#oft citing that we 'don't mind' being misgendered ... as if that's not a requirement to survive in our society | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

countingprimes · 4 days ago

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really hate how they/them pronouns have lost all meaning as a neutral pronoun. like everyone, especially queer people see them as 'third gender' pronouns. and .... that really does defeat the purpose now doesn't it

#people can have whatever emotional response they want #but degendering and misgendering are two different things .... except no they aren't not anymore #and now it's suddenly possible to misgender someone using the supposedly neutral pronouns #meaning they were never neutral to anyone anyway #scraping the bottom of the barrel here for linguistic ease of use and it's still not enough #i've been so raw lately and keenly aware of the ways in which binary trans people will shit all over non binary people #and they seem to think it's punching laterally but ..... women and men are majority genders #women may be persecuted but they are not a goddamn minority and to be in a gender minority constantly getting dumped on #by normatively gendered people even the ones who were supposed to be our allies in the fight against gender essentialism #it's wild #binary trans people always seem to hate having shared umbrella terms with us #oft citing that we 'don't mind' being misgendered ... as if that's not a requirement to survive in our society #we have to be willing to misgender ourselves just to move through the world #and to act like using neutral pronouns is prioritizing the nb experience over the binary one is willfully oblique #i hate when they say 'you're just inventing a new binary' well unfortunately some of us have shared médical needs and some don't #how is it wisdom to deny that fact ... in order to what distance yourselves from us wishy washy nb types?#im also very raw cause im so aware of the way that afab trans people are just erased from #history across the board #many many cultures had third genders or third gender communities .... none that i know of included afab people #yes - amab people are the targets of all the violence ... but they are also the ones who are being societally acknowledged #bit of a self fulfilling prophecy there #its just annoying? to see yourself erased in the present and past and to see your supposed allies join in because it suits them more to be #separate from you than in a coalition with you #the oppression olympics starts immediatly of course

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