#my unapolagetic gays

[hikarry]

Did your parents let you get away with more than your brother?

Hell nah

My brother cried a little and only had to attend sunday school for 2 years

I attended it for 12, even though I begged my parents to not force me to go from 14 to, well, the end of it

I made it my life mission to completely turn our sunday school teachers' lives into pure hell by making the most random, specific christian lore questions, starting debates and defending other religions and being extremely unapolagetically gay

I don't need to force anyone to perceive me as gay: people pretty much just have to look at me, but back then I was still extremely fem and had long hair and whatnot so I intentionally turned the gay dial up to 200

I got in a bit of trouble for it, but ain't nothing better than the look on everyone's faces when I showed up with my girlfriend and kissed her while we were waiting for the teacher to open the pc

That's one example of many. I was on a very short leash growing up. Which ain't a bad thing at all. Made me quite creative

[octobersend]

Pick your favorite album/era!

[weareallfuckingfruit]

Today's thoughts are on Jess and Jo. It's a love letter of sorts on what they mean to me as a fat butch woman, and it's quite personal, so if you're expecting my usual headcanons this isn't for you.

(PHOTO ID: It's a photo young girl, about for or five years old,dressed in a red mechanics outfit, playing with a toy drill and a red construction table. The girl is me.)

Growing up, I didn't have anyone that was a lesbian in my life, let alone anyone who looked like me on the TV. I didn't even know being a lesbian was an option for anyone until I was thirteen (when I came out.) and I think that a lot of newer media, like Hearstopper, and OITNB has helped with this massively but I still don't see butch characters that don't struggle with their identity. I still dont see plus-size butches that aren't 'the funny fat one'.

Until ALOTO. Jo and Jess genuinely changed my life and gave me a newfound confidence in my own gender and sexuality.

Jess is unapologetically butch, and It's so important that she is. She's never had to play by the rules because nobody particularly cared in Moose Jaw, if you could work, then you were valued. She comes into the league, not caring and not understanding that Charm School is there to weed out the Queers because she's never particularyl been othered. She laughs and she jokes about how stupid it all is, until she is told to get with it or get out. Then she struggles. Jess shows this amazing range of vulnerability as she realises she just can't do it, she cant conceal who she is for their rules. It's almost painful for her to do and that shot where she completely loses it in the middle of a street is so important and so telling. Jess is so loud, and rowdy and weird but she stays true to herself until the end, she pays the fines that she has to, she wears her hovers, she drinks beer and smokes wherever she pleases and for that, she is celebrated. She gets this amazing relationship with Esti, and with Lupe. She makes these connections and is absolutely honoured when the peaches help Jo. I wish I was more like Jess when I was younger, and I hope to be more like her in the future. Her unapolagetic butchness is mine.

(PHOTO ID: It's me again, but older now. I'm climbing out of a white vintage car dressed in a grey three piece suit and a blue shirt, with a pink tie. I've got short blue hair. It's prom night.)

Jo is amazingly well written with so many layers that I can't even begin to understand but she means so much to me as a fat afab. I've never seen anyone in modern media who is gay, plus-size and a good person until Jo. She's the epitome of a gentle giant, who is funny and kind and has the biggest heart. Shw treats everyone she meets with raw, unfiltered kindness whilst also not letting herself be pushed around, which gives her major respect. She's strong and has this funny flurty banter with Maybelle whilst trying so hard to not be the predatory gay, which I really relate to.

In short, ALOTO has helped me (and countless others) feel so much better just for being who they are and if any single show needs to be renewed, it should be ALOTO.

[age-of-wonderbeasts]

hi here's a rant I had with a friend about lesbophobia because im fucking sick of my sexuality being demonised

why is my sexuality so demonised when like 90% of lesbians are the nicest people on the planet

THAT IS BC OF 👏🏼HOMOPHOBIA👏🏼

and who do we have to thank for comphet? THE HOMOPHOBES

and the sheer fact they have the audacity to make these points abt this kind of thing shows they are COWARDS WHO DONT OWN THEIR SHIT

PEOPLE WILL DO ANYTHING TO STOP LESBIANS FROM BEING UNAPOLAGETICALLY TEHMSELVELS

90% of the lgbtq+ rep in shows is gay or mlm because STILL people can't learn to respect women as ACTUAL PEOPLETHE POWER HAS TO GO TO MEN ALL THE TIME AND IM SICK AND FUCKING TIRED OF TRYING TO GET PEOPLE TO RESPECT LGBTQ+ AND POC WOMEN

why should I have to live in a society where my identity isn't respected and is demonised + erased because white adults who can't believe that someone would ever disregard the "rules" of the patriarcy say we should be ashamed

I don't think I can get across how absoloutely furious I am LIKE NOT JUST THE CATRADORA THING ANYMORE BUT THE ENTIRE TOPIC OF LESBIAN ERASURE AND DEMONISATION

IF WE TALK ABOUT ANY STRUGGLES ITS BIPHOBIA OR SOME FUCKING KIND OF PHOBIA LIKE NO YOURE JUST TRYING TO SILENCE LESBIANS AND FOR WHAT? FOR NOT LIKING MEN?!

