#obviously I don't condone DV

[starregulus]

told my friend that I love Lestat despite the fact that he's the worst and they said I'm just like Louis so they'll be my Claudia

... how do I let them know that I love Lestat because I GET him without them running for the hills?

[doorframing]

Of course not, what made you believe that ????. But saying things like "oh look at me ive been abused by a woman and i can be totally normal towards women unlike you, you misogynistic freak". I mean, come on. Are we only accepting DV survivors who survive a certain way?

And I'm not saying that being an abuse victim gives you a free pass to be a jerk to everyone, there are many people who use their past as an abuse victim as an excuse for their behavior. And obviously, i don't condone this.

What I'm saying is hating the group that your abuser is associated with is a normal reaction, it might not be the most logical but I can understand it.

And honestly, this abuse survivors olympics of "look i survived better than you" Is just weird and really cruel.

reacting to the woman hating anon: I am an actual victim of female on female abuse (and my father was abused by my mother as well), and it has not destroyed my ability to feel solidarity with women and be a feminist. That’s just a skill issue.

also a victim of abuse at the hands of a woman 🙋🏾‍♀️