulnerable peoples. but that’s just me ranting on why i dislike over legislation of medicine and not really a helpful answer to you. basically? it’s gonna get rough for a bit, at least. on the brightest note, it’s going to get rough for a least a while for health insurance. it just is.

he’s already trying to re-establish stronger ties with israel with his desire to move the embassy.

he’s still got that hard on about refugee vetting, which is stupid because we’re attached directly to two other countries by land and can be easily reached by several others over water. iirc several european active terrorists did not arrive directly in the country they commited their acts in but kept their information intentionally to look that way, which is another whole tangent on that whole affair. regardless, all he’s doing is putting one more step between someone seeking refuge getting somewhere safe or not. but this isn’t the first time america has put herself first at the cost of others and it’s unlikely to be the last. in that respect, this administration is classic american.

generally speaking, if you judge from his speech during his inauguration, we’re going to enter a deeply nationalistic period. this could be Diverse Nationalism(tm) wherein any able bodied adult who can contribute to the economy actively is probably going to be fine as long as they’re americanized enough or it could be the nationalism you think of when you hear nationalism and donald does his daddy proud. either way, given the reaches and “”””rights”” the government already has with him going into office, any cultural shifts that he wants to see in society are pretty ripe for him to influence.

of course, this isn’t to say that you should be afraid. local government is a bigger influence on your life than you realize. if you’re old enough, get active and make your voice known. your bitch ass mayors and governors and representatives at large eat off your taxes. make it clear they won’t be doing it next term if shit doesn’t go your way. try to make your desires as clear as possible; remember, they’re sell outs so they’ll cater to your needs if you’re loud enough, clear enough, and population enough of an ideology/group/whatever. additionally, getting involved in a community that is itself active is a good step. tumblr is a decent spot to trade ideas if you’re following the right people and browse the right tags as well as looking for actual news sites for fresh information, but it isn’t a local or even nearby area you can turn to if (in the unlikely event) shit hits the fan.

and... i guess on a final note? since this is, as i said, going to probably turn into a very nationalistic period, do no harm but take no shit. any unsavory behavior is going to stigmatize you and make your life way more difficult. however, with bigoted punks trying to flex their muscles in new waters, you have to watch out for yourself.

idk.

i’m not a political scientist. these are just my opinions and what i’ve gathered. if anyone’s got any better advice they’re welcomed to share. my game plan basically boils down to: make them leave me alone.