#nie huaisang's most obnoxious elders however many of them there are may actually

[whetstonefires]

yeah no matter how you slice it there is absolutely no way Jiang Cheng would not be married if he wanted to be, it's voluntary, but i love the idea of his actively conspiring with the local matchmaker to be taken off the market

So how do we know JC was banned by matchmakers? Like is this another rumor thing that has taken on a life of its own or is this like a fun fact thing. I’ve been seeing people trying to use his banning as proof of being a terrible person but I’m not sure where it’s stated. Like I wouldn’t be surprised if JC just said he doesn’t have time for matchmaking and it took on a life of its own in the gossip world.

I don't have the reference to hand, but I'm pretty sure it was a passing comment/joke in either an interview or author's note while the novel was first serializing. so it's never actually said by a character in canon, and I personally tend to take interview/author's note comments like that as at least 50% joke

also like, the second one starts thinking too seriously about the marriage economy of this world, the faster your brain will absolutely implode. first off: an entire generation of clan leaders that have failed to marry? absolutely no social pressure on any of them to do so? ooookay. how are these clans going to be continuing as clans, again?

secondly, even if we imagine that Jiang Cheng somehow offended every matchmaker... there will, no matter what, be Yao-guniangs of the world who will marry a rich, powerful, wealthy sect leader no matter his supposed personality. there is no realistic world where matchmakers would not continue working to pair up Jiang Cheng if he wanted no matter what he did.

[iridescentoracle]

#it's also not beyond him to have been an immense dick to every professional matchmaker in yunmeng #to obtain the same result #but while he COULD do it it's not terribly likely he did imo #yeah it's hard to say which of the three is the most incredibly unmarried at nearly 40 #one hand jiang cheng doesn't have any surviving elders to tell him what to do #but he is also shouldering the entire survival of his bloodline and he CARES about that shit #lan xichen has plenty of cousins and the least practical pressure for an heir #but he also has loads of bossy elders who have motive to see him married off #nie huaisang's most obnoxious elders however many of them there are may actually #really want him NOT to marry so the headship will pass to a more normal nie when he dies #and then ofc we have our head clown jin 'did everything right and somehow it was the worst anybody's ever done it' guangyao (via whetstonefires)

So how do we know JC was banned by matchmakers? Like is this another rumor thing that has taken on a life of its own or is this like a fun fact thing. I’ve been seeing people trying to use his banning as proof of being a terrible person but I’m not sure where it’s stated. Like I wouldn’t be surprised if JC just said he doesn’t have time for matchmaking and it took on a life of its own in the gossip world.

I don't have the reference to hand, but I'm pretty sure it was a passing comment/joke in either an interview or author's note while the novel was first serializing. so it's never actually said by a character in canon, and I personally tend to take interview/author's note comments like that as at least 50% joke

also like, the second one starts thinking too seriously about the marriage economy of this world, the faster your brain will absolutely implode. first off: an entire generation of clan leaders that have failed to marry? absolutely no social pressure on any of them to do so? ooookay. how are these clans going to be continuing as clans, again?

secondly, even if we imagine that Jiang Cheng somehow offended every matchmaker... there will, no matter what, be Yao-guniangs of the world who will marry a rich, powerful, wealthy sect leader no matter his supposed personality. there is no realistic world where matchmakers would not continue working to pair up Jiang Cheng if he wanted no matter what he did.