IT GOES BACK TO THE OUTDATED IDEA THAT WOMEN ARE ONLY USEFUL FOR MARRYING A MAN AND HAVING KIDS

AND IM FUCKING SICK OF IT

[coolercolors]

One thing I love with my work is that I feel that I can be as unapolagetically gay as I want and meeting my coworkers that are their authentic self

[garetthawke]

Do you like Lucifer Netflix?

hmmm....yes and no? i mean somehow it sucked me in and i got a little obsessed with it, but honestly it's not really well made and super cheesy....I'm a big DC fan so i was just checking it off my list, and i didn't enjoy it at first, but the characters grew on me as it went on so I'll probably keep watching it no matter how bad it gets or how long it goes on....mostly for Lucifer himself, he's pretty entertaining, and it's also not often you get a ahow with unapolagetically Not Straight characters that's not just the Gay Genre

[hunterinabrowncoat]

The longer I’ve spent away from home, and the longer I’ve spent surrounded by queer-affirming people, with other exvangelical people, and away from toxic and unaffirming theology and purity culture, the more comfortable I’ve got with myself, and the more confident in my beliefs.

And the more discordant I feel with the fact that so many people I’m close to - family, long-time friends, the church I so enthusiastically embraced as home at University, are still part of that culture that doesn’t accept who I am.

And it makes me want to be more unapologetic about it. Like much more Loudly Queer, and unapolagetic about my sex positivity. Maybe it shouldn’t even factor in for me, but it would make everyone much more uncomfortable around me. It would probably cause some really awkward and difficult family moments or even painful arguments and a tense home environment when I visit.

But I’m doing signing my birthname on family cards. I’m done censoring myself for everyone else’s comfort. I’m done worrying about what my former pastor or Uni friends think if they know I’m having sex with my partner, if I’m unapologetically queer like... the weird and loud and deviant kind, not the ‘just like me apart from being gay and being quiet about it’ kind. I’m done pretending to hold on to religious ideas that I let go of a long time ago, like purity culture and evangelicalism and biblical literalism.

[gayestnerdsinfiction]

9. how was your day?10. do you have any gay friends? 12. who’s the best gay icon in your opinion?

9 has been answered :)

i do have a lot of gay friends! a lot of my ‘straight friends’ turned out to be gays in disguise too

all of the queer eye guys are the best gay icons (except antony bc i don’t like him). they’re all so wholesome and supportive and unapolagetically gay and i love them 

[wickedlittlecritta]

1 and 5 for the writer ask meme?

1.  Tell us about your WIP!

Uh, so there are several! I have the Jewish-American Guide to Breakfast, Blow Jobs, and Raising Werewolves, which is almost done/ready to start submitting to agents or publishers (aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!), and is a new adult urban fantasy about a nephil named Finn dealing with his weird family, massive crush on his best friend, and general self-esteem issues. Is very gay, and includes a roomba called the Prophet Elijah.

My other big project currently is called I Was a Teenage Illusionist. It’s a YA urban fantasy, and takes place in the same universe as @madnessmadness‘ fantasy novels. It’s about a kid named Devin who is being trained by an ancient witch to become essentially a judge for the magical guild system. Also very gay, and includes a mischievous, sentient shadow.

I also have a project code named Dreamnovel, about a Deaf mechanic named Marcus who is also a sandman, and generally an over powered unapolagetic mary sue asshole; an unnamed scifi project about space that includes artificial humans and probably aliens, and a few other, vaguer projects that are still seeping in my brain.

5.  Top five formative books?

1. King of the Wind by Marguerite Henry

2. The Black Stallion by Walter Farley

3. Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban JK Rowling

4. Wild Magic by Tamora Pierce

5.  Eragon by Christopher Paolini (it’s not good, but this is the book that made me realize that I could write books)

[keyknows]

you know what? sometimes me and my brother talk about fandom, and he has told me that he doesn’t like when people ship two male characters for the sake of shipping a gay couple, he was like “why can’t there be just friendship” and i was “yeah bro whatever i’m desparete for representation so i don’t give a damn” but it just hit me (i think) that one of the multiple reasons we end up shipping two male characters that have emotional interaction on screen, charcters that have a bond, that show affection towards each other in a plain clear way is that, at least in my experience (and take into consideration that i’m fom mexico and our culture is bathed in machismo), males dont usually do that bc showing emtiones and showing that you care is unmanly and “that’s gay” so when i see two characters that live their friendship in such unapolagetic way, that show their affection to each other, well, I DO read it as romantic bc as a male you aren’t suppused to do that with your friends

(i would like to clarify that when i say you’re meant to do that with your friends, this is a result of both men and me, as a woman, being fed the idea that men shouldn’t show their emotions)

[incrediblysincere]

jonathan van ness is my inspiration. i think theres honestly nothing more appealing than being yourself unapolagetically (cliche i know) and especially seeing real GNC gay people on tv is so affirming